Emotional orgasms

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Emotional orgasms

Although dictionaries describe orgasms as the most intense pleasure during intimate interactions, this hub is not AT ALL about that kind of orgasms, but about the kind we are all able to enjoy daily in public. Perhaps not always in public and perhaps not always daily. But then, a good orgasm can keep us positive and happy for days.

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Laughter is an emotional orgasm

We wake up in the morning with a desperate desire to be happy.We actually wish we could live every minute in a state of ultimate joy. We strive daily to reach mind-boggling peaks of happiness, preferably more than once per day -

Those marvellous outburst of laughter...

Laughing is one of the most enjoyable pleasures humans are able to experience. An outburst of laughter instantly relieves our tension. Laughter makes us literally feel lighter, more positive and fills us with energy.

Our need for laughter motivates us to watch comedies, read jests, go on holidays and to have interactions with friends.

QUOTES:

  • Laughter is an orgasm triggered by the interim course of sense and nonsense. ~Author Unknown
  • At the height of laughter, the universe is flung into a kaleidoscope of new possibilities. ~ Jean Houston
  • Laughter is an instant vacation. ~ Milton Berle
  • A good, real, unrestrained, hearty laugh is a sort of glorified internal massage, performed rapidly and automatically. It manipulates and revitalizes corners and unexplored crannies of the system that are unresponsive to most other exercise methods. ~Author unknown, from an editorial in New York Tribune, quoted in Quotations for Special Occasions by Maud van Buren


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Crying is an emotional orgasm

Sometimes the orgasm of happiness could be crying instead of laughing. The cause of this phenomenon is rooted in unfulfilled dreams and/or memories buried in the subliminal-consciousness. Crying could also be a sign of inhibit sadness and/or anger. What matters is that crying is also an emotional orgasm relieving our tension.

Crying may be the opposite of laughing, but it is actually only the flip side of the same coin called 'Emotional Orgasm'.

Our need for crying motivates us to watch movies (soul-touching dramas), and to read (and/or write) highly emotional fiction and poems.

QUOTES:

  • To weep is to make less the depth of grief. ~William Shakespeare, King Henry the Sixth
  • Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart don't know how to laugh either. ~Golda Meir
  • What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul. ~Jewish Proverb
  • Let your tears come. Let them water your soul. ~Eileen Mayhew
  • Unless you have been very, very lucky, you have undoubtedly experienced events in your life that have made you cry. So unless you have been very, very lucky, you know that a good, long session of weeping can often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed one bit. ~Lemony Snicket

NB: "Emotional tears produce not only prolactin, they also produce something called leucine enkephalin which is a natural painkiller." Read Nell-Rose hub about The-Process-Of-Crying here....

Enjoy a good laugh with this baby....

Thanks for all the laughs, Dave!

© Martie Coetser
© Martie Coetser

A hearty laugh gives one a dry cleaning, while a good cry is a wet wash. ~Puzant Kevork Thomajan


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Deni Edwards 5 years ago from california

Great hub, Martie! I love the laughter orgasm, and I just love the picture that you included of yourself with your friend. It looks like a massive attack of the giggles!

Thanks for another great read.


David 5 years ago

What a great read Martie, I can really say our 51 day Holiday was something very special for us both, yes its good to laugh my love.

Dave xx


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

In the photo you look like you are going to bust with joy. It doesn't get better than that. Thanks for the read.


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States

Martie, This is a wonderful hub as those emotions are so important in the human experience of living a fulfilled life. I enjoyed this hub very much.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** Deni Edwards – I’m so glad to see you again. Oh, I had so many massive attacks of laughter (and giggles), I’ve lost all my bad memories. Thanks for reading and commenting.

*** David – You’ve never tried to amuse me, you are merely a natural melter of frozen cores. You, like most of us, have all the reasons in the world to be negative and irredeemable depressed, and yet you are always positive. You’ve entered my ‘zone’ at an extremely critical time in my life to teach me how to bear and block the punches of Life. David means ‘beloved’, and you are indeed the most loveable man I’ve ever met. I’m looking forward to our date on Skype.

*** mckbirdbks – I am sure I’ve experienced the best of the best joy with David. And accidentally I needed the strength and power it generated in me to overcome a big disappointment on another level of my life.

*** Pamela99 – So nice to see you again. I was wondering how many people are not able to laugh and cry, who live, no exist, like zombies on this planet? I’m looking forward to catch up with your hubs.


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Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

Hi, Martie, first of all let me say what a fantastically happy picture! not sure how you spell fantastically! lol you look bursting with happiness, you are so right about the laughter, I have laughed until I cried, with pains in my side, nearly falling on the floor! what a great feeling! rated up and up! cheers nell


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BobbiRant 5 years ago from New York

Emotions are not always something we acknowledge and sometimes, crying and sadness get misconstrued as something bad for us to feel. Great hub.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** Nell Rose – I love to laugh, and in my book laugh is LOL out of my stomach. Very few people prompt me to laugh like that. Oh, there are many that can make me smile, even giggle. With David I laughed many times like I laughed when I was a child – until pains in my stomach and sides beg me in vain to stop and and and :) And actually about nothing that will make others laugh. I remember two great laughs with my mother in 1999, and even the reasons for them will not provoke laugher in anybody else. Just remembering all the laughs I had in the past makes me happy and positive. It actually motivates me to organize some get-togethers with friends. It is easy to cry (wholeheartedly) while you are alone, but what on earth will make me burst out in laughter while I’m alone? No really, I think David put me on a track worthwhile to follow. Thanks for coming by, Nell. I know you and I together will be Laughing Matildas.

*** BobbiRant – So good to see you again. Although I had a lovely holiday I miss you all terribly. So sad that TIME always forces us to choose one above other and to prioritize.

I agree so much with your comment. it starts at birth and just goes on and on when parents and others say, Don’t cry! Swallow your tears! Don’t be silly! Don’t laugh like a donkey! Behave yourself!

I truly think the main reason for many illnesses is because we suppress our feelings with too much power. Power we can certainly use more constructively. I’m on my way to catch up with your hubs.


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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very provoking hub. This hub so beautiful and contain educational article. I love joke and laughing. But you make it more better than I thought. I learn much from you, Martie. Thanks for share with us. I really enjoy all pictures and videos above. Rated up!

Love and peace,


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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

Martie, You look so happy. Why does it not surprise me that you would write an article about laughter? I know you've found happiness and found laughter again. I'm so very happy for you. I've always believed that a day without laughter is a wasted day. Thank you for sharing. I especially like the quote by Golda Meir and the laughing baby is adorable.

Cheers


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** prasetio30 – Thanks for coming by. I’ve learned a lot about laughing during the past weeks and now I am a firm believer in the healing powers of laughter. Take care, prasetio, and laugh as much as you can.

*** always exploring – It is always so nice to see you. It just popped up in my mind: There were always clowns in the palaces of kings, obligated to provoke a lot of laughter. At last I can clearly understand the logic if such a custom. I think I should watch at least one comedy per day until I find my feet in this ‘next chapter’ of my life. Oh, and I must not forget about all the laughing video’s in U-tube. Take care, Ruby.


shygirl2 5 years ago

I love what you said, using orgasms as an analogy. This is a great hub, as laughter and tears are such strong emotions we share as humans. The quote at the bottom of this hub is perfect. I will have to remember that one! Voted up and awesome. Thanks for sharing a new spin on the word with us. ; )


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MysteriousOne 5 years ago

Very thought-provoking write, Mr Epi-Man ! Enjoyed the analogy! As usual, you have written another AWESOME hub!

Thanks for sharing!

your friend,

M.O


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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

The beautiful photo at the end of your exceptional hub says it all, Martie. I am delighted you both appear to have found your soul mates in each other and can enjoy the powerful force of laughter in your lives. May you and David continue to be positive inspirations for each other.

I have to say, he IS cute, but you, my dear, are positively ravishing. Trust me.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** epigramman – oh my goodness! I’m blushing and I don’t know where to look. Hahaha! You naughty man! But I know what you mean... out of your heart. But just to spare others thoughts we don’t want them to have, I’ll keep your comment for ‘my eyes only’ :)))) Thanks for posting this to FB. Oh, and you don’t have a humble page here at the hubs, sir. You are the most famous provoker of thoughts :))))

*** shygirl2 – I love your comment. I really hope I’ll be able to stay on this track where I am happy and filled with good memories. May the bad memories David managed to cover thoroughly with good ones never reach the surface again. Take care!

*** MysteriousOne – Oh, I’m so glad you enjoyed Epi’s comment/analogy as much as I did. So sad there are people out there that will interpret it in a wrong way. But I’m like Paul in the Bible – always considering those with small minds and short sights. Thanks for coming over for the read, and nice to meet you.

*** drbj – Oh, I wish I’ve met him years ago. We would have been like Bonny and Clyde, but, of course, on the right track. Or who knows? I believe in “Cometh the moment, cometh the man’. We met at the exact time we needed to... For me everything seems (at review) to happen exactly according to a plan Someone Up There plotted. So nice to have you as a friend, drbj. You have a special place in my heart. Take care!

PS: He is really cute.... and handsome... and sexy... :)))) Believe me, he will turn any ugly duck into a ravishing swan :))))


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Lucky Cats 5 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

I really like this hub...you've touched on laughter and crying beautifully and comparing these releases to a great orgasm is perfect! I think of the sky having the ultimate orgasm when it is sunset and the clouds are colored so beautifully with pinks, oranges, faint apricot and flaming reds....here in SE Kansas this happens alot and I think ; "the sky is having an orgasm." such is laughter and sobbing..giant releases of pent up emotions...like orgasm. Very well written and, I wish you the best with your sweetie! UP Awesome Beautiful


SilverGenes 5 years ago

Martie, this is one happy hub! Your faces in that last picture seem to shine right off this computer screen! I'm delighted for you both. As for your look at laughter and tears, you said it well and in an original way! Loved it!


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nighthag 5 years ago from Australia

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this, you are always an inspiration for me and to see you so happy is a true joy!


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest

I might have laughed myself an orgasm a time or two. Well, close at least. To me, there is no greater pleasure than laughing.

I just love your take on this hub. What a great view and I never would have thought about this in the light you present it- very clever!


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TheSenior 5 years ago

Very nice article! And don't forget the story I heard that happened 50 years ago of that person who had just been told by his MD that he had incurable cancer and that he had 6 months to live so the MD said just do what you want to do.

He bought a bottle of Bourbon, bought some Laurel and Hardy movies, cked into a hotel for the weekend and just watched the movies and laughed, laughed, etc, etc. He then felt good to go home and continued watching the Laurel and Hardy and continued to laugh and was still laughing 15 years later - oh and the bourbon was never touched.

Yes laughter can be not only the best medicine but also orgasm.


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fucsia 5 years ago

Great Hub! We need to feel emotions and to laugh! I often cry but actually and luckily for joy!

This is a fantastic non-sexual orgasm


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** Lucky Cats – I’ve realized, while David was here, that I’ve turned a long time ago slowly but certainly into a morbid woman who prefer crying above laughing. I did not loose my ability to laugh, but I tended to look for reasons to be sad instead of happy. Laughing with him made me realize that laughing is truly one of the most joyful experiences people have the opportunity to enjoy. Actually there is humor in everything. We should appreciate it instead of dwell in the sadness that also exists in everything. I agree about the sunsets and sunrises. Explosions of colors – purely orgasmic. Thanks for your thought-provoking comment. Take care!

*** SilverGenes – So nice to see you in my corner! I appreciate your comment in particularly, because you know it is not always easy to free oneself of the tentacles of Grieve and Regret.

*** nighthag – I am truly happy. For the first time in many years I look forward to the rest of my life. Thanks for reading and commenting.

*** izettl – This is what makes ‘living’ in HubPages so extremely interesting – reading about ordinary things written by others who have the same, or a slightly or radical different perception and perspective as we do. Example: The faked orgasms you’ve exposed in your recent hub – I am still thrilled to know there is someone (you) who see it in the same light as I. We just keep on reminding each other that even the most natural experiences in life is absolutely awesome :)))

*** TheSenior – Thanks for leaving such an enthralling story here. I honestly believe – it is in fact a truth beyond doubt – that laughing and simply being positive is the natural way to stay healthy and able to resist fatal diseases. Nice to meet you. I’m looking forward to read you.

*** fucsia - I cry when I see something extremely beautiful – like a bride, a baby, a father playing with his child, a couple who truly love each other, etc…… Oh, there are too many things that can make me cry. But from now on I’m going to look for reasons to laugh. One of these days I’m going to publish 100 reasons. How’s that for a challenge?


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prettynutjob30 5 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

Very good hub.


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Docmo 5 years ago from UK

You had me at your delightful title Martie- there are few that could share their happiness and turn it into a thought provoking and charming hub . You are one of them - it's a joy to read and engage in. I am delighted to see your sheer joy in the arms of the one you love and adore.. Beautiful!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden

The emotional orgasms are wonderful moments! Those are the moments where we are totally present and deeply touched in some way! And that is so great. We do need it as a contradiction to our busy lives and fill agendas! I saw a TV program about a women participating in a laughing - course or whatever they called it. The purpose was that people who lacked laughter in their life should learn how to laugh again! I am thrilled to see that you don't need any help in that direction. Both the joy from your words and the photos in this hub transfers to me when reading:)) It is so great to see you here again Martie!

Tina


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** prettynutjob30 – Your opinion is much appreciated. Thanks.

*** Docmo – There are certain words in all languages that will always delight a normal person, even if he/she doesn’t really know what it is all about. Besides ‘orgasm’, just think about ‘laughing’. When we see/hear a person laughs out of his/her heart, we cannot help but smile and even giggle and/or laugh out loud ourselves. Emotions/feelings are so precious, especially the positive ones. But I do believe the height of the positives equal the depth of the negatives. I’m so glad you’ve found the title as well as my joy delightful :))

*** thougtforce – You are one of the hubbers that makes HubPages feels like a home, Tina, where everybody can be just himself/herself. We can share our feelings, knowing that the others are able to relate, even while they haven’t (yet) experienced it in reality. Take care, I’ll see you soon.


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SilentReed 5 years ago from Philippines

I was comparing your photo from your previous hub wherein I commented that you seem to be having a lovely time and you replied "I believe the one or three 'devils' that were in my life was just meant to establish the extreme level of joy I now have the privilege to enjoy" Your picture here with David says it all. You look ravishing.I Believe this hub is a continuance of that emotional ebullition :)

Thanks for this hub, You've made me realize the value of having an "Emotional orgasm" from time to time :)


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

SilentReed – As I’ve said to Docmo as well, I do believe the height of the positives (joy) equal the depth of the negatives (sorrow). How will we know what happiness really is if we don’t know what unhappiness is, and vice versa. Now, with David back in England I have to find my feet in my current circumstances again. I definitely find the floor/ground higher as it was before. Imagine, the higher the ground, the more difficult it will be for any Tom, Dick and Harry to cut it from under our feet. Thanks for your lovely comment.


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Laughing is completely infectious and simply looking at your photo of you and David together is testament to that. A great hub, laughter is a way to stay forever young I think!


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diogenes 5 years ago from UK and Mexico

Wonderful article and great photo of you two. I was once making love to a woman and as she reached climax (she was in the dominant position) she passed wind loudly and her hair-piece fell off! We both cracked up and rolled around, so it was the funniest sexual experience I had ever had...orgasm with a laugh, too! Bob


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** acaetnna – I always believed laugher (out of one’s heart) is absolutely wonderful to experience. Unfortunately Life does not provoke much laughter in us. To laugh is actually a wonder; to be able to see humor in a situation, and to laugh spontaneously, is an art to be accomplished. Most people need to take some kind of a drug (like alcohol) to relax to a state of mind where they can laugh spontaneously. While I laughed with David – relaxed without any artificial help – I realized and truly appreciated the wonder of laugher. Comedies and jokes force laughter out of us, and I now believe we need to ‘take’ them at least once a week and we should appreciate comedians more, and, of course, those friends we have with whom we can laugh. Thanks for your lovely comment.

*** diogenes – That is indeed a precious memory that will always makes you smile, and others with a sense of humor will giggle while they envy you that wonderful moment of total carefreeness. I remember a similar moment with my ex-husband – While we were still married we were camping in the bushveld in a tent when my (single) camping bed collapsed under us exactly when it was not supposed to. We woke our neighbors (friends) with our laughter and did not even care. Thanks for coming by and sharing such a precious memory.


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Hello Martie - I just had to come back for a second helping. Oh my gosh that baby YouTube is just totally wonderful. Why do we change so much as we become older? An incredible hub - you just glow with happiness.


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JayeWisdom 5 years ago from Deep South, USA

While both laughter and crying provide tension relief, I must admit that I espouse laughter as often as possible for a different reason. The endorphins released by a belly laugh or a fit of the giggles help people who have chronic pain more than any pill that comes in a pharmacy bottle. I try to convey that frequently to friends who deal with daily pain. In most cases, they agree whole-heartedly.

I'm glad you've found someone who makes you laugh, Martie. It's always been my opinion that a great sense of humor, kindness and intelligence (in that order) are the most important qualities in a man.

Best regards, JAYE


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** acaetnna – Oh my goodness, six days has past and I haven’t tell you how much I agree with you about that baby. So-so cute, and such a proof of the fact that laugher is contagious. So is crying. One can understand the saying: Laugh and the world will laugh with you, cry and you’ll cry alone.

*** JayeWisdom – Oh, those endorphins – I am so addicted to mine. Sadly my holiday with David came to an end after seven weeks of sheer happiness. My heart almost broke when I said goodbye to him on the airport. He lives in England and merely the bad medical services in my country make it impossible for him to live permanently here – not to talk about our love for our children and grandchildren, which definitely keeps us firmly rooted in our respective countries. So I’ll have to watch a comedy or two per week until we get the opportunity too enjoy another holiday together again, or muse on all the wonderful memories we’ve made. I have decided to laugh more, but to find true instigators is another story. Thanks for you much appreciated visit, Jaye. Take care.


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

Very lovely Martie.


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Alastar Packer 5 years ago from North Carolina

This is a perfect hub in my and so many others feelings because not only is it very well written; but because you have laid what so many of us know about the wonders of laughter and crying. The quotes accentuated the article like a cherry on top. Fantastic and endorphin creating pic of you and your David too Ms.Coetser. The instincts were correct on you.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** Micky Dee – Oh, there you are already too far on your bike to hear me cheering you. Now I’ve got to send you an SMS: I love it when you come this way. Hopefully I’ll be ready next time to give you a hug.

*** Alastar Packer – Thank you so much for your kind comment. I wish David was my neighbor – I miss him tremendously and can’t wait to enjoy another holiday with him. If it was not for him, I would not have realized how absolutely essential and wonderful laugher is. I’m not talking about laugher instigated by jests, but by happiness that increases one’s natural sense of humor. Take care my friend. I’m going to read one of your hubs as soon as I can – looking forward to know you better.


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Truckstop Sally 5 years ago

Great title and great hub. Laughing/laughter is such a joy. It is healthy when you can laugh at yourself too. Can't remember the exact number -- but it takes fewer muscle to smile than frown. Maybe you've heard - Turn that frown upside down. You've made my day!


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Hi Truckstop Sally, so nice to see you in my corner. Laughing comes natural when one relaxes with friends and relatives, but so often we allow the difficulties in life to hold us so tight we cannot even smile. Oh, and how we adore those who can free us from those difficulties – not by taking it away from us, but by making us realize that it is only challenges with no power to steal our joy. Thanks for coming over and enhancing my hub with your comment.


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Phil Plasma 5 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

Yes, laughter climaxes can be amazing. Vote up and beautiful.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Phil, I'm glad you agree with me. Thanks for the vote.


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TheManWithNoPants 5 years ago from Tucson, Az.

Martie,

This was excellent. Infact, I gave it a complete run on the voting. I like the idea of the laughter orgasim. I'm going to take a comic book to bed with me tonight, and just before the magic moment, I'll read something funny. The combination should be awesome!

jim


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Jim, hahaha! Now you’ve given me an idea for another hub :)))


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etherdemon 5 years ago from somewhere over the rainbow

Amazing hub, I love the classifications and explanations, everything is well thought out. This opens whole new ways of thinking to me, thank you very much!


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

etherdemon – This is what I like about HubPages, hubbers open for each other new ways of thinking. Thanks for the visit. Must say you look scary :)


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parrster 5 years ago from Oz

Neat hub Martie. With age can come a cynicism that robs us of those many opportunities to have a good laugh OR to simply let go and cry. We can end up living our lives in the limbo of the emotional in-between, the flat-line of feelings that kills joy and healing. Voted up


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

parrster – Personally I tend to be a cynic; I do take life, myself and others too serious. David just knows how to turn me into a Laughing Matilda. Perhaps that is the only reason why I adore him. There is so much healing in laughing. Thanks for you profound comment.


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CyclingFitness 5 years ago from Nottingham UK

I love the term org-un-gasm. It's very childlike and fun. Almost a cheeky word. I've had a great big smile reading this. CF


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

CyclingFitness - and in spite of my efforts not to use the forbidden word, I have still no adds on this hub. I might as well go back and change all the a-hum's to the real words, but then, perhaps, real words might kill the fun. I'm glad you've enjoyed this hub :)))


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Martie,

I missed this jewel along the way but marvel at your insight and self discovery. And yes, this one has me laughing and crying with joy for you, my dear friend.

Voted UP & UABI, mar.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Dear marcoujar, I've just read this rumination of mine about emotional orgasms again and my smile was growing from the beginning to the end. This is a long comment, but every word belongs in here.

Before David I thought I was happy, while I was in fact unhappy, sad and angry though contented with no grudges in my heart, grateful for everything I had, even for the bad stuff Life had forced me to experience - as I have obtained more wisdom and insight during the bad times in my life as during the good times – and I was really able to appreciate and enjoy every day.

Then David step out of the blue into my life and flipped me from unhappiness to happiness – which are truly only two sides of the same coin. David had flipped me by merely sharing his views on life with me. He has as many reasons as I to be unhappy/sad/angry – he had faced death (on all levels) more times than I had, death hangs in fact daily more visible, like a guillotine, over his head – and yet he is living on the happy side of his coin.

David had taught me how to shut the door to my past, how to be rude, yes rude, to people who had made me unhappy in my past and who still have the audacity to keep on entering my presence to upset me all over again. He has taught me how to be selfish – how to look after myself fist before looking after others – how to really love myself as much as I love my fellowman. We had so much fun during the 7 weeks he was here; he had made an everlasting positive impression on me – and thanks to him I will never-ever allow anybody again to make a negative impression on me. Life is honestly such a b@st@rd for making it impossible for us to remove the thousands of miles between us – he is surely the one man I would have loved to spend the rest of my life with.

Being the man he is, and being the woman he had helped me to become, we had not bounded each other to the 7 weeks we have had the opportunity to be together. We are both free – I will be so happy for him when he meets somebody who can enjoy every day with him – and just as happy he will be for me. Once or twice per week we have a date on Skype and just seeing his face and listening to his voice brightens me up. Life is too short to be sad and angry because things are not the way we want it to be.

Mar, and I’m also so glad you have entered my life out of the blues, for also via you I am able to live on the happy side of the coin called Life. You friendship means more to me than you will ever know.

BTW, what does UABI means?


Dave UK.. 5 years ago

My Dear Martie,

POWERFUL and read with a tinge of a tear, in my eye I may not be able to express myself as you do, but i know that you have touched my heart with a love only you can posses. may you find all of life's happiness, you deserve it my Tinkabelle. xx


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

My dearest Dave, it is always so nice to see you in this corner of my world. You will forever be one of the best things that had happened in my life. Take care, you sexy Welshman :))) Don't let the bad girls catch you.


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Martie,

I will forever be indebted to Dave for the transformation that has occurred in you because of his positive influences... so now he is also voted UABI (Useful, Awesome, Beautiful and Interesting...!) Oh yeah, I am a lazy typer too! Love you both, mar.


Dave UK. 5 years ago

Thank you Mar' for the kind words.


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epigramman 4 years ago

....got to admit - the title caught my eye and then combined with your name as author and creator of this hub subject - I thought that's why invented sugar - because it doesen't get any sweeter than this - Martie's superb writing, her sacred persona and an emotional/intellectual experience which quite frankly leaves me drained beyond any orgasm - oh god that felt good and I don't even smoke - but someone hand me a ciggy please - just arrived home after work on the coldest bloody night of the year - thus far - in our wretched Canadian winter ...... lake erie time 5:45am


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Epi, it is so hot down here - 33C/92F inside my house... 3 fans are blowing full-blast on me. An air-con is on my wish-list for so long now... It is really now time to close my eyes and make the wish come true.

Thank you for your delicious comment... I am bathing in it like a little girl in a splash-pool...

Flattery is surely your forte and you are excelling in this art by the day... so delightful! One day when I get the time I am going to pull all your comments out of my archives and publish them as Colin's Famous Flatters.

Please go have a look on my Facebook wall. You will see a picture in there of me in my capacity as FFF, and as your partner in goodwill.

So here's to us :))


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epigramman 4 years ago

...but please note dear Martie - I only flatter those whom I truly love.

lake erie time 1:22pm just woke up an hour ago from night shift sleep and an extremely cold wind chill alert here by the lake


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

OMG Martie I so agree! Music is also an emotional orgasm! LOL After hearing an amazing song that touches your soul it's just what you described! My husband just laughs at me! LOL I love this hub, I'm pimping it!! XO


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Daniella Lopez 4 years ago from Arkansas

Great hub! I love the video of the baby! Just too darn cute. Voted up!


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Great hub! There's nothing like uncontrollable laughter as a release. And the baby video makes me laugh! Great job. Voted up and everything else!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Victoria, just thinking of the laughing baby makes me laugh. Thanks for coming over for the read :)


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

I agree with this hub very much. There's something about releasing an emotion that frees you to feel and to live freely. I laugh most days just because I love that feeling. But I feel the same about crying, letting it go is great as well. This was definitely a great hub to remind us all how wonderful emotions are in our lives.


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Martie, what wonderful read this was! I spend a lot of my time laughing and making other people laugh, it's just in me to be like that and there is nothing -um- quite like it!

I don't cry very often but when I do, I always feel better afterwards, Joni Mitchell once sang 'You know laughing and crying is the same release' and I think that's true, though I enjoy one more than the other.

Brill hub, voted up, etc,etc


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Alecia, I hate to suppress my emotions. I want to laugh and cry with all my heart whenever I feel like it. This is not always possible. The other day I fell in church and I had to suppress my giggles and laughter for an entire hour... Figure!

And now I am laughing again... That was such a 'great fall' :))


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Jools, I adore people like you who have the ability to make me laugh. If I was rich, I would appoint you as my permanent Laughter Instigator.

Thanks for the votes :))


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

And I would take the job! :o)


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Reading this hub gives me an orgasmic feeling. LOL

Good work Martie!


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davenmidtown 4 years ago from Sacramento, California

MartieCoetser! You have just invented emotional porn. Now the whole world is going to seek out and view video of laughing people, and fits of extreme emotional outbursts until the urge that drives them forward is sated. I see now that the amazon hubs about laughter and joke books are going to now be banned. My god, what have you done? Voted up and orgasmic...


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Angelme566 4 years ago

A great hub ! Wow..thanks for sharing this , this is the first time to know these things , i know only one kind of orgasm...so ignorant me , only to find out now that even ordinary things that we do such as crying and laughing have an orgasm... awesome ! I learnt a lot from this hub..thanks so much !


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Good to know, Jools. I call you as soon as I win the Lotto :)


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Vinaya, thanks for giving me a chuckle :)


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

davenmidtown, hahaha! Now you've made me laugh out loud. Wow! Figure! And there will be no transferable diseases...

What a climax in human history :))


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Angelme, oh, what, except a good orgasm, relieves our tension more than an outburst of hysteric laughter or crying? I love to laugh as much as I love to love. Thank you so much for your comment :)


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Jeani Nugent 4 years ago from Cumberland, Wisconsin

Epigramman suggested I visit your site and I am so glad he did. This title certainly got my attention, but the hub was amazing. I never thought of laughing or crying as an organism, but as I read your hub and thought about it, after a "good" laugh or cry you almost feel that same sense of release...voted up and very interesting!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Jeani, I will certainly, in the highest court, stand on my idea that a good laugh and a good cry equals a good orgasm :))) Welcome in my corner! Expect me soon in yours :)


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

Hi my dear Martie. Oh, this one rings so very true. So true! Laughter AND sorrow are not all that far apart in fact, are not at all different as a release for our human souls. So powerful, so overwhelming is the release of belly aching laughter and spasm inducing sobbing. And, the interesting that hearty laughing brings tears to one's eyes and sorrowful sobbing causes one to sound, almost, as if laughing. the two are so alike in release. Yes, we do feel such depth in joy and, equal depth during sorrow. You are so right, as adults, we cannot help but be overwhelmed with the reality of our human condition, sometimes. I think there is a deep seated, ever present sadness within our deepest selves; this cannot be helped because, again, of the conditionn of loss and suffering and, without question; our own awareness of our mortality. We mourn this fact; consciously and unconsiously. And, for me - of course - grieving over my dear animals; brings another layer of sadness...

And, then...there is JOY..morniing beginnings, beautiful, untamed nature; true freindship and a sense of peace.

Well, your wonderful hub as caused me to go on and on....it is this inspirational to me...because it is so honest. All ups, dear Martie, even "funny" in that I love the last picture, too!! Kathy


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Hi, Lucky Cats, I love this comment of yours. Every word so true - I could not have stressed it better. I am outgoing. Live with my heart on my arm. I love people who can make me laugh, I love to laugh. But there is, in fact, not much to laugh about on this planet. I must emphasize your sentence: "....there is a deep seated, ever present sadness within our deepest selves..." Most probably because we know from a certain age that everything is just temporary; we might lose what we have any minute. The older we get, the sadder we become, and therefor we seek happiness and reasons for laughter as hard as we can.

David from Wales - he actually lives in England - visited me in April 2011, and actually changed me in 53 days from a too serious, easily saddened and depressed woman into the 'happy-go-lucky-old-teenager' I am today. I will forever be grateful to him :)

I always enjoy interactions with you, Kathy. Take care and be happy :))


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

Martie....when the cloud filled sky is brilliant w/reds, pinks, oranges, (grapefruits, lemons? LOLO) and all colors between, and the clouds are highlighted in different shades and hues as the sun sets...and it's bright beyond belief: This is when the sky is having an orgasm!!!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Lucky Cats, you should publish this comment of yours as a poem! Beautiful!


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Beautifully said. I love the concept of emotional orgasms so much.. you are so wonderfully insightful and emotive, dear Martie. And so articulate about your emotions too, I love that in a woman! Great hub- shared.


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Thank you, Docmo! Your opinion counts :)


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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

I think I need a cigarette after reading this.

All the emotional types of orgasms are interesting to read about, although I can't say I have experienced all listed. Great Read! In fact, the quote by Milton Berle is a classic. Thoroughly enjoyed the Hub! Up and interesting!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Glad you enjoyed this, rcrumple! Thanks for the visit :)


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Nyamache 4 years ago from Kenya

I feel so good when a person makes me laugh. On the other hand when we cry we are relieved the pain inside us. Thanks for sharing this.


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Nyamache, I adore people who can make me laugh. I can't say the same about people who make me cry. Thanks for your comment :)


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

Thank you for your comment, Apps, and for tweeting :)

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