Fatty on a Mission
Are You on A Mission?
So you're overweight, drastically, bordering obesity, bit of a chubber or ever so slightly where dropping 20 pounds would put you in good stead. You've been trying for sometime now, New Year after New Year has passed you by, you keep making it a resolution but the pounds go nowhere.
"Enough is Enough!" you say. This Year I'm making it happen!
I'm on a mission and am bit of a fattness well thickness, in need of freeing up my body baggage. I've been saying it for the past 3 years that I needed to shift it but haven't made any real effort till now. The following is what I believe each person needs before attempting to lose weight. I'm NO expert but this is working for me. Consider it your starting point.
This is the start to any endeavour. Why haven't I been able to lose weight before? Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to exercise? and so on.
If you have a history of heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes in your family, it's a no brainer. Lose weight or be prepared to be in need of some serious medical care. The thing is I've a history of all the above, in my family not to mention a few others, but haven't been able or ready to become healthier till now.
This is where the deep introspection lies. Whenever I made a start; whether it be exercise, a new slimming trend or diet, it was never really for me.
Many, many attempts were made but these are the stand outs.
Firstly I did it because my family wanted me to. At 17 my sister and I signed up to a weight loss clinic, that gave appetite suppressors and we were only allowed to eat vegetable, drink green tea (no sugar or milk), lemonade and water. It was awful, the appetite suppressors worked so well some days I ate only once and the menu became boring after the first month. I lost almost a stone but had to stop because I began feeling ill and very tired. Additionally my size or body shape was never an issue because boys/men found me attractive. I'm overweight but very curvy.
I put the weight back on!
When I realised it was affecting other things, availability of clothes and my fitness, I was at university and had a couple of friends who were big girls too. They had boyfriends or went out on the town and could bring a guy back at the drop of a hat...not me! My size wasn't the issue here but my confidence. University had totally messed with my psyche towards the end of my first year there. There were so many trim, slim, skinny, fit girls in the trendiest garments, who looked down on me, even some I considered friends would give me that pity look. Worse yet was that line played on repeat : "You're so gorgeous, if only you were smaller".
My confidence was taken for a ride and did't come back. Sometimes I'd see her far off in the distance giving me a smile and a wave, leaving me to ponder on what could be if I'd kept her!
Attempt 2: I needed to lose weight and did but not nearly enough to smile about. Why? I didn't put my all into it because I was losing it to change people's opinions on me. I was doing it to stop the judgemental stares.
Attempt 3: This was the most successful of them all. I watched my calorie intake like a hawk would it's prey and exercised for 1-1 1/2 hours (walking and aerobics/dancing). It was my final year at university (2009). I was in it to win it! I began noticing I was getting smaller, clothes fit better. My cheek bones more defined and body gained more energy. This fizzled out because my motives were wrong.
I was doing it with my flatmate who turned into a psycho bitch! She went from a size 14-20 during the 3 years at university and showing her true colours made me a little mean. I competed with her and watched as she couldn't help but over eat. The more she did the more I pushed myself. It really worked but didn't make me feel better or happy I began feeling bitter.
As much as she was an awful person I was doing it to get back at her for what she was doing to me. I enjoyed her disappointed look at me in my new black dress (I went down a dress size). I lost weight but mentally and emotionally I was becoming like her. I stopped, she never changed or lost any weight. I ended my friendship with her but by then I was back to my original size.
I sat down with myself and honestly reflected on me, I put family, pepele's opinions and back stabbing bitches aside and really looked with. I realised I was afraid. I've gotten so used to me being this way physically that changing it meant I wouldn't be me. I was afraid of living. I wouldn't be able to use my size as an excuse anymore. I'd need to leave my hermit cave every now and then. This was too much for me then...
I knew why I wasn't losing weight and I fixed it. I can't hide behind some extra pudding and not get out there and let the world know who I am!
Some people don't realise you can be overweight and fit. I know a girl bigger than me and she can do laps around the park without getting out of breath. I'm not talking obese here...overweight!
Why do I want/need to lose weight? My health, I've come full circle my family is right, I'm more at risk the bigger I am. Secondly my level of fitness is so lethargic, it's facetious. I can't make a quick dash upstairs without huffing and puffing. I need to do it for me!
So you want to start losing some weight?!
- Know why you haven't been able to before and why you need/want to now?!
- Be honest with yourself.
- Make sure you are doing it for you and not sub consciously for someone else.
- Love yourself first. I also learnt this the hard way and so too a friend of mine. She lost weight but still hates the way she looks and is very insecure and needy. From my point of you, losing weight does boost confidence but you need to love yourself first and be content with who you are first, so when the pounds are shed you're not just in love with who you are but your confident with you too. This way you know when to stop and simply maintain. Another very good friend of mine loves her extra padding so much that she is only planning to drop a few dress sizes but will stop once she is a size 18. You don't have to be skinny but you have to be happy!
You DON'T HAVE to muzzle yourself!
Make it simple. Always start small then build up to a dramatic finish and hold for applause...you will get it!
Make a Plan. This will help you manage your time better so you can fit exercise into your busy schedule.Like I mentioned earlier I try to do 1-1 1/2 hours everyday. It is recommended that an hour a day is best to stay fit. I've got enough time in the day to do it in one go, so for those who don't, try splitting into 30 minute sessions- morning and evening/night.
I'm not a gym bunny so I'm working out at home for the next three months then adding some gym visits. I'm doing cardio, aerobics and dance. Mixing it suits me as I tend to get bored. When it gets warmer I plan to walk around as well before moving up to a jog.
I love listening to music, so on days when I can't be bothered to follow DVDs or Fitness TV. I'll be dancing around the room to my Fitt List (to be shared in a later hub).
Food wise: is where I'm still working out the kinks in my plan. I'm having smaller portions throughout the day. For now I'm till eating what I normally do only less. I don't eat much anyway. I'm calorie counting as well, to make sure I don't go overboard.
If a strict diet serves you best then by all means go for it, which brings me to my next point.
Know what suits you. This means diet & exercise. What methods will allow you to lose excess weight, get into shape but most importantly stick to the plan.This is mostly trial and error but if you've tried before and had some success but didn't stick it through, chances are you have some idea of what works for you.
Know Your body type. Are you pear shaped, a ruler or hourglass? Is your frame smaller or bigger, taller or wider. I'm a 5' 4 hourglass, a very wide shorty. So I know I'd never really be thin and I've made peace with that already.
Have nuggets of inspiration. For me it's Pin Ups. I love them, the girl next door with a hint of naughty flavour, not to mention the style of clothes but it doesn't flatter me in my current form. I'm not losing weight to fit into a certain fashion but I use pin ups to spur me on in moments of weakness :D
Must Haves. This goes hand in hand with the above. It's working for me so far. My must haves are a flat tummy and smaller arms. I'm not a bingo wing fan. If there a certain areas of your body you want to work on do that. I find this pushes me to never give up.
Rewards. Whenever you accomplish a mini goal, like every 5 pounds dropped or completely an hour without feeling like you're dying, dropping a dress size, Show yourself you appreciate all the hard work you've done.
Indulgences. Once a week, for me on the weekend I give my self a treat, make it a small one. I love Banoffee, apple, cherry and pecan pie, so I have a slice of one not a slice of each ;) OR some chocolate e.g. a Snickers bar. This should reduce ravings or urges to cheat. Remember you're not punishing yourself, you're on a mission to be healthy.
Don't rush into it! Be prepared for some PAIN. Do not give up! It's hard, trust me but gets better!
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