Facing Fear Head On
In learning to deal with fear, the most important fact to remember is that F-E-A-R stands for False Expectations Appearing Real. When we are afraid, most of what we fear is based on experiences from our past or expectations of what may happen in the future. Most of what we fear never turns out the way we really thought it would. If you look back on your life and think of the times you were most fearful, you may sometimes realize that the incident you feared never even took place.
When we hold the fear inside, many of our goals and dreams get stifled, prolonged and sometimes never accomplished. The false expectation holds us back from truly experiencing all we wish to experience. Some people have so much fear about different circumstances that it literally paralyzes them from being fully alive. They become so fearful about what they perceive, that they start believing their fear to be the absolute truth. Some of them are so strongly in denial about what is really happening that they turn others against them. They become reclusive, unsociable, self-deprecating and full of anger and paranoia, in extreme cases. When those extremes prevail, loved ones or friends need to find someone professional or some place that these people can go to in order to get help.
One important fact to consider is that the one constant thing in life is change. In order to accept those changes, it’s valuable to remember that in order to walk through the fear, we need to take a deep breath. Finding a place where there is a quiet space in order to be able to focus, breathe and clear your mind of all negative thoughts is the first step in helping yourself to release fear.
Once you are in that quiet space, breathe in, count to ten then exhale. Doing this process three times will tend to quiet the mind enough so that you can begin to hear the self-talk that is taking place. For every negative word or thought that enters your mind, you can immediately choose to replace it with a positive thought. Keep in mind that the more positive thoughts you choose, the more positive events you draw into your life. What you believe about yourself or your life, whether positive or negative, will be exactly what you will see appearing in your life.
Deep breathing and positive thoughts sound like very simplistic steps to take. They may seem so simplistic that many would be skeptical to even try them. Sometimes, the most powerful gifts in the world are the ones that are the simplest.
The determination to overcome the fear, the dedication it takes in order to replace the negative thoughts with the positive and the belief in your own personal empowerment are the tools that it takes in order to make your life successful. Those characteristics are the tools that will benefit you in pursuing your dreams and achieving your goals.
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