BrokenHeartTen (how to mend a broken heart)
THE JAMBOREE BAG
I've left the fun 'til last...that's for sure. I've called it the JAMBOREE BAG of RECOVERY because it is filled with variety and colour and it's going to be as much fun for me to fill up as it is for you to rip open. I remember buying Jamboree Bags as a kid...they had sweets and jokes and a little toy...for a start. I always wanted a parachute...but I seldom got it...but I did get some flying-saucers...maybe a cheap yo-yo...or one of those infuriating little sliding plastic puzzles.
Never mind...because this is the age of the Jamboree Bag of RECOVERY...and we can all have pretty much what we want...depending on how much we really want it.
This stage ten section is to wrap things up. It is also to leave a stockpile of goodies to refer back to from time to time...to help build up your emotional resilience at times of weakening. We shall have a few games and some techniques and some poems...as well as some more random affirmations and gems of positivity.
I think the Jamboree Bag of the 1970's was suddenly name-changed to the Lucky Bag.
On that note......be lucky!!!!! xxx
Guide To Affirmations
We'll be having some more affirmations in this section...because they are very powerful...but they won't necessarily be regarding our broken heart. All the while we are using affirmations we are improving in all sorts of ways anyway... so we will always benefit. Meantime...here's a short guide to using them:
An affirmation is merely a statement....one which is repeated time after time... verbally... mentally...or sometimes in written form. It can be a majorly effective tool for self change when it is used properly and over a decent length of time.
Affirmations help you tap into the unlimited power of your subconscious mind. It also helps to visualise the affirmation in your mind...which helps to make the statement come true.
The wording is an important part of the process of using affirmations and they are most effective when worded in the present tense. The following examples are worded correctly:
I AM HAPPY AND I ALWAYS PROSPER
I ALWAYS FIND A WAY TO WIN
I AM PROUD OF ALL THAT I ACHIEVE
It is crucial to have these affirmations in the present tense and with positive intent.
After much repetition the subconscious mind does it work and sees the statements as fact and the mind will act on it...and...voila...you will have that self-belief. Once you and your mind believe things to be true you can work wonders.
Keep the affirmations short and to the point. Not only will they work better...they will be easier for you to remember.
Repetition is definitely the key....so repeat these affirmations to yourself as many times over as you can. It's no good expecting results without putting the mileage in....so...basically...it depends on how much you want to succeed in whatever your affirmations are based on.Just think on...they really do work...I promise you that.
You also have to believe in your affirmations. They will work if you have that belief. Don't panic if you don't believe fully from the beginning...it does take a little while and you'll probably feel yourself thinking 'Oh...this is silly' from time to time. However...when you start to notice the difference...as the effects kick in...you'll soon lose that nagging doubt. It's like when you are losing weight...and it's only when the drop begins to get noticeable that you are spurred on.
That is it then...really. It isn't too complicated and it is highly effective when you begin to use affirmations correctly.
Now that you have learned the basics...you can go out and make whatever you ant out of your life....and the best start is to clear your mind of the person who quite clearly doesn't want you any more.
Some Affirmation Poems
When I was feeling low and in need of distraction I took out my books and basically listed affirmations non-stop...and some of them I wrote as songs and some of them I wrote as poems. I figured that In order to be making these little poems up I would need to be thinking about the sentiments and then by writing them down I'd be galvanising the effect of learning...crystallising my new-found beliefs in ink on paper. Here's a few examples of my little poems. Don't expect Rudyard Kipling. The power is in the repetition and the simplicity of the message within:
I GIVE MY LOVE....
This one was alluded to earlier in this hub. I am sure you can see the pattern here.
'I give my love to those who will appreciate my love'
and the other lines are wedged 'twixt the first and last line....cos there are no rules...not when we are saving ourselves from terrible heartbreak ;)
I FEEL FANTASTIC
I always like to use that word...or words like it...positive words that cheer me up and make me feel that I'm on a high.
I SHOULD SAY..AT THIS STAGE...THAT I AM PUTTING THE ACTUAL IMAGE OF MY NOTEBOOK PAGE ON HERE...FOR TWO REASONS:
ONE: TO SHOW YOU THAT I DID IN FACT CARRY THESE WRITING TASKS OUT MYSELF AND I'M NOT JUST STRINGING YOU ALONG
TWO: TO SHOW YOU MY BEAUTIFUL HANDWRITING
(REALLY THOUGH...TO ENCOURAGE YOU INTO DOING THE SAME)
I'm thinking that you get the idea by now.
Don't forget to keep repeating the words when you have written them (or use mine)
I wrote literally hundreds of these little poems and it was a comfort to have them there...in my notebooks...for me to read when I was stuck on a bus or waiting for a friend or just in moments of reflection. I'm not saying it's the perfect answer for you...to buy these blank pages and fill them up with powerful words that can lift you out of the gloom.
I would never dream of suggesting that you should devote all this time to such pursuits when you don't really need them.
How could I possibly expect you to take the time out of your life to make these things that will last forever...these experiments and exercises which can change your life but which you're too busy to try?
There's not enough time in your life to do this thing that can heal your broken heart...is there?
Ha ha...I'm joking...of course you want to try these things...you wouldn't be reading this now if you hadn't some kind of desire to trash the hurt in your heart.
Persevere...and you will come out on top...I promise you.
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