Breaking Depression's Chains For Good

Symptoms Of Depression

Symptoms may include:

  1. Loss of appetite or overeating.
  2. Increased tiredness, a loss of zest for life and daily activities especially ones that were once enjoyed. You may also have the sense it is not worth the effort to do anything anymore.
  3. Crying often, sometimes for no particular reason at all, just feeling a sense of hopelessness or sadness that doesn't go away
  4. Problems with sleeping at night ranging from the inability to sleep to over-sleeping.
  5. Loss of energy resulting in feeling increased levels of fatigue
  6. A distinct decrease in most daily activities including sex
  7. Feelings of helplessness,low self esteem,unworthiness
  8. Contemplating or having thoughts about suicide
  9. The inability to concentrate or make decisions no more
  10. Rapid weight loss or rapid weight gain
  • If you have at least four of these signs and they are lasting for more than a week or so then there is a good chance you have depression. Never hesitate to seek help

A Personal History Of Depression

I am no medical practitioner, offering prescription medications or medical treatment. However I am someone who has suffered depression in my past. I have endured even the most severe forms, partly genetic, but mainly stemming from some horrific ordeals I endured. I intend to share these experiences here at some stage. My story here is meant to inspire and motivate you, to tell you there is hope and a way out of the darkness and the 'strongholds of deep depressio n'.

"A champion is someone who gets up, even when he can't"

Included in this story are poems I have written that I would like to share, which I wrote in times of my life where I have needed help from inspiration myself.

When we are depressed life appears grey
When we are depressed life appears grey

On The Inside

With every passing day life brings,
I raise my heart and spread my wings.
Otherwise I’ll lose the plan,
To fight for life with open hands.
Although some dreams may never live,
There’s always life that I can bring.
My smile can light a thousand trees,
And in return shine back to me.
lf l can touch on one whose strayed,.
Then all is worth the joy I’ve laid.

© Deb Murray 2009

Nowhere In This World Is There Someone Like You
Nowhere In This World Is There Someone Like You
"Do you know you have the courage to stand up strong and win.'
"Do you know you have the courage to stand up strong and win.'

THERE’S NO-ONE QUITE LIKE YOU

Do you know that all your future,
Is yours to hold and keep?,
Do you know that you can surface,
When the waters are too deep?.

Do you know that you are lovely?,
More lovely than you know,
One day the light will shine on you,
And you will know it's so.

Have you felt sometimes like giving up?,
When your world comes tumbling in,
Do you know you’ve got the courage,
To stand up strong and win.

Do you feel the bite of solitude?,
Do you cry those lonely tears?,
Do you know you’ve got your inner strength,
To shine throughout your years.

Do you know that in this world,
There’s no-one quite like you?,
You’re more worthy than you’ll ever know,
Oh can’t you see it too.

So strive and reach, battle forward,
Lift up your heart in glee,
And shout unto the world today,
I’m happy to be me.

© Deb Murray 2009

Important Things That Can Help Your Depression:

  1. Make Goals For Yourself
  2. Think about what you really want from life, in a realistic way. Don't just think about ideas, write them down. Set little goals as well as larger ones. While you are striving to take the steps to achieve those goals that may take some time, you can be experiencing the joys that come from reaching the smaller ones as well. Give yourself reasons to feel achievement again in your life.
  3. Smile
  4. Surround Yourself With Positive People
  5. If most of the company you keep, is from people who bring a lot of negativity and gloom to your life, you need to really evaluate these friendships.
  6. Keep Busy
  7. Take up a hobby you have always wanted to try. If you are unemployed try and find some work you enjoy. Unemployment can bring about depression on its own, including loss of motivation, loss of self worth, depression over grim money issues. With working, there comes a sense of achievement, self- respect, opposed to the negativities that idleness does deliver.
  8. Try adding a little exercise each day. Force yourself to get out in the fresh air and go for a brisk walk.The benefits of exercise are amazing. Believe it or not exercise will gradually raise your energy levels as well as doing wonders for the body. I love walking, I use it as a time to let my mind go free, to get out from the house and breathe the fresh air. I come home rejuvenated and energised, free of any stress I had before.
  9. If you are a writer, begin to write again.Writing can be incredibly therapeutic.I have used writing myself, in times of lows and depression. I find that my writing down my thoughts it helps me release the negative ones. I also found that by writing inspiring poetry,often involving the troubles I was in, I too was inspired to overcome so much in my life.
  10. Begin To love and cherish the unique person you are and begin to focus on what you can do for others
  11. Somehow you have to stop finding reasons to put yourself down, allowing yourself to exist in the misery you are living in, and to realise that this is not what you deserve, in any way, shape or form.
  12. Be kinder on yourself. Realise that by learning to love and respect yourself, you soon learn you don't deserve to live like shit, as you begin to expect much more from life for yourself. When you value yourself, insecurities and low self esteem issues begin to dissolve, as you become empowered with a strength that brings you peace just by accepting the' value of yourself ' and what' not to accept for yourself.'
  13. Reach for others.Think of what you can do to bring others joy. By doing kind and loving deeds for others. This stops you from thinking continually about yourself and your woes, replaced by a happiness in your spirit, from giving out to others. Concentrating on other's needs, will do wonders for your morale,as you begin to see outside just the shell that you are existing in, as you look to showing kindness to other people.

© Deb Murray 2009

'Be Kinder On Yourself And Start To Reach Out To Others'
'Be Kinder On Yourself And Start To Reach Out To Others'

Overcoming Depression With Positive Thoughts

Start saying "I can, not "I cant.

'Without dreams and goals we merely exist,we are only a fraction of the person we can be.'

Realise that inside of everyone there is an incredible strength to get us through anything. Begin to draw from that strength. Let each downfall in life make you stronger in mind and spirit to tackle your next hurdle.

'You will never get to where you want to be, until you realise you can'

Begin to realise that life goes by so fast, it doesnt wait for us. We only have one crack at it. Dont waste time in darkness, make your life what you want it to be.

I found that times when I felt my worse, by surrounding myself with positive people, it made a huge difference to the way I felt. The encouragement and love from people who really care about you, can reflect greatly on your sense of well-being. Also by forcing yourself to spend time with others, it gets you out of the house, and stops you sitting there alone dwelling on your negative thoughts that hit harder in times when we are alone.

'You will never get to where you want to be, until you realise you can'

'Nothing ever ends because for every ending there is also a beginning'

Open your eyes from the darkness and see all the beauty in the small things your depression has clouded your eyes from.

You can recover from anything.I have sat in the gutter many times in my past, but always managed to pull myself out. It is by no means easy. However It's something only you can do for yourself.

'Live, love, laugh,and reach out your hand, for there may be no tomorrow. Be all you can while you can'

Dont waste time in darkness, make your life what you want it to be.
Dont waste time in darkness, make your life what you want it to be.

THERE IS SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU

There is some-one to love you,
Don’t be despaired,
There is some-one to love you,
Some-where out there.

Each one of us beautiful,
In some-body’s eyes,
There is some-one to love you,
In Love’s Paradise.

Love Will come find you,
One bright Summer’s day,
Its' arms Will embrace you,
And sweep you away.

In some-body’s heart,
You blossom so fair,
There is some-one to love you,
Some-where out there.

© Deb Murray 2009

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Please Feel Free To Leave A Comment 41 comments

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Teresa McGurk 7 years ago from The Other Bangor

All the best with your struggle against depression. It's hard work, but you give sensible advice here.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Thanks Teresa.I have overcome depression for many years now.It was mainly through my teens to about 19 or 20.I still have bad days like anyone I guess but that is pretty normal I guess lol


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composed 7 years ago from the place where I have what it takes

I am not sure positive psychology is the answer for many of us. To me, it's akin to some of the other fixes that are often prescribed and sworn by, such as diet and exercise.


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tony0724 7 years ago from san diego calif

There Is an author named Og Mandino who has written some really Inspirational books whose words got me through some dark times . All I know Is to do what Is In front of me at a time I am feeling down . Doing something sometimes takes a serious self Imposed kick In the rear. But I feel better doing something then doing nothing. And right now alot of people sadly are going to need some Inspiration around this globe of ours !


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

hi tony i could not agree more.I can relate to what you said about you have to do something instead of doing nothing. Doing nothing is the worst thing as it just goes on and on.Thanks for sharing that.

Composed i think it could be all three positive thinking,diet and exercise thanks for stopping by.


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googleslapper RVW 7 years ago from Houston

Exercise raises energy levels over time... well said!


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Thankyou so much googleslapper RVW it most certainly does.


C. C. Riter 7 years ago

Wow, I find it hard to beleive that not one person commented on your beautiful poetry and the metaphors they contain. Wondrful writing, and to think I avoided this hub because I felt I never needed to read it! I'm glad I did. Now I must check out all the others to see what gems they contain.

Great job on this and sound advice. I come here[hubpages] once in awhile to reread the comments on my most popular hubs and I get many laughs out of them, they pick me up.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Aww you are the sweetest of sweetest.Thankyou so much what you said about my poem here.Yes you are the first to comment.Every single poem I have ever written is from my heart and what I feel inside so it's so nice to receive a beautiful comment like you have given me.I will treasure that.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Aww thanks BC that means a lot. You are wonderful, I appreciate you heaps.(Hugs)xox


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Ivorwen 7 years ago from Hither and Yonder

Awesome advise! I struggled with depression in my teens, but didn't know it until later. I thought feeling isolated was normal. Exercise, writing and music helped me to really evaluate life and get a proper perspective.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

You were not alone. I had it bad in my teen years too but like you pulled through. It affects so many people and as you said you may not evenn know it. Thanks so much for your support.x0x


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Hey BC have missed you heaps. I will look that up for you, just can't quite remember off the top of my hat. I have had some for more than a year, LMAO. Will investigate for such a pirate as yourself.(hugs)


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Hahha you and your red hair aghhhhh. I will give a redhead a run for their money anyday.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Me thinks so too LMAO.


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Dolores Monet 7 years ago from East Coast, United States

Deb, you really hit the nail on the head with most of your suggestions...the excercise, the positive thinking, the goal setting, hobbies - you just have to stop dwelling on the negative thoughts. I think it's the forcing yourself to take those first steps that is really hard.

Your poems sound like songs!


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Thank-you so much Dolores. Your imput is as fabulous and appreciated as ever. It is so true that while doctors, other people can help us in certain ways it really comes down to us making that change for our own happiness. Have a great day Dolores and I love u heaps. xoxox


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Dolores Monet 7 years ago from East Coast, United States

blonde, I know a man who goes to the psychiatrist, is medicated, yet spends not time talking with the doctor and does not go to a psychologist for any kind of talk therapy. I think it's dangerous to be handing out brain altering chemicals to people without verbally addressing the problems and habits the patient is suffering from.

hugs to you, hon.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Oh Dolores you have hit it on the head. This happens so much even to me. I was admitted into a psychiatric ward at 17, noone talked to me once, I was just fed heaps drugs. It was awful, it made me realise that I must be the one to help myself. They have to stop doing that, how is anyone meant to get better, people often just need someone aspiring by their side to give them the support they need. xoxox


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lorlie6 7 years ago from Bishop, Ca

Your lovely words have touched me deeply, blondepoet, and I thank you for them.

I used to surround myself with sad people, brooding intellectuals I suppose, only to find my depression worsening. These days I am very aware of my instincts about this type of individual and am wary of them.

The result, of course, is that my view of the world has vastly improved.

Thanks again for your touching poetry.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia Author

Aww thanks lorlie6 it means a lot that my words have touched you, thankyou again. xo


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Your choice of art pieces is stunning, using the black and white portrait of the fallen nephilum angel was so great. That is where depression has taken me in my life...I am so that angel standing on the rocks, dark, desperate and turbulent at the seas to the reef. Deja F**king Voudou...

Oh yes BP, I also have a secret affinity for the archangelic powers and all the forces that guide nature in her furious juggernaut - and dance with us in bubbles as we ride the axis of this womb we call the Earth. Hmmm, if only we were not such primitives...

Such is the beauty of the subject and your hub.


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Oh by the way BP, I was inspired by this hub to write something just for little ole you. Check out AQUANDROMENDANNA in my hubs, it is your special April Fools Gift from your friend in Arizona. Love to you and yours xoxo Blake4d


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Wow Blake but are you ok now with depression and all?? I really hope so. Be sure to check out my new hub I am going to publish in a few days, I made a video about my life from birth and it is all about how I recovered. I hope you will like it.

Ohhh your hub. I am going over there right now to check it out. Cannot wait :) :)


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Appreciate your honest concern, like anything BP it is not putting a band aid on your emotions right? Reality is that you deal with yourself one day at a time, good days come, so do bad ones. I am blessed to have both a good working mind, the ability to use it, one very supportive mom who has been both my example and guide with her own issues but also very strong willed with her committment to inner child work / and recovery...

And ya know, I take in everything I can. Sometimes I need healing like anyone, and sometimes I just need to f**k my brains out, sometimes I just am being needy and whining about nothing. There is not a cure for that which is ever changing.

Depression I can come to terms with.

Getting on good terms with myself.

Got too much life to live.

I will check out your vid soon. TTYL BP.


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Wow Blake yes I can relate so much to what you are saying. I am the same. I take one day at a time. I try my hardest to stay on top of things, I have learned to push things from my thoughts to save the down-hill spiral it brings. Most days are great but there are some days tears come. I guess I am just a real person lol.


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Well on the days when it is hard being a real person for really real in your reality. I like to play quick easy and silly little game I made up called 'Name three things I would be worse than being me...two rules, you must say exactly what comes immediately to mind, and you may not edit your response...ready set It would be worse than being me..."

To be stuck in the branches of a gigantic timbering tree as it crushes its weight on top of me....

To be attacked by a swarm of angry africanized honey bees while sunbathing outside of my home, locked out forgot my keys...

To be in charge of anyone else's life or destiny, because all I really know well is what I want and what Is best for little ole me...

There, see how easy that was.

And sometimes what your mind conjures is not only a change of thought pattern from the depressive mode. Too often I find it is actually humorous, or downright funny.

Love you BP

1-2-3


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Oh wow Blake what a cool game LMAO. Another good one would be to be sat on by a hippo in the depths of Africa while a piranaha eats your toes. I have a crazy sense of humor, so do you, makes imagining things darn easy. Love you too my little honey bee. xo


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

I shall sorely regret being around for a day when Hippo and piranaaha decide to joing forces in any way - some species should just stick to their appointed parts of the jungles...

And poor poor BP, I hope we can quickly pull you out from uder that Hippos big fast butt...

Piranaha probably like nibbling your toes, still I must make one thing clear. Does the hippo have a name?


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Well firstly the hippo is called George. Secondly if those darn fish won't do my toes you can offer for the job, I will soak them in the hot tub first. :)


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Hippo Sized?


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Oh my blake don't know til you show me. :)


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DevLin 6 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Everything you said is spot on. I tend to believe in fate, and accepted it as who I'm supposed to be. I gave up the Docs and battling it, and feel better just being who I am. Alone, but me. We all have our quirks. Good advice all the way through though. You've proven it works. I love your answers on forums. Today, that's all I did, read yours and Greek's answers. They make me smile.


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Gee Devlin you have a way of making my heart sing when you come by. I am so thrilled my answers made you smile. You know there are things that come out of my mouth that just come out at the spur of the moment, however bizarre they may seem. I am glad you are who you are because you are just so lovely.


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Rik Ravado 6 years ago from England

Great stuff BP. Successful recovery is greatly helped by the attitude of the sufferer. Drugs offer only temporary help and true healing depends on the individual and their journey though life. Good stuff!


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Hiya Rik wow long time no see. What you said is very very true. Have a beautiful day my friend. :)


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burning bush 6 years ago

For me, depression is not something which responds well to cookie cutter cures. We really are all different. I am not sure it can be cured but I know by accepting the condition, it is something one can live with using a bit of medication and a good sense of humour. It you can learn to laugh at yourself, you can overwhelm those other feelings, at least for a time. Like a toothache, any relief, however brief, is often welcome. You have an elegance about you and an awareness of self that will obviously keep you going strong. Thanks for sharing.


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

Hi there burning bush what you have said is so so true. 'If you can learn to laugh at yourself', oh that is the key. So much of how we see things and respond to stress is really all in the mind, The mind is such a strong vessel.


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risingstarresumes 6 years ago

A great hub Blondepoet. Depression is definitely a serious concern these days with so many people overworked. What bugs me is that there still seems to be a negative stigma attached to anyone that admits to having depression. I myself have been battling depression and anxiety for years, and I think it's a misunderstood topic by many.

Thanks for sharing sharing your ideas on combating depression. Everyone battles it in a different way, so what worked for you may not work for someone else. Regardless, it's good to get suggestions like yours out in the open. The more information out there about this topic the better.


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia Author

I totally agree risingstarresumes (wow what a loooong name lol). I think at some point in our lives nearly all of us go through some depression, some just more so than others. It should be nothing to be ashamed off, and it should not be seen negatively as you say. I really appreciate your comments. Have a great day.


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Angela Brummer 4 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

Thank you this is so inspirational to me!

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