Depression - Don't be a Loner

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Everyone in life needs a friend, but sometimes when life is tough, some people choose to want to be all by themselves, which can be understood to a point, but not to be completely isolated. It’s good to have friends or family to:

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1) Share your thoughts/problems with. (A problem shared, is a problem halved)

2) Laugh with – even when you are depressed, if you have a friend or family member around, you will smile or laugh from the heart, at some point in the day.

3) To encourage and inspire you.

4) To help you in any practical ways or point you to where you can get help.

5) For you also to help them. It’s been proven that our serotonin levels increase when we help people. When you help others, you feel happy too. (serotonin is a happy hormone also found in the brain – affecting the mood. Many Anti-depressants are used to regulate serotonin levels).

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6) To just have their presence around will be comforting. You don’t always have to talk.

7) To pray with, if you are a Christian or do meditation with. (It lifts burdens)

8) To hold your hand when you are going through the most difficult time of your life. No one should be alone when facing a Terminal Illness / divorce / bankruptcy / House Repossession / Bereavement etc.

9) To share happy things that have happened to you. Imagine winning the Lottery or being clear from a terrible disease or meeting your favourite Celebrity in person and not having someone to share it with…

* There are supportive phone lines / websites on the internet / Therapists, but nothing beats having family members or a friend who is physically there for you.

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•*¨*•✩✬ ~ If you’re carrying more than you can handle today, choose to let some of it go by letting someone else in. ~

I couldn’t think of a 10th reason to have someone around. What would you have added as No 10? Thanks

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10a. Thanks to Anglnwu who suggests - A good cry. (read her comments below)

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denise.w.anderson 4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

Wonderful thoughts on the reasons to have friends. I used to focus so much on my marriage and family that I didn't take the time to be a friend. Now, after having suffered from mental illness, I realize that friends are a necessary part of life.


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Elena, I think you covered all bases. This is a great inspirational hub. Friends are so important..Thank you for sharing..Cheers


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Brinafr3sh 4 years ago from West Coast, United States

Hi, this is a touching article because more people are 'loners' now than in past times. Great read, thanks. Voted up.


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Dexter Yarbrough 4 years ago from United States

Great advice, Lady E. Having people to talk to is indeed important. Thank you!


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

Hello Elena,

Beautiful thoughts...Always nice to have a friend of someone to share our burdens. Thank you

blessing to you today my friend,

Sunnie


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Hi LadyE, I think anyone who has good and comforting company cannot get depressed. Whether relatives or friends is of not much consequence. We have to have somebody who truly cares and sympathizes when the need arises.

Nice hub. Voted up.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@Denise - Aaawh... thanks for sharing your experience. Nice of you to drop by. Wishing you well.

@Always Exploring - Cheers Ruby. I'm glad you find it inspiring. Best Wishes.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@Brinafr3sh - Mmmh... that's true and depression is on the increase. Thanks for stopping, Brina.

@Dexter - So true. Thanks for sharing. Regards.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@Sunnie Day - Thanks Sunnie. Good to see you. Wishing you a blessed week.

@Rajan - So True. We need people who genuinely care. Very important comments. Best Wishes.


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

I had to come back to listen to Michael. I love that song and he's one of my favorites...Cheers


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flashmakeit 4 years ago from usa

I guess you could become depressed if you did not have a friend. You write some touching hubs. Thanks for adding.


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

I felt like this hub was a message to me. I have been having some medical problems and haven't been able to get out with my friends very often. I have also called them very infrequently. I think I need to reconnect, as I miss them and it is the obvious healthy move. Up and useful.


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anglnwu 4 years ago

Great suggestions. The picture of the little boy with the huge dog is precious. You asked for a 10th suggestion--what about a good cry?--I find it's nature way of releasing the sadness within. Again, thanks for always encouraging us--we need that. Rated up.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@AlwaysExploring. Lol Ruby. He is one of my favourite crooners. What a voice. :-)

@Flashmakeit - So True. Looking at it the other way round. No Friends = Depression. Good to see you. Thanks. :-)


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@Pamela - I'm sure they will be happy to hear from you. I hope you are feeling much better soon. Thanks and Best Wishes.

@Anglnwu - Lol. That photo makes me laugh. I've never seen a dog bigger than its "little owner". Thanks for the 10th suggestion. They do say it's therapeutic. I've included it in the Hub. Cheers. x


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

well said about serotonin hormone. helping sure makes us feel good 'cause of that secretion.

good suggestions/pointers, Lady elena. voted up as interesting and sharing it across!


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@Ruchira

Thanks Ruchira about your comment on Serotonin. It's always a pleasure to see you. :-)


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Royalmark 4 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

I remember when I got so depressed, 3 weeks back or thereabout, I decided to settle down to something I naturally didn't want to take - Coffee (I've taken that only once). I wanted to take an overdose but then I talked to my mum and later on, sleep took over me before I could take the sachets of coffee.

And same thing almost happened today. I feel so bad right now

I'd not like to experience that ever again. So awful!

Thanks for your comforting post, Elena.


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CloudExplorer 4 years ago from New York City

I like your 9 tips for feeling much better and attempting to oppose depression, or depressive form of thinking.

I choose to meditate a great deal, which allows me to clear my thoughts, rid myself of stress, relieves hyper tension, and is a sort of like clearing of the register, so to allow for better things to enter into it. Awesome hub voted up getting pinned and shared everywhere. Nice!


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@RoyalMark I'm glad you feel better. Anytime you feel that way, stay around friends/family or read something inspirational or just play a motivational audio CD and listen. What we hear/see affects our thoughts so much.

Take Care of U. :-)


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Express10 4 years ago from East Coast

This is a useful hub with good suggestions. No one can be an island unto themselves and be happy.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@Express10 So True - "No man is an Island."

Thanks for stopping. Best wishes.

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