Choose Your Reality

We choose how we want to interpret the reality of our world, whether we do it consciously or subconsciously. And in our interpretation, we make our reality...

What is your reality? Do you want a happy and wholesome reality. See the happy and wholesome in the world. You chose what to pay attention to. No one else can tell you what to pay attention to. You chose what to read, what to watch and who you are friends with. Do you chose consciously? Or do you chose subconsciously?

I know many would say there is not anything happy or wholesome left in this world. I will tell them that there is much happiness and wholesomeness, it just depends where and how you look.

Many people focus their thoughts on all that is wrong in the world. I say focus your thoughts on all that is right. Do not focus on the bad, focus on the good. Do not focus on the ugly, focus on the beautiful. The more you focus on what you want, the more you will find what you are seeking.

We are unhappy when we think unhappy thoughts. We think someone made us sad, so and so made us angry, giving power to others. The power is our own. Only we can “make” us feel something. Others can do things that may hurt us or disappoint us, but only you can decide how you want to feel. Has someone hurt you? You can either dwell on the hurt, or forgive them and move on.

Our reality is made from a combination of our memories, experiences and knowledge.  This is how we make our reality what we want it.  As soon as we see something, hear something, smell something it becomes a memory.   Most memories involve feelings alongside the tangibles.  The feelings are the thread that weaves our memories and existence together.

Do you want to feel good?  Then think good.  Choose to think of good things.  Focus on the positive influences.  Remember beauty.  You need to consciously choose to control your thoughts.  So often we just go along, day in and day out, not realizing that we are in limbo.  Remember, choosing not to chose, is still a choice.   Each one of us has the power to control our own destiny.  Each of us has the power to make our own reality.

How will you choose?  Choose a smile.  It is a proven fact that smiling will make you feel better.  Choose to laugh.  Laughing together connects us and allows us to share.  Choose happiness and make your reality.  The choice is yours and only yours.  Have fun!

Only You Can Choose Happiness!

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Queen of the Lint 7 years ago from The Laundry Room

I recently sat my mom down to watch Enchanted and she loved it. We both always try to choose the nice reality. Oh, and I was raised in a family where bursting into song like that is completely normal. Remember the scene in My Best Friend's Wedding? Yeah. We'd do that.

But what do I do when there's someone always trying to bring me down? (work person). I'm starting to feel worn out from maintaining my upbeat attitude. Those negative vibes are insidious.

TheSandman 7 years ago

Great Hub as usual my friend. I really in reality liked it :-)

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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

I'm a HUGE believer in each of us creating our own reality! Great stuff, k@ri!

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Tom Cornett 7 years ago from Ohio

I loved this...My dad use to say "be kind today, you might not get the chance tomorrow"...Thanks K@ri :)

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Queen of Lint...Maybe you should burst into song when they come around...It would make you feel better and most likely make them think you are unstable...they may stay away...LOL good them this hub...tell them, "I thought you could use this." LOLOL (they may not speak to you again!)

Sandman, You make your are one of my inspirations! I am very, very glad you liked it! :D

KCC, Glad to see I am in some VERY good company! We do and we can, Thanks! :D

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Tom, When I was growing up we had a saying..."You make your own action", LOL, I still believe it! Always do today what you can! :D

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lxxy 7 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond


Love the vid, too...and the pix..all are awesome. =D Great message K@ri, you rawk.

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

lxxy, You rawk! The message is one people need to pay attention to. We need to realize we have the power, we can make our reality, we can do it if we so decide. I make my reality and it is good! :D

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Queen of the Lint 7 years ago from The Laundry Room

I'm going to start writing the lyrics for the song about how all my creditors have gone away and everyone at work just wants to be nice and - well, that's about it, since I pretty much like the rest of my reality I guess. But those parts suck (pardon the expression). Well, I could be thinner. And the house could be cleaner. But other than that I like reality. Pretty much

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

LOLOLOL, Queen of Lint! Yes, the house could always be cleaner and we could always be thinner...but is reality so bad? You seem like someone who knows...reality is made to be taken...You can try to take it...but usually it takes you!

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tony0724 7 years ago from san diego calif

K@ri this Is something I need to be reminded of constantly ! As you know from my more political hubs I can tend to get caught up In the quagmire that Is modern life . So every now and again I need a little Inspiration to keep me up ! Thank you for providing a reminder . Be well my friend !

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wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

This is a great message K@ri. It is inspiring for many. Thank you for sharing this.

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jill of alltrades 7 years ago from Philippines

"You chose what to pay attention to". How right you are K@ri! We can really chose our own reality.

By the way, I enjoyed the movie "Enchanted" too!

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beautyrose 7 years ago

I think if we want good things of this world it must first come from each one of us.

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Patti Ann 7 years ago from Florida

Great article. It is so true - I believe that we do create our own paths in life. It is possible to create any life that you want.

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

tony, You may get caught up in it, but it seems you try to change it to the reality you want...Glad I could provide a little inspiration! Hugs to well and stay well!

wesley, Good to see you! I'm glad you liked it! :)

jill, Yes, we do choose and in choosing we make it. Just like in Enchanted. ;D

beautyrose, I agree, we are what we think. We must be what we want to see.

Patti, It is possible...we just have to choose and train ourselves to see it! :)

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

Awesome, k@ri! so true! :)

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mayhmong 7 years ago from North Carolina

I'm always thinking positive whenever I read your hubs! Unless it was something awful like the dolphin incident.

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G-Ma Johnson 7 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

That was great and I had never seen that clip before..amazing...cheerfull and well done my dear...:O) Hugs G-Ma

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Invictus, I'm glad you like it. It is within our power to make our reality!

May, The dolphins needed to be brought to the light...but so does this. We do make our reality and I think you know that! You are a wonderful person and I would like your reality to match!

G-Ma, Thanks and I am glad I could share a new cheerfulness with you. You always have been and continue to be one of my inspirations. You are an amazing and loving person, never change! Hugs back!! :D

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James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

I have the power! I am thinking good thoughts; I am smiling. I feel good. Thanks for the upbeat piece.

Charlie Chaplin wrote a great song called "Smile" once. "Smile when your heart is aching, smile . . . "


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Thanks James! Make your reality! And smile :D

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rosariomontenegro 7 years ago from NEW YORK

K@ri, I'm just starting to read your work, and I chose to read this hub first. How inspired I was!

I remember a famous journalist said years ago, 'those who are happy are morons ... just look at the world!'

Such sad point of view!

Of course one should be moved to compassion and action when seeing other's sufferings but to become unhappy ourselves does not solve the problem, it adds to their suffering.

Thank you for the good advice, look into what is good ... and also ... do what is right today, it might be your last chance ... Thank you.

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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

I actually read something about positive thinking and just how powerful it can be. Positive people exude confidence...Positive people influence others to become positive people positively. The best coach isn't necessarily the best strategist but the best motivator. Thanks K@ri.

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

badcompany, I'm glad you liked it! Think happy :D

Thanks CabinGirl, Nice to see you!

rosario, Thanks for reading! If I have to be labeled a moron to be happy, so be it, LOL! And yes, we should be moved to compassion and action when we see suffering, and it is easier to do this happy than sad. :D

dohn, Positive thinking is very powerful. You feel better and, yes, it does motivate others! Thanks :D

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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

It's so true that we can choose to be happy...wonder why so many choose to be the opposite!

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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India

Nice thought to start off the day with in this part of the world - I'm smiling :)

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Feline Prophet, I don't think people actually choose when they are not happy. I think they are not actively trying to be happy. Sometimes, we need to actively train our thought patterns to do what we want them to. Make a conscious choice, as opposed to letting the subconscious decide. :D

Shalini, I'm glad you are smiling! Was it the "Happy Working Song"? That one always does it for me. :D

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G-Ma Johnson 7 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

" though your heart is even though it's aching, the sun will come shining through, if you just smile..." something like that to the song Charlie Chaplin wrote...I had almost forgotten it thanks 'James'...:O) Hugs

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

G-Ma, James Watkins directed me to the same song! It is a wonderful song...but our hearts are not breaking...they are expanding! I love you! hugs and love!

RN4081 7 years ago

I know this is true, but it's easy to forget. Thanks for the gentle reminder and thanks for the great hubs!

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Christofers Flow 7 years ago from Denver

Absolutely beautiful. You have real talent, along with your great heart.

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

RN, I'm glad to help, thanks for the kind words!

Christofers, Thank you sooo much! I know my heart, but (LOL) I am still learning about talent. :D

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rainshadow 7 years ago


It is critical that the populations of the world understand this principle. For happiness or any change for the better we first have to beleive. It warms my heart and makes feel so much less alone to see this principle documented in your work as well as in other major writings.


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Rainshadow, Know that you will find many friends here! You have a great message and one I am looking forward to reading more about...This world needs to change! I do believe! We need to love each other, and I think truth is a great way of getting there. I am accused of being much too else is there? I am.... :D

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Mr. Happy 7 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Sounds like you read "The Secret" ... (second time I am saying that today) Cheers and thanks for writing!

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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Mr Happy, Good to see you! I haven't heard of "The Secret", but I will look it up. Cheers to you also! :D

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