When Cancer or Other Catastrophic Illnesses Strike: Make the CHOICE to LIVE
Just a few months back he was helping his "Padi."
Don't miss one moment of this walk.— pstraubie48
Each of us has obstacles that confront us...many of them are of a medical nature.
How we confront those obstacles, how we choose to live through the hardships that they cause is probably one of life's most important moments.
From the time that we decide to LIVE through the pain, the sorrow, the angst....our lives are never the same.
Learning to let go of all of the negativity...and embracing the gift that each day offers has been the answer for my family.
Easy?? Hell, no.
But it is the way we have chosen to live our lives and we are so thankful we chose this path.
Choose to LIVE every single moment of every day no matter what illness you or a beloved family member has.
Think about these ||| Ways you and your family may live with cancer in your family
Know what the options are for treatment
Adopt postiive thinking
Refuse to give up and give in
Take time for YOU each day
Engage in activities that makeYOU happy
Be unafraid to say "NO"
Surround yourself with those who love you
More health issues for my daughter
At the time, my daughter was having renewed, serious health issues.
For those of you who have read my writing,
- I have written about her dance with cancer and her journey to hell and back.
- I have written about her chemo treatments and her radiation.
- I think I even mentioned that I retired two years early because she had three strokes in the Fall of 2011.
Since then she has had many issues, including a stent being put in her heart. She still passes out often. She is unable to have a pacemaker put in because there is such a high likelihood of a stroke. This time a devastating one is more likely.
My Sweet Jay...Chemo Begins Again Next Week
Someone to stand by you....
As I was getting ready to submit the article about taking off for a bit, she began to have serious issues with her liver. She has been told for several years that it has taken a beating from all of the treatments. And now it seems to be failing.
So, I knew taking off was a good idea. I still have some time to write but not the same time commitment that I had when I was writing here on a more regular basis.
How much can you handle???
And of course you all know that our lives cannot have singular events that happen in them, right? We have to have layers of issues present just to muddy the waters, to see just exactly what we are made of.
That is what has happened. My eldest grandson was diagnosed with cancer fourteen years ago and about six years ago was classified as terminal. He has been on and off chemo during those years. He had been off chemo for about 18 months most recently.
Chemo is on board
Last week he began a new regimen that is the strongest dosage he has ever had. It lays him out for four days and then renders him totally devoid of energy for the next few days. Today is shot day for the second week. He had just begun to feel almost human again and now he will be revisiting the hell of last week.
This, for a young man, who is enthusiastic and vibrant and always ready to go and do!!
Many face challenges that could bring them to their knees.— pstraubie48
Our Journey is the Same One that Many Take
Ours is not a singular journey. Down the street, across the state and nation, around the world are many many precious souls who have journeys of their own to face. War, unexplained shootings, hunger, cancer and other devastating illness is no stranger to many.
It is a difficult walk. it is difficult for the one who is suffering. It is difficult for the family who stands in the wings hoping to be able to help make some semblance of order out of the devastation.
And, we do. We all do. We face off with whatever cancer has come knocking. We let it know it is not welcome. We move forth one day at a time. Sometimes we move forth one hour at a time. The important thing is: we move forth never looking back at the wake of destruction behind us.
Our journey has made us stronger and wiser and caused us to love more effusively and to express it often. We don't wait for a special occasion. Because for us, every day is a special occasion.
Asking for some help, please.
Writing about this most challenging part of our lives, the trudging up the mountain, to reach the pinnacle, and see what is on the other side, is cathartic for me. I can send out my feelings into the universe and somehow it lessens the complexity of it all.
I knew if I came back just for today to share what is happening that you would be able to help. So many of you have reached out to us through the two years I have been fortunate enough to be here.
Please send some Angels to Stephanie and Jay.
A few extra ones for the baby, my son-in-law and me would be awfully welcome too.
We need them to carry us through yet another part of this journey.
And we are thanking you in advance.
And would it be too much to admit that the tears slip down my cheeks as I finish this? Tears of sadness that my loved ones have to endure this. Tears of joy that they have had the courage and stamina to endure when they were told they would not survive but a few years. We continue to feel so blessed.
LIVING and Hoping for More New Answers
It is year ten for my daughter and year fifteen for my grandson since a terminal diagnosis was made.
And we are so thankful that they are both on the planet. My grandson has times when he is totally laid out by his illness ...for now he is doing rather well.
My daughter has just had two surgeries which we were told were very high risk but she came through so well that again we give thanks.
Each day that they are on the planet is another blessing for all who know and love them.
You can LIVE with this nightmare in your life. You just have to find a way to make peace with it and move on.
© 2013 Patricia Scott
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