Disinformation & Misinformation: The Parallel Order Of The Narcissist Debunked (NPD) - Malignant Narcissism

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Common Misconceptions Of NPD

Many people fail to realize the sheer severity of extreme mental health disorders such as the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), or malignant narcissism, and go on to accuse psychologists and psychiatrists of simply using 'labels' to describe varying common-day personalities - despite being a common assumption this couldn't be further from the truth. A 'label' is simply a word attributed to and used to describe certain phenomena and given the fact that officially only 1% of the world's population are narcissists it should be evidently clear that the 'label' is not just used as a way of describing a certain personality. Technically, all words are just labels and without them we would not be able to communicate sufficiently.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) can be thought of as a complete lack of empathy - this is not a personality type, it's actually a very highly disturbing disorder which results in the inflicted never being able to establish functional relationships throughout their life, having no empathy for anyone around them and therefore never being able to feel genuine love in addition to resulting in a compulsive abusive defense mechanism as well as unhealthy and consistent levels of self-entitlement - are these simply the symptoms of a normal healthy variant of a personality type? They are most certainly not.

Narcissist are extremely dangerous people and they should be 'labelled' or diagnosed as such. The narcissist has two faces - one angelic and one demonic. All rapists and murderers are narcissists - they have no empathy... ever!

Rapists and murderers are not just normal variants of a personality type - they are severely disturbed mentally and are ultimately completely dysfunctional - they have severe underlying psychiatric problems which, in nearly all cases, can never be repaired.

Disinformation & Misinformation

Disinformation is intentionally false information used as a form of deception which is spread purposely in order to convince people of untruths. Disinformation is often used as a form of black propaganda. Misinformation is the act of unintentionally spreading false information. Whereas disinformation is spread to purposely mislead away from the truth, misinformation is erroneous and is often spread without awareness by those who have been misinformed resulting in many misconceptions.

The Parallel Order Of The Narcissist by Insane Mundane - Debunked

1) Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation

Despite the explanation in the article claiming that this doesn't just concern narcissistically disordered people but is present in everyone, the truth is that everyone can react to criticism with anger, shame and/or humiliation whereas the narcissist cannot help reacting in this way and is unlikely to react in any other normal way.

2) Taking advantage of others to reach their own goals

The author refers to this symptom in relation to con-men/women but the fact is that not all people who resort to manipulation, crime or 'conning' people necessarily lack empathy, as the narcissist does. The narcissist is not just playing the game - they are playing a life-long game which is unlikely to ever change. They cannot help being like it whereas a conman may intend to 'play the game' with a hidden agenda in mind.

3) Exaggerating their own importance, achievements, and talents

Although actually quite prevalent, the author states he sees this everywhere and that such people used to be labelled 'charlatans' and 'frauds'. However, as explained above, just because someone is a charlatan or a fraud it does not necessarily mean they are a narcissist, this is just one minor symptom out of a myriad of others, a certain number of which must be present for an official diagnosis. The narcissist is not just a charlatan but is also most significantly an abuser, a manipulator, a hypnotic communicator and a person who is completely lacking in empathy as well as having an entire false projected personality which has been constructed over many years - their entire projection is completely false and they have a super-human capacity for deceit. Normal charlatans and frauds get caught out - this is unlikely in the case of a narcissist.

4) Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance

Once again the author states these types of fantasies are common in normal healthy people yet fails to address the fact that a range of other symptoms must be present. In addition, the narcissist not only imagines unrealistic fantasies of success, brilliance, power, beauty and intelligence but does so compulsively and unhealthily - they become preoccupied with it. The personality disorder as a whole can be thought of as a wide range of obsessive compulsive disorders all mixed into one.

5) Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others

The author has failed to address this symptom accurately. Whilst we all seek attention and positive reinforcement from others at various points throughout our lives, we do not do it compulsively, consistently and constantly to the point where it has a negative effect on our personal lives and relationships, as it does in the case of a narcissist. Narcissists seek to regulate their self-esteem through such attention and adulation whereas a person with a normal healthy amount of narcissism will do so for confirmation and self-affirmation.

6) Becoming jealous easily

Admittedly an easily misunderstandable statement. The narcissist doesn't just become jealous easily but, once again, cannot help becoming jealous and envious of others. In addition, the author has once again failed to address the fact that a wide range of these symptoms must be present for a diagnosis of NPD, yet falsely states that psychologists and psychiatrists claim that someone who gets jealous easily must be a narcissist, which is ridiculous.

7) Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others

A lack of empathy is the most important factor that contributes towards NPD. A person is highly unlikely to be diagnosed as a narcissist without a lack of empathy, as without a lack of empathy it's unlikely that they will suffer with enough of the other symptoms associated with the disorder. The author states that back in the day they used to be called 'a**holes'. Whilst this statement may hold some truth, the fact is that NPD, or malignant narcissism, was not so understood 'back in the day'.

8) Being obsessed with oneself

The author automatically assumes that the narcissist is obsessed with their true genuine self and refers to 'taking care of yourself'. This is another misconception. The narcissist is not obsessed with their real self, they are obsessed with the false self - the false angelic persona that they present to the people around them which is nothing more than a facade. Underneath this facade remains concealed the real personality of the narcissist. The narcissist is two people in one - think Jekyll & Hyde.

9) Pursuing mainly selfish goals

The author asks "How in the hell can you have goals for yourself without being selfish?" and fails to realize that the statement does not relate to just setting goals for yourself but means that the actual goals in themselves are of a selfish nature and are set for the narcissist's own gratification without the consideration of even their very own family or children.

10) Trouble keeping healthy relationships

The author automatically assumes that this must be the cause for high divorce rates. However, narcissists don't just have trouble keeping relationships - they have dysfunctional relationships - this doesn't apply to the other 99% of the people living in the world. Just because many relationships end it doesn't automatically mean that those people are dysfunctional. In addition, the narcissist is incapable of love and so the author is basically claiming that everybody who has ended a relationship must be incapable of love and must therefore be a narcissist. However, due to their dysfunctional nature and short-term relationships narcissists very rarely actually get married.

11) Becoming easily hurt and rejected

The author displays a complete lack of understanding of the subject by stating that all soft-hearted people with low self-esteem can become hurt and rejected easily. Yet again he also fails to address the fact that this is just one minor symptom amongst many which must be present. In addition, the narcissist is not just hurt easily but always feels hurt and rejected if they don't get their own way and they are unable to compromise with others in any way, shape or form.

12) Setting goals that are unrealistic

This has already been addressed in number 9. The author fails to realize that, whilst many people will set high goals for themselves, the narcissists sets goals that are so ridiculously high that most people will never achieve them throughout their entire lives.

13) Wanting "the best" of everything

The author fails to understand the use of the word 'everything' in the sentence. Sure, we all want the best of everything we do in life but the narcissists wants only the best... and they want everything. They are constantly and compulsively selfish, greedy, manipulative and deceitful with a sadistic tendency and they do not care who they hurt in order to get what they want, even if it means hurting their own children.

14) Appearing unemotional

The narcissist comes across as being devoid of all emotion at all times (except when they are acting) yet the author seems to think this is the same as apathy (which it is not). Apathy is simply not caring about something any more, whereas a narcissist is, and always will be, completely incapable of experiencing many of the emotions that a normal healthy person can experience.

Conclusion

After reading through the article it becomes clear that the author either fails to understand even the minor symptoms of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and goes on to state many misconceptions about the personality disorder.

Judging by the conclusion at the bottom of the article the statements and descriptions given have been intentionally made misleading and therefore the article is nothing more than an effort at disinformation. Either that or the author is in a state of cognitive dissonance.

People who visit the article and then pass on that information will actually be spreading misinformation.

by Sparkster

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Comments 7 comments

John 4 years ago

Beautifully delivered your information hits the nail right on the head for each and every statement.


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sparkster 4 years ago from United Kingdom Author

Thank you John! NPD is a disturbing issue of paramount importance which, in my opinion, should never be ridiculed and by any person doing so is also ridiculing those who have been abused by narcissists (and therefore could also be considered to an abuser of sorts).


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Thomas Swan 3 years ago from New Zealand

A great summary sparkster, I agree with your assessment and share your concern about people making light of this disorder. Did you cover the superficial charm/glibness anywhere? I was going over Hare's Psychopathy checklist recently, and sadly had to place a tick next to each item regarding someone I've been conversing with recently. Thankfully, it was on the internet, and they live a long way away from me!


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sparkster 3 years ago from United Kingdom Author

Thanks for stopping by Thomas and for your comment,

I tend to write mostly about covert narcissism and therefore more about the "good as gold" act they compulsively portray, rather than the classic or overt narcissist who is (falsely) more of a charmer or a romantic.


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Heather Mcdougall 3 years ago

I think NPD has a spectrum. There are less bad NPD 'ers and truly dangerous, malignant, toxic, extreme ones. I was married to the latter, and got him out of my home 5 months ago. Even his 'good as gold' persona was so extreme as to be unbelieved by many people - he was just too good to be true, and many people sussed him out as 'unreal', 'weird' or just plain creepy. You have to get the really malgnant ones out of your life, not just for your own sake but if you have kids you have to do it for them.


Hopeful312 3 years ago

I agree, I think that this is a spectrum disorder as well.


rengasamya 2 years ago

Dear Sparkster i thank you for such an excellent articles on Malignant NPD i am a victim and a life also lost, i am still chased and harassed no one understands or believes i am in India still more difficult, your articles are blessings to me. i understand u can't win these characters from your article but i feel i can your articles has helped me to tackle these characters. God is with me.

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