Different types of people with Asperger's Syndrome - Quiet and Loud

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Quiet and Loud Aspergers: What is it all about?

I'm going to go over the different personality types of people with Asperger's Syndrome. I have Asperger's myself, and have met several other people, young and old, on the spectrum. We are not all the same - Some of us are quiet people, some of us are in your face and loud but just have limited social skills.

What is Asperger's Syndrome?

Asperger's syndrome is a neurological disorder on the Autism Spectrum. Traits of it include Poor social skills, sensory overload, Meltdowns in over stimulated environments, and several other things including anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder.

People create many myths about this disorder, some based on truth, but most of them are vast generalisations. For example, this one: "All people with aspergers are quiet and shy, also have reserved personalities".

This may be the case for many, but it's not the case for many more. You just can't generalise when it comes to a human population so vast. There are no set in stone characteristics that people with aspergers all share to exactly the same degree. 

When you've met one Aspie, You've met one Aspie

We are all different, two people on the spectrum differ as much as two neurotypicals if you pull them out at random. For every "reserved and shy" personality, there is a "loud and silly" one. I happen to have a loud and silly personality. 

Often people who are loud and silly on the spectrum talk about inappropriate things a lot of the time. I certainly have been guilty of this. I say and do silly things to get people to laugh, but I also say and do them while i'm being loud, and I will accidentally say something inappropriate or offensive without knowing it at the time. 

I'm not saying that this does not happen with quiet aspies also, but they are less likely to make a fool of themselves in front of other people. If you're going to draw attention to yourself, it's easy to do it for the wrong reasons just as much as the right ones. 

In conclusion, it just demonstrates that you can't slap specific traits on someone just because of a diagnosis. Obviously people with aspergers have enough symptoms of the disorder to class as being diagnosed, but no two people have exactly the same ones.

I have a video talking about it below - feel free to ask questions!

My views on Quiet verses Loud people with Aspergers

Comments 15 comments

Baileybear 5 years ago

good points raised - it's a misconception that all aspies are antisocial or introverts. I'm an introvert and don't desire a much social interaction. My son is more outgoing, and he has the very visible meltdowns (temper etc) which makes it tough going for him. He is loud and talks non-stop (although may come off as slightly shy when first meets people). I like my peace and quiet


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Miss Behave 5 years ago from Southern Hemisphere Author

I don't think many of us are antisocial. We're just very BAD at it, we want to socialise.


Baileybear 5 years ago

well, not of us want to socialise as much as most people do


amy alvidrez 5 years ago

You are so cute, and so brave, for making and posting this video. I could never have been so brave at your age. You should be VERY proud of yourself!


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Miss Behave 5 years ago from Southern Hemisphere Author

Thanks :) I try to help


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Hotmommy1227 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

I agree! I'm not antisocial. I'm just not terribly good at it ;-)


Aspie 4 years ago

You don't sound like a loud Aspie, you sound really quiet. Great video though!


Mike 4 years ago

I kind of agree. But I am either REALLY quiet and shy, or REALLY loud and silly. If I first meet you, I probably won't even introduce myself. But if I have been acquainted with you for several months, I will not shut up and will annoy the hell out of you. Also, some people pretend to be anti-social. Its cooler than admitting you don't get it!


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Hotmommy1227 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

I am rarely loud... I was out recently, by myself and had the pleasant surprise of being asked to join a group of aquaintences that were there. It was easier because I know them so there was no awkwardness


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aspieadult 4 years ago

Hehe...I am loud. But also quiet. I really am not sure...some people say I'm shy and some say I talk a lot. I like making people laugh, and the more I get to know them the sillier I think I am. But if I don't know them very well I am usually quiet. I talk to myself all the time and tend to verbally stim so in that sense I am "loud". lol

My brother (who is suspected undiagnosed aspie) is definitely the quiet, only opens his mouth when necessary, sort of a person.


aspiegrad 4 years ago

Hi, I am loud, have always been the one in the room who says what shouldn't be said, is foolishly fearless, and constantly gets in trouble with authorities. For this reason I have spent much time unemployed, underemployed, and with few friends. I get exhausted in forced socialization where I have to talk to large numbers of people in a very conventional way, such as retail and food service jobs, where I am also under very close supervision and receive quick rebukes or job loss for "misspeaking". So I love to talk, laugh, share my opinion (and I have one on everything) but only in environments I can control or where I am respected. Parties and crappy jobs make me have mental breakdowns. I am a teacher now and I love it. Thx for your video.


SandCastles 3 years ago

Good points. Asperger people can also be both loud and quiet depending on who they are around.


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Relationshipc 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada

Very well written and totally interesting. I’ve never really studied what Asperger syndrome is, although I’ve heard about it quite a bit.

So because you tend to speak out and say the wrong things at the wrong times, and realize that you’ve done so afterwards, does that cause you a lot of stress when talking to people? Or, do you just take it as a part of who you are and not let it bother you? By the way, I thought the pineapple thing was funny, and I would not have took offense to it. :)


Bow 2 years ago

I thought I might have Asperger's, but when I went to the doctors, I was told I couldn't have it as I was shy.


TheProspector 2 years ago

I have been loud for over 75 years. As a high school dropout guess I had to raise my voice through my www.MiningMagazines.com, and my www.USAtravelmagazines.com, to be heard.

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