Enjoying yourself with your Dementia loved one
Fun can be had
Yes even with dementia it can be a lot of fun...
And one should try to do all the fun things you can.
Each person may enjoy different things, but each thing you do with them is enjoyed.
They may only remember it for a short while, but when you show them pictures it helps them remember.
As you can see mom and I do many things together...although she only lasts for a couple of hours we do manage to get around.
On New Year's Eve she was very relaxed and enjoying the company. she actually stayed up late with us.
My daughter and I were having a great time curling her hair and polishing her nails. They need the touching and caring to help them feel loved and cared for...much like a child.
Here we were celebrating her 89 th birthday and back then she was still wearing her wigs...she has since given them up to be more comfortable. I must admit it changed her looks a lot. For many years none of us saw her without her wigs.
She is here in the backyard of the home she stays in...it is very cheerful and we walk the paths for exercise and fresh air. To try to keep their moral up and their bodies in good shape. They cannot get out but are free to enjoy these grounds anytime. As you can see she is a Happy Lady, which is fortunate for me...as some can be very angry and agitated as they know their memories are fading.
Every 6 weeks or so I take her in for a professional pedicure. The chair vibrates to relax them, this local place gives their legs a good massage and paints their nails. Usually I have them paint a flower on her big toe, which makes her feel very special and pretty. It is wise to be open and explain that she has Dementia to the owners so they understand her and her feelings. Actually I try to explain anywhere I take her...quietly though without her hearing.
We also like to go to a local flower farm to pick flowers. It is refreshing to do these things and is like their own yard to them...We also take drives into the mountains and get out for fresh air. She always loved the outdoors and the mountains so this is a way to make her feel good.
We often see many wild creatures and she so loves the deer. She is usually tired by the time 2 hours is up...but you can see how happy she is to be out and about.
We also had a wedding and I took her to it for a couple of hours. Not for the ceremony because it was too long, but where the laughter and music and food was...she so enjoyed the children and the family members that were there. It's true the next day she didn't remember, but while we were there she enjoyed it very much.
And it is so important to have them see their family, since many of mine live out of state, she forgets them, cause she doesn't see them much
One of her grandchildren and their children came to visit her this summer...so she got to see her great granddaughters...And though she didn't recognize them at first after a while her memory did come back a bit...and all had a good time.
It is so amazing how wonderful children seem to understand the elderly. We went to the park where the children could run around and play and mom could sit and watch. The girls picked dandelions and made a necklace out of them for her. You should have seen her smile :o) They swang on the swings and walked to the pond (mom did too) and though she was very tired she had so much fun.My point is don't be afraid to take your loved one out..( I do have a tracking device on her...in case she was to wander away ) You can never be too careful or cautious.
I also take her a local ceramic store. You pick out whatever you want to paint and then she fires it for you. Mom used to paint ceramics when I was growing up so she still enjoys it. Though she doesn't remember exactly how to use the brush and gets the colors mixed up...it doesn't matter one bit...she is enjoying herself and so do I. We are together doing what she is capable of.
Also we spent sometime at my house this summer when the apples were ready...We peeled and peeled..actually I peeled and l cored them..and she sliced them for me. Then we made pies...which was her favorite kind to make as a young mother. I remember helping her in the same way.
I also took her to the local pumpkin patch to see all the pumpkins on the ground waiting to be picked for their special night. Also she has fallen in love with a baby doll I had and she takes it most places we go...she sings to it and holds it and sleeps with it. It brings her much comfort...she used to be a foster mom...So as you can see you can make new memories...even if they can't remember, you can, and they are feeling wanted and loved and cared for. It is a disease that does not get better. They are working on research now and may be able to catch it and stop it where it is...but not stop it completely...So prayers and being with them is important...as a matter of fact i need to go get her right now...we go for a lot of rides and have an ice cream cone...G:Ma Hugs :O)