Dealing with Death

For Eileen.{SCAM}

This hub is to try to answer the request of Eileen.It is in memory of all the loved ones we have lost.

Jackilyn Emm/Barclay was tragically killed in Rome on her honeymoon.As many of you know,I tragically lost my grandson,Jonathan on June 23rd of last year.

First Eileen and any other's;I feel you NEVER get over a loved one being gone.It is very hard to deal with I know,oh how I know.With the case still under investigation it's even worse.

What I have done is pour myself into this computer for one.That is my suggestion for you Eilleen,maybe pick up Jackilyn's place.I speak almost daily with Jonathan and I try to do the things that would make him happy..

I know I'm probably not the one to give advice on this.Only God knows if I am handling this correctly.

I have gained a new respect for God,and I feel that for me,and to make Jonathan happy,is for me to try to save other children from abuse and to attempt to change government thinking.

My heart goes out to you.Our loved ones ARE in heaven.We are the ones hurting.

May God give you peace in your heart Eileen.If ever you need to talk just mail me.

You are not alone!!

IT HAS COME TO MY ATTENTION THAT THIS JACKILYN THING IS A SCAM!I AM NOT GOING TO REMOVE THIS HUB BECAUSE I BELIEVE THERE ARE PERTINENT THINGS HERE THAT MAY HELP SOMEONE DEALING WITH DEATH.I AM GOING TO DELETE THIS FAKE PHOTO OF JACKILYN AND I WILL LOAD UP WITH PHOTOS OF MY JONATHAN.HE IS GONE TO BE WITH THE LORD AND WE MISS HIM TERRIBLY!!

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amy jane 8 years ago from Connecticut

i agree with what you have said here. I too lost someone dear to me last June, and I still feel the pain of missing her daily. I think you simply learn to deal with the pain. I too have poured myself into things that I think she would want me to do - like writing. It is important also to allow yourself to greive, in whatever way you need to, for as long as you need to.


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john big john 8 years ago from CHEYENNE

C.S Lewis has a great book called "A Grief Observed".

It helped me a lot years ago.

Great hub.


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Froggy213 8 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico Author

thanks Amy and John.C.S.Lewis is a great writer.

Amy you are right too,we all grieve in our own ways and we must do that.


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ripplemaker 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Losing a loved one can be painful...just know God is holding you close and you are not alone in your grief. I pray for you.


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Froggy213 8 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico Author

Thank you so much ripplemaker.God bless you!


Iðunn 8 years ago

I continue to think of you and your family at this upcoming celebration of love, I know it's hard. hang in there.


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Atontour 8 years ago from Brisbane, Qld, Australia

I can so relate to you here.  I lost my 38 year old son and my 8 month old granddaughter in 2007.  What was even worse was he was her father and died exactly 9 months and 2 days after her, on December 29th.   She died after a 5 week battle after open heart surgery, and he was shockingly diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on 1st August 2007.  Like you I know that you NEVER get over the loss.  My heart goes out to you on the loss of your grandson, and his pictures are a loving, constant and real acknowledgement to the world of his existance.  He is beautiful. You have a loving soul.  God bless.


glennice2003 8 years ago

I lost my mother in September of 2007. I talk with her each day and ask God to keep me. Death of a loved one is hard for those left behind. But, you are absolutely correct. Our Loved ones are in Heaven with God. They are not experiencing any more pain, any more hurt, any more suffering, any more sickness. They are in a place wher we long to be. As David said when he lost his child, They will not, cannot and do not want to return to us. We must now go to them. I will pray for your peace over the loss of your grandson.


Terry Thinktank 8 years ago from India

I can imagine what you are going through. I lost my husband a few months ago in an accident. i am going through a very strange kind of emotional trauma. On the one hand my conscious mind knows that he is no more but on the other hand it refuses to accept that fact. Sometimes I feel that I am losing my sanity. I keep calling up his number, hoping for a miracle though I know that his coming back is an impossibility!


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Dorsi 8 years ago from The San Francisco Bay Area

Thank you for sharing your thoughts here about death and your grandson. My dad died in 2003, my mom 8 months later. They were my best friends. The pain is not as extreme as it was, and now days can go by without me crying, but I will never get over it. It's just something you learn that you have to live with, and like you, I try to see my parents through the beautiful legacy they have left me- and yes I know they are with a loving God.God Bless and thanks for keeping the Hub up- it was the right thing to do.


mike 7 years ago

LIFE SOMETIMES FEELS LIKE A BIG JOKE. ALL THE CRYING IN THE WORLD NEVER BRINGS BACK THE ONES I HAVE LOST. I FEEL CHEATED. ALL I FEEL IS A VOID NO MATTER HOW MUCH I TRY. THE WORLD FEELS SO MUCH BIGGER AND SCARY AS I LIVE ON WITHOUT THEM. GOD FORGIVE FOR FEELING SO EMTY INSIDE AFTER ALL THIS TIME.


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Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

Thank you for this hub. Having suffered the passing of my daughter last year it is a subject very close to my heart. Maybe you would like to read my hub 'My Beautiful Little Girl' Keep up the good work.

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