Why Do Alcoholics Lie Saying They Will Quit Drinking?

Deep down inside an alcoholics mind they do feel guilty with their addiction and embarrassment of their addiction goes right along with it.

However, they will never admit the feeling of quilt or the embarrassment that is kept inside of them. I'm only saying these words through my experiences with alcohol addiction in my life. I felt guilty and embarrassed big time, but still not enough to quit drinking alcohol. I was afraid that I may not being able to survive with out it.

The alcoholic doesn't want to admit these things because they might feel like they are not living up to their reputation as a drinker to their friends.

I held the fear inside too, I just couldn't say it. It would be nice for someone that is addicted just to shout out, "I am an alcoholic and I need help". No, we hide behind the bottle and hope that it will all disappear over time. I was wrong again!

Why do alcoholics lie saying they will quit drinking just to have peace in the family for a short period of time? The answer for me is yes, I lied about quiting or slowing up just to keep peace.

I was put up against the wall with a option, "quit or I am leaving" many of times. I did quit drinking for a couple of weeks but not for long. I then came up with a plan, "How about I just drink on weekends and Holidays"? That seemed to work for me, to be able to still drink and keep peace at home. What a plan that was, until it back fired on me over time.

I truly feel that many alcoholics try these little tactics to keep peace in their family and their relationship with their spouses.

This little agreement of weekend drinking and Holiday drinking didn't last too long. The body and those demons needed the booze everyday and didn't want to wait for those special drinking days.

So, as the days go by, we sneak in one more day over and beyond our agreement to weekends and Holidays. I would wait all week for Friday to come to be able to get my fix. The week felt like a month long with the anticipation of the day I could drink and get that buzz I longed for all week.

When we have figured out that the home front has settled down and is some what happy with our weekend drinking, we then take advantage and add one more day to the weekend agreement.

Now, we have Friday, Saturday, Sunday and a Monday for our drinking time. We try to sneak one day at a time in, like no one notices the lenthy weekends right? The next thing we know is we are back to seven days a week again. We have pulled it off by lying, saying we will quit drinking or at least slow up, until the next and maybe final up against the wall option we are delt.

It's crazy that people feel this way and that we, inculding myself, had no power over our addiction.

No one whats to lose the partner or spouse or their family over an addiction, but we the addicted don't want to give it up either. I have found out that we can not have both, at least in my situation as an alcoholic.

We have to figure out what we love more, your family or your demons? I don't think that's a very hard question to answer, at least it wasn't for me. .

I chose my family and kicked the addiction out of my life once and for all. Granted, it wasn't easy, but I was determined to conquer my addiction and by keeping a Positive Attitude it all worked out they way I wanted it to, and that's being Sober again.

If you are interested in knowing just how and why I started to drink alcohol and how I finally quit drinking then check out my new eBook titled My Life of Alcohol Addiction.

No one has to lie about quitting drinking alcohol, JUST QUIT and by honest about it.



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fucsia 6 years ago

You talk of lies, but I think the biggest lies of an addicted is those he says to himself. How he can else survive with his guilt and embarrassment?

Every time I read one of your page, I read the words of a person who has become self-aware, for this serve courage. Once again my congratulations!


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

'Rigorous honesty' is something we alcoholics must always strive for-the lies seem a part of our very being.


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psychicdog.net 6 years ago

So honest, thanks Clean Life you have really helped me get some major insights


CHEMISTRYOFLIFE 6 years ago

An interesting hub....I agree with you, an alcoholic can't priortize things in his or her life and endresult of this could be pathetic...


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bayoulady 6 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

cleanlife, Well written, and from your own experience...awesome.I hope some that are addicted and that still haven't made that choice will wake up to the fact that if you are willing to lose your family, you ARE addicted. The person I am thinking of(which you know) would tell me if you could go 4 or 5 days without a drink you were not an alcoholic.I wish that person could break the grip.


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Sa`ge 6 years ago from Barefoot Island

first of congratulations of a long recovery :) and secondly, great hub, well written and wonderful. Sharing your life as you do will help many people! Many blessing to you! ~Aloha~


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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Sa'ge Thanks, My main goal is to help others realize that beating this horrible addiction CAN be done if they truly want to.


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equealla 6 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

Mark this is not only good advice about honesty for the person having a problem with alcohol. Young people can learn a lot from your writings, about the devastation it brings to lives.

I am sure if they read about your struggles to overcome, they will think twice, before going down that road as well.

Great writing, as always.


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Sa`ge 6 years ago from Barefoot Island

these hubs will make a great book, you have it "from the inside out!"

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