3 Reasons why People Fake being Simple & What Simplicity does not entail

Annoying Facade of Simplicity

Do you claim that you are simple? Are you fascinated by the concept of simplicity? Are you sure you're not using simplicity as a facade to hide something, from the world and may be yourself?

Simply Fake...

"It is very simple to be happy, but it is very difficult to be simple."
~ Rabindranath Tagore

Yet you would find many people trying to claim that they are very simple, while even a slightly close look could tell you that they are not. A few years of experience in the corporate will make you acquainted with many such simply fake human beings. This simplicity is often not genuine, it's a facade which is used to keep a lot hidden from the world. Are you also claiming at having achieved a high level of simplicity in your life? Make sure that you are actually being honest not only with the world, but even yourself.

Why would anyone put on a disguise of minimalism though? There are three main reasons because of which you might be tempted to don the facade of simplicity. These should all be avoided like plague. Each one of them will not only hinder your growth, but also might lead to disastrous misunderstandings.

Reason #1: Being a Miser

So you do not like to spend your money. You're definitely not a miser if you've a genuine reason for not being able to spend your money. But if you're, well, simply a miser, it would be rather simple and convenient for you to don the facade of simplicity rather than accept being what you are. This is very dangerous indeed. You might succeed in fooling people for sometime but sooner or later people would recognize the reality and off course, one can't fool self. You know what you are even if others do not, although you might try to tell yourself different. Try to be more generous and enjoy your life, if not, at least cease the futile attempts of covering up miserliness.

On the other hand, if you can't tell people your reasons for behaving like a miser, while you genuinely have some reason for not spending your money, it still is not a good excuse to pretend or lie that you prefer simplicity.

Mike always wanted a particular expensive car. He couldn't afford it at the moment. He pretended that he preferred simplicity and got a cheap car he could afford. The pretence kept on enhancing with time in all the dimensions even quite unrelated to the car. One of many people who were taken in and impressed by his charade, Claire, fell in love with Mike because of his so called simplicity. Later when Mike could afford the car, he was in a fix. Either he did not ever buy his dream car, or he could simply tell Claire that his simplicity which she fell in love with was simply fake.

Reason #2: Lack of confidence

Your lack of confidence of trying to new things might also tempt you to hide beneath your claim of not requiring any attention because of your simplistic tastes. All the time, you are not doing stuff which you actually want to do, just because you're feeling conscious that your attempts might not be successful. You keep on giving excuses to yourself, that you don't want to do any of this much desired stuff because you would rather prefer to remain a simple person. By doing this, you are curbing your own growth - you won't even know your potential if you don't try.

It may be as simple as wearing a certain outfit. If you try it, and it doesn't suit you, don't wear it. But don't avoid trying telling yourself that it will not comply with your so called simplistic life, while all the time, you dream of yourself shining in this new avtaar.

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Reason #3: Threatened by Competition

Bad losers are often afraid of participation. Taking the same outfit example, if you're planning not to dress up because you're jealous of someone who will overshadow you, and then you tell people that you just preferred dressing up with simplicity, you are not simple. In fact there is nothing remotely simplistic about deceiving. Participating and losing gracefully will help you become a mature person, while the charade and non-participation will actually increase the insecurity levels.

Open Your Eyes
Open Your Eyes

Even if you're not pretending - be careful

Even if you consider yourself genuinely simple human being, please be careful that simplicity can't be your excuse for the following.

Simplicity does not entail foolishness.

Even if you're simple, that does not excuse you from making a fool of yourself. Don't think that you can behave unintelligibly and get away with it with the excuse of simplicity. On the other hand, make sure that people do not start doubting your abilities because of simplicity in your tastes. Make sure that your simplicity does not conflicts with your being presentable - specially in professional life.

Simplicity and Etiquette are not mutually exclusive.

Some people, somehow, prefer to remain filthy - in the literal sense. It might mean dirty nails, hair or simply lack of cleanliness while eating - in general - complete or partial absence of good manners. And they want people to overlook all these things, since they are simple. You cannot use your minimalistic way of living as an excuse for ill-mannered behaviour or non-cleanliness. If you're known for your simplicity, that does not exclude you from the list of someone with bad manners. You have to maintain the decorum and behave according to place and time as appropriate.

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It's never too late to be honest again.

Prevention is better than cure, does not mean that cure should not be attempted at all. Mike finally decided that any relationship, no matter how dear it is to him, should not be based on lies. And he told Claire about how he thought he must lie to keep people from knowing his financial status. Claire was very unhappy, but finally she understood, and forgave him, not before giving him a long lecture. While it's true that you should avoid the above temptations to facade of simplicity - it is never too late for rectification. Listen to your heart - you need not, and should not pretend to be someone you are not. Remember that being honest is the first pre-requisite of being simple.

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50 Caliber 5 years ago from Arizona

Simplicity is quite complex, it is also relevant as are most things. I live apart from the world most live in. I make my own bread,soap, and many things others simply buy.At a glance, no tv, no electric bills, water bills, trash bills and on require effort that is not simple. I take on many duties, chef, dish washer, veterinarian, lawman, everything that controls my freedom inside my wire that includes mending the fences. My simple life is far from simple, just as my freedom is far from free.

Great hub, 50


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anusha15 5 years ago from Delhi, India Author

Your lifestyle is unique, and I'm sure it would be bringing you a lot of peace, and happiness. Thanks for stopping by and complimenting.

P.S.: I really liked this, "My simple life is far from simple, just as my freedom is far from free."


Giselle Maine 5 years ago

An absolutely fascinating hub about a highly original topic. A compelling read! Thanks Anusha for writing this thought-provoking article on the facade of simplicity... not something I had previously put much thought into. Now I will be thinking more about this. I especially liked what 50 Caliber had to say in the comments, particularly the line: "simplicity is quite complex"


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neeleshkulkarni 5 years ago from new delhi

i think fear is one of the reasons for withdrawal and pretend simplicity.

and yes i always say my next car will be a nano since i know i cannot afford a car larger than that for the next 6 months as i just married off a daughter.

but genuine simplicity is really really good anusha makes life happier and you are right for 99.99999 % cases its just a subterfuge.

good one


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anusha15 5 years ago from Delhi, India Author

@ Giselle Maine: Thanks so much for the encouraging comment Giselle, two words made my day - "compelling read" :)

@ neeleshkulkarni: I agree with you Neelesh, it's our insecurity induced by Lack of Confidence. And definitely genuinely simple people are lucky, for generally they are happy :) Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


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attemptedhumour 5 years ago from Australia

Yes anusha, now you have got me thinking as to whether any of these traits have crept into my way of living. It's so easy to overlook some things. Being self employed i have a lot of freedom in my working life. I also look a bit scruffy most of the time and thus may look simple to other people. I have to enter smart cafes at times. Should i carry a clean sweater around with me and quickly change into it, or bowl in unconcerned as i normally do? Food for thought in more ways than one. An interesting concept my friend.


anirudh 5 years ago

Hidden truth of the world told with such an amazing profundity… I just hope people read this to accept the truth. Great write Anusha!


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anusha15 5 years ago from Delhi, India Author

@ attemptedhumour: Those who do not hesitate in doing self analysis, always grow towards being better individuals. And thus are always green and growing rather than ripe and rotting. :)

You always amaze me Keith, one way or the other. This time its the frankness with which you shared your thought even when it was self critique - that too probable. :)

@ anirudh: Thanks, I'm so glad you liked my thoughts, and felt so strongly about them.


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Truckstop Sally 5 years ago

I always called myself simple - because I thought I was easy/simple to be around -- not asking much of others. Maybe I just never expect much from others, so I am not disappointed. You bring up some very interesting points.


Binaya.Ghimire 5 years ago

I don't usually read self help guide, but I found this hub very inspirational.


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anusha15 18 months ago from Delhi, India Author

@Truckstop Sally: Thanks for stopping by and commenting, and I understand what you mean. The other day, I was thinking, that lot of people say, you shouldn't expect much of others, but what when others want you to expect? When that is indeed a natural "expectation". :) People like to be needed. So they might take this kind of "simplicity" which entails not expecting, quite differently. PS: Sorry for replying so late :)

@Binaya: I'm glad you liked it Binaya. More than a self help guide, I would say, it's a self defense guide - defense against the facade of Simplicity. :) And a word of caution from those who don it.

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