Childless By Choice

Carefree Couples

More couples than in times past are choosing to stay child free. Reasons vary amongst couples, yet some of them could be of a financial nature or that the couple just doesn't want to give up their freedom and independent lifestyle.Whether or not to have children should be agreed upon by the couple as a mutual decision. A committment of marriage should not be entered into if either party in the couple is not clear on this decision. This issue can only cause problems later on when one person is ready to be a parent and one is not.

While there is nothing wrong with having children, this article discusses the advantages of being childless. One major reason people sometimes may choose not to have kids is because of the expense of raising children. Two working adults sometimes struggle to make ends meet with both paychecks. Imagine adding diapers, food, and clothing for one to three more people who rely totally on for these vital things in life.

Weekend Getaways

Childless couples can take off for a weekend on a moments notice without worrying about what to do with children. Other things that childless couples can enjoy include: travel, go out to dinner, attend parties, and they can go to events at the last minute.

Raising children can be stressful, causing problems both mentally and physically for the parents. This can lead to being overstressed and tired in the bedroom, putting a strain on an otherwise happy and healthy sex life. Having kids means ball games, scraped knees, broken bones, PTA meetings, and other endless extracurricular activities.

Childless couples have the routine stressors of work and home, yet are not confined to the roles as parents, therefore they can spend more quality time with one another. Romance and spontaneity are easier when not having to worry about kids barging in unexpectedly. The stress of children can sometimes cause a strain on a marriage, leading to divorce.

Some people that choose not to have children are financially stable, have loving personalities, and some even care for pets. Family and friends cannot understand why they don't want to be parents, since they would obviously be the perfect parents. Just because a person has a kind and gentle nature, doesn't mean that they would make good parents, especially when they don't want children.The subject of children is a very big issue. Couples in relationships must discuss their feelings on the subject of kids, especially if marriage is in their future.

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Child Free Celebrities

No diaper changes in the future for these celebs. A few of Hollywood's finest who are just saying "no" to parenthood.

  • Jennifer Aniston
  • Cameron Diaz
  • Winona Ryder
  • Eva Mendes
  • Jessica Biel
  • George Clooney
  • RenĂ©e Zellweger

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EmmaMedu 6 years ago

Yes, when you're childless you can enjoy all those things with your partner. You can travel, go out late in the evening, and visit some events...

But, I think it's great and interesting to be "the two of us" for some time.

I think it's natural to have children, because as we get older, they slow down our life rhythm and let us en joy all kinds of new stuff we haven't tried until than.


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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

To scarlton: Great hub! However, the correct word is childfree, not childless. Childless couples want to have children but are unable to; however, childfree couples do not wish to have children.

I have discovered that childfree couples are the most intelligent and unselfish people around. Childfree couples think before they act. They have the intelligece to realize that children involve a lot of responsibilities and there are costs to raising children if they are to be raised affluently.

I applaud childfree couples because they have the courage to challenge conventional wisdom which states that everyone should have children. Oh no! There are parents out there who should not be parents at all. The majority of people do not think before they mindlessly reproduce, not considering how their irresponsible breeding affects themselves and their children.


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scarlton 5 years ago from Boonville, NC Author

Thank you gmwilliams for reading, and I appreciate the advice, childfree is the correct choice.


Dan 5 years ago

I'm 24 and in a long term relationship with a great girl who doesn't want either and we love our lifestyle but I hate having to defend myself from co-workers who keep telling me I'll change my mind which won't happen since I went through a procedure when I was 19. even then everyone told me I would regret it but everyday I am happier about my decision. Anyone have any advice for my response to these people?


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scarlton 5 years ago from Boonville, NC Author

Don't worry about what other people think about your decision to remain childfree. Do what is right for you, even if this woman does not turn out to be "the one" always be upfront in your decision not to have kids. As for a response, simply say that you appreciate the advice and forget it, be polite and simply walk away. there is no need to be defensive or try to debate your side, they probably mean well, but you win the battle when you don't let things other people say to you affect the way you make your own life decisions.

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