Be Happy: How to Manage Stress in Your Life

Don't let stress get to you.

Does the cares and demands of life (aka stress) pile up on you like this stack of stones and they're ready to fall?
Does the cares and demands of life (aka stress) pile up on you like this stack of stones and they're ready to fall? | Source

They say that when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. What if you don’t want to make no lemonade? Life has handled you one too many lemons and all you want is to hurl them against the wall and you may find yourself using expletives that leave much to be desired. Things and events convened together to fall you and you find yourself under a heap of anxieties, worries, cares, stress, demands, misfortunes and unrelenting call of duties. You could hardly claw or crawl your way out and you’re panting under the load. You just want to dig yourself further in and tell the world to go away. And perhaps, with the thinking of an ostrich, the world will actually go away and you will be alright. See not, worry not?

Does that sound familiar? Or maybe, that describes your day? The past week or the past year? Life can be tough and sometimes, it becomes unbearable, almost. You’re distressed, you’re stressed, you’re down and out and maybe, on the verge of depression. What do you do? There are many things you can do to surely crawl your way out and no…thank goodness…it doesn’t involve lemonade.

Go ahead, CRY


Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you.
- Nathaniel Hawthorne

When you’re overwhelmed and stressed, it’s alright to shut yourself in the closet (or your favorite go-to-place for release) and cry. You can cry a river—it’s absolutely good for you. Various scientific researches support the fact that crying is good for you. Without going into technical functions of the mechanisms of crying, crying actually releases stress hormones. You know it if you had a good cry before. You feel good.

Unload

Happy is the housewife who sees the rainbows, not the dishes, in the soapsuds.
- Unknown

Do you have a special friend you can call? Your husband/wife? Your hairdresser, even? If you are fortunate to have that special someone who will listen to you without being judgmental, and is by nature or training a good listener, you’re in luck. Sharing your problems can ease the burden and sometimes the mere process of sharing can put a perspective on things. And that’s not just me talking. According to betterhealth.vic.gov.au., sharing can release built-up tension and help you identify options or solutions you haven’t thought of before.

Engage or Disengage

Stress comes with life—that’s the disclaimer on your birth certificates your parents won’t tell you (until it’s too late…).  Since life has its fair and unfair shares of stresses, you need discernment /intuition to know when to engage or disengage.  Sounds confusing?  Is your stress something that needs attention, resolution or even expert help—like a diseases or illness or a drug problem (you can probably think of others) or is it something that you can throw out of your window and let it dissipate because if you think about it, it doesn’t really affect the scheme of things in the long run.  Example?  Should I wear the little black dress or the red one with the plunging neckline for the Christmas party?  Should I try to squeeze in my manicure appointment when I have to rush home to make dinner?  Sounds silly, now that it’s articulated but sometimes, we clutter our lives up with activities and wonder why we’re so stressed.

So, let’s not sweat the small stuff or like psychologists like to tell us, “Choose your battle.” You don’t have to be the ultimate Martyr of life and it’s OK to cut yourself some slack.

Time for some laughs

Laugh!

The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.
                                                                            - E E. Cummings

No, that’s not a suggestion—it’s a command. Laughter is the best medicine, so it is often repeated. No kidding, according to Sciencedaily.com; laughter actually reduces levels of three detrimental stress hormones—cortisol, epinephrine and dopac. If these stress hormones are chronically released, it can cripple the immune system. That explains why stress can contribute to most illnesses from cardiovascular diseases to metabolic syndrome to premature aging.

One of the researchers involved in the above report, Dr. Berk (a self described hardcore medical clinician and scientist) has this to say,”… the best clinicians understand that there is an intrinsic physiological intervention brought about by positive emotions such as mirthful laughter, optimism and hope.”

However, laughter is one medicine you don’t need the doctor to prescribe. You can prescribe it yourself and you can use it anytime, anywhere. Of course, sometimes, people look at you funny when you are chuckling to yourself for no apparent reason other than the fact that you remember something funny. Been there?

Here’s some mirthful laughter Rx for you if you don’t know where to start:

  • Think of a funny incidence in your life—free laughs—haha—LOL…
  • Watch funny movies or television shows that showcase comedies, talk shows, sit-coms that celebrate laughter. Check out funny.com
  • Youtube has tons of funny videos. You can even make your own.
  • Read, tell or share funny jokes. Read 100 Funniest Jokes of all Times.
  • Or get someone to tickle you for a sure laugh, maybe?


High on relaxation.
High on relaxation. | Source

Steal a moment

In every person is a hidden child who wants to play
- Dr. Harvey Ruben

Steal a moment to de-stress yourself. Find that one thing that you love to do and you know will take your mind off stress and help you recover inner strength and serenity. Do you find aromatherapy relaxing? Or a walk through a park? Or a vigorous game of tennis? A shopping spree? A good sleep? It is different for everyone. The trick?—give yourself permission to indulge in a relaxing activity and you will find that you’re better equipped or prepared to deal with what’s at hand.

I normally use scientific research to back up my claims but not this one—I know for a fact that enjoying an activity I like helps me to unwind and recharges me for life’s challenges.

On the Wings of Prayer

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.~ Philippians 4:6

Sometimes, the stress looking at you is larger than life. Nothing can help this stress—no circumstances, no interventions or expert help can dissolve the problem. The case is beyond you or those around you and you know it. What do you do? I know what I’ll do—I always go to God in prayer—knowing that He who feeds the sparrows and clothe the lilies of the fields will take care of me. He offers His shoulders for the stressed, the hurt and injured, the over-burdened, the down-trodden, the despairing ones and the lonely. He invites, “Come to me, all you who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.”

Alright, I realize that’s my personal take on stress, but hold on…

Researchers in Toronto found that belief in God can help to block anxiety and reduce stress levels. Michael Inzlicht, Assistant Psychology Professor who led the study to measure brain activity while participants perform a Stroop test (test of cognitive control) found that people who believe in God showed less brain activity related to anxiety. They were less anxious, less stressed and made fewer errors during the test.

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Now that you’ve crawled yourself out of the stress hole, maybe, you may want to consider making some lemonade—it makes a good relaxing drink.

Here's the recipe:

Try Paula Deen's recipe.



What stresses you most?

  • work
  • family commitments
  • health
  • financial needs
  • demands of life
  • responsibilities
  • relationship
  • others
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wandererh 7 years ago from Singapore

I voted "others" as there is a particular lady that is stressing me out right now, and now I feel better. :)


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Godslittlechild 7 years ago

I find you're absolutely right about a good cry. It's very cleansing and relieving. Good hub!


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

wandererh--haha--glad you feel better. Now, who might this lady be? Hopefully, it's a good kind of stress. Thanks for dropping by.

Godslittlechild, I agree with you--a good cry can wash away emotional distress--pretty magical but it works.

Thanks for visiting.


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wandererh 7 years ago from Singapore

Well, Aunt Aggie, I met this lady last year and we became friends. We exchanged a few messages yesterday but when I asked her out for tehsi, she never replied. Long story short, I don't think it is because she doesn't want to go out.

So I was stressed because I was in two minds on whether I should call to check if anything is the matter, or just let it rest 'cause she was probably just busy.

Sounds kinda trivial once I put it down on paper. I feel even better now. :)


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

Wandererh--haha--I'm no Aunt Aggie but I thought it may just be girl problem--so, at least I got that one right.

Well, I would say--don't be discouraged--give her time and if you have the feeling that she doesn't not 'like' you i.e.-even if she likes you a little--then persistence is the essence of this game. Give it a few more tries and if the answer is consistently no, then move on--there are plenty of fish in the pond (sorry, Singapore is small).

I marry the "angmo" guy that I persistently say no to in the beginning. He was very directed, persistent and would not take no for an answer. Well, he won.


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wandererh 7 years ago from Singapore

Yay, she replied. We are having tea this afternoon in the city. Life is good! :)

And who said anything about the big M? I'm just a simple guy and all I'm looking for is a cup of tea and pleasant conversation. The big M is still far away in a distant galaxy. Maybe one day, but not yet. :)


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

So, you were panicking for nothing? LOL...

Life is good, life is a song right now? Enjoy your high tea and good conversation.


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wandererh 7 years ago from Singapore

Life is not exactly a song and there are challenges and uncertainty looms, but that's life. It's the attitude that determines whether life is good or bad. :)


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

You've got it--doing life can be tough. But while we're at it, maybe, we can steal moments or make moments to crank up our own tunes and yes--sing!

Hope your date went well.


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wandererh 7 years ago from Singapore

Well, we talked about caterpillars, and God, and running, and what goes well with wine. It was a good day. :)


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

Sounds like well-rounded conversation--a little bit of everything. Good for you!


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wandererh 7 years ago from Singapore

Yeah, that's what will usually happen with her. That's why I enjoy talking with her. :)


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tony0724 7 years ago from san diego calif

anglnwu really good stuff here ! Prayer has always been a real aid to me . And I also have my Godbox . Whenever I have a huge problem I write a letter to God and give It to him and It seems to work . And I am sure this Is probably true for all of us here at HP , writing Is kinda like a therapy for me . I am still working on the laughter part , because I am sure you are aware by now I am far to serious a person with no sense of humor . However I think I still have hope !! Well done my friend .


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

Tony, appreciate your comments and thanks for being so supportive. I like your Godbox idea--we can all use one. I have a journal by my bedside, something like your Godbox--i write stuff that bothers me and sometimes, I can see how God has worked in areas where I once thought impossible.

And no kidding, you with no sense of humor? You know you do--I've read your hubs and I know you've a wry sense of humor--haha--is all I can say.

Thanks again.


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Melody Lagrimas 7 years ago from Philippines

Truly enjoyable and entertaining.


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

Melody, thanks for taking time off to read and I appreciate your kind comments.


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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia

Sometime there is time when you feel you cannot pray anymore, so when the time is come, I start to sing a worship song. Wonderful and thoughtful hub! Thank you for sharing Anginwu!

God Bless You


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anglnwu 7 years ago Author

Thanks for your thoughtful comments. I love worship songs too--I sing them all the time--sometimes at the top of my voice in the confines of my car.

God Bless You too!


michael 6 years ago

Thanks for putting this together. It was great and very helpful


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anglnwu 6 years ago Author

Thanks, michael, for your kind comments.


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The Green Guru 6 years ago

Thank you for a bunch of ideas to relieve stress and get out of a funky or depressed state of mind. Laughter is my favorite stress reliever, although I've tried all of these at one time or another in my life. Thanks anglnwu.

PS. Cute video


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The Green Guru 6 years ago

Thank you for a bunch of ideas to relieve stress and get out of a funky or depressed state of mind. Laughter is my favorite stress reliever, although I've tried all of these at one time or another in my life. Thanks anglnwu.

PS. Cute video


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anglnwu 6 years ago Author

Green Guru, appreciate your comments. Laughter is just the best--we can always use a good laugh.

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