Advice for my Younger Self

what I wish I knew then

This hub answers the question posed in the HubPages Answer section, which asks "If you are over 40, what 3 pieces of advice would you have for your 20 year old self?" While I don't usually dwell on the past, I love this question! It's a fun way to look back at what you were, and see how far you've come.

I believe in the idea that God created us and has a plan for our lives, but also that we have a part in that plan. Our free will gives us the ability to make decisions for ourselves, to shape our lives in some way, to help determine who we become. If I had the chance to know at 20 what I know now, I wouldn't be the same person I am today. But what I've learned along my life's path would have been great to know way back when!

First, I'd tell myself to listen. Maybe that's too simplistic. I'd tell myself to listen to others more, to read between the lines and be more sensitive. I'd tell myself to listen to the earth more, to be more aware. I'd tell myself to listen to myself more, to my gut reactions, the flutterings of my heart or my stomach that really, REALLY wanted to be heard.

Then, I'd tell myself to act more on what I was hearing, rather than what I thought everyone else wanted me to do. Or what I thought I was supposed to do, or think, or say. I'd care less about pleasing others.

Finally, I'd tell myself at 20 to practice living in the Now. To stop looking for that next great moment, thing, or experience, or trying to run away from that past horrible moment, thing, or experience. The only thing that exists is Now. Quit wasting the life you have!

"Regret and fear are twin thieves who would rob us of today." -Robert Hastings


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Kathleen Cochran profile image

Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

"Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then." What song is that from?

Interesting question. From my 50s I'd have to say I wish I'd saved more of my disposable income along the way. Wish I'd taught my daughter marriage is for your 30s not your 20s and saved her some heartache. Wish I'd written more earlier. Up and interesting.


seekingpeace91 profile image

seekingpeace91 4 years ago Author

Thanks for commenting, Kathleen, and for your "wishes" too! I remember the lines in that song, too, but not the title! I'll look it up. =) And I especially agree with your advice to save more of your disposable income along the way... Something I definitely should have done.


mio cid profile image

mio cid 4 years ago from Uruguay

LOVE this hub,you're so right.left you answer about el salvador in my relocating hub.


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seekingpeace91 4 years ago Author

Thanks, mio cid! I'm going back to your relocating hub right now...


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

you raise some very interesting questions here. I've thought about this before and, as cliche as it might sound, i wouldn't give my younger self any advice. My younger self needed to make all the mistakes he has made to become who he is now and who is now is exactly who he wants to be.

In reality, the only regrets I have are not spending as much time with those who have passed. Good, thought provoking hub.


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seekingpeace91 4 years ago Author

Good point, PDX. I wouldn't be the same person I am today if I had known then what I know now. Thanks for your thoughts!


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

you're welcome, seekingpeace. I find the amount of changer people incur in a lifetime to be fascinating!

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