Building a Life That Matters: Love is The Foundation

A Necessary Disclaimer

It is noteworthy here to confess the author's acknowledgment of his own ignorance. This state of being is what began this peregrination in the first place. I write because I search; I teach because I yearn to share my discovery with fellow sojourners whose unknown path may be parallel to my own. "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." - Buddha

I recognize there are those who would say they have discovered unconditional love in the their religious experience, for example. I am grateful to this community. They have taught me much. Though I comprehend this intellectually and participated spiritually for quite some time, I am still searching for the definition, the external demonstration adjacent to the deep internal understanding, of unconditional love. It's not about theory, it's about application. Once theory is understood, we must make it real in our own lives. That is what this series is about.

Admittedly, one searching for a palpable definition of unconditional love, though working on it within, might have difficulty expressing such feelings of uncertainty to others. This fact, coupled with the Law of Attraction, could contribute to difficulty in attracting it too.

All this being said, our journey begins. I seek answers for myself and if, at the same time, I uncover some helpful concepts that resonate with you, we can share the experience and the blessings. Once defined within, we can then use this experience as the foundation in conjunction with Part III, "Living With Joy," (coming soon) to continue "Building a Life That Matters."

A Moment of Meditation
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The Art of Listening

I Speak in Silence
I Speak in Silence | Source

Look No Further Than Meditation

Reflecting upon a starting point I sequestered myself in silence to encourage the expansion of my mind, patiently pursuing the spirit, gently feeding the condition of my heart. Why? Because intentionally constructing a foundation with love is so critical to the process of living a life that matters. I've been wondering lately, is unconditional love even humanly possible? I know there are many spiritual examples and there are some moments of human unconditional love recorded in history, but how do we sustain it or validate it over a lifetime? Please, do not give this question short shrift. Dwell upon it, pray, meditate and examine as much evidence as possible until you are convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt, until you can almost tacitly feel, without reservation, an irrevocable definition that resonates with your innermost being. Otherwise, you cannot act on your answer. Thus, you will drift, aimlessly, through this life and that, my friends, is no fun!

Consider each factor as you would the factors in pouring a foundation for your dream home...because you are. What is the overall lay of the land, the design of the house, the development and use of the house or property and what contributions will your home make towards the fertile cultivation of the community in which you live? Isn't thoughtfully pouring the foundation of your new life worthy of such consideration and every bit as important as the one that supports your physical home? Of course it is. So, What will you do now! How will you choose to proceed?

Embrace The Notion

Conditioned to believe a lie

All too long ago, it seems, we trained ourselves to focus our attention on that which we can become and in the process lost touch with who we are. I say this to emphasize the importance of staying ever so close to the primary creative force of life...unconditional love, or at least trying to dwell in its presence for as long as it is possible.

Many, many Years ago Lassie was a hero on the big screen and on TV. It was always Lassie's undying devotion to Timmy and his family in times of great adversity that drew out the tears of the audience. When people speak of life and living we often recall or imagine material objects, though the symbols that move us most cannot be characterized as matter. Material objects wither in time. Not so with unconditional love.True life is experiential, in our minds, hearts and with energetic emotion and the strongest sensation I am aware of is again, unconditional love.

Each time I watch a movie, read a book or experience an event, the most enduring memories tugging at my heart and imprinted in my mind are the demonstrations of unconditional love. In this series, "Building a Life That Matters," unconditional love assumes the primary position because of its unmatched creative ability; the ability to make something from nothing and the ability to withstand all the forces of nature and the universe. It has the ability, when exercised, to cross the threshold of time as evidenced by the unconditional love of Jesus and the sacrifice exhibited by Buddha, Gandhi, and Martin Luther King, Jr. or anyone whose messages and lives have eclipsed there own. Where unconditional love is, so there is the Source of All Being. It can be no other way.

So what is the great lie we have been conditioned to believe? I contend it is that we have no choice; that somehow we are destined to be what our genes dictate or what our circumstances and environment mold and shape us into. It is the thought that somehow there is an all powerful external authority that anoints our lives with whatever it chooses, arbitrarily. This external force is seen by many of us only through the temporary and unfocused eye of humanity, which limits the possibility of infinite, unconditional love.

Unconditional love is an external creative force of incomprehensible magnitude. Is it possible for humans to display this force long term? I do not claim to know the answer for sure. Yet, I've come to feel that a shift has taken place within me and the paradigm of my definition of this potent energy has changed ever so slightly, yet oh so dynamically. If this life giving influence can be mastered or even harnessed, if only for briefest periods of time so as to relay its incredible value to other human beings, then living this life will begin to matter more than ever before.

I am beginning to adopt the following definition, until more is given to me to expand it, to shape my understanding of that all powerful authority we refer to as...unconditional love.

"Unconditional Love is the infinite, inspirational, incomprehensible and miraculous energy which creates all life, promotes peace which causes no harm and heals all wounds effortlessly and without judgement. Unconditional Love manifests all joy without suffering, produces goodness where none existed before and is the expression and presence of Divine Perfection which elevates the soul." - Rev. B. Stuart Noll

Our greatest gift is the ability to choose, the inherent freedom to continually seek our truth and greater understanding thereby dispelling the lie that we were not given this awesome power which originates at its core from unconditional love.

What's Your Definition of Unconditional Love

I am excited and happy to offer my definition of unconditional love here in this hub and even though this definition works for me, and is my foundation for "Building a Life That Matters" it may not work for you? Why? Because it is my belief that you must know in your own heart, and experience within your own definition. Then, the associated feeling will take hold and work for you long term. I also believe in order to ever express this consciousness to another and to begin to use it as a foundation for developing every other character quality we must search and seize the answers. We must form a practice, a dedication to ourselves to extend effort and in due time, the answers will come. They have and are for me.

There is no one right way to evoke the motivation to discover this unconditional love or to create your own definition that serves your growth. What I can tell you from experience is...if you will authentically dedicate yourself to the pursuit and development of a relationship with unconditional love, the answers will come.

Once your perspective crystallizes, equally, you must honor the commitment to use it, freely!

May the peace of unconditional love always be with you!

"Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." -- Anatole France

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Immovable and flexible

So here is where I begin "Building a Life That Matters." For there is no greater force on earth, or in the universe for that matter. It is the cornerstone of consciousness, the building block onto which all that is worthy of construction, and it is both our origin and our destination. It is this foundation upon which we will begin to "Building a Life That Matters."

Three Quotations About Unconditional Love

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The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
A dog will teach you unconditional love. If you can have that in your life, things won't be too bad.
Robert Wagner
The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.
Brian Tracy
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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

The analogy of a dog giving unconditional love is right on, Bruce. There is no thought behind a dog's giving of love. It just is! There are no qualifications...it just is.

Love this series. I hope it generates much thought and discussion as it is a very important quest...the quest for self-knowledge and growth.

blessings my friend

bill


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

You are such a good role model for all of us....you model the searching, the meditation, the slow and careful thinking that leads to a deeper knowledge on oneself and one's place in the universe. Unconditional love in human beings (at least most of us anyway) does not seem to be a steady-state experience, but rather more like a pendulum swing with occasional moments of utter selflessness. Perhaps our goal in meditating on unconditional love is to increase the frequency and length of those moments. A worthy goal and once again makes me think of Victor Frankl (one of these days I am going to have the time to do justice to a hub about him). An important and useful hub. Sharing. Theresa


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi Theresa!

I wish I would have said it this way: "a pendulum swing with occasional moments of utter selflessness." You certainly characterized the condition of human unconditional love better than I did...but I'm learning! LOL

Thank you for reading, commenting and sharing.

I'm not too sure about role modeling but I do want to use my life experiences to highlight the many possible zigs and zags of growth.

I am grateful for your support!

Bruce


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Dee aka Nonna 3 years ago

Hi BorntoCare (Bruce), I loved reading this....I needed to read this. That unconditional love is something we need to, sometimes, be reminded of. I've known, believed, felt that unconditional love for many years. The God Source, the everything Universe holds me in the arms of protective love, but just like a child, there are moment that still I doubt.

I love what you said "I teach because I yearn to share". You, my friend, have truly found your purpose.


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi Dee!

I started this series a while back and I am still working on the rest of it. Life, in my humble opinion begins and ends with love. I know I don't understand its full complexity. I don't know if we humans have the capacity to know unconditional love in the form which God expresses it, but we can express what we know and that, I think, is enough for me right now.

I sincerely hope that you will experience it in its fullest measure wherever you are and whatever you do!

I look forward to seeing your work come to its fruition too!

Thanks for your kind comments.

BTW, beginning in January of 2014 I will be teaching a 6 week course called " Building a Life That Matters: Starting a New Day at the college for seniors at the University of North Carolina Asheville. You hit it on the nose. Sharing is my passion. Knowing that is my deepest gratitude!

Thank you for recognizing that!

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