Can A Family Intervention Help An Alcoholic Get Sober
The Family Intervention
Many people ask the question, "can a family intervention help an alcoholic get sober?" I have watched many shows on TV regarding Intervention and what the families go through in order to set up an intervention for the one they care and love so dearly.
The alcoholic can not see what they are not only doing to them self, but the innocent family members and friends as well. Sometimes they even think they have no problem whatsoever and can stop drinking alcohol anytime they want. These are the true alcoholics living in the world of denial. I can relate to this because I thought I didn't have a problem drinking alcohol either until I stopped drinking and looked back at my past years and then knew I did in fact have a huge drinking problem.
My words were the same as other alcoholics. I can stop drinking tomorrow if I want to, but that is the key word right there. "IF I WANT TO." The problem with that is they don't want to stop drinking alcohol and are very happy with the life they have at that moment. No help needed, I can do it on my own.
Not the case for some many alcoholics out in the world. they need help and guidance to get them sober, but so many are not even interested in even trying to get clean and sober. They feel as if the entire family is against them and pissed off at them for their actions and addiction.
The families cry inside for the alcoholic to wake up and ask for the help they need. When one single parent or the entire family is so upset and at wits end of what to do to help their loved one get sober they may all get together and have a family intervention in hopes that if everyone in the family is in the same place together the alcoholic will see just how much love and support the family has for them.
Books on Preparing a Family Intervention
Getting the Family Together
Some family and friends may know that their loved one is addicted to alcohol, but then there maybe many people that don't know he/she has a drinking problem at all. In order to make this family intervention work everyone should get together in advance and start writing down why they feel it is so important for the alcoholic to get the proper help and care to get he/she sober and back to good health.
The families will always have in the back of their minds the true question as to whether or not the alcoholic (their loved one) will except this gift from them and carry it through even after leaving the Rehab. Center. The alcoholic might say they were set up for this family intervention and that may start them off on the wrong foot as far as excepting and being willing to get the help they need to get clean and sober.
In the family intervention try to explain why it so important that the alcoholic seek help immediately. They will not want to hear anything you say about it or may think they might go, but they need just one more drunk and the taste of that poison that is slowly killing them one more time. They may try to make all kinds of bargains or deals to have a little more time to drink their alcohol and get in their last buzz.
The alcoholic will either fight back at the family after they have expressed their feelings and love for he/she or the alcoholic may take a few moments and think of what was just told to he/she and except the gift that has been offered to them. That is the way it should go, but it doesn't happen in every intervention unfortunately.
Once the family has written down what they are going to say to the alcoholic and in what order people will speak, then is the time to figure out just how you will get your loved one to that place that hopefully will change his/her life forever.
The family must be firm in what they are going to say and not back down to the alcoholic no matter what he/she may say back to you. No choices but to go to Rehab. and nothing else. Either the alcoholic wants help getting sober or they don't. Time will tell when the family intervention begins.
There can be NO deals made with the alcoholic at all, such as granting their request to have a week or so more before they enter a Rehab. Center. That one week, if granted to them my just end their life and the reason I say that is they will want to get the best drunk ever and really over drink more than ever knowing they will be in a Rehab. Center for 60 -90 days without a drop to drink. You need to stick to you guns and plan and don't ever give in to the alcoholic under no circumstances. Plus, tell him/her you will not enable them whatsoever, if this is what has been happening in your family and you will not be a part of his/her life unless they are willing to get the help they need to get clean and sober. Tell them they will be on their own from here on out unless they are willing to change their life and get help to get sober.
© 2012 Mark Bruno
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