Fighting My Thoughts

 

What do you do when someone you love is suffering? Yet the thing they are suffering from isn’t a sickness or illness, not even a disease; it’s their own thoughts…

I’ve known people in the past that had a negative outlook on life. They would drown their sorrows in alcohol, pills, or other forms of addictions just to smile and make it through the day. These people usually adapt to the ways of the world and find a comfort in their own sadness. However, what if a person does not have a negative outlook on life yet suffers from thoughts that consume and haunt them?

Do they turn to a shrink? Do they follow in the footsteps of those who feed addiction? Or do they simply just put up with it?

None of the above.

I’ve suffered from haunting thoughts in my past. One in particular was with my ex-boyfriend. I had nightmares and vivid images of him cheating on me and using pornography. The dreams, the visions, pretty much ate me up inside. I stayed with him, however. I thought it would get better and it only got worse. Not to mention the lies upon lies. One day I just had enough. Not a tear was shed ever again because of him and my thoughts were cured. I still will occasionally think about everything that happened with him and get really angry and then I remember, I must forgive him to live again.

Some people, however, suffer from something that they can’t just walk away from and it would be fixed. I knew and know a few people like this; my cousin being one of them. In her mind she thinks she must act a certain way, dress a certain way, and be a certain way for a man to love her. In her thoughts were visions of happily ever after, but when reality would strike, her demons would show. She became addicted to male attention. It started out with dressing a certain way at a young age. She was dressing like a 20 year old at only age 12. Then she began to do things for guys, and this made her a very bad reputation with young women and the young men that knew her.  It led up to her eventually being with over 25 men by age 19. She actually got so consumed in her thoughts of being a certain way she began to strip at age 17. To the best of my knowledge, now at age 21, she still continues to feed that demon of lust. This is one example of someone who just can’t walk away.

Another example is based on rivalry. I too, have experienced this as well. It usually stems from a brother, or sister, a friend, a cousin, or another family member. It also starts at a young age. The one person views the other in a way of wanting to be them or have what they have. In some cases, to achieve what they have accomplished.  I had this problem with my cousin, who I talked about above. I wanted what she had at a very young age. She had cute clothing, a lot of friends, she got male attention, her mother pretty much spoiled her. Any time I would have a crush on a guy at school, she would find out and make the guy like her. If the guy didn’t like me in the first place, she would then rub it in that the guy liked her and not me. I once even thought her to be more attractive than me, and just more of everything I could never be. As I got older I began to realize why she had many friends, why her mother spoiled her, and why she had so much male attention. I then realized that I didn’t want to be anything like her and that I, as myself, was enough to be happy.  I thank God that I didn’t choose the path she chose.

Some people, on the other hand, can’t let go of rivalry. It will consume them, and in a lot of cases ruin their life.  They will always have thoughts of their rival having what they don’t, doing what they can’t, or achieving something they never could. They tend to be bothered by the person in one way or another on a weekly basis. I’ve even known people that will completely cut a person out of their lives yet still will have remembrance of that person through music, objects, movies, or TV. I call those items “thought provokers” and in many cases they are unavoidable.  These particular people have a hard time enjoying life and can’t escape through addictions.  Most will try things that may seem to work but after words only find their situation worse. For these people, the best thing to do is figure out why the thoughts are present.

Things to ask a person like this are…

Did something happen between you and –blank- at a young age?

How do you feel about yourself and about –blank-?

What makes –blank- a better person than you?

What do you want in life?

For some people like this, it’s enough to talk to someone. I don’t for them to talk to a shrink or anything. Just try to talk to someone that has more life experience and someone who you have never spoken to in this way. While many find comfort in talking to family members, I’d advice to talk to someone outside of the family. Another thing for this type of person to do is to try and confront the person they have a problem with. This may be hard, but it does help. They can also find a form of natural healing.

Here are a few forms of healing that may be suitable in treating ones thought patterns…

Hypnosis

Kinesiology (highly recommend)

Reiki

Aromatherapy

I have personally used aromatherapy for anxiety and depression and it helps greatly. I also see a Kinesiology doctor ever 2-3 weeks and she pretty much helps my mind, body and spirit with everything.

If all else fails, although you should always do this first…

Turn to God. Ask God to help you fight the thoughts and emotions you are having endless battles with. Ask Him to guild you onto your path of healing. If you have never spoke with Him or it’s been awhile, he is always there. He will never turn from a child in need of help. Just remember to be aware of His answers and never question them. You may not like it at first, but you will realize His initial plan soon enough! No one is skilled to understand what God has willed, what He has planned.

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yankeeintexas 5 years ago from Lubbock, Texas

The phrase "You are your own worst enemy!" comes to mind as I read your hub! I have suffered anxiety and depression for most of my life. I have had a doctor help me trace this to my mothers side of the family where nearly everybody drinks. Some are even alcoholics! I have been a Christian for over 18 years and now I have come to terms with how my brain works, and why I think the way I do. Great hub, and God bless!


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ii3rittles 5 years ago Author

Thankyou! And did you ever think their can be a bloodline curse on your family? Alot of familys have them and don't even know it! I to struggle with anxiety but mine is mearly from fear and fear is from the devil, so I confront it as a I would a demon. I say I am safe in Jesus' name, I believe in God's promises, and I bind this fear in the name of Jesus and cast is away. I have stopped ALOT of anxiety attacks doing this. Faith is a poweful tool and God is a powerful being. Words are also very powerful! :)


CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

Rittles:

I know what you mean.

On a personal note I have never been in competition with anyone, but it seems many people are in competition with me. What's strange about that is that when it comes to worldly possessions - I come up way short, but do not care. It also seems that they want to control me and want me to be a certain way...but I am me...and always have been, and always will be.

The thing that hurt me the most was my own father was in competition with me. I played sports to please him and lived my life trying to earn his approval, but when I began to excell beyond his abilities, he began to despise me, and it just went downhill from there.

I could go on all day about this, but my dad and I were never able to patch things up before he died. I should state that my dad's "envy" began when I was much younger and just snow-balled as I grew older.

To this day I cannot believe some of the things he did to elevate himself and bring me down. I am also sure that there are things that he did that I still do not know about...and I don't want to know about them either.

I never could understand his attitude - I was the model child, the servant son. By all accounts I flew straight as an arrow and was true blue. I never got in trouble and was highly disciplined, obedient, and loving. But, he seemed to hate me all the more.

I won't go into all the things he would tell people around town, trying to hurt my reputation, but it was very painful. I still have never figured it out, but the years may have taken the sting away a bit, but it has left a scar that will never completely heal.

People should strive to be the very best they can be and understand that even though we all are given life and we all must meet death - the trials and tribulations that we each must face (in-between life and death), ensure that we all travel down different roads (like a maze), before stopping at death's door. So, it is unrealistic to compare one person to another.

Best wishes, behave, and be well - C.J. Sledgehammer

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CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

Oh, by the way, precious one, please be careful with the hypnosis and other alternative therapies...many of them are Satanic counterfeits that are likely to cause more harm than good.

Peace be with you - C.J. Sledgehammer


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ii3rittles 4 years ago Author

I can relate to you growing up being a good kid, in a sense. I never really go into major trouble. Often times I avoided it because it wasn't in me to be that person. I ended up doing things I shouldn't have but I changed my ways. Most of the people I went to school with are the same or worse. I truly feel sorry for them. Anyways, to this day, I can bring up good news to my family and not get positive feedback from it. I've learned as I have gotten older my mom and me will never see eye to eye and that's okay. I am not meant to figure her out. Only God can change her when and if she is ever willing so much like the rest of the world, I will take her as she is and love her.

Also, I do know about alternative medicine and forms of health. I have come along way with that. There is actually a demon behind the drug industry, I can't recall its name but is like "Pharmacy".

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