Five top age related problems and their solutions
The golden old age.
‘The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which mean never losing your enthusiasm’- Aldous Huxley.
‘My children do not care for me and they do not have the inclination to spend time with me’ my servant maid’s mother’s eyes welled with tears. She was about seventy five and it was really sad to see her wrinkled face crumble in tears. Is she a lone case of discard by children? The sad thing is that most of the old aged feels that their children do not care for them.
What are the main problems old age people faces? Old age is something which you have to accept as it is a phase everyone experiences. But it is also a very vulnerable phase in your life as there are various uncertainties you undergo.
1. Health problems
As you grow old, your health becomes your biggest worry. You are not as agile as you were before and your body shows signs of wear and tear. When there is a health problem, money becomes a big issue for you. ‘Who will spend for me’ you dread the medical bills as your financial status is not as stable as before.
How to solve
You should always take care of your body from your young age. When you are young you feel that your physical condition will be healthy always and squander your health by leading a hectic lifestyle. Always eat healthy and lead an active life style. Medical insurance is a must to take care of your health problems.
It is indeed sad when you face a lonely old age as your children wander away from you to look after their own family. You become depressed and miserable. You feel that there is no one to care for you and this makes you feel even lonelier, and your inner mind screams in agony of rejection.
How to solve
You can be lonely only when you feel so. You should not depend on others for your happiness. You want your children to look after you and if they don't , you feel all alone in the world. Why should you want your children to fill in your loneliness? When you think that you are too old to be left alone you will feel lonely.
Loneliness is a state of your mindset and you can choose to be lonely and feel miserable, or be active and be mentally happy. You should mingle with people of your age group, go for long walks, do things which you wanted to do when you were young.
3. Uncared life
You want your children to interact with you and show their care for you. When your children do not converse with you, or visit you, you feel that they do not care for you. When they do not include you in their conversation, you feel an outsider with your own children and it is a terrible experience to say the least.
How to solve
Do not depend too much on your children for your happiness. Just as they have their life to lead, you too have your life before you. There is so much to enjoy in your old age. There is no hectic life style and you can relax back and do things for which you had no time in your youth. Visit places you always wanted to, spend time with your spouse, have good time with your friends and just live your life to the full.
You feel that your old age is one big bore. You do not have the aptitude to enjoy life and feel that death is fast approaching you. You do not read, you do not dress well, you do not smile, you do not interact and the 'do- nots' goes on and on.
How to solve
Old age is not the end of the world for you. You should enjoy your life as you did your young age. If you had rollicking time in your youth, you can have mellow enjoyment in your old age. Never ever think that being presentable is for youngsters. You are wrong if you think so. At any age, being presentable should be an integral part of you and it can give you immense feeling of goodness.
5. Financial problems
Financial setback at old age can be as dreadful as cancer. When you do not have money, your self esteem gets battered, your happiness gets shattered, and your morale is tattered to shreds. When you have to depend on others for your day to day survival you lose the respect of your children and others.
How to solve
You should save for yourself from your young age. Do not throw money around when you are young and active and repent when you are old and down. When you have saved money as a back up, it gives you a sense of well being.
Old age is not to be feared. It is as good as your youth, provided you take it in your stride. If you think that you are elderly and hopeless, your life becomes useless. If you think that you are worthy and effective, you can lead a credible life. You age in body alone and your mind can be young and vibrating if you feel so.
© 2013 mathira
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