Crying is good! Weep regularly and increase your well-being!

Remember the last time you cried? Can you remember how you felt afterwards? It is a common question in celebrity interviews, and the answer is seen as a sign of how well he/she is in touch with their feelings. The question is relevant since few of us cry in public. Often we hear; crying doesn’t help, do something about it instead! But crying does help, and you will also feel well afterwards!

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Crying is considered more or less as a sign that you are week or wimpy. In our culture we are expected to always be in full control and we also expect it from ourselves! Therefore, many people are trying to hold the tears back, even if tears burning behind the eyelids. There are times when it is okay to cry, such as funerals or when a major disaster occurs in the world. It is a different thing to weep at every day events, such as betrayal, fatigue or futility. Then we feel ashamed and we try hard not to cry in front of others. It is not easy to show your vulnerability to others. Instead we try to pull ourselves together and control ourselves. It is like tears would mean that we have no protection. Perhaps men feel more pressure not to cry, because it´s not considered to be a masculine thing to do, but equally as many women feel ashamed to cry. Why is that? Crying is natural, and in some cultures it is consider natural to weep in public. However, in our culture it is considered to bee something private, and even on the few occasions when we do cry, even then we hold back, and just sobbing. And that it’s a shame, because then we don’t get the benefit of the deeper crying that releases and suppresses stress. It have to be a good boot of sobbing and weeping!

Crying is one of nature’s ingenious ways to wash away both panic and stress in a healthy way! This is because the tears triggered by strong emotions are different from tears caused by e.g. strong winds. The emotional tears contain many substances, such as stress hormones and when they have been wiped away, the tension in the body is gone! Crying serves as a major cleaning of both body and soul, and after crying you are also mentally relaxed.

Different kind of tears!

Tears are formed in the upper lid furthest away from the corner of the eyes. Tears are not just tears; three types of tears can bee distinguish and the tears appears in different circumstances:

Tears for keeping the eye moist

Every time you blink, a little tear flows out under the eyelid. The liquid keeps dust and impurities away from the eye. The fluid consists of water, salt and antibacterial substances, like lysozyme and lactoferrin, in order to avoid infections. In the fluid there are also traces of fat, protein, sugar and citric acid plus some waste substances.

Tears that removes irritation

This is the tears that you can feel when you peel an onion or get a grain of sand in the eye. These situations will automatically increase the tearing so that irritation can be washed away. These tears are similar to the tears that moistened the eye.

Tears which relieves the pressure

Tears triggered by strong emotions consists of the already mentioned topics and also protein. Additionally, the tears consist of hormones, endorphins and compounds of the stress hormone adrenaline.

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How can tears release stress?

When we become stressed, the blood content of stress hormones increases, and this reaction occurs within minutes. The stress hormones are released to prepare the body for emergencies. But stress can occur even if there is no emergency, like when we feel strong emotions. Fortunately by crying we clear the body of stress hormones.

The mechanism behind why we cry is still unknown, but it is well known that strong emotions trigger tears. Besides a reduction in stress hormones by crying, endorphins are released in the brain, which have an analgesic effect.

To cry is a strong signal to your environment. Everyone knows that its means that something is wrong. Moreover, crying shows that you are engaged. No one is crying over something unimportant!

As curiosities, the opinion of tears has changed over time. In France in the 1700s it was considered that men who wept showed that they had a refined and sensitive mind, which was appreciated at that time. During the late 1700s came the male ideal of self-control and during the early 1800s, it was not fitting for a man to cry. Tears was then considered being just for women and the very private occasions. And it seems like we still are stuck in that opinion!

I think it isn’t strange that they cried more in the past, it is more strange that we cry so little now! There is much to cry about, and we would benefit from more crying. Even if I know about the benefits, I can’t cry in public, and hardly at home either! If I do, it becomes more like sobbing than a good cry!

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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

What a refreshing topic. I know the feeling of needing a good cry. It seems rather instinctive and a much needed process. I enjoyed learning about the different types of tears per a good cry. Thanks for crying is a good weep regularly and increase your well being. Peace :)


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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden Author

Katie, thanks for your positive comment! Sometimes we should let our guard down and take the risk of being humans, not superwomen/superman! I´m glad you found it interesting!


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MartieCoetser 6 years ago from South Africa

I love a good cry as well as a good laugh. I believe this falls in the same category as a good orgasm, which, as a matter of fact, often provokes a good cry or laugh. This was really an interesting read. Take care!


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carrie450 6 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

What a great hub this it thougtforce. I wish I could have a good cry. I've certainly have reason to with everything that's been happening but I just can't. Crying for me always comes when I least expect it. A sad movie will will make me cry but I could never cry in front of my children who are all grown now. Maybe it's because I was a single parent raising three and I had to be strong for them and still feel the same way.


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kashmir56 6 years ago from Massachusetts

A very interesting and beautifully written hub,if more people would just let go and have a good cry they would feel much better. Thumbs up!!!


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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden Author

You are so right Martie!! An orgasm can trigger very strong emotions, depending on the circumstances and the mood. And it also releases stress! So, that is a good point! Maybe I don´t need to cry... I am happy to see you here and interest you!


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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi Carrie, isn´t that sad! I think it is quite common to try not to cry. As a single parent I can imagine that one has to stay strong, no matter what! I´m the same, a movie or a book can make my tears fall, but not infront of my children. I dont want them to wonder why. And if I now should cry infront of them, I imagine that they would be very worried! I am glad you liked it!


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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden Author

kasmir,Hi! We really should! Life isn´t easy, and sometimes it can be to much for all of us. We should do the natural thing that is best for us! We all have great demands on how we are supposed to be, and to show emotions can be difficult! But it would bee a better world, a counterbalance to the hard and fast life! Thanks for your encouraging words!


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

I really love this hub, most of those I've never knew before. I agree with you, we need to cry to release any burden on our shoulder and make us tough. Man and woman also the same, they needed this. Why do we pretend if we need to express our feelings by crying, right!

Very inspiring hub. Thanks for share this. I give my Vote to you. God bless you!

Prasetio:)


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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden Author

Prasetio, Hi! Nice to meet you! You are right on! Our time is mostley about beeing successful and good, and therefore I believe that we are trying to keep up a fasade. But that isn´t how we really are, not at all. We need to cry or at least react and show our feelings! I am so glad you liked it, and thank you for your praise and vote!


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vocalcoach 6 years ago from Nashville Tn.

A marvelous hub that all can benefit from. There is no shame in showing your true feelings and emotions through having a good cry now and then. Crying, cleanses the body as well as the soul. You have done a magnificent job throughtforce. I am a fan!


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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden Author

Thanks, vocalcoach, and I am so happy to meet you! No, there shouldn´t be any shame! We should all benefit from it, both the one who cry, as well as the people around who can be sure that there is something wrong. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!


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xixi12 6 years ago from Everywhere but here. In the truest sense, freedom cannot be bestowed; it must be achieved. You can never be truly free till you have the discipline to manage it.

In a stressful environment, crying is really needed to unburden oneself. Its not always a sign of weakness, rather a sign that we are human and have emotions. Great hub


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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden Author

Nice to meet you xixi12, and to see you here! Natural things is usually good for us and makes us human. It is typical of man to rise above nature and determine it to be in a different way! It is good to know that there are some natural and emotional humans left out there! Thanks!


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Well I am so pleased crying is good for me, I seem to have done a fair bit of that recently for various reasons. Great hub.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

acaetnna, I am sorry to hear that you have had a troublesome time! It is hard to live during such periods.

And yet you take the time to comment on a hub that reminds you on tears, and you are also able to see the positive angle of it! I appreciate your comment double for this, if that is possible:) I hope your courage show that you are done with tears for now and that your life becomes brighter and easier from now on. Take good care of yourself now, and do something that will spoil you!


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Mrs. J. B. 5 years ago from Southern California

Crying is not my favorite. I feel so drained afterwards. However when I do cry it is to release frustration. Being English we had a tendency to hold things in till you break...


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Mrs.J.B, how nice to meet you here! I agree with you and sadly enough I don´t find it so easy to cry either. Sorry to hear that English people are like us Swedes when it comes to crying! I do like you do, hold it back until I break, and after a cry like that one certainly feels drained out. I wish I could cry a little now and then instead. To cry is a natural thing and no one benefits from us holding back the tears. Maybe we should just try it! Thanks for coming by, and adding to my hub with your comment!


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nikitha p 5 years ago from India

Sometimes I cry when I'm sad & when I'm happy. Tears are an expression that speaks emotion without words.Great hub I liked it.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hello nikitha p, I am so glad you came by! Good for you! You seems to be crying the "natural way" and sort of letting out tears now and then. In that way you do not hold back and build up tension. I wish I could do that!

Thanks for your great comment!


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest

I love your hub! Great topic! I know you're from Sweden and I've heard the culture doesn't like to let their emotional side out. Many Americans are the same- it's viewed as a weakness. But I remember a quote: "A warrior is not about perfection or victory or invulnerability. He's about absolute vulnerability." it reminds me my softer side is also part of my strengths.

I just answered a queston on hubpages about crying in public and I said I am much more sensitive and likely to do so now than I was 10 years ago. I was brought up to be tough and not show emotion, but 10 years ago I cried for a long time after my boyfriend had passed away and yes I lost it (suddenly cried) in a coffee shop waiting in line, but this was the same week my boyfriend passed. Also since having my daughter 3 years ago, I get more sensitive and sentimental and more likely to cry. I think of it as a cleansing.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi Izettl, isn´t it sad that we where brought up that way, to be tough and not show emotions! Humans are emotional and it shouldn't be looked upon as a weakness! I am glad that you have been able to put your emotional shield down, but I am sorry to hear that it needed such a great loss to do it! To be able to show emotions and cry makes life so much easier, at least I think so. I still have my emotional shield up, and seldom let it down, only with my family! Idiotic! Great qoute, it says it all! It is always good to see you in my corner and your comment is much appreciated!


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JLClose 5 years ago from OreGONE

Interesting article. I am going to share this with my friend, who cries often and is so embarrassed by it. She'll feel better when she reads this. :0)


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi JLClose, yes do that and I hope it will strengthen her! But I know how it is because I feel so embarrassed myself, especially if I cry in public. Thanks for stopping by and for your comment!


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Alastar Packer 5 years ago from North Carolina

Was aware that crying was an important part of human physiology and good for us as is laughter. This is an informative hub and folks should learn that it is a natural response to sadness and loss( particularly men)Thanks for this...I was thinking beautiful or useful, the former wins.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi Alistar Packer! I am happy to see you here. We humans make up so many strange rules on how we should be or act and we decide what is regarded permitted without consideration of what is natural behavior! And as you point out it isn’t easy to cry for men and especially not in public. One can wonder how long time it will take for humans to behave natural! Thanks for the beautiful and for your comment!


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PETER LUMETTA 5 years ago from KENAI, ALAKSA

The act of crying as you mention can be for many reasons. As an American male that is not an option or so they believe. I have overcome this as I became older and now it is as natural as any other involuntary physical reaction. Thanks for the encouraging HUB and well said.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Peter Lumetta, one of the advantages that come with age is that we allow ourselves to express our feelings even if society doesn’t always approve. I think men who can cry shows more courage than those who can’t! Thanks for your valuable thoughts on this subject! Tina


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

I didn't really realise that crying is as good for us as laughter! I have to say I prefer to laugh, but I have realised that after a good cry I become far more relaxed. An excellent informative hub as always Thougtforce, thank you so much for sharing your expertise.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi Acaetnna, we need to do both since we are human and it is probably best to have some equilibrium between the two:) If we did laugh all the time I guess we stop to appreciate it. We must allow ourselves to feel sorrow as well as joy but I agree with you in that laughter is preferable. It is always great to see you and thanks for your encouraging comment! Tina


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Donna Sundblad 5 years ago from Georgia

Years ago I had learned about the tears/hormone connection. This hub is well-written and offers a broad overview that's well-worth the read. Well done! Voted up.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Donna Sundblad, Somehow it is so obvious and natural when you think about it. Humans are supposed to cry now and then! Thank you so much for the voting and the encouraging words. Your visit is so appreciated by me,

Tina


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bruzzbuzz 4 years ago from Texas , USA

As a man,I seldom cry but the few times I have,I have to admit that it did make me feel less stressed. Thanks for the great hub.


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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi bruzzbuzz, I know it is hard to cry for many men and that is a shame since men have the same feelings as women. We humans are good at inventing manners that goes against our nature:) Thank you for reading and take the time to leave a comment

Best wishes,

Tina


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Ever since I read that Abram Lincoln used to have a crying session while listening to the piano, I have always believed that crying relieves our pent up emotions.


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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden Author

Vinaya, How interesting, I didn't know that Lincoln did that. But music is a big trigger of emotions and it sounds like a great way to release emotions if we need to! Some music is so beautiful that I want to cry because of that and some music are so sad that I cry because of that. So, you are absolutely right and I will think about that the next time I feel the need to cry! Thanks for the interesting comment Vinaya, I appreciate it!

Tina


melanie blake 4 years ago

let your self cry tears its ok dont hold it in sob your heart out go ahead let the hurt out you will feel better for it.


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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi melanie blake, I know what you mean and I agree! It will feel better afterwards but it doesn't come easy for me to cry, at least not in public. Thanks for the comment, we really should cry more!

Tina


India 4 years ago

i cried a lot last midnight...i woke up few hours ago...though my eyes are swelling..but i m feeling relaxed...


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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi India, Oh, I am sorry to hear that you had to cry but sometimes it is needed. I know the feeling of waking up with swollen eyes and I can't say that I like that part of crying. I wish that it was possible to cry without getting swollen eyes. The thought of walking around with swollen eyes makes me trying to avoid to cry. It makes it so public and everybody will know that you have been crying. I hope the rest of the weekend will be better for you but if it is of any comfort to you, at least you know that it is healthy to cry! Thanks for the comment and take good care of yourself

Tina

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