Finding Happiness - What is the Secret?

What Is the Secret?

Finding happiness could be the name of many a man’s journey, a woman’s search for her soul, the hope of the still young child who understands no reason for suffering. I simply want to share some of the ways I have found happiness and what it means to me. Not everyone will find their happiness in the same way, but I do believe the secret is no secret at all. Happiness comes from within.

What Is Happiness?

After all, happiness is only a word that has been given to a state of being. How we define it may be different from one person to another. Mirriam - Webster defines happiness as:

a. a state of well - being or contentment: joy; b. a pleasurable or satisfying experience.

I remember hearing someone say that happiness is what takes place on the outside and joy happens on the inside, but after living life for a while, I believe that happiness and joy come from the same place, within. They both bubble over like a fountain into our lives.

Things don’t make us happy. It’s how we use them in our lives that give cause for that feeling of contentment or happiness. What value does a new stove give towards my happiness if I never use it or if I don’t know how to cook? Or the new car? It might feel really great to climb in and feel the soft leather and drive to the beach, but what does it really matter if the person driving the car just lost her job and can’t make the car payments? (for the record, I have neither, just examples).

Things come and go, people come and go. Happiness can be attained without cost. It’s accessible and there is no need to go anywhere to find it. It is learning self- awareness, realizing we already have it within our beings.

Explore
Explore

Where Do We Find Happiness?

Where do we find it? I started as a child to discover where happiness lives, how to access it. I lived a very innocent childhood, free from worries of the world. I read a lot of books and explored the world of fiction and make believe, poetry. I loved the feeling that reading gave me and it allowed me to stay connected to my own creativity. I had a big maple tree in my front yard, and I used to climb to a certain branch and sit there and read. Sometimes I would read out loud. I then started writing at a young age.

I find reading and writing give me a place of great contentment and imagination. I find great happiness to curl up with a book wherever I am. I take a book with me in the car. I go to bookstores rather than Lord and Taylor. There are books in every room in my house, journals in my car, bedroom, family room, office. Sometimes just looking at a book or holding it in my hands gives me immense pleasure.

I think it’s truly amazing how language can change our lives. Symbols. Words are nothing but symbols, and yet placed properly together they form words which we read, and we can go anywhere in the world by reading them. That gives me happiness.

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Listen

Connecting Again With Nature

Also as a young girl, I discovered a great love for nature and being outdoors. I spent a lot of my youth outside climbing trees, hiking through the woods and playing in parks. I was very athletic and played sports and swam like a fish.

My parents taught me how to garden and plants flowers and mow the lawn.I had a little wooden table out on the front porch where I would draw and color and write stories. I wanted to be outside. I wanted to feel the air on my face and see the trees, the flowers and hear the birds.

It made me happy as a child to be connected to nature even though I didn’t really think of it in that manner. But now as an adult, I understand how vital our connection with nature is and it gives me even more pleasure and happiness now than it did in my youth. I enjoy being outdoors, looking up at the blue sky, or the clear night sky with a sprinkle of stars against the inky dark expanse. .

Delight
Delight

There is a vibrant energy in nature that is beautiful, almost perfect, if there is such a thing as perfect. Have you ever gazed at a tiny flower and marveled at its design? I do over and over again. I take walks and notice the leaves dancing; it almost appears that they are waving, so excited, like, ‘look at us, look how pretty we are.’ And they are.

It is like a whole different world that many become oblivious to, but nature shares herself freely with us each and every day and I delight in the happiness it brings me.

There is even a deeper realm where nature itself communicates to us when we are very still and listen. The soft breeze whispers and the hurried winds may cry. A sunset calms and allows a peace to blanket us with natures splendid beauty

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Dream

Dreams Come True

When I think about these discoveries of finding my own happiness, I see that it all originated from when I was a child. The seeds were there from the beginning and began to sprout and take root at a young age.

When I was a little girl, I would play teacher with my teddy bears and dolls. I had a place set up in the basement when it was cold outside, and I would gather my ‘students’ and teach. I had a chalkboard, a roll top desk and lots of books. I dreamed of being a teacher when I grew up. When my sister had her first child, I helped take care of her when she was a baby and a preschooler. I remember reading to her and helping her learn her ABC's.

Eventually, my dream came true and I became a teacher. I have taught my entire adult life, first to adults and then as an early childhood educator. I love young children. There is such an innocence and love for learning. They want to know everything.

They think of things adults no longer ask or seem to care about. They are concerned about ants, clouds, where teachers sleep, why thunder is so loud, where food goes in our stomachs, why there is war, the fish in the ocean who swallow plastic soda rings, how the grass turns green, on and on. There is a place of contentment in looking at a child’s face who trusts you and loves you. It gives me a happiness that allows me to connect with a young child almost wherever I go. I think kids know when someone believes in them, not even understanding that’s what it is.

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Communicate

The Language of Music

I couldn’t write this article about finding happiness without including my great love for music. Again, I go back to my childhood. I remember my dad always whistling and he would whistle beautifully. Some of the songs are still in my memory.

I could see it gave him a special peace, his own 'place' of happiness as he worked outside or in the garage, or simply walking through the house. He would play his music downstairs in the basement or out in the garage. Sometimes I would hear the radio playing in my parents bedroom.

I still sing some of those songs, the words just spring up from that file in my mind. Then I remember listening to the music my older sister and brother listened to and eventually I had my own stereo and could play my own favorite music.

Music Makes Me Happy

Me and my piano, a 'few' years ago
Me and my piano, a 'few' years ago

I Love Music

I bought a lot of albums and played them whenever I was home, sometimes even when I was reading in my room. I went to a lot of concerts, even had a real piano in my room. I took lessons for a while, but I wasn’t very good, but I did learn to read notes and could slowly read music.

My childhood formed the foundation for my love affair with music. I like many different kinds of music ranging from opera all the way to heavy metal. I play a lot of music and exposed both of my sons to different forms of music when they were younger. They are both prolific musicians/composers and I even endured ‘garage band’ years when they practiced in one of their bedrooms.

Chevalier de Sangreal

How many times have we heard music that filled us to our very core with emotion? There is a song by the composer Hans Zimmer, Chevalier de Sangreal which is part of The DaVinci Code soundtrack, that makes me choke up every single time I hear it.

What kind of power is that? Whatever it is, this magical, transporting ability to change our mental state simply by hearing music gives me such happiness that often I will simply sit and listen, and do nothing else.

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love, light ~ | Source

Happiness Feels Good

I have only shared a few of the ways I have discovered my own happiness. Certainly my greatest happiness lies within and can only be expressed through life itself, by living each day, endeavoring to be aware each moment. The happiness that comes from looking in my sons eyes, or the hugs we share after spending the evening having dinner and watching a movie together.

The contentment of walking my dog and laughing at his sheer joy as he jumps up and down before I put on his leash. The happy feeling when I’m on my way to spend time with a friend, sitting, connecting, being with each other. Happiness, as I close a day, feeling the peace in my bedroom, cuddled under the covers, filled with gratitude and happy to be alive. Happiness feels good.

Thanks for reading. I enjoy writing here at HubPages and I'm happy to share part of my life with you, the readers. Perhaps grab a journal and start writing down some of your childhood memories; what made you happy, what did you love to do? if you love nature, start taking more photos for the sheer joy of capturing one of your favorite trees, or a sunset, a lake.

Happiness is free, enjoy.

rebekahELLE

Diana Krall; Fly Me to The Moon

Thank You for Reading and Please Feel Free to Leave a Comment. 47 comments

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Lucky621 6 years ago from The Sunshine State

This is excellent - it is so true that happiness comes from within us and not from material things. Sometimes we forget that we are the ones responsible for our happiness - not others.


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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

I love this Hub RE. I think out of all your wonderful Hubs this is my favorite and I can sincerely relate to everything you've said. Thanks!


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you lucky, a fellow floridian! I do believe you are right; many people think others or events give them happiness.

life is not so complicated as we sometimes make it. :)

thank you GL, that's a great compliment coming from you. maybe because it's more personal? I feel we do relate in many ways, maybe the same wave length. :]


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Jai Warren 6 years ago from Dallas, Deep Ellum, Texas

Your absolutely right Rebekah, happiness isn't a goal. You can't achieve it. It's not a journey. You can't find it. It's not a destination, because you're there already. If you just recognize it. Happiness is staring you in the face. It's your decision. Smile! :)


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

This was beautiful rebekahELLE. With so much going on the around us in the world, it's nice to have such a wonderful reminder that we can find happiness - even in small things - and that essentially, true happiness is free.


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screation 6 years ago

you thought is very good,describe basic things on which a common person didn't consider.

The key to finding happiness in life is first discovering it within ourselves. If we're unhappy with ourselves, nothing in life is going to make us happy.


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

jai, it sounds like you very well know the secret, there is no secret or goal of achieving. it's more like uncovering the illusions society has told us.

veronica, thanks so much, I think so too, especially in the small things. like watching a bird fly, or your child's eyes.

screation, thank you for sharing. what you share is very true. sadly, I think many people are unhappy with themselves waiting for something to happen to take away their happiness. I hope this can help someone connect with their own happiness.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

music, dreams and nature, I am happy for you Ms RebekkahElle. Happiness is finding your self -- within you, and it starts on childhood -- that's why it is very important the nurturance and guidance of parents to children, Thank you, Maita


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TINA V 6 years ago

I agree with you. Happiness comes from within ourselves. Our environment also contributes to our feeling. But it is our choice to be happy or not. I also believe that the source of true happiness is from God. It is still our choice to accept it or not.

You have shared an important thought about happiness. I also like the photos that you have posted.

Have a great week!


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

Wonderful Hub. I found great advice here about how to find the happiness. You peel these secret very well. I know sometimes we ignore that. It look simple things, but from the simple make us happy forever. I like reading your word by word. I rated this one. Good work my friend!


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thanks prasetio, happy to know it has helped you! do you know the story of 'acres of diamonds'? the man was searching everywhere how to be wealthy, and the wealth was in his back yard, full of diamonds. happiness is the same way to many, searching and searching and it is right inside, within. thanks for the thumbs up! happiness to you, good friend. :)


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you Maita and Tina for reading and commenting. I think happiness is kind of like ice cream, we find the flavors we like the best. happiness is contagious! spread it around. :]


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Organic Thoughts 6 years ago from North Carolina

Happiness is truly like an icecream.... most often people don't know which flavor to choose :) and get lost and disappointed... with life. Sometimes happiness comes from simply enjoying the flavor life served us. Its all in our mind... great hub!


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

rebekahELLE

Wow, I can so relate to finding that perfect tree to read from. I had one when I was younger too. I thought maybe I was ‘strange’. Glad to know I’m in such great company on that front at least.

The joy you feel when holding a book is the same joy I feel when I hold a new pen. I hold it in my hand and I just know I am going to travel down another road, enjoy a new journey, and maybe bring my friends along with me.

“Happiness feels good”. I loved that. I'd just make one small addition, Happiness is a choice and it feels good!


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you organic for your thoughts, I like that, happiness comes from enjoying the flavor that life served. and that we choose!

duchess, nice to meet another one who read books it trees!

there's nothing like it. it was one of my favorite things to do. I also love to hold new pens!! it's such a joy to make that first letter or word. thanks for reading and leaving such a wonderful comment. :]


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2uesday 6 years ago from - on the web, I am 2uesday.

Thank you rebekahElle for this wonderful definition of happiness and how to find it. I found myself agreeing as I read this. For me I think happiness finds us when we are not chasing it too hard, but when we find it or it finds us it is a joy to lighten the day. Sometimes it is still being able to be 'childlike in appreciating' the simple things in life that brings me happiness. I've bookmarked this it is a 'mood lifter'.


poetlorraine 6 years ago

what a lovely hub...... i so enjoyed reading this.


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Cheeky Girl 6 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

This is a great read and so inspiring. You have found fulfillment, and you are blessed with having had great experience in life. You inspire the same in others. Thanks for this great hub.


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

2uesday, thanks so much for reading and taking time to comment. happiness surely does lighten our day, sometimes all it takes is a smile and we feel better.

poet and cheeky, thank you for coming by and reading. nice to know it has inspired you. I think happy does attract happy! :]


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Winsome 6 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

This takes me home, rElle. I'm listening to "Hans Zimmer and the Silver Scales," marvelous!--as I write this. Sometimes I think there are two groups of people, unhappy ones and those who grew up climbing trees and spending lots of time on front porches. =:) Hugs and flowers, good reads and music to you.


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

winsome, I think you're so right! the unhappy ones try to make others unhappy, have you ever noticed? I believe like attracts like. Oh, I LOVE hans zimmer! so inspiring. I listen to him often myself, in fact, even wrote a hub about him and his music. thanks for reading and leaving such a wonderful, happy comment!! and same back to you. :]


TattoGuy 6 years ago

Gotta say I loves this hub, not many find happiness but I am with you on reading, writing and the beauty of nature, loves yer photo, yer a babe ; )


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thanks TG, I think you're right, but hopefully this may help others tap into their own happiness. that pic is quite a while ago, thanks... still look quite the same, just older! :)

xo


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Moulik Mistry 6 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

Seeking happiness is what life is but there is no end to it, very good piece of writing...


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Wanderlust 6 years ago from New York City

All people are looking for happiness, and nobody have a definition of it. The closest one would be that 'happiness is the state of mind in which one does not desire to be in any other state. Being deeply involved in the moment, we do not have the opportunity to think about anything but the task at hand' - I totally agree! Great hub!


cosette 6 years ago

what a pretty hub. i'm a big believer in nature and music. i can just get lost in both of them. my favorite kind of day is a windy one when the leaves talk. i love your images also, very nice, and that picture of you is so cute. this hub made me feel good. i will go look at the stars before i go to bed. good night :)


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Sage Williams 6 years ago

rebekahELLE - What a beautiful hub and so very well written. I absolutely love your conclusion, drawing on happiness from within and experiencing it by being mindful of the everyday real moments of life. Such as looking into your son's eyes, hugs, walking the dog etc.

A reminder to us all, Keep life simple and happiness will flourish!

Sage


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

moulik and wanderlust, thanks so much for reading and leaving a comment. it is a lifelong journey, and so fulfilling when we realize where it is, each of us will discover this state of mind differently. I love how you say, it's a state of mind in which one does not desire to be in another!! beautiful.

cosette, thanks! I know you're a nature lover. I can tell!

it's not even that nature itself makes us happy, it's our state of mind, how we connect with it. so happy to read it

made you feel good!

sage, hi and thank you for such a nice compliment. I think more and more that we discover our happiness in the simple wonder of our everyday life. why should it be any other way? :D


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DREAM ON 6 years ago

You explained happiness in great detail.Your students are really blessed to have a teacher like you.For me happiness was when I was small climbing a tree on a windy day and holding on for dear life so the wind wouldn't blow me away.I would think it was me with nature and I would dream all my thoughts were cast into the wind and they could travel where ever the wind would blow.Thanks for bringing that memory alive after 38 years.


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas

Wow! Isn't it interesting that some of the things that made us happy as children continue to make us happy later in life. As a child I too loved reading and sitting on top of a hill and watching nature and those things make me happy today. Thanks for sharing your personal experiences and congrats on your 25th hub milestone. :)


philip carey 61 6 years ago

Maybe happiness is just having something to look forward to--whether in the next five minutes, or the next five years. It's one of those hard-to-define concepts. Nicely written.


philip carey 61 6 years ago

...and music...especially music! It's as if it awakens in us something deep and gorgeous..a sacred whisper of who we are--songs that were always in our heart, but are now played to our ears. That's what I hear in the music you've included. Beholding something so tender, so beautiful, so universally true that it moves to tears. They help me say something I otherwise could not. It has to do with tenderness, love, sadness--life. (I had to add this after listening)


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you dream on! I loved this memory you shared! isn't it amazing how so many of our childhood memories give us happiness, like a cozy blanket reminding us happiness is often found in simple pleasures. :)


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you money! nice to see you here and thanks so much for the nice comment. it is amazing, I agree. those things are still part of who we are, our pleasures and desires are as real now as they were when we were a child. I can imagine you sitting on top of a hill reading, it is a nice visual. maybe find a hill and take your book! :) thanks!


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

philip, I always love reading your comments. so full of depth and connection. I like what you say about 'happiness could be looking forward to the next 5 minutes'... so beautiful. one moment of happiness wipes away the dirt of the day!

music, yes, my love. it can take us to depths of emotions we haven't explored. I'm glad you took the time to listen, this song is worth going into. I listen to it often. always delighted to see you. thanks! :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State

this was a great hub. i like how you say that happiness is reached at any age, and it isn't what we have it is how we use it that helps obtain happiness. very positive and uplifting, thanks for the great read

hc


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you h.c. nice to see you here. I think we can learn so much from observing a child, or think back to our own childhood. isn't there a saying, happy is as happy does? so very true.


druhepkins 6 years ago

Great hub. You're absolutely right, happiness can be found in the simplicity of music, nature and from within.

According to old Eastern philosophy, unhappiness comes from wants and desires we create in our minds and the range of emotions we feel from not satiating those wants-- ie wanting to be rich, wanting to be more attractive, skinny etc, etc. Alone time appreciating nature and simple things is extremely valuable.

Thanks for your hub!


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Barbie World 6 years ago from New York

it's a very wonderful post.

thanks for sharing the secret on how to find happiness. i think many people must read this article and implement it in real life.

good job!


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thanks! druhepkins, I think the Eastern philosophy is very true. we make or create not only our unhappiness, but also our happiness. thanks for your comment. :]

thanks Barbie, nice to see you here. it is my pleasure to share with you! :]


Moon Dancer 6 years ago

Great hub and well written. Thanks for sharing :) There are many things in my life that makes me happy. Things like doing good on an exam I thought I was never going to make, a smile from someone, a bird, the rain, music and to read great hubs like this one. It is like two small girls I met in the elevator after it had rained outside and they asked me why I did not use an umbrella and I said I didn't needed any, because I liked the rain. One of the girls said "So do I, because I feel so happy when I'm out running in the rain." Her words made me smile.

Here is two quotes:

Happiness is the soundtrack of my life.~ Grey Livingston

and this one made me smile:

"Well," said Pooh, "what I like best," and then he had to stop and think. Because although Eating Honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn't know what it was called.~ A.A. Milne


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Pearldiver 6 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

I knew you were and still are a good looker... I never listened to my teachers... thought they were Aliens.. none of them knew anything about 'life' outdoors or nature stuff! They just never knew how to listen. Without them though; I would never have followed my heart, or turned up at the College ReUnion in my Gold 911. Life Circles huh? Nice Hub Rebekah, thanks for sharing.


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

Moon Dancer, I love those quotes! I'll have to add them to my collection. there is something about having nature touch us, isn't there? to feel the rain on our skin, to brush against the leaves, the warmth of the sun, swimming in a body of water.. I think it should be part of our morning and evening rituals, to connect with nature. thanks for reading MD. :]

@Pearldiver, ahh, thanks.. still the same girl, just a little wiser. it's funny you say that about teachers not listening, it's certainly a key to having students listen if the teacher also listens to her students. Your Gold 911, ? now what is that??


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Tonipet 4 years ago from The City of Generals

Hello Re. I LOVED everything in this hub. Listening always play a very important part of happiness, to me, it's how we can allow inner peace and understanding to dwell in us. This hub is an inspiration to all, I hope they find this. Thank you for sharing the beauty of your heart. Awesome and voted up!


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orchidloverdianne 4 years ago from Manila, Quezon City

What a great hub. love it!


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rebekahELLE 4 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

Thanks so much! I appreciate your words and taking time to read about how I have found happiness! It's already within if we discover it. :))


SRIMATHI.R 3 years ago

really nice..happiness which makes our life going

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