Why Do Alcoholics Lie Saying They Will Quit Drinking?
Deep down inside an alcoholics mind they do feel guilty with their addiction and embarrassment of their addiction goes right along with it.
However, they will never admit the feeling of quilt or the embarrassment that is kept inside of them. I'm only saying these words through my experiences with alcohol addiction in my life. I felt guilty and embarrassed big time, but still not enough to quit drinking alcohol. I was afraid that I may not being able to survive with out it.
The alcoholic doesn't want to admit these things because they might feel like they are not living up to their reputation as a drinker to their friends.
I held the fear inside too, I just couldn't say it. It would be nice for someone that is addicted just to shout out, "I am an alcoholic and I need help". No, we hide behind the bottle and hope that it will all disappear over time. I was wrong again!
Why do alcoholics lie saying they will quit drinking just to have peace in the family for a short period of time? The answer for me is yes, I lied about quiting or slowing up just to keep peace.
I was put up against the wall with a option, "quit or I am leaving" many of times. I did quit drinking for a couple of weeks but not for long. I then came up with a plan, "How about I just drink on weekends and Holidays"? That seemed to work for me, to be able to still drink and keep peace at home. What a plan that was, until it back fired on me over time.
I truly feel that many alcoholics try these little tactics to keep peace in their family and their relationship with their spouses.
This little agreement of weekend drinking and Holiday drinking didn't last too long. The body and those demons needed the booze everyday and didn't want to wait for those special drinking days.
So, as the days go by, we sneak in one more day over and beyond our agreement to weekends and Holidays. I would wait all week for Friday to come to be able to get my fix. The week felt like a month long with the anticipation of the day I could drink and get that buzz I longed for all week.
When we have figured out that the home front has settled down and is some what happy with our weekend drinking, we then take advantage and add one more day to the weekend agreement.
Now, we have Friday, Saturday, Sunday and a Monday for our drinking time. We try to sneak one day at a time in, like no one notices the lenthy weekends right? The next thing we know is we are back to seven days a week again. We have pulled it off by lying, saying we will quit drinking or at least slow up, until the next and maybe final up against the wall option we are delt.
It's crazy that people feel this way and that we, inculding myself, had no power over our addiction.
No one whats to lose the partner or spouse or their family over an addiction, but we the addicted don't want to give it up either. I have found out that we can not have both, at least in my situation as an alcoholic.
We have to figure out what we love more, your family or your demons? I don't think that's a very hard question to answer, at least it wasn't for me. .
I chose my family and kicked the addiction out of my life once and for all. Granted, it wasn't easy, but I was determined to conquer my addiction and by keeping a Positive Attitude it all worked out they way I wanted it to, and that's being Sober again.
No one has to lie about quitting drinking alcohol, JUST QUIT and by honest about it.
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