Fighting 4 Gina and Jack - A Cry for Help
We pray, we believe, and we trust.
How excited I was to receive the call from my son telling me the good news. "
We are expecting another baby in April." However, there was something about his voice; it lacked the joy that would normally accompany such an announcement.
"What's wrong?" I asked, with a sense of dread.
"They found a lump in her breast mom; I do not know what to do." He sounded like the little boy I once held in my arms when he had a bad day at school. My heart broke.
"Yes you do son, you know exactly what to do and so do I. We pray, we believe, and we trust in a God that is bigger than any situation that may arise." I think I said that to encourage myself, as much as, to encourage him because, I knew the situation was bad on so many levels.
They want to remove her breast right away
My son was in the process of getting out of the Army. Presently stationed in Korea, he met a sweet, intelligent girl. They fell in love and found that they were expecting a baby. There is considerable red-tape and legal conundrums when a service member and a foreign national want to marry. Normally the service member must ask permission of his superiors, and jump through many hoops to accomplish this. In addition, because my son was in the process of exiting the military, the answer was a definitive NO!
After my granddaughter was born, and several months later, her daddy had to head back to the states for out processing. After three months of trying to find a job and a way to bring his family to the states, my son opted to return to Korea and work on things from there to be with his family.
He started working in the entertainment industry as a DJ and entertainment director for a Nightclub on the Korean economy while his fiancé worked at a restaurant as a server. They were doing well, saving up money to get married and make the transition back to America. A second baby was unexpected to say the least, but they knew they would work it all into the plan.
Then they found the lump. . . A biopsy performed. . . And they received the news.
The next phone call was filled with desperation.
"Mom, the test was positive; she has cancer. They want to remove her breast right away."
We were all devastated and had more questions than anyone had answers.
With no insurance, there was only one place they could go, a hospital for the poor run by the Catholic Church. Thank God for such a place, but they gave them no other option, and no further information.
We were all devastated and had more questions than anyone had answers. After talking to family and friends they decided to get a second opinion, but they would have to pay for any further tests.
The restaurant owner, where my son's fiancé worked, was friends with the top Oncologist at the Woman's Hospital specializing in breast cancer. One night, her boss gave her a note with his name and phone number. He told her that he had contacted his friend concerning her situation and that he agreed to see her – for a free consultation.
The appointment was made; more tests were performed with the same outcome. The doctor recommended chemotherapy, and assured them it would be safe for the baby.
I had been involved with a non-profit organization for many years helping to raise money to find a cure for cancer
With some renewed hope, they returned to the free hospital with the second opinion. Unfortunately, they were told that the hospital did not have the facilities or clearance from the Korean government to do the chemotherapy, and they would have to return to the women's hospital.
With their hope deferred, and their savings not nearly enough to cover the cost of treatment, my son called once again, this time he was sobbing. "What are we going to do?" he asked.
I had been involved with a non-profit organization for many years helping to raise money to find a cure for cancer. I called them to see if they had a chapter in Korea, as I knew what kind of help they could receive from this organization. No chapter and no similar organization they could recommend.
Then I remembered another friend who had a family member going through a similar situation. They had started a fundraising site called GoFundMe which, seemed to be doing fairly well. I did some research on the program and decided that this would be a good way to generate funds to help defray the costs that are mounting on a daily basis.
The site soon launched, and family and friends began sharing it on Facebook, Twitter, email, and any way they could. So far, it has generated enough money to cover two rounds of chemotherapy and traveling expenses to and from the hospital. Other family members have donated and had various fundraisers to help this cause.
They began to pray and prayed all night sitting in the hospital, not knowing what to do.
The night she went in to have the chemo port installed, the hospital informed them they would have to put down a deposit equal to $2,000.00. My son was stunned; they had brought money for the procedure, but not near enough to cover both. They began to pray and prayed all night sitting in the hospital, not knowing what to do.
The next morning, they were called into the Oncologist's office. They had a sinking feeling that this was the end of the line, and there would be nothing he could do for them. When they arrived, the doctor handed them a check for the amount they needed for the deposit and told the nurse to get things ready for the procedure.
My son called and said, "Mom, God provided and everything is going to be okay."
We continue to pray and believe, and stand strong.
The port was installed, and the first chemotherapy treatment given, but there will be many more treatments, the delivery of my grandson, and quite possible a mastectomy for his mother after he is born. The medical bills will be very costly, but we continue to pray and believe, and stand strong.
I am sharing this to give everyone that has read, or will read anything I write, the opportunity to be a part of the fight for, not one life, but two lives saved from cancer.
I include the website www.gofundme.com/fight4gina-1 and I ask that everyone visit the site, give if you are able, pass it on to everyone you know, and, above all. . . Pray for Gina and baby Jack.
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Fighting 4 Gina + 1 by Kim Moore - This is my daughter-in-law Gina. She lives with my son Ian, and their 2-year old daughter Jia, in Seoul, Korea. Recently Gina and Ian announced that they were expecting their second child, and our family was excited
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