Help! My Child Has Autism. Why Does He / She Cry All the Time?


Children with Autism Often Cry Inconsolably

Parents of children with autism often say things like:

  • My child won't stop crying and I don't know how to help her.
  • My son was born crying and hasn't stopped since.
  • She cries even when I think she should be happy.

Four Steps to Help You Figure Out Why Your Child Is Crying

Determining the reason your child is upset can feel like an impossible task but there are a few steps that you can take to help your child and you feel better. Oftentimes, families and professionals alike overlook the following possible causes of ongoing crying. Keep in mind that your child may be fussy as a result of one or a combination of two or more of the following:

Step 1

Rule out any possible chronic (ongoing) medical condition such as seizures, gastrointestinal (GI) problems or headaches. If your child does not have a history of being fussy but has suddenly become irritable or or goes through stages where they cry for long periods of time, check into the possibility of ear infections and toothaches as well.

Gastrointestinal problems can cause irritability
Gastrointestinal problems can cause irritability | Source

It is important to find a specialist who has experience with autism to accurately diagnose a condition and address the unique needs of a child on the spectrum. There is some compelling research that shows drastic improvements in some children with autism who are successfully treated for GI problems. Seizures can cause physical discomfort but they can also disorient a child leaving them anxious and frustrated.

Certain sounds, tastes, smells, and textures can cause some children with autism to be fussy.
Certain sounds, tastes, smells, and textures can cause some children with autism to be fussy. | Source

Step 2

Determine if your child has a sensory integration disorder which is causing discomfort or pain. When the body does not accurately interpret sight, smell, taste touch or a sense of balance, that person is said to have a sensory integration (SI) problem. This can lead to oversensitivity to pain and/or the inability to feel pain. Individuals on the spectrum who are able to talk about their experiences report that sensory problems can cause irritability. Seemingly harmless items and situations such as seams in socks or the sound of a yogurt lid may cause a strong reaction in a child with autism.

While there is a need for more research on the subject, many individuals with autism and their families also report that successful occupational therapy by a therapist trained in sensory integration can be very helpful to relieve discomfort which can lead to crying and irritability.

Find a local occupational therapist trained in sensory integration to perform an evaluation to determine if this could be your child's problem.

Step 3

Address Your Child's Anxiety. Children with autism have a tremendous amount of anxiety over things that would not upset a typical child to the same degree. For example, any change in routine (turning right after school to go to the bank instead of left to go home), meeting new people, going to new places, encountering new tastes or smells, even exposure to new toys may cause anxiety in your child. This anxiety can cause children with autism to cry.

It is important to note that severe forms of anxiety can mimic symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and therefore a child's anxiety may be overlooked. Adapting your child's environment, gradual exposure to things that cause anxiety, using visual supports and improving communication can all help decrease anxiety.

If you decide to explore the possibility of medication to treat symptoms of anxiety, it is important to find a psychiatrist or developmental pediatrician trained in autism. Children on the spectrum may need lower than average doses of medication and some medications prescribed to children with autism can actually increase anxiety levels.

Improving communication may decrease crying and tantrums
Improving communication may decrease crying and tantrums | Source

Step 4

Help your child improve their ability to communicate with you. Imagine not being able to tell people what you need or how you feel? Imagine not understanding what the people around you are saying? All children with autism have some form of communication problem and this can lead to frustration, fear and ultimately fussy behavior. Qualified speech therapists can help determine the areas of communication that need improvement. Some children with autism also do very well with communication supports such as the Picture Exchange System (PECS), objects or other adaptive devices.


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People With Autism Tell Their Own Stories: Inspiring and Uplifting Books for Parents

Thinking in Pictures, Expanded Edition: My Life with Autism
Thinking in Pictures, Expanded Edition: My Life with Autism

Temple Grandin, arguably the World's foremost advocate and spokesperson for autism shares her unique perspective of life, how her mind "views and "classifies" information in this landmark classic.

Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's
Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's

John Elder Robinson created quite a stir for his poignant memoir of a young boy longing for the human connection.

There's a Boy in Here
There's a Boy in Here

Sean Barron and his mother Judy each tell the story of Sean's childhood from their own perspectives, offering insight and understanding for parents longing to understand the reasons for enigmatic behaviors associated with autism.


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suren 2 months ago

My 8year old autistic son cries every fort night for 1 week continuous. He's been doing this from April. He doesn't want to sleep. Loss of appetite. Doctors don't know the cause. Is there any body that ever experienced the same problem

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tdalexander 8 months ago Author

brutishspoon- thanks for sharing your experience. What I have found is that most children get through these rough patches and develop coping mechanisms and ways to communicate as they get older.

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brutishspoon 9 months ago from Darlington, England

This is so typically me. I would cry at the slightest thing as a child.

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tdalexander 16 months ago Author

Fussiness and crying all the time can be a sign of ASD. It can also be a sign of another unrecognized illness or medical condition or a combination. I recommend ruling out any possible underlying medical conditions with a good pediatrician and making sure that your husband's grand-baby is meeting their developmental milestones on time. How old is your husband's grandchild?

sherry 16 months ago

My husband grandbaby cry all the time could it have to due to aspeberger

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tdalexander 2 years ago Author

I'm glad you found this useful and I hope it will help make things easier for you and your daughter. It can be very hard (for you and your daughter) to deal with constant crying. I wish you both he best!

matt 2 years ago

I found this site when I tried to find out more aboit asd. It is useful coz I realised that my 15 yr old daughter is not the only one having this problem. It is quite tiring and embarrasing sometime. She just cry all the time. If not crying, she will jump around. I guess they just have lots of energy.

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thewritingowl 3 years ago from Ireland

Good practical advice. Shared on Twitter and FB.

pat 3 years ago

I'd like to say this was helpful. Though it does point out some probable causes, it does not address them all. My child is not crying from pain, but for the fact she is not able to do what she wants, when she wants.

She likes to go outside walking, and she'd like to do this ALL day long.

When it's time to go home, she is inconsolable, and will cry for hours on end, beating the doors, twisting the locked knobs, and screaming at the top of her lungs in the most excruciating pitch you've ever heard. It can drive you to madness.

No distraction will calm her. Eventually she does get hungry, and will calm down to eat, but this generally takes at minimum 2 or 3 hours.

Then it all begins again the next morning.

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thewritingowl 3 years ago from Ireland

Very helpful.

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tdalexander 5 years ago Author

Thank you!

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shea duane 5 years ago from new jersey

Great hub! good info!

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