Choose Happiness As It Is Your Right

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Are You A Worry Wart?

You have the right to be happy. Happiness is your right. Yet many of us actually feel a sense of guilt when we experience a ray of joy. We convince ourselves that because someone else we know and love isn't happy we shouldn't be either.

We see others in pain, going hungry, homeless, being abused and on and on. The world is in a terrible state. Our government is going to the dogs. We long for the "good old days." We hate being young yet we're afraid of growing old.

Worrying has become a way of life. We worry about getting fat, then we eat junk food to soothe our worried minds. We want to be in a relationship, but we can't trust one another.

We want to be loved, yet we believe we are unlovable. When we're cold we are miserable and when we're hot we suffer. We want to be successful yet we walk in fear.

Do we have the right to be happy when so many others are in pain or going without? But then what right do we have to be unhappy and sad when we have so much? Now, we aren't going to be happy all the time. We have compassion for the misfortune of others. At times we will feel grief and sorrow and that's a good thing. It's how we react to these conditions that cause us unhappiness.

Embracing Life


Man Is, That He Might Have Joy

Being happy is not a sin. In fact it's the other way around. You cannot be grateful for what you are, who you are, and what you have if happiness doesn't exist within. Happiness spreads joy. When we are truly happy, we tend to light up and even glow which affects others. A smile is healing, contagious and healthy.

The bible tells us "Man is, that he might have joy...and that he might have it more abundantly." Just think...not only is it ok to be happy...we are supposed to be happy. I like that.

Being happy is one of our basic human desires and it empowers us . It even changes the vibrations around us and empowers others as well. And that is one reason we are drawn to happy people. If we spend too much time with those who are negative and complaining all the time, before long our positive energy is "sucked" right out of us. When that happens, we are physically tired and mentally drained.

We are more vulnerable to sickness, discouragement, unhappiness and we lose much needed energy. We may even find ourselves crying for no reason (so we think) or getting angry. Sometimes we go so far as to take our anger out on a loved one. That isn't fair to them or to you. So it's important to socialize with healthy-minded, positive people with a good attitude.

Always remind yourself that happiness is your right. The more you think about this the happier you will be. Chant these words out loud "Happiness is my right." Sing those words and repeat them over and over again, throughout the day as often as you can.

Go to the extreme. Get in a comfortable position, or sit in a yoga pose and meditate. As you chant the words "Happiness is my right ", direct those feelings of happiness into every part of your body, especially the heart and the head. Breathe deeply before chanting which will help to distribute and channel confirming vibrations.

15 Lovely Tips To Bring Happiness And Joy

Being happy is a choice. We can choose to be happy or not. Joy, which is different than happiness, can be found through principled living. When we live a life of gratitude, high principles, faith, forgiveness and service to others, we find the very joy we deserve.

  • Accept yourself as you are today
  • Live with simple abundance
  • Forgive
  • Love yourself into wholeness
  • Honor Mother Earth
  • Pray/meditate
  • Remake your own world
  • Live in harmony and balance
  • Live a life of service to others
  • Awaken your heart with gratitude
  • Live every moment as if it were your last
  • Take good care of yourself
  • Love one another
  • Be honest and truthfull in all things
  • Gratitude is a major step to a happy feeling

My Son

My Baby Todd
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Todd, just months before he passed away
Todd, just months before he passed away | Source

The Worst Day Of My Life

And now I'm going to lay it on the line so take a deep breath and try not to be mad at me. When we are unhappy in our life, it is a selfish thing. We are being ungrateful and even self-indulgent . An example would be to pretend that you are a child again. You get very angry and display unhappiness because you didn't get your way. (Oops - I think I know what that feels like.) You may even have a temper tantrum. Do you see the selfishness in this action?

We always try to justify our temper and anger . We are out-of-control and there's a darn good reason for it.

You may be thinking, "well, what does this author know about my life...what I've been through and how hard it is to be happy? " Well, I know how hard it can be. My beautiful son, Todd was taken quite unexpectedly from me when cancer invaded his strong, perfect body. He was only 42 and the single father of 4 little children whom he worshipped and adored.

I will forever remember driving to the hospital in the middle of the night, thinking that I was called to come and support Todd during a chemo treatment. It never entered my mind that I would be lead to a room where my son would be lying in a bed, still dressed in his Laker shirt and shorts, lifeless...gone I was all alone. The shock was striking every fiber of my being. I wanted to scream, I wanted to vent my anger, I wanted to bring my son back. His beautiful green eyes were open but he didn't see me,his mother. In that moment I was changed forever.

We all live with unimaginable pain and sorrow at one time or another. The key to happiness lies in how we eventually deal with the outcome. Experiences like this can either shatter and destroy us for the rest of our life, or we can, after a time, choose to become a stronger, more determined and loving individual. Happiness is your right.

Concluding thoughts

If happiness is your right, claim it and claim it now. Why wait until tomorrow? What if tomorrow never comes? If you need to change your thinking, then do it. But do it now. Make a choice to be happy.

Find happiness in everything you do. It can be found in the simplest action. Happiness is housed in gratitude. You might say that happiness is the heart of gratitude. Avoid being judgemental. Not only with others, but with yourself.

I challenge you to begin now. It's a beautiful and full-filling journey and one that you deserve.

This is inspiring and uplifting and mostly it is do-able

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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Lovely hub! But I wonder if we as a society spend too much time seeking happiness rather than acceptance---not to put a bubble in your thoughts--just a thought on the relationship between happiness and acceptance--

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Fennelseed 4 years ago from Australia

I agree totally with your words, Vocalcoach. I also feel that acceptance leads to happiness. I have found that searching for happiness is fruitless. Rather it tends to descend upon one when acceptance of what is, is complete.

Like you I thought I could never be happy again, ever. Like you, I too saw my lifeless son lying in a hospital after an accident and thought I would never recover from having him torn away from me forever.

However I am happier now than I have ever been in my life. Not because I have sought happiness out, I could have spent a lifetime looking for it, but because I have accepted what I cannot change and have embraced what I have.

We have travelled a similar tragic path and have not only survived, but have grown. I certainly feel empowered, more so than ever before. Happiness is very much our right. Thank you for this liberating hub.

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Millionaire Tips 4 years ago from USA

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine that kind of pain, but I am glad to know that you can recover and be happy afterwards. I agree with you that happiness is something under your control and something you have the right to pursue.

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DougBerry 4 years ago from Abilene, TX

I agree with Millionaire Tips's sentiment.

As a person who goes through life in a steady state, neither happy nor unhappy, I have to admit that I have more ups than downs.

What does irritate me is that I seem to have one of those faces that doesn't look happy. No, I'm not grimacing, I'm not angry or upset, I'm just going through life, doing what I do.

Don't tell people to smile unless you know they're in need of it. You have absolutely no idea what is going on in someone's life unless you talk to them and they tell you. Assuming they're sad because of a facial expression at first meeting could be one of the most asinine things I've ever experienced.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Audrey ~ You have brought up an important point and I thank you for doing so. This should have been on the list. I recognize the value of accepting our circumstances. I want to thank you, and I know others will too.

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Charlotte B Plum 4 years ago

Thank you for writing this - my favorite part of the hub is your tips, especially the one about being grateful.

Sometimes I struggle with being happy and joyful, so I really like your list!

You are such a joy giver to us here at hubpages =)

diogenes 4 years ago

What beautiful sentiments and advice. You have to know pain to realise what life means to us. The simple things are what count to me: bird song, even my budgies singing. The sunlight breaking through winter chill, conversation with a friend. Even reaching out on hubpages to people here who may well be ships passing in the night, but help us get through that night.

So hard for you to lose your son in his prime and to see the grandchildren with their loss.

But you have made it through and are able to bring warmth and good sense to many who may also be going through hard times.

Well done! Bobx

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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK

Great Hub - It made me realise that Happiness is also a Choice. I love this. Cheers. :)

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sunkentreasure 4 years ago


Kindness is the most

beautiful jewel in the world.

Love means having consideration

for each other.

The seeds you sow today

will be your fruit of tomorrow.

Fill your day with prayer

and your life with blessings.

Happiness is contentment

from within.

Find a dream to follow

that will stimulate your mind.

Make laughter your partner

through life.

Be prepared to fight

for what you want or believe in.

Remember - every day is a new beginning.

© Bernard Levine

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sunkentreasure 4 years ago


Look for the beauty

in everything you see.

Walk in peace

showing kindness


The secrets of success

are motivation

and dedication

Happiness is

what you make happen

for yourself.

Caring is

going to the ends of the world

for a stranger.

Be useful with your life.

Whatever you are doing

put your whole

being into it 100%

Loving is

pleasing your loved one everyday

in a 1000 different ways.

Control your mind

you are its master

Be in control.

Live your life

without hurting or


Believe in yourself.

Have respect for yourself.

Walk through life

always with a song.

© Bernard Levine

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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

What a heartbreak for you! I'm not sure I would ever recover from something like you endured. You have a wonderful positive outlook on life. You are an inspiration to us all. Thanks for sharing this with us.

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poetvix 4 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

Wow! In the face of such loss as you have had to be able to rise above and not only feel joy again but try to bring it to others is highly commendable. Thank you so much for this.

You're right. It's so easy to focus on the negative. It is a far greater thing to build people up through sharing joy. God bless you!

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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you Vocalcoach, what you say is true, your hub says a mouth full of heart felt words that should be true for all of us that's seeking happiness of any kind. I appreiate your hub and I'm truly sorry for your lost. Godspeed. creativeone59

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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

Up awesome and beautiful.

I made a promise to myself a while a go to make someone I don't smile/laugh, I have been quite successful at doing this.

Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi vocalcoach

I am happy that I read your hub. :-)

Voted up and away!

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Kris Heeter 4 years ago from Indiana

What a wonderful hub - great tips! Losing a child has to be one of the hardest things for a parent, no matter what age. Your grandchildren are so very lucky to have you:)

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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring hub. I agree with you. We have right to get happiness. Even most people struggle to get happiness and I learn from you about to get this without worrying at all. Well done and rated up!


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neeleshkulkarni 4 years ago from new delhi

yes audrey yes i agree totally.since we are taught to be selfless since childhood we sometimes take it to extremes and put ourselves last of all and become miserable since what we do is at variance with what we ought to be doing.when i feel down i often go off and reward myself with things which are just for me- even such as those if vocalised would be considered bad or very selfish- but i tell myself i deserve the happiness and ought to have it. Also,even if I have to bring happiness into the lives of those i care for I HAVE TO BE happy.there is no way a depressed sad guy can make others happy.

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shalycriston 4 years ago from USA

Very Interesting Hub! Voted up

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breakfastpop 4 years ago

You are incredibly wise and I want to thank you for inspiring me. Up and awesome.

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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Thank you for writing this hub Audrey, this is a wonderful message and something we need to remind ourselves of and to always try to live by.

Also a thank you to fennelseed for her truly inspirational comments.

voting up, best wishes Lesley

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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

Oh Audrey,

You have outdone yourself with this awe-inspiring, hub which has so much wisdom and so many tips on achieving happiness and seeing it as a right instead of seeing it as a guilty pleasure.

I totally agree with everything you said and I think that this hub is so powerful because you shared what you went through with the loss of your son which gives us, the readers, hope that despite our own life circumstances or losses, we still can choose happiness.

Voted up across the board except for funny.

Am also bookmarking this beautiful hub.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Fennelseed ~ I treasure these comments you have written. Every single word is absolutely true. How blessed I am to have you as a friend here on Hubpages.

A while back, you took the time to send me an email which I could not open for one reason or the other. Any chance you still have that, and if so, would you mind sending it to me again?

I would like to stay close to you, as we both have shared the loss of our beautiful sons. I know you understand my feelings as I do yours.

Have a day filled with sprinkles of joy!

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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

How shall I describe this beautiful, inspiring, wise, tender, realistic, awesome hub you have just written, Audrey? You and I and too many more mothers (and fathers) know firsthand of the tremendous pain and heartbreak caused by the loss of a child.

Parents are not supposed to outlive their children. Yet in this imperfect world, loss and grief happen. You have wisely chosen to remember all the happy memories and forget as best you can the unhappy ones. I do that, too, and I can attest that choosing to be happy is the best and only course to follow. Thank you for this worthy reminder, my dear. Voted up.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Millionaire ~ Thank you for your compassion and kindness. It is very much appreciated. And in spite of what happens in our lives...we truly do deserve to be happy. It's so much easier than the choice to be sad Thank you, my friend!

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Green Lotus 4 years ago from Atlanta, GA

I can always count on you for inspirational thoughts and professional advice. You are a rock! Namaste dear friend.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dougberry - Your situation must be frustrating for you.

And of course you bring up a good point about the fact that we certainly don't know what is truly going on in someone's life.

In fact I wrote a hub a long time ago titled "The power of words - a true story" which is an account of how I managed to keep a young man from taking his own life when I listened to my heart instead of my head. If you get a chance, check it out and tell me what you think.

Like the quote, "You can't judge a book by its cover," we must be careful how we perceive other people.

I appreciate your thoughts and thank you for stopping by.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Charlotte ~ Your kind comments always leave me with a smile, which is one reason I save them to read just before bedtime :-) Thank you very much for the loyal support.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Thank you Lady_ E for reading my hub. Happiness is always a choice. Sometimes things happen and our emotions and feelings are so strong being happy just isn't possible at the moment. But step-by-step, little by little we can find that happiness once again.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

sunkentreasure ~Thankyou for your poetry. It's beautiful.

A very nice contribution to "Happiness is your right."

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Mary615 ! How very kind you are. Had anyone told me that I could live through losing one of my children, I would have said No...not ever. I couldn't. And when it happened to me, I honestly didn't want to live. But I have other children and still need to be there for them.

Finding things to be grateful for helped me to go on. But it was Hubpages that helped me the most and finding good supportive people like you!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

poetvix ~ Yes...losing my beautiful boy was by far the worst of all nightmares. And a mother is forever affected by this terrible loss. At the same time, how blessed I was to be chosen to be his earthly Mother. I am forever grateful for that privilege.

Your comments are most touching poet and they mean the world to me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and stay happy!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

creativeone ~ I'm so very glad to see you. I hope you are well and that your New Year is starting off well.

Thank you for visiting and for your sweet compassion. Take care and much happiness to you!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

writer20 ~ Good for you! That is an accomplishment to be proud of and with some folks it isn't easy. Your comments sure gave me a smile! Thanks writer20.

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mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Vocalcoach, there are giants that walk amoung us. In my opinion you are one of those giants. You have cause to behave sadly and choice to support, inspire and shine light everywhere you appear.

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Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

Beautiful words to live by, Audrey. I got choked up seeing Todd's face again-that familiar photo that is so delightful to look at.

I cannot imagine the pain you your life without your 'baby'. I can only imagine how strong you are! Many blessings my dear friend. Thank you for sharing this inspiring hub.

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WillStarr 4 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

A fine philosophy, Audrey. I admire the strength of women like you and Angela Blair. My sister lost her youngest daughter last year, my niece.

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msorensson 4 years ago

Beloved Audrey,

I think it was time for me to know the answer to the question I never dared to ask you. I hug you from afar, dearest friend.

Thank you for this beautiful hub.

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Mary Merriment 4 years ago from Boise area, Idaho

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story and being an inspiration of finding happiness through it all.

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paulaosullivan 4 years ago from Blessington, Co. Wicklow, Ireland

Very, very beautiful, I loved reading your story, thanks for sharing and I wish you an abundance of love, light, peace, joy and happiness now and always !

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

sueswan~ I thank you for stopping by and reading this. May you always find happiness along your path!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Kris ~ Because you found inspiration in reading my hub, I am uplifted. Your compassion for my loss means a lot. I thanks you.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Prasetio ~ Hello my friend. So nice to see you here. I can tell that you choose to be happy. You always leave such encouraging comments to all of us - leaving a happy feeling to cling to. Thank you Pras. I wish you happiness and light. Thank you!

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ripplemaker 4 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

I like saying what you wrote, "happiness is my right!" So true. For some of us, it is something we may have forgotten esp. when faced with life's challenges. Thank you for this positive reminder! Love and happiness to you always :D

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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain

This was one of the most amazing hubs I´ve read. I´ve been guilty of feeling guilty if I´m happy so many times.!!!!! You have put that one straight to bed for me. Even as I type now, I am taking deep breathes and telling myself I have the right to be happy. I must admit it helps if I think by being happy I can make life more pleasant for others.

Oh! Thank you so much for this hub....!!!!!

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Rusticliving 4 years ago from California

VC. I understand your pain. I have lost a brother, a father and a ex-husband(whom was still my best friend) within a year of each other. The three most important men in my life were taken from me and I had no control. I had no support on my end at all from any part of my family (or what was left of my family) It seemed as if I had to do all the comforting. Did I mind? Not at all, I have had to be the strong one or the "shoulder" for family and friends all my life. But the loss and the hurt was unbearable and no one will ever know the pain I went through. Your tips are well intentioned and I'm sure if applied, we can overcome so much in our lives that we bring on ourselves as well as what society dictates to us. It's easier when you have friends and family who can help you through all this, but when you go it alone, it can take a little longer. Thank you for your hub. I'm sure it will help many people who read it.


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b. Malin 4 years ago

A Sad and Poignant read, Vocalcoach. To lose a Son to Cancer. No parent should have to face that. But you give a Beautiful Message in this Hub. Being Happy is a Choice...and only we can make ourselves happy. I admit a lot of times, I do feel Guilty if I'm Happy about something in my goes back to an unhappy Childhood. Thanks for sharing your Upbeat views and Thoughts as only you can! You dear Friend, are such a Special Lady...And those 4 Grandchildren are so Lucky to have You in their lives.

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kaltopsyd 4 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

What a beautiful hub. My condolences on the loss of your son. I so appreciate you sharing this with us, and I agree with everything you've said. I'd like to add more, but I'm a bit speechess.

Thanks again!

-K. Alto

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

neeleshkulkami ~ You have said some excellent things here. To reward yourself is an important step to take and to give to others, as you have done always brings instant and lasting happiness.

Thank you my friend!

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Chatkath 4 years ago from California

What a lovely inspiring treasure you are my friend Audrey! I love your mantra and I really needed to read this tonight so I will get back to my more frequent relaxation exercises, it is so easy to "forget" let it go, "tomorrow" and then get into the cycle of procrastination which only makes it worse! Thank you for your beautiful smile and appreciation of what we all do have to be happy about! Up Useful and Beautiful!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

shalycriston - Thank you for stopping by and taking time to read my hub and leave me a comment. Appreciate it and hope to see you again soon.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hello breakfastpop ~ Well, I feel the very same way about you each time I stop by to see you and Just love how you combine a delicious recipe with the news of the day. Thank you my friend.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear MovieMaster ~ You have always been an example of a happy person here on Hubpages. Your attitude is contagious and wonderful. Thank you for recognizing Fennelseed's beautiful comments. My best to you Lesley!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Happyboomernurse - I sincerely want to thank you for your beautiful and welcomed comments. I always feel "fortified" after reading your inspiring words. It must be difficult at times when working among the sick and afflicted to feel happy.

But the happiness you do feel, radiates to others, sending positive energy and comfort.

You are such a dear and compassionate person and I am honored to be counted as one of your many hubpage friends. Sending love and "warm fuzzies" to you.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

drbj ~ Your beautiful, heart-felt words mean everything to me. Thank you for your kindness and the wisdom in your words. You, too know how it feels to lose a child, pick up the pieces of your broken heart and try to mend it a little at a time.

You are an example of strength, courage and extreme compassion. You bring the most valuable of all gifts to others..the joy of laughter. You "tickle the heart" with your magnificent articles and hubs. I have saved every hub you have written.

Thank you dear friend for all you do.

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glowingrocks 4 years ago from New York

Joy!Thanks for sharing and keep on smiling!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Thanks dear GL. You have certainly added to my own happiness. You are now my oldest (not in years) friend on Hubpages. You were the very first to comment on my first hub.I will forever be thankful for your support and encouragement.

We've now been friends for 20 months. It will soon be 2 years. I love you!

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homesteadbound 4 years ago from Texas

vocalcoach - this is truly a wonderful hub. I always love to see your smiling face. I think that we all have issues and pain that we have to deal with. I can't imagine the pain you felt with your son, but then sometimes I am amazed at the things that I have endured. You have made some wonderful points. I liked the Bible verse you quoted, showing that we are supposed to be happy. Another one keeps popping into my head since reading you words - He will never give us more than we can bear or handle. Why? Because He is always there with us. Truly, another reason to be happy.

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Justocuban53 4 years ago from Marco Island

Dear vocalcoach: I thank you for your courage and your wisdom. Keep sending those powerful thoughts of happiness as our right to the world.

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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden

A lovely hub Vocal and so true! We choose our emotions and we are the masters of our thoughts. Even if we sometimes feel that we are victims of life we can always choose how we handle the things that happen to us. You have faced the worse moments a mother can go through so I value your words very high. If someone knows, it is you! Thanks for the great inspiration vocal!


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acaetnna 4 years ago from Guildford

Everyone should be completely happy. It is so difficult to comprehend losing a loved one. You are an amazing woman to have coped with enduring such pin and heart ache in your life.

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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

A brilliant hub Audrey and thank you for sharing.

Take care and enjoy your day.


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SweetiePie 4 years ago from Southern California, USA

There are many good tips in this hub. So many people are taught to peg their happiness on material things they might achieve in the future, that they are missing out on the moment. I prefer focusing on what I have, not what I might and possibly could have in some remote and distant future.

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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Happiness is our right, and a choice we make. I admire you for choosing happiness when you could have easily and understandably chosen a different direction with the loss you have suffered. You are an admirable, strong human being.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Well then, I choose to exercise my right today! Great hub!

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tsmog 4 years ago from Escondido, CA

Powerful. Poignant. Like an arrow shot true and sure hitting home I am awakened to the newness of today. Thank you vocal coach! I agree while saying all those, which agree, let's become the flowers of the seeds of this inspiration you have planted.

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alisha4u 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

Happiness is second-most thing people crave for...The foremost of course is Money.. :)

Jokes apart...I thoroughly read this Hub and enjoyed it.. Thanks for bringing this up...

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Denise ~ Your kind and heartfelt words mean the world to me. You have such a kind and compoassionate heart. It makes me want to hug you. I really do want for others to realize that happiness is their right. Regardless of the circumstances or conditions that go on, we can find joy in life and when we do it is worth keeping. Thank you, dear friend.

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Diana Mendes 4 years ago

Awesome hub. My condolences on your loss. Your hub is amazing & very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Hi Vocalcoach! I have to say - this is very sentimental to me. I'm book marking it:). I have felt guilty many times before - when something good happens. It's hard to always feel deserving when you know other people could have used a nudge more than yourself.

Very beautiful article that makes a person want to think before they type!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

RealHousewife ~ Hello sweet one. You are a giver. That's easy to see. You also put others first. As commendable as that is you deserve to be first as well.

I know exactly what you mean as far as feeling deserving when happiness comes our way. We tend to feel guilty. However, someone like you, a mother who gives so much of herself and a friend who is so supportive and caring must embrace the right to your own happiness.

You are a light, a bright shining lovely and beautiful light. I thank you for sharing your truth and for reading this.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

If there is a better message I'd like to hear it! Great hub with a greater message! I love your outlook on life, one I completely share. By the way, thanks for the follow!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Will. I'm sure sorry about your sister's great loss. Losing a child is a tough call. Thanks so much for your kind comment. Hugs.

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Sandy Frost 4 years ago from India

Very true words, vocalcoach. I definitely agree with all of these points mentioned. Pleasure and pain are the two aspects of life. These are inbound elements which give life a meaning by balancing each other.

Well, thanks for sharing this nice and thought-provoking hub. Voted up.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Sandy ~ I think your comments are fantastic! I had not considered that pleasure and pain balance each other. They certainly do. Thanks so much!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Melinda - I appreciate your very sweet comment and am glad to know that you have found your answer. I have missed you on hubpages!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Mary Merriment ~ Your sweet comments have given me just the lift I need today. Without the "down times" we can't appreciate the happy times. Thank you!

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ktrapp 4 years ago from Illinois

I certainly needed to "hear" this today. Your words are very inspiring and so genuine, especially since you have experienced a mother's worse loss. I am so sorry about your son, but I am so happy to know that you still can have happy times in your life.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

paulaosullivan ~ It isn't always easy to feel happiness. So when this marvelous feeling comes, I try to hold onto it. Thanks for your comments and thank you for reading.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear ripplemaker - Thank you for finding the reminder that "Happiness Is Your Right, to be true for you. And why would we want it any other way? With your winning smile and delightful, positive personality, you spread happiness even through life's tough challenges. Hugs!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dim, my friend, you have made my day! To think that my humble hub has taught you that you have the right to be happy is more than I could ask for. You absolutely have that right. Emotions are contagious. If we're sad, those around us are sad. When we're happy, we generate that joy to others.

Thanks so much and great happiness to you, always!

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Ebonny 4 years ago from UK

I totally agree that we have no right to be unhappy when we have so very much compared with others. Making a point of being grateful for at least 5 things everyday, big and/or small, can make a big difference to our feelings of contentment and happiness.

And wouldn't it be great if they could teach this in schools - maybe it could change the world within a generation or two!

I am sorry for the loss of your son but no doubt he would want you to be happy again. Many thanks for such an such an inspiring article.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

b.Malin - Hello my friend. You have written such lovely comments. I will return here again. You always touch my heart when you speak and I appreciate you so very much. Thank you...hugs.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

kaltopsyd - You are so kind and I appreciate your comments very much. Thank you again and again.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Chatkath - You have touched me deeply with your lovely comments. I so understand about the cycle of procrastination. Just look at how long it's taken me to reply :) But I'm working hard on this "fault" and will overcome this problem. I miss you sweet friend and hope all is well. Hugs!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

glowingrocks - Thank you for being here and liking my hub!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

homesteadbound - We don't get through this life without emotional and physical pain do we? As you have so beautifully mentioned, He is always with us even if we are in a situation where we think otherwise. Thank you Cindy.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear thoughtforce - I appreciate your words so very much. You have a way of getting right to the center of my heart. Thank you, dear Tina!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hello sweet acaetnna - I want to thank you for your beautiful comments. I feel your love and appreciate it so much!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Eddy - Your words are so welcomed my dear friend. I always enjoy my day when I see your smiling face. Hugs!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hello Mr. Happiness - billybuc! I'm so darn glad you found this hub. I just knew you would like it :) Thank you, dear man!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

tsmog - Such poetic, beautiful comments from you, one of my favorite people in hubland. "Let's become the flowers of the seeds of this inspiration you have planted." Oh, thank you so very much. My day is filled with delight because of you!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

alisha4u - "Happiness is second-most thing people crave for...". I'm so glad you added this! Thanks for enjoying my hub on happiness and wish you much of it!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Diana Mendes - Thank you dear lady for your kind condolences. I'm so very pleased that you found my words to be both amazing and inspiring. Blessings to you!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi dear billy - I'm a few months late with this but so touched by our first meeting. The best choice I've made is to have followed you! Hugs.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

ktrapp - Thanks so much for being here and leaving such marvelous comments. I so appreciate your support and your caring ways. Yes, you have brought me happiness today!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Ebonny - You have a wonderful outlook on life! And you are spot on with your thoughts about teaching this in schools. I believe, as you do, it would be a start to changing the world for the better. Thank you so very much!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Thanks SweetiePie - Materialism serves little value in life and is only a temporary, feel-good moment. The fact that you focus on what you already have is a wonderful thing! Thanks so much.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

tammy - Your kindness both touches me and inspires me. I so appreciate your constant support during my first 3 years on hubpages. You are one-of-a-kind Tammy! Hugs.

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moneymindit 2 years ago from California

Great hub! I think happiness is great and all. At the same time, I think we make too much of happiness. Most people worry too much, and that isn't good. I know a few people who have ended up in psyche wards as a result of too much worrying. People should learn to worry less, and not focus so much on happiness. Worrying less results in inner peace.

The reason I say that we focus too much on happiness is that there are countries all over the world where people do not have time or energy to focus on happiness. They are too busy trying to find work so they can eat and pay for a roof over their heads. They do not even know what happiness is.

Life is about taking it all in; struggles, challenges, happy times, sad times, work, relaxation. I do not believe in God as he is described in the Bible. I do, however, believe that the Bible contains an abundance of wisdom. My favorite book in the Bible is Ecclesiastes. "Meaningless, meaningless, meaningless. Everything is meaningless." Wiser words have never been written.


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vocalcoach 24 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


I appreciate your being here and thank you for your comments. I agree with you about people wasting time by worrying. Worry brings no solution at all.

Take care - Audrey

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LouCannon 23 months ago from Wynndel BC Canada

To be truly happy you have to start with an inner honesty within yourself... Let it radiate from your soul

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vocalcoach 23 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Thank you for this beautiful message. I love "Let it radiate from your soul." Have a wonderful day.

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