Having a baby after 30 - The risks of late children and how to handle them

Delayed Pregnancies

Planning to have a baby is one of the most important decisions of your life. Unfortunately these days that is a decision which keeps getting postponed ever so often that eventually you realize that you are 30 and now the time is running out.

It is true that the risks of having a baby after 30 tend to multiply, but it is also true that the vast majority of working women all over the globe today are having their first babies in their mid thirties. This means is you are planning for a baby after 30 you are not alone.

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What are the risks of having a baby after 30

There are some risks associated with having a baby after 30 and these are listed here.

1. Quality of Eggs

The average woman starts producing eggs at the age of 12 and finishes by the age of 45. That means that the most fertile and high quality eggs are produced in the age group of 20 to 30. So the quality of the eggs begins to deteriorate if you have a baby after 30.

Deal with it solution

A lot of women who postpone having a baby till after 30 tend to freeze their eggs to try IVF later in life when they are ready for a baby.

2. Down's Syndrome

Your chances of having a baby with Down's syndrome is 1 in 1000 at the age of 30. However the same risks increase to 1 in 400 if you are planning to have a baby at age 35. So the lesson is simple, have the baby as soon as possible.

Deal with it solution

Genetic tests have made it possible to detect the presence of faulty genes which may give the baby Down's syndrome, so you may have a MTP if your fetus tests positive for the disease.

3. Infertility issues

The number of eggs in the woman and the sperm in the men tends to decrease after age 30. This means that getting pregnant can become more difficult naturally as you grow older. Infertility can become a problem. If you have been trying to conceive for more than a year and not been able to, you may want to see a doctor.

Deal with it solution

There are a number of infertility treatments available nowadays. IVF or In Vitro Fertilization being the most intrusive and expensive. The solution is usually provided on basis of case history and people must get professional help

4. Miscarriages

For an average woman below 30 the risk of having a miscarriage in the first 20 weeks of pregnancy is between 12% to 15%. For a woman over 35 years of age the same risk increases to 20%.

Deal with it solution

Be very careful if you conceive after 30 and make sure that you do everything that your doctor asks you to. At the first sign of pain or spotting run to the hospital. Remember better safe than sorry.

5. Increased risks of placenta previa

This is the main cause of painless bleeding in the third semester. The average risk of developing this condition during pregnancy is 1 in 200. The hemorrhage can be life threatening to the mother.

Deal with it solution

Go to the doctor to at once. It is vital to stop the bleeding. A cesarean delivery may be necessary in such a state.

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JenDobson27 6 years ago

Thanks for the great info. Having a baby sooner than later definitely sounds like the way to go!


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

I agree Jen, but more and more people women are putting off having babies till later. It is going to affect the kids and the mothers both.


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shishir77 6 years ago from Sangli

I heard that the chances of Hypertension is also increase with the age and it is highly risk to the mother.


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iwannagetpregnant 6 years ago from Mumbai,India

Getting pregnant after 35 may be more difficult than at age 25, but it’s not necessarily impossible.With the increasing age the quality of the eggs that a mother ovulates decreases.Besides the ovaries being less likely to produce mature eggs for ovulation, age also increases the chances of genetic problems.

This is the reason for the increased risk of Down Syndrome babies in women over age 35. At age 25, 1 in 1,250 women will give birth to a child with Down Syndrome. At age 30, it’s a 1 in 952 risk, and by age 35, the chance is 1 in 378.The risk for miscarriage also rises with age. About 10% of pregnancies end in miscarriage for women in their early 20s. By the early 30s, 12% of women experience miscarriages. After age 35, 18% of pregnancies will end in miscarriage. And in the early 40s, 34% of pregnancies end in miscarriage.

Despite these grim statistics, not everyone will have trouble getting pregnant after 35. However, if you are having trouble, and you’re older than 35, you shouldn't try on your own for longer than six months. The sooner you get help, the better your chances of treatment success.

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Free Baby Coupons 6 years ago

Great article, thank you for sharing with us!


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Polly C 6 years ago from UK

Hi Cashmere, I had my first child at 27 and my second at 35. In many ways I actually found the second pregnancy easier, although I did have a threatened miscarriage at almost three months, which turned out to be fine. After that, it was pretty much plain sailing. I know so many women who have had babies after 35 with no problems at all, but all of these have been subsequent pregnancies - I wonder if it is more difficult for a woman over 35 if it her first pregnancy? Anyway, you have written an interesting hub about a very relevant topic for the times we live in.


orbiter 6 years ago

I am in my mid thirties and currently pregnant and this is my first! I have a couple of friends who have had healthy babies at 37 and 38. I am also a firm believer in a natural nutritional diet and regular exercise, even during pregnancy. There are many vitamens and minerals that are essential to having a healthy baby in your thirties that can effectively curb all the possible mishaps of age related issues. I encourage any woman who is waiting until later in life to have children to do the research on the essential vitamens and minerals needed for a healthy baby and delivery. DHA omega-3, Iron, Iodine, Calcium and Folic Acid are crucial to add to your diet. Many women do not know of the importance of DHA in the development of the baby. It's important for the development of the brain, nervous system and eyes of the baby and has been said to curb the possibility of downs syndrome. DHA is even great for the emotional well being of mom!

Great Hub, and thanks for the info!


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Jennifer 6 years ago

I had my first 3 babies in my twenties and everything was fine, I got right back to normal very quickly. I had my 4th baby just 22 months after my third when I was 31 and it was a whole different story. Very odd how just turning 30 changes so much when it comes to having babies.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Polly, I agree it can be easier to have a second baby after 30 as you know what to expect. However if you are over 30 and it is your first pregnancy you need to get proactive to have a healthy baby.

Just as Orbiter has mentioned the supplements and regular check ups can make a huge difference to the kind of pregnancy you have.


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Lamme 6 years ago

Hi cashmere, great hub. Having a baby later in life has both benefits and risks. One thing you didn't mention, being older (and yes ... even in your 30's), means you don't have the stamina the 20 somethings do. It's harder to get back in shape after the baby, it's harder to adjust to the demanding needs of a newborn and it's just plain harder to get up off the floor when playing with your toddler ;)


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Specialk3749 6 years ago from Michigan

I have had 2 children in my 20's, 4 in my 30's and so far 2 in my 40's. The ones in my 20's were easier physically. I had the most trouble with my 2nd pregnancy in my 20's and my best pregnancy was my latest one in my 40's!

The main thing is to take care of yourself, educate yourself on the problems of pregnancy so that you can spot them and let your doctor know right away, and go to all doctor appointments.

Great hub!


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solar.power 6 years ago from Brisbane

Mife wife is 39. The genetics councllor we saw told us that the chances of chromosonal imparements are greatly increased between the age of 33-35+. We had a transclucency scan and a 4d scan anyway to find out at 3 months. Happy to say all is well. To be honest, if it wasn't we were going to have the baby anyway!


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Lamme that is exactly what happened with my Aunt and her son. She had him at 32 and was a full time worker, it was totally exhausting for her.

Specialk you know each pregnancy is different just as each baby is. However usually people have found babies after 30 more difficult than those before.

Solar Power, All the best to you and your wife. Hope you have a healthy baby!


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adorababy 6 years ago from Syracuse, NY

Very insightful article and cute baby pictures!


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crazykhan 6 years ago from Lahore

informative article


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lender3212000 6 years ago from Beverly Hills, CA

Great article! While it is better to do it sooner if possible, I think you can still have a baby after 30 as long as you are in good health and make smart choices along the way. I know plenty of people who have done it successfully.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Thank you adorable baby and crazykhan.

Lender3212000 I agree with you. Good health for both parents is the key to a healthy baby at any age.


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Norah Casey 6 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area

I come from a long line of women who started their families late. My great-grandmother had a healthy baby when she was 52 (not that I'm going to try it myself, but it is crazy to think that it was possible so many years ago). It is a risky move to wait. Hopefully I'll get started before 35.

Great hub!


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Norah, that means you're living proof it can be done safely time and again. Yes all you need to do is be careful about your health. Hope you get a start way before 52! :)


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beth811 6 years ago from Philippines

My 3rd baby was born when I was 37. The age gap between my second and third is 11 years. From pregnancy until the baby was born all went well. It was a normal delivery. My kid now is 2 yrs & 11 months and knows already how to count from 1-20 and knows how to write some letters and is very much active.

I could say that I was lucky that I have none of these risks. In fact, we plan to have another one (my last) when my kid turns 5 (I'll be 43 then). I hope everything goes well by that time.

Thank you for sharing this hub.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

That is amazing beth! I hope all goes well with the plan for the 4th!


smoothmoo 6 years ago

nice hubs


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BobbiRant 6 years ago from New York

My youngest was born when I was 36 and he is a healthy and happy young man.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Thank you smoothmoo.

That is great BobbiRant.


AphroditeisAlone 6 years ago

There are a lot of risks involved, my mother had me when she was 39 but luckily I turned out without any defects(except a mild case of insanity).

This was a great hub, very informative. Yet you said "unfortunately" women are having babies later on in their life-span, and on one end, there are health risks, but I also strongly believe that waiting until you are financially secure and mentally prepared to have a baby is crucial.

I plan on waiting to get pregnant until I have my master's degree and have adequate savings prepared for a baby, including college funding for the child.

Even though biologically women are more fertile in their 20's, they shouldn't be in a rush to get pregnant until they feel 100 percent ready. Just my thoughts.

Great hub =)


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

I agree with you AphroditeisAlone. It is important to be financially secure and mentally receptive to have a child. However a lot of women want to reach the top rung in the corporate ladder before having a child nowadays. This is a delay which is unfortunate indeed.


breathiar 6 years ago

Did not read. Cliffs?


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Pardon? Cliffs?


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cbris52 6 years ago

I agree with being financially secure to have a child. But sometimes things happen when we least expect it... which usually justs makes things that much more special : )


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strutzas 6 years ago from Kualapuu, Hawaii

great post! i really loved babies they are so cute.


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joeleighton 6 years ago

Healthy mothers are most likely to have healthy babies.

Work on your lifestyle.

Cut out the processed carbohydrates and eat fruits, veggies and whole grains.

Take a quality comprehensive multi-vitamin and an omega3 supplement.

Exercise should include cardio, resistance and stretching exercises...at least 3 times per week.

Cut out smoking, caffeine, alcohol and all forms of medication.

Sounds tough, but you'll love yourself for it. And your husband will love you too.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

cbris52, usually a planned baby is never as much stress and fun as an unplanned one. But financial stability is a must!

strutzas, thank you. I love the pics too...

joeleighton, I agree with everything you say. I need to get started onthat cardio :)


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Lisa HW 6 years ago from Massachusetts

Cashmere, the title of your Hub struck me, because I had my daughter when I was a few months short of 33 and didn't think a thing about it. I've always seen early and even mid twenties as on the young side (not "the end of the world", of course, but, to me, awfully young to sign on to be a mother forever). I had my son at 29 and a miscarriage at 27; and I have to say I had plenty of energy with both my son and daughter. For me, having my children a little later has meant I've gotten to stay "younger" a little longer.

I actually thought I'd "play" my daughter for the year after she arrived on the scene, but it turned out she was conceived a year earlier than I thought it may take. :)

The one thing I wouldn't have wanted to do (and don't think other women are wise to do) is wait so long past 30 they run into fertility problems. I guess we all do what we think is ideal (if possible), so, to me, early 30's was ideal. :)


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aktifistri 6 years ago from China

I've been expecting to conceive since I've got married for this reason and I wasn't 'young' anymore (29). But my 'western cultured' husband was thinking the other way like some other hubbers said above, that financial and psychological security is very important. Was not easy to accept in the beginning but of course that is something you must take, making babies always need 2 hands, right? :)

He is now ready, and we've been trying to conceive for about 9 months. Like cashmere said, after 1 year trial we're going to see the doctor. I've been trying to not thinkin about it, but it's much easier to say than to do :p I gave up many important things in my life for that, but i haven't got nothing at all yet but 'running-out time' day by day.. I just wish that I would be able to raise and spend time with my future children longer..

Anyways..great hub, Cashmere! thanks for postin.. :D


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weeyo 6 years ago

My wife had our first child at 22, second child at 36! It seemed like she was under constant supervision from the doctor because she was considered high-risk due to age as well as gestational diabetes.


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Angelllite 6 years ago from United States

Studies have shown that SOME of the increased risks of pregnancy in older women are related to diet. As we age mild deficiencies become major and several pregnancies can further deplete us.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Dear Aktifistri, my heart goes out to you. My best friend is 32 and has been trying to conceive for the last four years... so I know exactly what you are going through. She even underwent IVT and it did not help. Eventually she just got fed up with the obsession and decided to adopt. The paper work had begun, and that is when she conceived...so don't lose heart just yet.

You are on the right track, try not to think about it too much. I know that is easy to say and tough to do. It helped my friend to get a dog...to take her mind away from the baby issue. ALl the best.

Weeyo, that is some age difference the kids are gonna have!

Angelllite that is true, your diet affects the body and general health for the woman.


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LensMan999 6 years ago from Trans-Neptunian region

Possible risks of conceiving after age 35 is written already "Having Baby After Age 35 "

http://hubpages.com/health/Having-Baby-After-Age-3

waiting for your comments


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aktifistri 6 years ago from China

Cashmere, thanks a lot for your support and kinds words! :) it helps me to recollect my self-confidence. I am glad to say that i am now ready to keep making myself busy..also, i can now feel lighter and more relaxed (like no burden) on every conceiving-trial.. hubpages also helps me to focus on writing instead.. :) thanks again, pls have a good day!


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

There's not all that much difference in the risks after 30 and 35 my dear Lensman.

Aktifistri, I hope your dearest wish comes true. In the meanwhile enjoy the other pleasures of life...including expressing yourself on hubpages!


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cyberwriter 6 years ago from Beijing,China

I hope I should marry a woman under 30, its really sad to know women have to have babies before 30.


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boxster72 6 years ago

Great Hub! I love the pics :) for anyone looking for free baby stuff, There is a site called:

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May be helpful for someone.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Cyberwriter, Women can and do have babies after 30,it is just more difficult for them physically. And there is a higher risk of complications.

Will check it out boxster72


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moedas 6 years ago from Portugal

hello

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check this: http://hubpages.com/family/moby-wrap


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Hi Moedas, i did use a similar baby bag when my kid was between 2 to 6 months. It is very convenient when you go shopping.


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Lannie Briden 6 years ago

good info. Always listen to your doctors advice and hopefully there will be no problems! :)


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TechnicallyADream 6 years ago

good hub, with some very good info for those who are in a similar situation, or will be. thanks for the publication.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Yes Lannie, constant monitoring by the doctor is needed to avoid any problems.

TechnicallyADream, thank you


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Wisdom and Glory 6 years ago from Lahore, Pakistan

this was an iformative hub.... wud help me in planning my kids ;)


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arnie85 6 years ago

nice


LJ 6 years ago

Good hub


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pinkdaisy 6 years ago from Canada

I had a brother with Down's Syndrome...he was the most amazing gift I have ever had.

People who have Down's Syndrome are the most loving people you will ever meet!


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Hub Love 6 years ago from United States

Wow, this is a great hub. I'm sick of a lot of the "how to make money" hubs, this is good quality hubbing.


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CindyNiwman 6 years ago

good info, thanks for sharing them and hope you have a good life with your baby.


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mosaicman 6 years ago from Tampa Bay, Fl

Thanks for the info. My wife and I are planning to have a baby in the near future. She will be 35 in 7 months, so the aforementioned things will need to be considered.


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stephhicks68 6 years ago from Bend, Oregon

It is the norm to have a baby after 30. My first was born when I was 29 and everyone thought I was a baby for having a baby. I had 3 more in my 30s and all turned out well.


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dnvrguy02 6 years ago from 2550 S University Blvd ste 603, Denver Co 80210

Great Post and congratulations.it's kind of normal to have a baby after 30. i personnaly know people have their first baby after 34 years old.


rdeep 6 years ago

great post! i really loved babies they are so cute


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bd160900 6 years ago from San Diego

very interesting! I enjoyed this


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adonia 6 years ago

very nice hub...


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DaniS74 6 years ago

Thanks for this. Until yesterday, we thought I was pregnant and I'll be 36 in November. I was excited about it, but scared. I've already had one high risk pregnancy that resulted in a preemie. He's perfect now though, and has absolutely no problems, but I was still apprehensive at the thought of another one. Part of me still would love one more, but only time will tell if that is to be.


gusterbrown 6 years ago

Nice article! I had my first child at almost 33 years old. She'll be 1 next month, and so far...I have to say that there's NO WAY I could have done this earlier! I plan to have a second in the next couple years, but only time will tell!


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echineselessons 6 years ago

very nice tips, also your baby is so cute


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ludmilla701 6 years ago from U.A.E.

I had my first and only child at almost 31.

Now I'm 40, and looking back nothing seems to be as serious as we were making it. It doesn't matter how old you are as long as you are healthy, financially secure, calm and settled in your life.

If you are content with your life, then everything is easy.

My opinion.

Kind regards.


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kellydove 6 years ago

great hub


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paintball guru 6 years ago

excellent information in this hub. Gives a good overview to potential middle aged mothers.


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jeanie.stecher 6 years ago from Seattle

Yeah! This is very true. Having a baby beyond 30 years old will increase the risk of the mother giving birth. The best age of a woman to gave birth is from 15-27. higher than that could be dangerous. Nice hub.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Isn't 15 way too young to have a baby?


Jillofalltrades 6 years ago

My first child was born when I was 17. My second at 20. My husband and I decided that two was enough...fast forward to 39, and there I was on the delivery table delivering my third child:)

Having been an aerobic instructor, and personal trainer for many years, my body was in excellent shape, so having my third child was far easier than when I had my first two!

From start to finish, the time it took to have him was two hours and twenty eight minutes...a breeze compared to the first two!

Of course every pregnancy is different. You cannot predict how things are going to turn out, but I believe that for me, the key was how fit I was. I was able to boot my son out in a very short period of time, and have breakfast shortly there after:)

My first child was also an easy birth, just a long labor. My second child and I almost died due to the placenta tearing away from the wall of the uterus. I lost a lot of blood, and he had the cord around his neck three times...

So I can honestly say, my third child was a breeze, and I was a mom of 39 when I had him:)


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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest

the biggest risk that I can see is on the woman's body- it doesn't bounce back physically and from sleep deprivation.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Jill of all trades that is truly inspirational!

Yes izetti, I agree with the bouncing back with sleep deprivation part totally!


sarahsherlock 6 years ago

A really informative hub which is very close to my heart. I can feel 30 knocking on the door very soon!


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henryallen 6 years ago from Houston, TX

My mom had me when she was 32 and I turned out to be pretty awesome!


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

All the best Sarah Sherlock for a hassle free pregnancy when you get there!

Henry Allen, you sure did! :)


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Cassie Ann 6 years ago

Enjoyed reading this hub very much. I have had four sons. The first born when I was 22 and the last when I was 32. My pregnancies and deliveries went fine but it was much harder to lose the weight with the last one. I am glad I had my babies at a younger age because I had the energy to raise them - and it takes a lot of energy!!


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kai777 6 years ago from Chicago

Good information, I used to say if I do not have my second child by the age 35, I was not having another baby. I just turned 37 and had already decided I would not have anymore children before reading your article. I have a lot to consider if my wishes ever changed again. Very Good & Thanks!


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Runway 6 years ago from New York

Thanks for the great information! I have lots of girlfriends that are past 33 so I will definitely share this with them.


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content 6 years ago

I have a friend that is having twins at 44! These are her first children. She used a sperm donor and it took the 2nd time.


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darntoothysam 6 years ago from Burnsville, MN

My wife had both our children after 30, thankfully they were both beautiful and 100% healthy. Our neighbor didn't start until 40, thankfully they were healthy too! We are 39 now, and I wouldn't want to risk her health or the babies health by having another now... not to mention that we are already pulling our graying hair out trying to deal with the two we have.

Thomas


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Tiffany C. Hill 6 years ago from kareeniebeanie.com

Thanks for this article.


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online-education 6 years ago from Los Angeles, California

Great information.


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Galensmom 6 years ago from Kentucky

This is good information, but it is based on what we have been told for years. The fact is, women are waiting longer to have children and this is not a risky proposition. I am 46 years old, and pregnant with my second child. My first is 25 years old. I became pregnant using herbs to heal high grade dysplacia which were known to my partner and I to make me highly fertile. It is not impossible nor is it risky any longer to have children later in life. As long as you follow advice from doctor or midwife, then I believe that a woman over the age of 40 can have a healthy and empowering pregnancy and birth resulting in healthy children. blessings to you..


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ClemintineUndone 6 years ago

I tend to agree with Galensmom-- I am 36 and pregnant with my third. My first came when I was 32 and the second when I was 34. However, I think to some degree, there are risks with every pregnancy and you always need to do your best to consult your doctor, and make as healthy choices as you are able. Granted, this pregnancy seems to be waaay harder than the other two, but there was certainly no problem with fertility for us-- in fact this is our surprise blizzard baby! And I think it is important to note that often, "higher risk" doesn't actually mean "high risk". The difference between 12-15% and 20% isn't particularly shocking, 1 in 400 is .25% , 1 in 200 is only .5% (that's right: they are both LESS THAN 1%!!)

As far as I can see, know the risks, just keep things in perspective.


Carros Usados 6 years ago

Great hub ;) thanks for sharing


Art of legend india 6 years ago

Very informative hub. nice


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aimhigh3 6 years ago

Wow. This amazing. I had my last one when I was 37, and my doctor told me I could have them for at least ten more years as long as I stay healthy. I'm so glad women are having children at an older age.


Richard Stephen 6 years ago

My wife had all three of our kids after 32 years of age. We were very fortunate she nor the babies had any problems. The reasons women are having children later are many and varied but I think the medical risks have been more manageable as medicine has advanced. Great hub!


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KeithTax 6 years ago from Wisconsin

My bide and I shared the same concerns when we had children. My bride was age 31 and 36 when our daughters graced our home. All went well. What a blessing they are. My girls are 15 and 10 now. I was worried until the delivery was finished. Then we were all smiles.


Siew Cheng 6 years ago

I think the Singapore government is more concerned about this problem than the people. Most people marry late. Those who marry in late 20s will not want to have kids immediately after marriage.


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Chantwaun 6 years ago

This is good advice. I got married at 31 we've been trying unsuccessfully for six months. I haven't given up hope though. Thanks Cashmere


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fostintowers 6 years ago

great article!


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Medical Writer 6 years ago from Great Britain

With the advent of good medical technologies its defiantly possible to have babies later in life.


Chad 6 years ago

Great hub. I didn't know the risks of getting pregnant in your mid-30s and my wife are at that age.


Cuencalady 6 years ago

Great hub. I was 31 when I had my first child and 34 when I had my second. For both pregnancies I remained very healthy. I was not able to give birth normally and had an emergency cesarean for both births as my pelvic structure was too narrow. Everyone was amazed out how I bounced back after the ops and about and walking in no time. Also I was lucky that my body returned to it's normal shape in no time. Although I was fit and healthy for both births I wonder if it also has something to do with genetics. My children are now young adults in their 20's and are both very intelligent.........of course Mum must have had something to do with it. :)


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breathe2travel 6 years ago from Gulf Coast, USA

You give a lot of useful information. :)


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RoseGardenAdvice 6 years ago from San Francisco

Very useful info and well-written. Thanks.


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Helen Cripps 6 years ago from Brighton and London

Really interesting and reassuring Hub. My friend is 31 and desperate to settle down, but has not yet met the right person. I have printed so she can take a read !thanks Cashmere


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

As long as she's physically fit it okay. There's nothing wrong in having a baby after 30 just be careful.


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BagoRo 6 years ago

Very Much Relevant Information But Child's Before 33 and After 20 Are Much Talented and Creative After 33 It Effect Child Health as well as Mother


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Babypushchairs 6 years ago

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Najia Almas 6 years ago

very informative


mizboat 6 years ago

I had my first baby at 36, and I did suffer high blood pressure towards the end of the pregnancy. However I really believe that it is the health of the mother not the age of the mother that determines the health and safety of the baby and the pregnancy. A fit, healthy and active 38 year old will probably have a better pregnancy that a young unfit, overweight woman that drinks, smokes and doesn't look after herself. If you doubt your health or ability to have a baby later in life, just have a general check up with your Doctor, they will tell you the truth.


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tinyteddy 6 years ago from INDIA

medical awareness is diferent from creating phobias

definitely this is a good article

but in essence it means do not be too career oriented as fas as possible have babies before 30

it does not mean do not have babies after 30

there is an element of risk true but nature is very powerful.

elderly primi --having the first baby after 28 may gave more risk

once someone has had a baby before 28 then until they are fertile anytime they can have a baby without detoriating the health of the mother


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trafford 6 years ago from San Diego

That was really helpful, but i want to know, most of the celebrities (females) got married after 35 and 40 and even they got child easily.


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cashmere 6 years ago from India Author

Not all us lesser mortals have the support system available to a female celebrity :)


Merl 6 years ago

yah girl


lllll 6 years ago

1st child -26

2nd child-28

3rd child-32 everybody is ok

I am 33 now and sometimes thin about another baby


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milenaamr 5 years ago

Nice hub. Very informative and on a great topic. Now a days woman tent to go trough pregnancy after 30. Thanks.


Treedev 5 years ago

good info,thanks a lot.


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thebellrecordsche 5 years ago

I do plan on having a baby at 30 or later. I would like to buy a house first. Great info, Cashmere!


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Tirzah Laughs 5 years ago from USA

I was born when my mother was 41. I was not a 'wanted' baby but rather a lapse in birth control. Don't go the other way and get lax with your birth control in your 40's, natural pregnancy is still very possible.

The risks are slightly higher in your mid to late 30's. Usually the difficulty lies in getting pregnant or maintaining a pregnancy.

But I still believe its better to wait and have a baby you want and looking forward to rather than having a baby because you think you should or it's time.

Not much is worse than being an inconvenient child.

Don't rush in to motherhood. I truly believe that its better to miss your chance at being a mother than to have a child you aren't ready for or aren't sure you want.


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cashmere 5 years ago from India Author

That is a very pertinent point Tirzah Laughs. You must want the baby no matter what the age!


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quuenieproac 5 years ago from Malaysia

I had my first baby when I was 25, 2nd at age 32 and 3rd at 35. I was diagnosed with breast cancer immediately after giving birth and was told my cancer was hormone induced due to late pregnancy and stress. Late pregnancy has its dangers. But what mothers will go through just to have babies! You can read about it: http://hubpages.com/health/How-I-Battled-Breast-Ca...


SpaceAge 5 years ago

Very educational. Keeping birth-defective babies isn't 4 every1. Personally, its not 4 me. Adoption's an option. I'd been around situations where parents/guardians often become frustrated when keeping downs ppl. I saw this lady who kept 3 of them, actually abuse them. NO, I'd never stoop that low.... However, I was able 2 turn her in, & the girls were removed from the home. Due 2 my courage ad an abuse survivor, I was blessed 2 become friends w/ the police leutenant. He was proud of me 4 stepping up & speaking out.

Furthermore, I must mention that from my own observances, I noticed just how much more expensive they r 2 keep. I've watched the movie titled, MASK about the kid w/ Lion's Disease. It was based on a true story. Different ppl often tend 2 get negative attn from society. That's y there should b an overseer who regularly checks on these ppl, & c.osely monitors them. No, they shouldn't b left totally alone since they can endanger themselves. The downs do indeed have minds like children, & they should b closely monitored.


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thnaks for the info


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netscamreview 5 years ago from Santa Monica

Yes! very nice hub. thanks a lot.


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Str8up Hookups 5 years ago

Great hub.

Yes, supplements are very important especially pre-natal and calcium and vitamin D.

Carrying a child really drains bone and teeth,which already are in a mature state.I never had a problem with my teeth until after my son's birth.

Still wouldn't change it for the world,but you need the added vitamins and minerals to help baby's development and to maintain a healthy body.

Hub up,Thanx for sharing.


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SJKSJK 5 years ago from delray beach, florida

Good hub. I love babies and think everyone should have at least one, no matter how they have them.


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Runway 5 years ago from New York

Thanks for this great information! these days, so many women are having babies after 30 that this is really useful for everyone.


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muriahgorde 5 years ago from New York

I agree with all points of this excellent hub! Nothing can be more important than the health of our babies!


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Tinsky 5 years ago from Brisbane, Australia

Healthy Babies are important so is a healthy mum and dad and a living environment which can support a happy family! I had my first child naturally conceived at the young age of 38. I had one miscarriage at 8 weeks before I conceived and was advised that there was a 1 in 3 chance of that happening because of a long time spent taking contraceptive pills. My child is very healthy (no sick days since April) and at 2 yrs 11 mths is already going into Junior Kindy! She is so well mannered, can speak 8 word articulate sentences and can count to ten. But most importantly she is loved and she is constantly reminded of the love her entire family and extended family have to share with her. I think providing a safe and loving environment is one of the most important considerations.


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EverydayKathy 5 years ago

Great information in your hub but I had to laugh at the title as I had my first and only child at age 43 (two weeks prior to turning 44) and we got pregnant on the first try.


moons 5 years ago

This is a helpful tips for us future moms. thanks you


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Journalistmommy 5 years ago

This hub scared me. I'll be 30 next week and I'm still not married. I feel like I'll never find a husband, and if I do, our babies will come out with three arms or something.


Evsukov 5 years ago

Great Hub, thanks you


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SUSIE405 5 years ago from Delray Beach, Florida

I had my first baby at 35 and do not feel like I was too old, that's just the way it worked out.


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DebtFreedom 5 years ago

thanks for the hub! good things for women and their husbands to know.


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jtrader 5 years ago

Pregnancy carries risk at any age. It's good to be as informed as possible. Take care of yourself and prepare your body as well as you can.


heather 5 years ago

didn't try to not get pregnant for 13 years finally conceived at 32 sometimes the choice isn't yours its nature


Clare 5 years ago

Quality hub- it is always better to have right things on the right time. things change according to change in time. health does not remain the same all time so it better to have a child on the right age of your life.


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saket71 5 years ago from Delhi, India

Well written, Cashmere. The problem is that when things are easier we spend time in what we call "preparing" for parenthood, and it becomes such engulfing thing that we wake up only when time is slipping by.


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ggenda 5 years ago from USA

Wow, I had been under the impression that 35 was when things began to change. I didn't realize turning 30 was significant for a woman during her childbearing years. I had 3 kids before 30 (just turned 30 a week ago) and am thankful we started a family in our 20's. Your hub just confirms that!


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

Great and very informative article.I agree with you on the things you listed in here,you are right and am so pleased that you actually shared this article here in hub pages,thanks bravo.


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philipandrews188 5 years ago

Thanks for more information.


kkk 4 years ago

hi when is this artilce written ? Is it recent


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

I wrote this about a year and half ago, but I don't think it outdates the information on the hub.Most of it is as relevant today as it was a year and half ago.


CJSJ 4 years ago

Hi all

Was currently thinking about having a 3rd baby and came across this web page. I had my 1st at 26 and my 2nd at 28 both entirely different birthing experiences! I'm now 31 and realise time is running out for me so I have to make a decision soon if I want anymore. I used to dream of having 2 of each. Everyone tells me I'm lucky to have 1 of each. My hubby is worried about any problems with me or the baby and so he doesn't think he wants anymore as we already have 2 perfectly healthy kids. Just looking for a little support and input thats all. Thanks guys :-)


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

You are lucky to have one of each! Giving birth after 30 is more difficult and certainly more dangerous if it is your first. In your case it being the third will be easier as long as you are in good health. Good luck with making your decision.


CJSJ 4 years ago

Thanks Cashmere for your comment, much apprecited. We have decided on another. So I'll be off for a check up to make sure everything is in order :-)


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

All the best! Hope you have a healthy bonny baby


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lpanfil 4 years ago from Cleveland, Ohio

I’m so glad you didn’t just focus only on the scary side of the equation. I had my daughter when I was 34. And while you have to face the possible consequences there are things you can do to have a healthy pregnancy.


Wallaboosmom 4 years ago

This is not an accurate article. I had my two at ages 33 and 35 and both boys and VERY healthy. My half sister got pregnant as a surprise at age 41 she has two boys at home and her baby was born VERY healthy. I think the idea of having a baby at age 15 is ludicrous and also at age 20 I think is too young. There is nothing wrong with having a baby after age 35. My sister had a baby girl at age 39 VERY healthy as well. The comment of not eggs after age 45 is not correct. I have follicles that have been seen by my RE. I am 46 and in good health and we are trying for our third child and I am not in menopause. Yes, it is more difficult in 40's but can be done naturally and not have to resort to IVF and there are still some good eggs there and it only takes one good egg. You are unneccessarily scaring couples that are in their 30's that haven't had a baby yet. The risks aren't that great in your 30's. I don't know where you get your information.


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Ipanfil, very true, there are always two sides to the coin.

Wallaboosmom, you are obviously in good health and so have not had any issues delivering babies so late in life. This is not always true for all women. As for the accuracy of my article, these are all valid complications and concerns that any medical doctor will whet you for if you have a first baby after 30. It is also an established medical fact that the eggs of a woman will deteriorate over time while the sperm of the man does not. Please refer to studies done by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development.


Nicole Smith 4 years ago

I agree with Wallaboosmom. You are scaring couples with all kinds of negetives!! There are planty of HEALTHY babies born to couples after 30!


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

I agree that there are plenty of people who have healthy babies after 30, but all I am pointing out is the risks that increase.


sabinaBD 4 years ago

a very very important & helpful article. Thanks...cashmere!!


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Thank you Sabina


mayee 4 years ago

HI im 35 i have 8 year old boy, that was when i was 27 .

Me and my husband are trying for 2nd one.past summer i took iui for 3 months and it dint work out i got so stressed out (i know 3 months was not that long compare to other people who have been trying or tried for months or years and succed)so my doctor recommended for ivf or injectables.we wanted to take a short break and go for it . Im very tensed about the treatment and if any complications.


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Hello Mayee, The only thing I'll say to you is don't get stressed, get a good doctor, and then trust his treatment.


Mayee 4 years ago

Thanks for reply Cashmere. I hope everything goes good,going to see doctor this month ,to start treatment.


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

All the best to you Mayee. Hope you are blessed with a healthy baby this year!


kelleyward 4 years ago

Cashmere. I had all my children at 30 plus. They are all very healthy! I think the most difficult part of me having kids after 30 was my energy level. I'm a highly energetic person but pregnancy wore me out! Thanks again for the info. There are slightly higher risk as women age but everything worth doing in life comes with risk.


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Kelleyward it is difficult running around after the kids when they hit the two year mark and I just can't imagine doing it now in my mid 30s.


zane2482 4 years ago

Very inspiring. I am 41 and dterined to have another. I am under no "dilusions as to the risk and difficulty getting pregnant. I have 6 children (all girls) and my youngest is 10. They are very excited at the prospect of another addition. I have NEVER had any problems getting pregnant, lol. We will see. Hope everything goes well, keep me in your prayers as we embark on this journey once again.


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

All the best! May you have an easy pregnancy and healthy child.


crazyflirtparker2 4 years ago

im 15 im three months pregnant with a girl so what will i have to do when i give birth to my baby girl?


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Kristina, I hope you have someone with you as you will need some help after the delivery.


dan1322 4 years ago

good evening madam. My wife got scissoring for my 1st child. Now she is pregnant again. Is there any harm or danger if she is giving birth before one year after scissoring. Please advice. Thank you


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

I'm afraid I am not a doctor and so not qualified to give you a medical opinion, but I do think that having another child less than a year after having being pregnant can not possibly healthy for the mother to be.


Mrs.HASEEB 4 years ago

I got maried a Year before but stil not pregnant there is no health issue & I heard that if We dont have baby in first year it can create health effects is it true ? I am 28 years old.


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

No health issue is created if you don't have a baby in the first year after marriage. If one exists it is already there. in any case some people prefer to wait a year or two before having a baby so as to get used to each other first.


Gulshan Khan 4 years ago

Hi I have a baby girl I delivered at the age of 33 it is very messy I agree I should have had kids earlier my menstural cycle is absolutely normal however now that I am trying for 2nd baby and I am not able to conceive. It's always better before the age of 30.


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Hope you conceive soon. All the best.


Lil miss 4 years ago

Alright im 15 and I dont want no tard baby so im gonna get pregnant now I know this boy whos had sex with 2 girls already so Im gonna go see if he will sleep with me I will just poke holes in the condom!!


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

@lil miss LOL please don't do that, you have plenty of time left


Param 4 years ago

i am 33yrs old boy, my wife age 26 , going to marrie next month, i am planning to take baby next year onward , is any risky , since i am 33yr old .... suggestion


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Its the woman's age that has bearing on the pregnancy not the man's age.


sid052 4 years ago

i am 26year old guy and my Girl friend is 28. we will be marrying in couple of years. do you think that there will be any complications as my frnd is not that healthy (she is under weight, have migraine problem, also she is not fat)


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cashmere 4 years ago from India Author

Don't hunt for problems where there are none! Relax and enjoy the process.


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

I have a dear friend who didn't have her first child until she was 37 and that child was perfect. My own mother didn't have me until she was 38, and I was perfect too! ;) Meaning health, 'normal' (whatever that is), etc.

Before birth control it was common for women to have babies right up until they couldn't anymore, but now that we have birth control suddenly women over 30 and their babies are at risk. Personally, I think environmental factors play a bigger part in problem pregnancies than age.

This article is definitely food for thought.

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