Healthcare can be such a joke

It’s that time of year again! The time for headaches and sneezes, belly aches and snot, coughing and fevers, and maybe a visit to the doctor.

Personally, I hate going to the doctor, and I am pretty sure I am not alone in that statement. For me to go to the doctor, I have to be pretty much on my death bed. Even then, they might as well start digging the hole first. Maybe my hate for doctors stems from a bed experience, or maybe I just don’t like the wait. Either way, I hate going, and I hate taking my kids.

This year has been a bad one when it comes to colds and coughs. I have been sick for roughly a month, maybe longer. I feel as if I have been sick on and off almost the entire summer. My son on the other hand, just started getting sick earlier in September. I remember it clearly because it was just after he started walking. I thought to myself, how funny is it that he has been walking for three weeks and still looks like he is walking drunk!

Now mind you, we knew he was getting a cold. He would wake up in the middle of the night from coughing fits and wake up in the morning with his face covered in snot. We attempted to medicate him ourselves, with Tylenol and steamy bathrooms and sucking out all the snot. But enough was enough.

Finally one morning, I was sick, my baby was sick, my husband was complaining, and my two daughters woke up hacking up their tiny little lungs. I was done and it had gone on for way to long. We made a family visit to urgent care. My intention, we would all get drugged up and get better.

After our visit, things didn’t go as planned. My son got medicine cause he had a double ear infection and I got medicine (but I think it was purely to shut me up). We were told there was nothing they could do. It was all viral. What happened to the good old days when you went to the doctor and they could make you feel better. Now, I am told it is viral and will last up to 6 weeks.

At least there is hope for my son. After a week on his medication, we start noticing a rash. We monitor it, but really think nothing of it. Within a couple of days, he still has the rash and it is getting worse. Another trip to the doctor. This time, I am told it might be a reaction to the antibiotics, which by the way, still haven’t made him 100% better. With his medicine almost gone, he still has a double ear infection. So now, he is switched to another medicine. Only two doses in, and his rash has gotten worse again. Back to the doctor again! This time we are told it is a viral rash. Again, nothing they can do about it. So now, here we sit, my son all filled with polka dots, and there is nothing the doctors can do about it. To make matters worse, his birthday is Saturday, and I am pretty sure he will still be covered from head to toe with this rash!

So, is that visit to the doctor really worth it. The bill alone will probably take my entire week’s worth of wages. Not to mention, no one in my family has yet to recover from this cold. No one is able to stay home and quarantine themselves until we all finally get better, because the bills have to be paid. So, we went to the doctor after suffering long enough, to be told there is nothing that can be done.

I was told the doctors do all they can, but they are after all, just “practicing medicine” and it is at best an educated guess. Why do we pay so much for someone who is just practicing. I cut hair for a living and let me tell you, if I was “practicing” on my clients, I am pretty sure I wouldn’t have a job for long. I am expected to be a professional and an expert. Yet, as a professional and expert, I get paid so much less for someone who is just practicing.

To me, healthcare seems to be heading into a joke with a very bad ending. Don’t get me wrong, doctors are necessary. One day when I am truly on my death bed, or if I am having a heart attack, or maybe if there is something they could actually help me with, they can be very necessary. To make an appointment where I leave less than satisfied because I know I am not on the path to getting better is just a joke! Why should I have to pay them $100 for an office visit, where I wait for 20 minutes in the waiting room, another 20 minutes in the doctor’s office, to be seen for roughly 5 minutes and sent home with nothing but a shrug and told there is nothing they can do. It truly is unfair!! Yet I can’t sleep at night cause I keep waking up coughing, my ears are hurting and I keep on sneezing. My son on the other had seems mildly oblivious to his condition.

I guess that means it is time to take matters into my own hands. I refuse to go back to the doctor to once again get turned away! So, I will gather up the chicken noodle soup and the boxes of Kleenex, cuddle with blankie while I sip on some tea and drink gallons of waters. Hopefully one of these times, I won’t cough so hard that I pee myself from all the gallons of waters I drank trying to get rid of this stupid cold!

 

 

 

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onegoodwoman 6 years ago from A small southern town

Some things need a doctor, and we pay them for knowing.....

Some things just need to run their course, and there is no "magic" pill.

Your job, and mine, as consumers is to know what is which.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

I'm with you on this. I hate going to the doctor - I even worked in a hospital for a long time, my moms a nurse, my step dads a doctor - I still have white coat syndrome:) also I never take my kids to the doctor unless they are running a fever for a couple of days. Almost everything is viral. I found out like you did that Syd is allergic to pennicillan and Maddy is allergic to sulfa drugs. Good Christmas! Syd has only been on antibiotics 3 times her whole life and Maddy maybe 2. Docs aren't pushing the antibiotics so much anymore because they have found out that the body

becomes resistant to it over time. So your right - you may as well save the money - unless of

course there's persistent fever - that indicates infection which requires antibiotics to heal.

I have taken Madison to her primary 4 times, a specialist once and she's had 2 xrays on her pinky finger. I'm ready to go nuts! It gets inflamed and she cries cuz it hurts but no one can find out what's wrong with it! There is something - I see it! Jeeze!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Real - That is seriously scary. I am surpirsed they haven't been able to come up with anything for her finger. Obviously if it is persistent then they need to be checked out.

Eli is looking at getting benefits through his work. I don't really understand the whole insurance thing but he works in it so he gets all of it. High deductibles suck, but like I told him... we never go to the doctor anyway so does it really matter. We do well checks and that is about it. Luckily for Eli and I, we also have VA so if we really have something to complain about... we just go there. You might go there for a cold and end up with an amputated leg... but hey, it's cheap. Who can complain... lol


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

BBG - the VA is one of my pet peeves. It is one of the reasons why I told Laurel I didn't think she should go into the service. If you get hurt - that's how they treat you? We have a VA hospital here - I'm sorry but it is scary. I've visited there. Those are the patients that should get top priority and care. Honestly its a disgrace. I worry that one of my family members who is in the service might need medical care. Is that horrible of me to say?


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Not horrible at all. VA varies from place to place, but they definately have a bad reputation. My husband had knee surgery in Milwaukee and it turned out just fine. On the other hand, I had what was a simple procedure done while in the military and ... well... you know the story. I talked about it in scared for life.

On the other hand, civilian type doctors are just as scary. I had a family member that was trying to lose weight the easy way... so they opted for liposuction. They were too embarassed to tell anyone in the family so they did it secretly. The next phone call someone got was because she had complications. She ended up wheelchair bound and peeing in a bag for almost an entire year. Much better now - but it was scary at the time. My aunt also had a similiar problem with the civilian doctors as well and almost died for what was a routine procedure. I don't know all the details because I was gone when it happened. While she is better now, she still has the scar to show for what she went through.

That being said, I really don't trust doctors period. Yes there are good ones and there are bad ones that give them all a bad rap. Unfortunately, it is usually the bad ones people talk about. It is never the good ones that get any publicity.

It kind of goes hand in hand with hairstylists. So many people think that it is the place that gives out bad haircuts, but in reality it is the stylist. Some have the knack and others don't. Therefore it really is the person. Just goes to show - proper research is the way to go!


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mythicalstorm273 4 years ago

You know the strangest thing about revisiting all of your old hubs is seeing how few of comments they have! lol. Still I must say you have had the worst experiences with doctors and with your health. I do not know what you guys did to your immune system but it seems like you end up at the doctors a couple of times a year for something more than just a cold. With all the recent events this hub seems very relevant! lol. Just take care of yourself :-)


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Myth - What is funny is that this really is relevant... and my thoughts on healthcare haven't changed much. Our current doctor believes in overly medicating. What kind of drugs would you want? Seriously! Ugh!!! But yeah - it seems when we do go... we are down for the count!


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Mhatter99 4 years ago from San Francisco

you should see what they did to me


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Chuck Bluestein 4 years ago from Morristown, AZ, USA

Have you heard of Mark Twain? He claimed that he used something to cure the flu quickly. Doctors make money from people being sick. If people did not get sick, they would have to get another job. So what Mark Twain used was also used by the 3 fathers of modern medicine-- Hippocrates, Galen and Paracelsus. Dick Gregory used it to lose hundreds of pounds.

Actually the bible has 74 references to this cure that Mark Twain used. It was also used by Moses, Buddha and Jesus. You know that saying "feed a cold and starve a fever." What does it mean and where did it come from?

No one really knows for sure the origins of the axiom, but most accounts link it back as early as 1574, when dictionary writer John Withals wrote “Fasting is a great remedie of feuer [fever].” So the above people used fasting where you consume water and nothing else. It has been used on little kids since the biggest health problem in America today comes from eating too much food-- diabesity. Jesus did not do any miracles or preaching until after he fasted for 40 days.


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Mhatter99 - Oh no - that doesn't sound like the start to a good story!


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Chuck Bluestein - Interesting.... so if you starve a fever and feed a cold I wonder how you get rid of a cough! :) I have heard the saying but never really knew the origin or how it came about. But a point well made!


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kj force 4 years ago from Florida

barbergirl28..your hub is so true of the world today.and I can understand your frustrations....Antibiotics do not kill viruses and the use of them for viral infections just leads to antibiotic resistance. If you have been told you that it is a viral infection, the best thing to do is to treat the symptoms and just let it run its course. I know you are aggravated, don't blame you..Have you checked into " natural remedies for treatment "? Do you or your children take vitamins ? could there be something in your house that may be causing the symptoms ? I would suggest you check ...

Thank you for sharing this dilemma, AS YOU ARE NOT ALONE....with this frustrating issue...


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@kj force - I am glad I am not alone in the issue. This year has been a bad one for me. I was pretty much sick from the end of February until just now starting to feel better. The solution actually came only a month ago when the doctor realized allergies were the main culprit. Because they were getting me all congested they kept me in the nasty cycle. I have tried some natural remedies, such as local organic honey to calm the allergies and even tea. I am feeling much better now. It can just be so frustrating at times! Thanks for stopping by!


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sweetie1 3 years ago from India

I am sorry all that happened but educated guess in haircut..no way.. I have seen it has become a fashion to try put doctors down by everyone. They work so hard during their education that rest of us don't even study 10% of them. You must remember not everything is in their hands. When you take chemicals ( medicines) they do not have same effect on every patient but they have same effect on 95% patients. It is well known fact and no fault of doctor that the medicine had side effects. But yes I can understand the frustrations as I too have undergone same thing with side effects, had rashes and vomiting with different medicines.


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barbergirl28 3 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@sweetie1 - I think the biggest frustration is when the doctor doesn't listen. I know that they have the education to help me with what I need. I have had a lot of bad experiences with a lot of doctors that it is hard for me to trust any of them. That being said, we now have a doctor that we trust. That is something priceless!

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