Blushing Cure - How To Stop Blushing - Part 2
Definition of Blushing
“To blush is to display redness in one's face; the term is usually used when the redness is a result of an emotional response, which could reflect embarrassment, shame or modesty.”
What Is Blushing?
Have you experienced a time in your life when you have felt your face heating over while talking to someone or a group of people? I am sure you have. For many, this will be an irregular occurrence but there are others who experience this feeling on a regular basis. It is called blushing. There are many reasons why people blush and the most common or popular diagnosis comes from strong emotions such as shyness or embarrassment, anger or excitement.
Examples of this might be similar to my story above when all eyes are on you and you have now become the centre of attention. Or, maybe as a school kid who has been singled out and put on the spot by the teacher. Perhaps there is someone at work you have been attracted to for a while and one day out of the blue he/she surprises you mentioning how gorgeous you look today. All of these situations are potential triggers to people whose social anxiety symptoms include blushing.
Blushing is a normal physiological response resulting in areas of the body becoming red. The redness tends to be located in specific areas most commonly in the cheeks, ears and forehead. Areas around the neck and upper chest can also flush red in some people.
Symptoms associated with blushing are a pounding heart, sinking feeling in the stomach, sweating and generally feeling panicky. Blushing is also associated with medical problems such as rosacea, carcinoid syndrome, fever and menopause. There are also more temporary triggers to blushing such as alcohol, hot or spicy foods, and changes in temperature.
In order to blush our body temperature needs to rise. When our face reddens it is associated with an imbalance in our body temperature. Any bodily changes associated with our emotions are controlled by our nervous system.
When there is an emotional change in us our brains send signals to the pituitary gland which then secrete the appropriate hormones to help deal with these emotions. One hormone under conditions of stress acts on the adrenalin gland releasing that chemical causing nervous perspiration, dry mouth, a faster heart beat and flushing. It is “Fight or Flight”.
An example from the animal world would be a cat’s reaction when it is frightened. The hair on its back and tail stand on end. A comparable reaction in human beings is when we experience 'goose bumps' in moments of fear.
The symptoms are reflexes by our bodies preparing for an emergency situation. Filling with energy readying for attack or defense; fight or flight.
However, in the instance of being in a social situation where we may be feeling embarrassed or shy the body’s fight or flight reaction is inappropriate. So now our body is in standby for an emergency situation that hasn’t happened and most likely won’t happen. We are left with the feeling of all the fight or flight symptoms, including blushing, and the only way this will dissipate is when the emotions subside.
So what does that tell us? Well, as we can see, all of this starts from our minds. More to the point, how we react to certain situations.
In my story I blushed because I suddenly realized I was centre of attention and all eyes were on me. It didn’t matter that the coffee shop was noisy; at that moment when I began telling my friends the story all became silent. Here’s the thing, for me, I didn’t start blushing until I realized that this was a situation where I usually blush. I had no reason to feel embarrassed or frightened and I certainly wasn’t worried about my ability to tell the story. I blushed because I expected to blush. I triggered it with my thoughts.
It is our perception of what is happening that makes us respond in the way we do. Such as the situation in the coffee shop, it is the way we view the situation, combined with some kind of social anxiety, that determines why and if we'll blush.
For me, the fear of blushing was so strong that I brought the blushing on myself. If we are consumed, obsessed, and worried about blushing, then our brain is focused on blushing and, therefore, it will happen to us much more frequently and for no real apparent reason. The anticipation or expectation of blushing can lead to further blushing.
Ever since I was a kid I had issues with blushing. I would guess that in those days I probably did blush due to embarrassment or guilt. As I got older it became apparent to me that I blushed because that was what I was expected to do. It is the worry of blushing, the fear of blushing and the feeling that others will notice and not approve of us that feeds and fuels the act of blushing itself.
A Quote by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
“Girls blush, sometimes, because they are alive, Half wishing they were dead to save the shame. The sudden blush devours them, neck and brow; they have drawn too near the fire of life, like gnats, and flare up bodily, wings and all.”
How To Overcome Blushing
Blushing is a reaction triggered by our thoughts and feelings. For many people it has lead to low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and feelings of helplessness. Because blushing is such a sudden, hot, uncomfortable and embarrassing experience our emotions are invoked immediately. You can feel the blush as it spreads and all you feel you can do is helplessly wait until it subsides. It feels as if the blushing is uncontrollable and we will always have to live with it.
There is good news. All these social anxiety symptoms, including blushing, CAN be overcome.
Let us get one thing straight, if a person sees another blushing they are not going to think that it is terrible or awful. Most often, they don't even notice it. If they do notice it, it is because you pay attention to it. Blushers react in different ways. Some will point it out or make a comment about it. Many will look embarrassed, humiliated, and defeated by it.
A Quote by Mathew Henry
“Blushing is the color of virtue.”
11 Tips to Beat Blushing
- Try to find out why you blush and how often.
- Keep a journal or notebook. Write down the reasons and why you blush. After several weeks you will have enough information to find patterns of why you blush.
- Visit your doctor for a checkup. Maybe there is a medical condition that might be causing your blushing problem.
- Cut back or avoid alcohol as it is a natural blusher for many people.
- Cut back or avoid eating hot, spicy foods. These foods are another natural blusher.
- Try to maintain a stable temperature as best you can. Keep warm in winter and cool in summer.
- Teach yourself meditation and the art of breathing correctly. Learn to control your thoughts especially if you are someone who loses their temper easily.
- When you begin to blush learn to relax out of it. Do not think about it, do not tense up. Practice relaxation techniques to use when a blushing situation arrives.
- Try not to hide the blush. Accept it and just continue with your interaction or conversation. Soon enough you will realize blushing is no big deal and you will be able to focus externally on what you are talking about and allow the blush to disappear on its own.
- Whenever you succeed in getting through a blush moment give yourself credit, congratulate yourself on a job well done.
- Try self-hypnosis. You will learn to train your body to relax as you feel the blushing coming on.
You Can Beat Blushing!
Use these tips and be positive about the outcome. You can do it!
As for me. I still blush occasionally but nowhere near as much as I used to. Also, because I have worked through some of the above techniques, if I blush now it really doesn’t seem so bad. It goes as quickly as it came.
I hope this helped.
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