Control Your Emotions or they will control you!

Learn to Control your Emotions

Learning how to control your emotions is easier said then done. Depression, anxiety, fear, anger or a constant impulse to worry about everything can often take over your emotions, leaving you feeling sad and out of control. There is help though; you can control your emotions. You just have to know how to do it. With some time and pre-planning, this can be accomplished. Learning to control your emotions will not be easy and it will take time.

Noticing your emotions and the triggers is one of the first and most important steps to take when trying to control your emotions. Think about what sets you off making you not able to control your emotions. Some of the most common triggers that make lose the ability to control your emotions can be:

• Our personal finances
• Our friends and all their problems
• Our children
• The house or neighborhood you live in
• The clothes you wear
• The car you drive
• Your job or your boss

Now sit back and think about it because I am sure these sound pretty familiar. I’m sure at least one of these make you not able to control your emotions and more then likely is a combination of a few of them or even a combination of them all. When you combine any of these it makes you feel like you can’t control your emotions like you want to. If you’re not sure what sets you off then start by keeping a journal so you can figure out what exactly makes you lose the ability to control your emotions so you can learn to control your emotions. I’m sure there is more then one thing which is why keeping a journal is the perfect idea to control your emotions. Start with writing down everything that you have done so you can learn to control your emotions. You should do this throughout the day and not at the end. If you wait till the end then you might forget a key event that triggered your emotions and then it won’t help you at all. Carry the journal with your other items; in your purse or a briefcase this way you can see what leads up to you not being able to control your emotions so you can start to learn how to control your emotions once and for all. Once you learn to control your emotions, you will start feeling like a different and better person. The new you can be right around the corner once you learn to control your emotions, it’s your time to grab it while you can.

Control your emotions

The Emotion of Anger

Control your emotions, anger can be deadly.
Control your emotions, anger can be deadly.

Control your emotions that drive anger

The Emotion of Depression

Depression really can feel like you are trapped inside of yourself and your circumstances.  Control your emotions by taking the focus off of self and on to other people.
Depression really can feel like you are trapped inside of yourself and your circumstances. Control your emotions by taking the focus off of self and on to other people.

Control your emotions through the food you eat.

Taking control of your emotions

Now that you know what gets your emotions up, its time to start learning how to keep these emotions away. This is the time you start to control your emotions. You know what triggers your emotions, so when your trigger starts to happen, you need to remove yourself from the situation. If it’s your friends laying their problems out for you, stop them mid sentence and tell them you can’t deal with their problems right now. Let them know you are trying to control your emotions and you can’t help them right now. If it’s the finances, then take a break. If its work, then you need to try to find ways to relieve your stress while your there. If you don’t find a way out, then you won’t be able to control your emotions. Find something that calms you down and take breaks when you can’t avoid the situation all together. This is the one key when trying to control your emotions. After you have had a nice short break, then you can head back to the job feeling like you can control your emotions better. These breaks don’t have to be long; just a few minutes can help calm you down so you can head back to dealing with the triggers and start to control your emotions. These are just some examples that you can use to control your emotions. Of course, you need to figure out some of your own ways to control your emotions depending on what the triggers were.

Be Quiet! First step to Control your emotions

One of the first things you need to do to control your emotions is to start setting aside quiet time for yourself. Let’s face it; life can be stressful no matter what you do especially when you trying to control your emotions. So start setting aside some time where it’s quiet. It doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, just make sure its all about you. If you have kids, then make it when the kids go to bed. Place the kids in bed and tell your spouse to listen for them for the next hour. Let your spouse know that you are overwhelmed and you need a break so you can try and control your emotions. Go run a warm bubble bath and enjoy the quiet. If you enjoy reading, then take a book in there with you. Reading can be a great way to lower stress and control your emotions. Take that one hour each night though no matter what has happened that day. If the bathroom isn’t a good idea then find another spot in the house or even outside where you can get away from everything. If you like animals, then take some bread and head to the local park. Sit on the park bench and feed the animals which will help you control your emotions. Animals can have a very calming effect on people if you can make the time to sit back and enjoy what nature has to offer you. Of course you need to actually like nature or you won’t be able to control your emotions this way. No computer, no cell phone, no bank account and no arguing kids. Just let your mind drift away and think about happy things. Make sure you try and think about happy things though, don’t sit there and dwell on the negative or else you will just see that you can’t control your emotions as well as you would like to. In order to fully control your emotions you need to focus on positives. This could be any type of positive thoughts you would like, maybe it’s a vacation you recently went on or a party you went to last week. Think about something positive in your life and you will control your emotions a lot better then you think.

The Emotion of Anxiety

Anxiety can be tricky when trying to control your emotions.
Anxiety can be tricky when trying to control your emotions.

Different types of anxiety and how to control these emotions

The Emotion of Fear

Never fear to control your emotions.
Never fear to control your emotions.

Learn to control fear

The Emotion of worry

Worry warts tend to develop when you can't control your emotions.
Worry warts tend to develop when you can't control your emotions.

Don't worry.....Control your emotions

Meditation to control your emotions

Meditation can be a great way to control your emotions. Start off with taking a class one night a week. Enlist in a spouse or a friend to watch your kids if you have them. No matter what your schedule is, don’t plan anything during your meditation class. Once you learn how to meditate properly, you can stop going to the class and start to meditate yourself. If you happen to really enjoy the class, then keep going. Sometimes the class offers better meditation time then doing it yourself at home making you able to control your emotions better. The classroom setting is often quiet or they have relaxing soft music playing in the background. Let everyone know when your class is and tell them you will not be available to handle anyone’s problems because you are learning to control your emotions. Leave your cell phone in the car and don’t check it the second you get out of class. Wait until you get home and then check for any missed calls. If something starts to trigger your emotions, practice some of the things that you learned during class time to help you control your emotions. If you’re having an extra hard week then drop in on another class. Lots of places offer scheduled meditation time as well as drop in times, for people who need a little extra help learning to control your emotions. Check into the times at your local gym or fitness center to help you control your emotions.

Yoga for the soul to help control your emotions

Yoga is another great way to relieve stress and learn to control your emotions. You can start by taking a yoga class so you can first learn how to stretch, how to breathe and finally the right way to do yoga. People think because they have seen yoga done before that they know how to do it. They grab a yoga mat and start stretching only to find out that yoga is not helping them and it’s actually making things worse. If you do yoga wrong then you will not help yourself when trying to control your emotions, you will see that you’re only adding to the problem. That’s because you have to know how to do yoga the proper way. So take a class and learn the right ways to do yoga. Once you have learned how to do yoga, you can then take your yoga mat and do yoga anywhere that you want and it will really help you control your emotions. If you enjoy outdoors, then plan quiet time outside when the weather is nice and breezy. If you enjoy animals, then you can take your yoga mat out to the park and practice your yoga with Mother Nature running around. If you prefer to be with the group, then stay with the class. You will find lots of places actually do their yoga outside because Mother Nature has a nice calming effect making it easier to control your emotions. You might even find a few places that go on special trips around the city showing you where all the nice calming place outside are located at.

Visualize and control your emotions

Visualization is nice way to control your emotions when you’re out in a situation where you can’t leave the situation behind or go take a break. It could be time at work or in a special meeting. During these times you really can’t excuse yourself and grab your yoga mat. That’s where visualization can help you control your emotions. You can either carry a calming picture with you to focus on or you can find something that’s in the same room as you and just focus on that item for a while. Ignore everything that is happening around you and stare at that object. It could be a nice painting on the wall or a photo. Imagine yourself there in that painting and let all the fear and anger pass through you. This will take some effort and concentration at first to learn how to ignore the things that are going on around you, but after you have had some practice you will be able to do this without any problems. You will start learning how to control your emotions in a matter of seconds with visualization. Have you recently gone on a nice calming vacation? Carry a snapshot of that vacation around with you, so when you having problems you can stare at that picture and think about all the fun you had. Picture your favorite time during that vacation and pretend that your really there once again. Think about everything you did during that vacation. If it was at the beach, picture the sand between your toes, the sun shining down on you, that little umbrella drink in your hand. It doesn’t matter where you were you just need to picture that place in your head and go back there. Learning to control your emotions with visualization will help ease your mind leaving you to feel like your more in control of your emotions.

Control your emotions by taking a walk.

Walking can be a nice way to feel better about yourself as well as a nice way to control your emotions. If you feel yourself getting stressed out, angry, depressed or another emotion that you can’t control you should try and head outside for a nice walk. Making your body feel good from the inside out will help you control your emotions. This is a nice way to get them outside instead of being bottled up inside yourself. Walking will help your blood flow better, heart rate pump better and in turn make your emotions seem like they are not such a big deal as you once thought that they were. Walking can also help you lose weight which could be another key factor in the reason why you can’t control your emotions. Taking a nice walk will help you get complete control over your emotions.

Control your emotions with patients and goal setting.

The next thing that you need to know when you’re trying to control your emotions is patients. You’re not going to learn how to control your emotions overnight. It’s going to take some time and a lot of effort so you shouldn’t try and rush things. Take one day at a time and you will slowly notice a difference. If you try and rush things then you will only notice that things will stop and you will not be able to control your emotions. You will find that by trying to rush things that you only get more stressed.

Start setting goals in your life so you know what you’re working towards. If you have a path to follow, then your emotions will seem a little easier to deal with. You won’t be able to deal with the emotions if you don’t know what you’re doing next. Sit down for a while and grab some paper and map out what you want to accomplish. It could be goals at work, goals with your friends or goals with your kids just to name a few. It doesn’t matter what the goals are just write them down and set a plan on how you’re going to get there so you can control your emotions better. For example, if its work goals, maybe you would write down something like “I’m going to try for a promotion”. Then you would write down steps to that goal:

1. Stop being late for work
2. Sign up for extra over time, so they know I’m making an effort
3. Stay after work late without complaining

Doing your goals like this will help you remember what you’re working toward and why you’re trying to learn to control your emotions. If it’s your finances that stress you out then you need to start deleting some of them. Set goals for them as well. Pick your smallest debt and start working on it so you can control your emotions. It doesn’t matter if you can only afford to place a few dollars on the debt at a time. It will eventually go away and while you’re paying on it you will see how much better you start to feel since you are lowering the amount of stress on yourself which makes you control your emotions better. People often get overwhelmed with their debt because they have so many different places to pay. Picking one at a time is your best option. You can see the balance come down faster this way and you will know that you are finally getting somewhere. When you get the first one paid off, you will find that you can control your emotions a lot better. If it’s your kids that stress you out then you should change that as well so you can control your emotions. You’re always going to have some sort of stress, especially if you have children, but you can limit it. Set goals for your kids as well and talk with them about these goals. Offer rewards for meeting the goals and punishments for not meeting these goals, depending on what they might be. Schedules are also a great way to help kids stay on track. Placing your child on a tight schedule will help lower the amount of stress you have, making it easier to control your emotions. It doesn’t matter what the problems might be, they can be fixed. No problem is too big to be fixed. Once you slowly find goals and start following them, you will see you can control your emotions a lot better because you have lowered the amount of stress in your life.

Let your emotions get to you in order help control your emotions.

Sometimes when you find you can’t control your emotions, you just have to finally give in. Go outside and let yourself have a good cry. There is nothing wrong with letting your emotions get the best of you sometimes and you will find by releasing the built up energy can often feel rewarding. Letting yourself cry once in a while will actually help you control your emotions better then you think they will. When you’re crying or just being upset, tell yourself that you will only cry for 5 minutes so you don’t lose the ability to control your emotions. When those 5 minutes are over, then you need to stop crying. Don’t let the crying take over, you need to be in complete control of the crying so you can control your emotions. Once you’re done crying you will feel a lot better and it might actually surprise you that you can control your emotions. If you feel like screaming instead of crying, then spend a minute or two screaming. Screaming will help you control your emotions. We spend so much time trying to fight our emotions, that we forget to just give in sometimes and in turn it will help you control your emotions. Letting go of your emotions will actually help control your emotions. It probably doesn’t seem like a good solution, but it will actually help you control your emotions. You just can’t give into them all the time or it will feel like you actually can’t control you emotions. So make sure you only lose the ability to control your emotions once in a while. The other times you need to practice some of the tips that were mentioned above. Losing control should only happen sometimes and you have to be in complete control of your emotions when you do this. Set a watch or a timer so you can stop when its time to let go of being able to control your emotions.

Following these tips should help you control your emotions. You just have to remember that it will take a lot of patients, time and self control in order to accomplish all of your goals and ability to fully control your emotions. Learning to control your emotions will not happen over night, just have some patients and you will find that you can probably control your emotions a lot better then you think you can.

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