Certainty in Life: Goals and a Sense of Direction

Goals and Certainty in Life

Have you noticed that people who discover what they truly want seem to have richer and fuller lives? Those who have given things up, and abide with strict discipline to their steps on the path to achieving their aims are happier.

They are confident and find hidden energies within themselves to achieve what they want, they gain more control over their life and definitely react less like ‘victims’ of life.

Life is full of dreams, promises and possibilities, but guarantees of knowing how everything will pan out seldom exist. (The only certainties in life are taxes and death!)

Uncertainty and mystery are energies of life. Don’t let them scare you unduly, for they keep boredom at bay and spark creativity.” R I Fitzhenry


We are never sure how anything will play out, and by trying to force a guarantee that the aim you have chosen and the path you will take to your destination is the best one, and that sudden twists and turns won’t greet you on the way, will make the possibility of facing disappointment a reality.

Discovering your true Goals


No one would like to get into a car and not know where they’re going, or if you know the destination, you’d want the map to show you the route. Discovering your true goals will put you behind the wheel, you are no longer a passenger, you choose the route, make the decisions, adjust the plans, and keep to the timetable.

Now you begin to see the cause in the quality of day-to-day life. It is no longer the result or effect of an outside force. It has direction and purpose.

Discovering your own personal goals, that sit right with you, both in your mind and in your heart, will open a wide range of positive experiences. But you have to be sure that your goal reflects what you truly want and that you are aware of the changes reaching that goal will make in your life.

Your goals must be very clearly defined and visualized. You need to emotionally connect to your goals, if they do not have emotional meaning for you the goal will never grow or develop.

Without the assuredness and drive you get from knowing unequivocally that you are on the right path, you may not have the drive to carry you through the challenging times. It takes determination to do whatever it takes, for however long it takes to achieve your desires.

We are all here to learn, and we learn because of uncertainty. We go forward despite the unknown and as we meet different things and different people along the way, we learn to grow and transcend what previously may have been regarded as impossible, or learn a new way of achieving your target or successfully breaking through the obstacles.

Emotions

“To teach how to live without certainty and yet without being paralysed by hesitation is perhaps the chief thing that philosophy, in our age, can do for those who study it.”

Betrand Russell


Emotions give motivation and meaning to life, and without emotion, you will never become passionate about anything.Nothing really matters if you feel don’t feel anything the action becomes pointless.What you want must be something you feel, and the more emotions attached to it the faster your brain will respond.Emotions attached to your vision put you in a strong position to reach your destination.


Opening up to new Experiences


Instead of compulsively wondering about the outcome, before being able to take a step, wouldn’t it be better to let go of this need and preserve that energy for something more useful to you.

Being open is an attitude which allows you to keep your sense of expectancy of the unknown alive, but still grounds you in reality, and could provide ways of getting what you want in new ways and offer rewards that you never dreamed possible.

Being mindful of your inner and outer focus, in that inner-directed focus lets you look at creative ways to take the necessary steps; while outer focus allows observation of the impact you have and time to take cognisance of other options of perhaps a more effective method of achieving your goals.

Single-minded focus on one goal is limiting and one-dimensional and possibly will exclude you from enjoying the special rewards life so abundantly offers when it is approached in a balanced way.

I am not talking here of leaving things up to chance, it's about balance and being open but also being willing to act decisively.


Live with the Uncertainty

This book helps you to turn fear and uncertainty into confidence and much more.

Let go of Doubt and Fear

Doubt and fear are both future directed emotions that lock you into inaction. “What will happen if I fail, or this doesn’t work?” Avoidance feeds the original doubt and fear, which just keeps growing and growing.

To be more comfortable with uncertainty, cognitive restructuring says the idea is to not accept blindly the automatic negative thoughts that come so easily and develop the skill of re-phrasing and challenging those thoughts. So when doubt raises its head say to yourself something like, “Uncertainty is less than ideal, but I can accept and tolerate it.”

Remember your present is where your power exists and none of us holds the future in our hands. What is happening now, the present moment is where you can act decisively and a small step forward is better than no step at all.

The biggest obstacle on your path is not ‘not knowing,' it is the inaction of not taking that first step, and then the next and the next.

The Faith Factor

If your subconscious believes something, it will work in many ways to confirm the belief in physical terms, and come up with ideas for implementing your belief.

So, it’s not about having certainty and assurances, it is the faith factor – the faith that in the overall scheme you are taking the route that is right for you.

The belief that you will learn what you need to know along the way, you will be able to negotiate the details or obstacles and find the right answers at the right time for you.

How do you view uncertainty in life?

  • It is a blessing as it allows for choices and growth
  • Although knowing would be less fearful, it would also be boring and stunting
  • The only true security, is embracing insecurity and allowing life to happen
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Rebecca Furtado 2 years ago from Anderson, Indiana

Nice Hub, the thing is this is all relational truth that applies to people in the developed world. Humans who are stuck by birth in extreme poverty at best have goals only related to survival. There is a hierarchy of need at play here. One must have assurance that their basic needs of living are met before that move on to goals that use things such as creativity to overcome obstactles.


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CyberShelley 2 years ago Author

Rebecca Furtado, thank you for add breadth to my article and indeed the points you brought up about poverty are relevant.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

I sure hope you are right in your opening statement, because I have laser focus on my goals. :) Nice message here my friend.


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Lori P. 2 years ago from Southern California USA

Thanks for a great hub and a reminder for all of us to know what we want in life before we waste our time here. I have been guilty of meandering around aimlessly. However, whenever I do have some sort of goal, I end up achieving it. In the past, this is how I earned my degrees, teaching credential, wrote my books, etc. Lately, I don't seem to have a set goal. I just go about tending to the business of the day that includes elder care, child care, etc.

I am missing a goal. Thank you so much for helping to set me back on a better path.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Hi, CyberShelley,

Wonderful hub. It made me think about my present and future life. Very helpful. Voted up an all of the choices. Enjoy your writing.

Did you know that your Fan Mail slot does not have way to send you fan mail?

I wanted to send you the below, my note of thanks, for following me, so I will have to place it here for you.

Dear CyberShelley ,

I wanted to take the time to send you my Personal Note of Sincere Thanks for becoming one of my cherished-followers. This gesture means the world to me. I just hope in some way, I can pay you back someday.

And I want you to always feel free to write me about anything you want with total-confidence. I am always up for new ideas in hub-writing, healthy criticism, and good input on how I can make my hubs better.

I just want you to know that I respect as well as love your work and encourage you to use your gift of writing with a pure heart and you will touch a lot of lives as I have learned in my time on HubPages.

Thank you again for being in my world.

If I can ever be of help to you, just email me at kennethavery5376@yahoo.com and I will do what I can to help you as much as I can.

Sincerely,

Your Friend for Life,

Kenneth


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midget38 2 years ago from Singapore

Sharing this with my hubby, who's now about to start his own business. Shared!


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rebeccamealey 2 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Doubt and fear are truly obstacles to being our best. Thanks for pointing that out. Great article.


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CyberShelley 2 years ago Author

kenneth avery, What a wonderful, heart warming message. Thank you for your generosity and kindness and should I ever be able to assist you, please don't hestitate. I will fix the fan mail! I am so lucky to have found you. Shelley.

midget38, so great so hear from you again, I wish you and your hubby every success in your new venture.

rebeccamealey, Thank you for stopping by and commenting, much appreciated.


Kenneth Avery 2 years ago

Dear CyberShelley . . .no, dear. It is I who is blessed to find YOU. And do not worry. I will call upon you for assistance in the near future for I have a few tech questions for you.

LOL. Thanks for fixing the fan mail. I almost died when I didn't see it. And Cyber, right now where I live, there is a mixture of sundown and dark skies due to the rain that is moving in. There is a cool breeze (I sound like a sportscaster) blowing gently through my house and I am tired from my day of travel.

Suddenly, Jim Masters, the estate manager and his pet Shepherd, "Zoolie," ran to the iron gate that held the . . .

Sorry. I get to rambling now and again. I need counseling. LOL.

Anyway. You have a peaceful night and do not lose touch with me.

Kenneth


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Hi, I used to be so positive about what I was doing, going from one job to another and so on, over the last few years I have turned into a blubbering wreck and really need to get back on course, you are totally right of course, I will just have to keep reading this to push my darn self, thanks, nell


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jtrader 2 years ago

I think people who are open to new experiences are more likely to take things in stride. Voted up and interesting.


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

The great importance of life shows more in ones life if they choose the simple things your hub shows true meaning of life.


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CyberShelley 2 years ago Author

kenneth avery, ramble on dear Kenneth, I love it - the weather description and your estate manager with my favourite dog! Lovely picture.

Nell Rose Please keep reading this if it helps, what changed in your life, is the weather getting you down? - I have always enjoyed visiting you - you always have such interesting things to say in your articles! You'll get there Nell, you're one strong lady, and we are here for you.

jtrader - So glad to see you stopped by, thank you for the votes.

DDE - Dear Devika I hope you are relaxing and enjoying your break, thanks for the comment.!


Kenneth Avery 2 years ago

Hi, Cyber,

Ramble? Oh I will figure this out later. LOL. Thanks for the reading and comments. Cyber, you are certainly a unique person.

And you can visit with me anytime day or night.

Your Friend,

"Ramblin'" Kenneth

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