He Was The Best Dad In The World..A Profile Of My Father...By justateach

He Was The Best


I usually don’t write about my dad. Although it has been more than thirty years since he passed away, it is still hard to think about him and talk about him.

My dad was an awesome, adventurous man. He made it very clear that he wanted boys and not girls, but he was still the best dad ever…he just made sure that if he had to have girls, they would be the biggest tomboys on the block.

We three girls – he picked out our names (after a former girlfriend, no less!) – LaDonna, LaDena and LaRina – were taught from a very early age that anything a boy could do his girls could do much better. He taught us to ride dirt bikes by the time we were three…we could out pitch and out throw any boy in the baseball league by the time we were five and we could fix or sand and paint any car or motorcycle by the time we were ten.

My dad was proud of his girls. He bragged about us all the time. If anyone brought up the subject of kids, he would tell them how much better, stronger and braver his girls were. And he really believed that we were. When I skipped kindergarten because we were told “I was too smart”, he literally took out an ad in the paper to tell the world. When LaDonna won the Enduro Motorcycle Race – a race that included adult men and women and where she was only one of a handful of children (she was eight!) he proudly showed the pictures that were in the paper to everyone he knew.

When I was eight we got some horrible news. My dad was having a lot of headaches and his left arm hurt relentlessly. We knew it was bad when he actually went to the doctor to get it checked out. This from a man that had been in a horrible motorcycle accident and fought going to the hospital – where once he was finally there, he was declared dead! Yeah – something was wrong.

After many tests and many weeks later, my dad was told that he had non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. He was given six months to live. Of course, we were devastated. We couldn’t live without dad! My dad told us not to worry, he wouldn’t let cancer defeat him! He was stronger, better and smarter than cancer! Of course he would win!

To prove that he was stronger, he moved the family back home to Kansas. He bought us the first home we had ever owned. Bought my mom an awesome car. Went back to driving a truck so that he could put more money into savings. All of this as he was going in for chemotherapy and radiation treatments. He refused to give into cancer.

This worked for a year. Then two years. Then three.

After three years he couldn’t fight it anymore. He fought a hard battle, but for once he couldn’t win. I was eleven when he died. I tried to be big and brave for him, but I cried like a little baby when he went to see him that last time in the hospital. Even then my dad couldn’t stop being a dad…he was trying to comfort us as he was giving us our last goodbyes. His final words to us were “I love you…” As if we didn’t already know that….

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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Beautifully told! You captured your father in your words, in the stories you told about him. What a great man he must have been. I love this hub. It really touched me.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Thank you Victoria! I am glad that I was able to tell a good story about a wonderful man!


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Rusticliving 4 years ago from California

It will be three years in January since my Dad's passing.

He meant the world to me and is missed every day. Thank you for your thoughts about your father. Your story brought back smiles of memories for me today.

Merry Christmas

Blessings

Lisa~Rustic Living


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Lisa - Although its been much longer than three years, I still think about him all the time...his favorite color was orange, so every time I see an orange car or an orange flower, I think of my dad...


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Rusticliving 4 years ago from California

I know exactly what you mean. My Dad rebuilt Old cars and motorcycles. He belonged to auto clubs who hold several meets a year. I love going to them, just feel his presence.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Our dads would have gotten along great! My dad did the same thing!


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mshei 4 years ago

I remember my dad. She passed away 2 months ago. He is a really good man and missed him so much.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Thank you for your comments mshei!


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swisswatch1 4 years ago from Switzerland

Great story, justateacher...

My Dad passed 6 years ago and I still miss him...


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Thanks for the comments swisswatch!


Linda Myshrall 4 years ago

Ouch.

I lost my Dad in March, so no big surprise, I guess, that I was drawn to this hub. Your hub encourages me because now I know I won't forget him.

Thank you for writing this, Linda

ps. Red is the color that conjures up my Dad.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Linda - so sorry for your loss...and no....you will never forget. Everyday there is something that reminds me of him....


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Rusti Mccollum 4 years ago from Lake Oswego, Oregon

I'm so sorry for your loss.

This was so beautiful I cried.i think every little girl adores her daddy.especially when you are blessed with a great one.My dad passed 7 years ago after emphysema long time battle. I miss my dad too, I can relate to this, it hit my heart dead on! voted up for our daddies.sorry hon.

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