Going After Your Dreams

Achieving Your Dreams

Every person in life has had dreams and goals they want to achieve, but going after your dreams sometimes seem like the impossible. I would like to share my dreams and goal I've had in my life but something seemed to hold me back from achieving my dream and goals. The thing that held me back was being addicted to alcohol, believe it or not.

Yes, alcohol put a halt to all my dreams and goals I had in my mind. Alcohol tended to be first in my life and held me back on so many things I wanted deep down in side of me.

Back in October 2009 I decided to surrender to my demons and start to try and live those dreams I had all through my life. I gave up alcohol for good and believe it or not, things started to change for me all for the better. I started to think straight for once in my life and I knew that what ever I had on my mind or what ever dreams I have had will be so much easier to achieve being clean and sober.


If your going to dream you might as well dream big right? I always had big dreams such as the house you see here, but over time houses that huge really didn't matter to me anymore, it was the location that I wanted and that location was to be near the Ocean or the Bay.

So, now that I was clean and sober, now was the time to make those dreams and goals come true. I knew where I wanted to live and now it was up to me to find that dream and make it a reality.

I searched for sometime for the right place for my wife and I to retire and be close to the Ocean and the Bay and after a long search I had found just the place. I made sure that this place I found was fine with my wife, because I would never do anything without her approval. I needed to know that what I chose was the perfect place not only for me, but for her too.

We both agreed that the 55 plus community at the shore was the perfect place to spend the rest of our lives together.

Letting everything go, as far as all of our belongings and downsize our home to be near the Ocean and Bay was worth it for sure. I knew we didn't need all of the material things that we had. These material things sometimes really don't make a person happy, but being where you want to spend your life and live your life simple is now my key to happiness and fulfillment.

I would never had been able to do any of the thinking straight or deciding on our new home with alcohol still in my life, so by stopping drinking alcohol was the best thing I or anyone could do if you know it is effecting your life and your families life as well.

Fixing the House Up

It seems like every house my wife and I buy we need to re-model it. That's perfectly okay with me because I have built many houses when i had my own business. My wife and I have always enjoyed working as a team and re-modeling our homes just the way we wanted.

It brings joy to us to see the final outcome when the home is all done and believe me, you really appreciate it when through knowing that you did it as a team effort and it is your home to live in. We took on this new challenge on the home we found when all other that looked at it thought it was entirely too much work for the money.

We always had a knack in seeing past the rough edges and seeing the potential these homes had when we put our designs and ideas into action. This particular home in the 55 plus community had everything, but was missing that personal touch and just need to TLC in which we had strong desire to give to this home.

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It Never Could of Happened

It never could of happened buying this home by the sea if I were still drinking alcohol. Quitting drinking changes my life forever and I will never look back at that horrible past, for it only brings bad memories and heart breaking thoughts that I could of had all of this years ago only if I didn't drink alcohol the way i did.

So, a word to all that may be addicted to alcohol or drugs and have a dream or goal that you may want to achieve. It is very much possible to have a huge change in your life and fulfill your dreams and goals only if you take that first step and in my case it was surrendering to my alcohol addiction.

We have almost finished our dream home by the sea and look forward to moving down the shore full time and making those dreams a reality.

Next on the dream list is to have the same thing,but in Florida as our winter home, being I dislike the snow very much. we are both warm and sunny people so that is the only way to be in the sun and warmth all year long.

Do i think that can be done also? You bet it can and I will make sure that last part of my dream and goal in life come true.

REMEMBER: If you have a dream or goal in life, it is totally possible to achieve it with some determination and desire and hard work to fulfill it.  These dreams you must go after, they will not come to you.

Now, go after those dreams you long for and enjoy your life the way you had wanted years before.

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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Great hub, Marky. Well written and inspirational. I'm back from my retreat. Are we the only two heading for the hubchallenge starting line on April 1st????? I'm trying to get others interested, but to no avail. How about you? Any luck?


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VioletSun 5 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Mark, My heart was open as I read your hub. What an inspiration and teacher you are for everyone with your sharing! Though I don't have an alcohol addiction or use drugs, I do have some leftover demons, like everyone else and I am in a better place nowadays, but still need some work. I feel motivated to go after my goals just by reading your article!

Voted up!


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sofs 5 years ago

Mark, it is so inspiring to read your stories. Go get your dream, you have to chase them , they won't come after you.. what a powerful message from the one who has made it possible. Well done my friend, I am happy for you! Love and hugs to you and your wife!!


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Dear Mark,

Wishing you and your wife much happiness on your new adventure. This is my husband and I's dream to move near the ocean one day when he retires. I am so prod of you sobriety. God Bless you both.

Sunnie


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psychicdog.net 5 years ago

Awesome again and I share this hub with others. thanks Clean Life


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota

You always make me smile and I feel so inspired by your hubs. What a great lesson this is for others that are addicted, that they can beat it and have their dreams. I am so happy you had the courage to get alcohol out of your life so you and your wife can live fully. God Bless you for sharing and helping others. Even those without addiction to alcohol may be suffering a differen't demon which holds them back.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Denise, Welcome back from your retreat. I hope you had an enjoyable time. Thanks for the nice comment as usual Denise and yes as far as I can see we are on fro April 1st.


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perfectperception 5 years ago from USA

Inspirational! Thanks


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Mistress of Spice 5 years ago from uk uae

@mark, hello you one inspiring man...gr8t hubs..always a pleasure to read them..keep well chat soon..


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ VioletSun Thanks for visiting and commenting on this hub. I really appreciate it so much. I am so glad you never got trapped in the world of alcohol or drug addiction. you know, that alcohol tends to creep up on you without far warning and before I knew it I was addicted big time. I am so thankful to God to have given me the strength and determination to give up this horrible addiction.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Sophie, Thank you my dear for your kind comment as well!!! You are the best and I appreciate you as a dear friend. I'll pass along your words to the wife and thanks so much :):):)for being there!!


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Sunnie Day , I am so sorry it has taken so long to reply to you comment. thank you so much for your kind words to me and my wife. Life is great now every since quitting drinking. It is amazing just how one thing such as alcohol can destroy a life , a family and friends as well.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

psychicdog.net my friend. nice to hear from you again. I am so happy that you are sharing some of these hubs with friends of yours. Thank you!!! I hope it helps someone in need. That's all I ever wanted is be able to help someone that is addicted like I was. That would be the best gift to me, knowing I helped even one person.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

perfectperception, Thank you too for you kind words. It means a lot to me!!!!


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Mistress, It is so nice to hear from you again. and thank you so much for your always kind words to me. I hope you are well and your family too. Lets try to stay in touch as much as possible ok. T'care and talk soon.


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Joy56 5 years ago

you are right it is never easy to follow your dreams, but it seems they are achievable. you proved it.


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VioletSun 5 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Mark, I almost got caught in the world of alcohol as my ex is an alcoholic, and my Dad and older brother were also alcoholics. I am very cautious around alcohol as it's in my family's genes. It is for this reason, I fully understand and appreciate your hubs.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

VioletSun So nice to hear from you again. I am so glad you didn't let those demons take control of your life. You are a strong lady to not let that happen. Stay strong and never give up hope on anyone with an addiction. As I said, before my wife stood by me and thank God she did because I think she knew that sooner or later I would snap out this horrible addiction. I am so glad you enjoy my writing and your comments mean so much to me. Thank you my friend and God Bless you and your family.

Mark


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jannthomassen 5 years ago from Norway

Hi Mark, thanks for sharing this with us all; a beautiful statement. It is so great that you write a hub like this; to help others out of the addiction.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

jannthomassen, Thank you for your kind words to me and that is my intention, to hopefully be able to help others that are having an addiction problem as I did. I have learned over the last year and half that anything is possible in life and I am proof of that.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

jannthomassen, Thank you for your kind words to me and that is my intention, to hopefully be able to help others that are having an addiction problem as I did. I have learned over the last year and half that anything is possible in life and I am proof of that.


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Tony L Smith 5 years ago from Macon

Awesome the clean life.

without vision, my people throw off restrant (perish). without vision we lack focus.

thanks for sharing. It is helpful to the change going on in my life

to your victory


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Tony, thank you fro your comment and I'm glad that this hub has helped you in your life.


majorshadow 4 years ago

Go after your dreams....http://youtu.be/t8zMxWZO_ZY


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

majorshadow, thanks for reading and for the video. I will watch it right now.

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