When Cancer or Other Catastrophic Illnesses Strike: Make the CHOICE to LIVE

Just a few months back he was helping his "Padi."

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Don't miss one moment of this walk.

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Each of us has obstacles that confront us...many of them are of a medical nature.

How we confront those obstacles, how we choose to live through the hardships that they cause is probably one of life's most important moments.

From the time that we decide to LIVE through the pain, the sorrow, the angst....our lives are never the same.

Learning to let go of all of the negativity...and embracing the gift that each day offers has been the answer for my family.

Easy?? Hell, no.

But it is the way we have chosen to live our lives and we are so thankful we chose this path.

Choose to LIVE every single moment of every day no matter what illness you or a beloved family member has.


Think about these ||| Ways you and your family may live with cancer in your family

 
 
 
Become empowered
Know what the options are for treatment
Be proactive
Adopt postiive thinking
Refuse to give up and give in
Take time for YOU each day
Engage in activities that makeYOU happy
Be unafraid to say "NO"
Surround yourself with those who love you

More health issues for my daughter

At the time, my daughter was having renewed, serious health issues.

For those of you who have read my writing,

  • I have written about her dance with cancer and her journey to hell and back.
  • I have written about her chemo treatments and her radiation.
  • I think I even mentioned that I retired two years early because she had three strokes in the Fall of 2011.

Since then she has had many issues, including a stent being put in her heart. She still passes out often. She is unable to have a pacemaker put in because there is such a high likelihood of a stroke. This time a devastating one is more likely.

My Sweet Jay...Chemo Begins Again Next Week

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Someone to stand by you....

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More concerns


As I was getting ready to submit the article about taking off for a bit, she began to have serious issues with her liver. She has been told for several years that it has taken a beating from all of the treatments. And now it seems to be failing.

So, I knew taking off was a good idea. I still have some time to write but not the same time commitment that I had when I was writing here on a more regular basis.

How much can you handle???


And of course you all know that our lives cannot have singular events that happen in them, right? We have to have layers of issues present just to muddy the waters, to see just exactly what we are made of.

That is what has happened. My eldest grandson was diagnosed with cancer fourteen years ago and about six years ago was classified as terminal. He has been on and off chemo during those years. He had been off chemo for about 18 months most recently.


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Chemo is on board


Last week he began a new regimen that is the strongest dosage he has ever had. It lays him out for four days and then renders him totally devoid of energy for the next few days. Today is shot day for the second week. He had just begun to feel almost human again and now he will be revisiting the hell of last week.

This, for a young man, who is enthusiastic and vibrant and always ready to go and do!!


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Many face challenges that could bring them to their knees.

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Our Journey is the Same One that Many Take

Ours is not a singular journey. Down the street, across the state and nation, around the world are many many precious souls who have journeys of their own to face. War, unexplained shootings, hunger, cancer and other devastating illness is no stranger to many.

It is a difficult walk. it is difficult for the one who is suffering. It is difficult for the family who stands in the wings hoping to be able to help make some semblance of order out of the devastation.

And, we do. We all do. We face off with whatever cancer has come knocking. We let it know it is not welcome. We move forth one day at a time. Sometimes we move forth one hour at a time. The important thing is: we move forth never looking back at the wake of destruction behind us.

Our journey has made us stronger and wiser and caused us to love more effusively and to express it often. We don't wait for a special occasion. Because for us, every day is a special occasion.

Asking for some help, please.

Writing about this most challenging part of our lives, the trudging up the mountain, to reach the pinnacle, and see what is on the other side, is cathartic for me. I can send out my feelings into the universe and somehow it lessens the complexity of it all.

I knew if I came back just for today to share what is happening that you would be able to help. So many of you have reached out to us through the two years I have been fortunate enough to be here.

Please send some Angels to Stephanie and Jay.

A few extra ones for the baby, my son-in-law and me would be awfully welcome too.

We need them to carry us through yet another part of this journey.

And we are thanking you in advance.

And would it be too much to admit that the tears slip down my cheeks as I finish this? Tears of sadness that my loved ones have to endure this. Tears of joy that they have had the courage and stamina to endure when they were told they would not survive but a few years. We continue to feel so blessed.

LIVING and Hoping for More New Answers

It is year ten for my daughter and year fifteen for my grandson since a terminal diagnosis was made.

And we are so thankful that they are both on the planet. My grandson has times when he is totally laid out by his illness ...for now he is doing rather well.

My daughter has just had two surgeries which we were told were very high risk but she came through so well that again we give thanks.

Each day that they are on the planet is another blessing for all who know and love them.

You can LIVE with this nightmare in your life. You just have to find a way to make peace with it and move on.

© 2013 Patricia Scott

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pstraubie48 22 months ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Deborah-Diane

Life is filled with many highs and lows and ups and downs for each of us.

By writing about what happens in our lives I am able to cope with all that comes a bit easier.

Another reason I write about it is that I know there are others who are experiencing what we are and perhaps it gives them some measure of comfort to know someone is out here to understands.

Thank you for visiting....Angels once again are on the way to you and your family


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Deborah-Diane 22 months ago from Orange County, California

This is such an inspiring post. We all owe it to ourselves to not give up too easily and get the most out of every second we have been given to live!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Twig22bend Thank you for your kind words. It is a journey. Each day is truly a gift. My daughter and grandson are having a hard time right now but we get up with renewed faith each morning.

Angels are on the way to you today. ps


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twig22bend 3 years ago

You and your family have so much courage and love and faith. I am praying for you all. I am sending angels and more angels to lift you up and sprinkle you with more of the powerful courage and love that you already possess. My prayers are with you and your family.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are so precious. It is difficult to write about but cathartic as well. If that makes any sense....

My girl and my grandboy both are having mountains to climb right now, and the best I can do is climb along with them.

I continue, Glimmer Twin Fan, to believe that each and every moment of every day is a gift and embrace it that way.

Thank you so much for your most kind words.

Angels are on the way to you right now as well. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are so precious. It is difficult to write about but cathartic as well. If that makes any sense....

My girl and my grandboy both are having mountains to climb right now, and the best I can do is climb along with them.

I continue, Glimmer Twin Fan, to believe that each and every moment of every day is a gift and embrace it that way.

Thank you so much for your most kind words.

Angels are on the way to you right now as well. ps


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Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

I don't know how you find the strength to write but I'm glad you wrote this. I have read these hubs with interest and believe me when I say I am sending angels your way and your families way. I wish you all strength and peace with your difficult journey.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

More Angels headed your way :)


Benjamin Chege 3 years ago

You're welcome


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Benjamin

Each day is a gift. Tomorrow my grandson has his fourth injection....this legalized poison lies in totally flat for two straight days. Then he begins to recover a bit and just as he is feeling human again, it is time for more.

We are so blessed he is on the planet...we were told so many times he would be long gone many years ago. So we count our blessings every single day.

So thoughtful and kind of you to stop by. All of the positive and kind words keep us lifted up!!

Angels are on the way to you and yours. ps


Benjamin Chege 3 years ago

Hi Patricia Scott. I am touched and informed by this hub on the most important information regarding cancer. Voted up, useful and awesome. Sorry for all that you and your family are going through in these tough times. However, please be encouraged that suffering never lasts forever. Love and support from family members and having a positive attitude are the most powerful remedies to any kind of suffering. You have my blessings.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Alicia

It is a difficult time. he has just completed his third week of treatment and I think this has been the worst. He can barely get out of bed he is so tired. He feels good for 2 out of 7 days and then it is time to have treatment again.

thank you so much for your thoughtfulness. We are so blessed. God is in the house Know that Angels are on the way ps


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AliciaC 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

I am so very sorry for what you and your family are going through, ps. I didn't know what you were experiencing until now. I have always appreciated the angels that you have sent me. I am sending many angels to you, as well as my blessings.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Connie

I will not pretend that it is easy...but it is EASIER because so many have reached out to us over the years.

The good news is they are on the plane!!!

Thank you for taking the time from your busy schedule to stop and share your kindness.

Angels are on the way ....tomorrow is week three, three down, six more weeks to go and then a reeval. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Connie

I will not pretend that it is easy...but it is EASIER because so many have reached out to us over the years.

The good news is they are on the plane!!!

Thank you for taking the time from your busy schedule to stop and share your kindness.

Angels are on the way ....tomorrow is week three, three down, six more weeks to go and then a reeval. ps


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grandmapearl 3 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

I cannot imagine the courage with which you and your family handle such devastating health issues. I am sending you Prayers and Angels to equal all those you have sent to others all over the world in your generosity and sweetness.

You and your family will remain in my prayers ;) Pearl


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you again, Linda, for your kind words. Every day, every minute of every day, is a gift!!!

And again Angels are on the way to you ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you again, Linda, for your kind words. Every day, every minute of every day, is a gift!!!

And again Angels are on the way to you ps


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

I am sending you tons of positive thoughts for your family. Mostly for your daughter and grandson. My heart is sad for what y'all are going through. We are also battling cancer in my family. We will never give in.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Pamela You are such a blessing. We feel so supported that it lifts us up every day. I cannot tell you much it means to us.

Many many Angels are on the way back to you. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Pamela You are such a blessing. We feel so supported that it lifts us up every day. I cannot tell you much it means to us.

Many many Angels are on the way back to you. ps


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States

Patricia, I am so sorry to hear this battle has gotten toughter for you the ones you love so much. I wish I could say something to make the facts say something different. You, Jay and Stephanie will be in my prayers and I'm sending angels to you all. It seems you are carrying a load that most of could not handle with your grace and faith. Much love to your all.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you so very kindly for stopping to offer such thoughtful words. Our lives are really so blessed. Angels are on the way to you ....ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

O dear sweet drbj

Your words have brought tears to my eyes. Knowing that we have so many who care and share this with us makes it easier for us to move forth each day.

Angels are just at the moment you read this coming to you...ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

First, Eddy

Know that your kind words are so appreciated. Having others help us shoulder this challenge is so very helpful.

And yes we do cling to all things positive. Angels are on the way to Wales from Florida tonight. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Dear Sweet Faith

Your kind words help to comfort me for sure. As I have shared this is a journey and we just try to meet it head on and work through it. You know that you and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers.

And know that many

Angels are on the way to you tonight. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you livingsta It is a journey and we are thankful we can make it together. Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you livingsta It is a journey and we are thankful we can make it together. Angels are on the way ps


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Millionaire Tips 3 years ago from USA

Wow, I am so sorry for what your daughter and grandson are going through, and understand your frustration of watching them go through their illnesses. My heart goes out to you, and my thoughts and prayers.


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

I'm sending hundreds, nay, thousands of angels to you and your family, Patricia. But I know that with your strength, compassion, courage and hope, you are the biggest angel of them all. Truly!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you for your kind words. I thought I saw this yesterday and posted a reply but just in case...know your friend or family is in my thoughts and prayers as well. Angels are on the way. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you for your kind words. I thought I saw this yesterday and posted a reply but just in case...know your friend or family is in my thoughts and prayers as well. Angels are on the way. ps


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

This is sad and touching my dear friend. I hope you will be able to cling onto the positives that come your way.

Lots of love and hugs from Wales and you are in my thoughts.

Eddy.


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

Aw, my precious and dear friend PS,

My heart breaks for you and your precious family. You are so very strong and courageous. I love you so much and please know the angels are on their way and I am praying each and everyday for all for strength, healing and peace, His peace, the peace that surpasses all understanding.

One day at a time...

God bless you, Faith Reaper


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livingsta 3 years ago from United Kingdom

Sending you and your beautiful family hugs, blessings and angels. I will be praying x


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you Fred. My heart goes out to you and to the person that you know that is walking this walk. Angels are on the way to you today. ps


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Fred Mucai 3 years ago from nairobi

I have an idea what it is like because of the experience i have of someone close to me. Please take courage and i will pray for you and your family.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you DDE for your kind words. So many reach out to us and keep us lifted up.

Angels are on the way to you this morning. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you DDE for your kind words. So many reach out to us and keep us lifted up.

Angels are on the way to you this morning. ps


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

It is a struggle indeed and life is just so unpredictable with such illnesses precious moment must be enjoyed may you bare these tough moments with your great strength and heart god bless


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Eric

I do so agree!!! Victorious we are. Every day is a gift. Every new struggle an opportunity.

Thank you for your insightful comments and your gift of caring. Angels are on the way to you. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Eric

I do so agree!!! Victorious we are. Every day is a gift. Every new struggle an opportunity.

Thank you for your insightful comments and your gift of caring. Angels are on the way to you. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Ologsinquito

Thank you for your kindness.

Every day is a gift and we count our blessings.

Angels are on the way to you ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, thubi..Yes, there is so much to smile about. It is not easy some days but we keep HOPE alive.

thank you for visiting. Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

How sweet of you, Craftytothecore

We have just begun to know each other here on HubPages. Know that your kind words are very helpful.

Angels are on the way to you this morning. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you for visiting, dear Bill.

This is not an easy walk but it is easier because I know I can reach out and ask for help.

Angels received. Thank you thank you

Angels on the way back to you...ps


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Ericdierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Much love coming your way with prayers from my home to you and yours. When I won the battle against terminal cancer I heard the term survivor. Strange that term. Those that live on and fight on do not seem to be survivors they seem to be Victors. You already have heroes and Victorious little ones in your life. They are not surviving they are winners.

I am sure my angels have already arrived at your side.


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Ericdierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Much love coming your way with prayers from my home to you and yours. When I won the battle against terminal cancer I heard the term survivor. Strange that term. Those that live on and fight on do not seem to be survivors they seem to be Victors. You already have heroes and Victorious little ones in your life. They are not surviving they are winners.

I am sure my angels have already arrived at your side.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Carol I can feel them and I know my family can. We are so blessed to have so many who are walking our walk with us. And you know, Angels are on the way back to you!! ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Carol I can feel them and I know my family can. We are so blessed to have so many who are walking our walk with us. And you know, Angels are on the way back to you!! ps


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thumbi7 3 years ago from India

As part of my profession everyday I see patients with terminal illness and talk to some of their families.

I always encourage them to talk to the patient and express their feelings and talk about the good times they had together and appreciate each other.

It is not easy for a mother to watch her childrens' sufferings. I must say you are special and blessed with lot of courage, stamina and presence of mind.

Tears are natural. You don't have to be ashamed about it. Yet you are smiling....

My love and prayers to you and your family.


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ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

I will pray for them. I'm sorry to hear they are struggling with this terrible disease.


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CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

PS, I love you and I'm terribly sorry your family has to endure the viciousness of illness. It takes courage and bravery to step out in the world and share your heartfelt stories and tears among strangers. I'm not only sending angels, I'm praying for strength, restoration, healing, and peace. Please keep us posted. Your friend, Brandi


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

I have no words my friend. A writer who fails to find the words.....hugs, prayers and blessings are heading your way....I don't know what else to do for you and your beautiful family. :)

bill


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

Wow..This puts life in perspective. I have ready about your trials and the beat goes on. As you said..it never is a singular issue in life, there is more. But you deal with each day and enjoy the moments you have. You have always graciously sent angels to me and others...So I am sending them special delivery to you ..and please know my heart and soul is with you for your unimaginable courage.

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