Everyone Needs a Positive Emotional Outlet
Did you ever argue with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Maybe even break up or get a divorce? Lose your job or get in a fender bender? Are mom or dad nagging you again? Do you have grown kids that never seem to call? Have you ever had a family member, friend, or even a pet pass away?
Stressors are a common factor in life. Things happen out of our control. We can end up feeling totally helpless. Sometimes, when something bad happens, we realize that we could of completely avoided it. We end up kicking ourselves for letting it happen.
Am I Going Absolutely Crazy Yet?
I am pregnant with my first child. My boyfriend, Jason, and I recently moved from Pennsylvania to Oklahoma. I have lived in Pennsylvania ever since I was 3 years old. All of my friends are there. My family is there. My cat, Molly, of 12 years is there.
I used to have the same kind of stressors as anyone else. I had a job I was obligated to. I worked 5 or 6 days a week. I got tired and woke up late some days. I had my bad days there and sometimes just wished that I could go home. My mom and I had our fair share of arguments. I've gotten in fights with friends. In fact, my best friend of 11 years stopped talking to me after she found out I was pregnant (some friend, huh?). I've had bad breakups in the past. I've gotten in minor car accidents that I had to pay for.
I am not working right now due to me being this far along in my pregnancy. Jason is working. Many people would think that since I am not working and I left all of that behind in Pennsylvania, I wouldn't have too much to be upset over. They are wrong.
I have surprisingly enough, not heard from many people at all since I moved out here 6 weeks ago. I have only heard from my mother and maybe 4 or 5 friends. No one else has called or checked on me in any way to see how I have been doing. I definitely thought I would have heard from more people by now. Apparently when someone moves away, they become an 'out of sight, out of mind' kind of thing. At least that's how I feel.
I don't even have my cat here to keep me company; and it's not like I can really call him (yes, he is a boy named Molly).
I find it hard making friends here. I am 27 weeks pregnant as of right now. I am due in October of 2011. I was a bartender before moving out here. I find it quite easy meeting people in that kind of atmosphere; however, being this far along, I don't really feel up to going out and trying to meet new people at the bar or anywhere else. Not only that, but I feel like it will look weird (me being pregnant and hanging out at a bar-don't worry, I don't drink).
Honestly, I miss being able to just hop in my car and drive wherever I'd like (I don't have a car here yet because we took the train). I miss meeting up with people, even for the simplest of things, like going out for dinner. I find my days getting lonely.
I have never been this kind of person. I have always been a social butterfly. I have always enjoyed meeting new people and hanging out with friends or family. I was HARDLY EVER at home. Sometimes, I fear I'm going crazy.
Music is the emotional outlet that works best for me.
How Do I Keep Sane?
Throughout my life, I have learned of things that will always help me feel better during tough times.
- My personal top emotional outlet is music. It can be just listening to songs on YouTube or cruising around in my car listening to the radio. It ALWAYS helps me feel better. Singing along will help out a lot of times. If I'm upset and I listen to a sad song, it might help me cry when I've been holding it in. Letting it out helps. If I'm angry, singing along to loud, angry songs can help relieve my frustrations. Music is even great when happy. If you are already in a good mood, listening to upbeat music can put you in an even better mood!
- Playing a musical instrument. Just like my last note about how listening to music helps, playing a musical instrument is a great way to let out your emotions and how you feel.
- Writing is a great outlet. I think that is why I recently took up hubbing. I get lonely during the day and it helps pass the time. Being able to write and express your thoughts and emotions is a great outlet.
- Poetry. Writing poetry is something I used to do in my spare time. I've been thinking about maybe picking it back up again. It is a great way to let out feelings. The best part about poetry, is it has always been somewhat mysterious to me. I feel like even though I'm expressing how I feel and I'm letting my heart out, not everyone will actually catch on to what I'm saying.
- Painting, sculpting, etc. Many people are painters or do other things, such as sculpting. Those are awesome emotional outlets because it helps you express how you feel by vision. It is a way of showing the world how you feel: literally.
- Cooking/Baking. Many people love cooking and baking. When you feel stressed, upset, or angry, try cooking up something different. Throw some of this in it and some of that in it. You'll feel better and maybe you'll end up creating something yummy!
- Cleaning. Being alone most of the day, I have found that cleaning can really make time go by faster! Not only will you not be passing time, but you can keep up with housework. Not only that, but if I'm in a bad mood (not just lonely), it's a good way to release that pent up energy.
- Working Out. Before I got pregnant, I used to go to the gym any time I got upset. A couple of hours doing my strength training, then cardio, then sauna time was just what the doctor ordered!
There are many things that you can do to release any stress, anger or sadness you may be feeling. The trick is finding what works for you.
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