Building a Life That Matters: Defining, Developing and Expressing Success

Why Building a Life That Matters...Matters!

"When one has finished building one's house, one suddenly realizes that in the process one has learned something that one really needed to know in the worst way - before one began." - Friedrich Nietzsche

There is something I wish I had known as I was growing up. There are also things I have learned along the way which I discovered I really needed to know before building the proverbial house that I have built. In this case ignorance wasn't bliss. I know I'm not and I wasn't alone. So, for those of you who still want to know, peek inside and begin the journey within, if you haven't started already. This is for you! I hope "Building a Life That Matters" matters to you!

When I wrote "9 Characteristics of a Real Man" I expressed my views on how I thought men are portrayed and, maybe even more importantly how they feel about themselves. I attempted to offer a different perspective based on my experience. I know men whose lives were affected greatly by perceptions conditioned into them or subsequently adopted by them. I know, because I"m one of them.

In "Building a Life That Matters" I offer a deeper look into each of the elements that made up the 9 characteristics of a real man and how each trait or its perception contributes to the quality of a man's life and to the life quality of those around him. Again, this hub is intended only to portray an alternate view, of which there are many. Experiential as it is, the view is mine and I offer it freely in the hope that others will find a piece of information here that acts as a catalyst for change within which ultimately improves their lives or the lives of someone they know.

A home or a house of cards?
A home or a house of cards? | Source

Know What You're Building Before You Build It

What builder worth his weight in salt would even consider building a house without a design, a blueprint?

The definition of building according to Dictionary.com is as follows:

1. to construct (especially something complex) by assembling and joining parts or materials: to build a house. 2. to establish, increase, or strengthen, to build up one's hopes. 3. to mold, form, or create: to build boys into men.

Is there anything more complex than a human life? It is our conditioning which establishes, strengthens and build's (or tears down) our hopes, but ultimately it is our decisions that mold, form and create our lives, whether we acknowledge it or not. We can give away the power of choice that defines our existence or we can take hold of it and use it to develop the type of house or life we build. Our success is dependent on how we define and measure the images we hold, the intensity with which we use them and how we feel about the presence of the results.

Since we, as humans, really think in symbols and not in words, the symbols or images we hold onto help shape the manifestation of those images into reality. Knowing we will obtain a well constructed, sound abode or a house of cards is reason enough to clarify, in detail, what those symbols are and how we use them in our lives. A hazy, muddied or half completed image creates that house of cards which the storms or life will demolish no matter how we measure it.

How advertisers attract men

Way #
Character Assumptions
What Sells
1
Men Like Manly Things
Cars, sex and challenges
2
Men Are Crass, Arrogant, Insensitive Jackasses.
good ol' boys who know how to have a good time and don't give a crap who we offend.
3
Men Like Women
Sex Sells, especially when women are 10's
4
Men Don't Like To Have Their Masculinity Questioned
Instant Masculinity, colognes, beer, etc
5
Men Are Suckers For Flattery
Stroke the ego, build him up
6
Men love a challenge
Bigger, better, faster, leaner
Based on a story By Paul Suggett, About.com Guide entitled "6 Ways Advertising Attracts Men"

H.O.W. to use this series

The purpose of the "Building a Life That Matters" series is to provoke thought and to provide a guide, based on personal experiences, which delivers an alternate definition of success and a means of developing and measuring that definition.

Each part in the series details a different element of developing or building the life you want. I will share my experiences and offer suggestions that can be entertained as food for thought in determining how you approach your plans for building that new house!

I sincerely hope you enjoy this journey on which we are about to embark together. As a minister and Life Architect I take great satisfaction in helping people come to their own conclusions about how they want to live their lives and even more so when they derive the ultimate satisfaction of living a life in peace and service to humanity.

I suggest reading, then taking in what you have read, testing it to see if or how it resonates with you and what you believe. I also suggest keeping a journal to take note of any breakthroughs. I also suggest discussing it with other people who may find value in this work or from the affects of it on you! If nothing more, I ask that you share your experiences with others as this will bring incredibly valuable insight to the journey you have undertaken through this life.

Peace be with you!

Case in Point

What Commercials?

Do advertisers know something we don't know?

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The Choice is Y O U R S

No matter how a man defines himself, he has the power to choose. He can choose his definition, his means of self development and his measurement of success and expression. To do so he must be aware...of himself and his environment. Let's get started!

You must look within for value, but must look beyond for perspective. - Denis Waitley

We are not animals. We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice. - Stephen Covey

I sincerely hope you will follow along with this series as each segment will provide a different perspective and subsequently a different choice to ponder.

Thank you for the opportunity to be here with you for this short time. It is my privilege to serve you.

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

The long-awaited new series if finally here. First, thanks for mentioning H.O.W. Second, I look forward to every installment of this series. It should be enlightening for sure. Well done, Bruce!

blessings to you my friend.

bill


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Bill,

It's only fitting that yours would be the first comment. I greatly appreciate it. If it helps one person see him or herself differently and inspires them to live a life that matters...then I have succeeded. That is my measuring stick.

Thanks Bill for your continued support!

Humbly,

Bruce


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MarieAlana1 3 years ago from Ohio

When I first started looking at this, I had to look at it to make sure it wasn't billybuc. This is great information! I hope I am the first of at least 100 people to use the poll. Lots of people need this information! Thanks!


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qlcoach 3 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

Very cool stuff here. Yes to the healing power of positive change and positive beliefs. Thanks for your comments on my new Hub. I'll follow your series. Peace and Light....Gary


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Thank you Gary!

We all have our place here on the planet. As unique as we are, we also have so much in common and so much as stake! I am grateful for you Gary! Thank you for what you do! As you would say...love and light!

Bruce


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SidKemp 3 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

Thanks - It's great to see you encouraging men to challenge society's assumptions and to define ourselves instead. I hope each of us will go on to create our own sense of who we are, first as people, and then as men or women.


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hello MarieAlana1,

Please forgive me and accept my humblest apologies for not immediately responding to your comment. Please know that each comment is very important to me.

Now, to your comment. I too, hope you are the first of many to read, rate and comment. Even though I missed responding as I should my purpose is to write about topics I consider important to me and to the larger community I live in. What happens after that is up to great folks like you! Thanks again for your comment and I hope you will forgive me for my slow response and come back again soon!

Gratefully,

Bruce


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi Sid!

Thank you for reading this hub. r comments are important to me because I know we have similar desires to help people enjoy living! I am so thankful that you chose, for whatever reason to read and respond.

I trust that you will continue in your work and because of that I know our world will be a better place to live!

Sincerely,

Bruce


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Emanate Presence 3 years ago from the Head to the Heart

'Experiential as it is, the view is mine and I offer it freely in the hope that others will find a piece of information here that acts as a catalyst for change within which ultimately improves their lives or the lives of someone they know.'

Your honesty, humility and caring come through your words and the video introduction, Bruce. A well-written and organized hub, full of insight and easy to read. You make the world a better place, by being an authentic you.


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hello Emanate!

Thank you for recognizing me. Not the me in the video, not the flesh and blood, but the soul within. It has been quite a journey and after 60 years I am beginning to see the light in the tunnel. (hope it's not an east bound train) It is my mission in life to open windows and or doors for those who have begun to notice the "something more" that life is, and once they do I humbly retreat as I know my job is complete and we become journeymen together!

Peace be with you my friend and Thank You for your comments and support!

Bruce

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