How Happy Is Too Happy?

Hello there!

I just watched television with a great friend of mine; it was a nice afternoon. The last show we watched was something about E Hollywood True Stories, about Simon Cowell. LOL!! This really put me in a good mood, because I always say it like it is, and it struck me as funny as well as my hero George Carlin. Imagine making a living being "you" and also having fun doing it! That's the American Dream, they say. It put me in such a good mood. Maybe some of us here on hubpages will be super successful one day!!

But you know, it's not all about success. It's about using your God given talents. And that is what I believe makes one truly happy and to be greatful to God. You see, if I didn't believe in God, who gave me all the skills or abilities I have, boy, would I have a big head. Well it can get big though, if you're not careful, anyone's could. So maybe it's good I have some really logical friends to keep me on track!



There seem to be labels today for every little thing, and God forbid you be a 'pain in the ass'. I mean back in the 1950's people were being lobotomized for being irritable. Golly.

Today there are so many medications and it's tough when people are not informed about the dangers, and that maybe it's better to 'tough it out' until you learn the coping skills to get through life. You make mistakes and learn from them, hopefully.

It's sad that for depressed people it can be rare they feel really happy or have a good day. Some have the trouble of mania, which I personally really don't know about. I never had a manic episode where I felt euphoric or on top of the world to a degree of fantasy. No. And yet, one could go into a doctor's office and maybe for example that person lost of loved one and are depressed and are given an antidepressant. But it should be only temporary, I think in that case if you need it for awhile- if you do. But the danger is that sometimes people are told they need medication for life. And when you think about it, medication can beget medication, as I recently read an article on hubpages about cholesterol medications, for example which can have side effect, (like psychiatric ones do) and eventually some end up on 14 medications. How is a depressed person to know the difference or what to do? They are so busy trying not to be depressed and it snowballs sometimes into a lifelong illness which really could be a 'tough year'.

I was on lithium for twenty years. I don't know why but I was put on it at such a young age, that how would I know? I was told I needed it and I had bipolar and that it was to keep me stable and that was it. So I obediently submitted and here I am twenty years later, off of lithium for 7 months now just by chance that it wasn't working out, of which you can read of in my other hubs. I was so irritable for so many years and it was something I couldn't help. After 7 months, I'm not anymore and I know now it was the medicine that made me irritable.

Wow. So, I'm slowly piecing my life back together. I'm only one three medicines and it's made a huge difference to be off lithium and the other pill for side effects, Nadolol, which was to keep my hands from shaking from the Lithium.

Well. It's okay to be happy as long as it doesn't lead to manic episodes but I've never had one. So I don't think I need to worry about that but I am obviously being cautious about my prescriptions and my doctor's advice. One day at a time.

People I've seen talk about their fear of being too happy which they feel could lead to another manic episode. I'm not sure but I know Robin Williams made a successful career out of being 'energetic' and many others like Jim Carrey who are said to be bipolar.

What's my point? I don't know. I just think we all deserve to be happy and that should be our goal, and no matter how long it takes, or how much trial and error, we should get there.

Being on hubpages, I've gotten a lot of advice about anything and everything pertaining to health and any topic you can imagine. Thanks hubpages.....

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kashmir56 4 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Rose my friend, i enjoyed reading your interesting hub and you make some very good points and have some good advice within this well written hub,well done !

Vote up and more !!!


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Nikki Major 4 years ago

Hi school girl,

I am praying for you :-)


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

May your life continue to be happy! Seems it is your time. Your admiration of some of the comedy greats say much for your outlook on life. It is easy to agree with what you've said.

Voted up, useful, and interesting.


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA Author

Wonderful! Thank you all!


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faith_love_hope32 4 years ago

There is nothing wrong with being happy what so ever. Not only do I have Bipolar, but I have 2 teenage sons with mental health issues. They are 16 and 17. One is the hyperactive manic type. The other is the depressive type like his mother. I've only experienced hypomania, never full blown mania. I do know what it feels like to feel on top of the world but never lose touch with reality.

It's complicated with my hyper son because he also has a seizure disorder that affects his mental state. It started from a head injury 3 years ago. Complex Partial Seizures. Trying to get a dx for this disorder was 2 years of hell, no one could figure out what was wrong with him.

We also explored psychosis and ptsd symptoms because he does have ptsd but never dissociated in his life. When he has a spell it's like he become another person and needs help with everything. His spells last 2 weeks, sometimes longer. Long story short, psyc. meds didn't help, so I knew it wasn't psyc.

Too many phsyical symptoms so I knew it wasn't the ptsd. Finally got a dx with a good neurologist. SAD thing is that this new medical problem affects the poor kids mental health issues that he already had. :( His seizure meds make him so very nasty, we've had some real roller coasters this past year.

He also has to take a med to help him not feel so irritable from the seizure med. My goal his whole life was to not over medicate. Only low doses of anything, minimal meds, one or two and only because he really needed it. Without meds he just really can't do well. We've tried. He cycles. He's a very happy boy.

I think there is a difference between happy and manic. When you experience mania then you know what to look for and help for mania is just as important as help for depression because the person becomes a danger to themselves and can do things that can ruin their lives. As for myself and my oldest son. I've experienced major depression since age 12.

Meds helped me, but therapy and life changes helped me most. I had to be ready to accept the help, that's why it helped me. I was ready back in 12/2004. I have not suffered from severe depression since about 2006/2007. I still get moments of sadness but they are moments and they pass. I know the difference from what I suffered with for so many years.

I've been off meds since 2009 and I survive. It hasn't been a cake walk but I survive. I'm off meds because I can't make the time to take care of me right now. I think if I ever do go back on meds it would be just to help me with irritability and to help me focus more. My oldest son is off of his antidepressants and is doing well.

You (you as in people in general) have to know when you need them, when to reach out for help and to know that it's ok to reach out for the help. People have to know that it's not ok to be over medicated and to learn to know the difference between being helped by meds and being over medicated.

When we explored psychosis with my son, he was on meds that made him drool, gain weight and lose an interest in life...sports...friends. This killed me because he's a very outgoing happy vibrant boy. As soon as I realized these meds weren't helping him anyway, I took him off of them all in a hospital setting.

That was within 2 months that I realized they weren't helping. They also gave him something to help with drooling at one point. Now we're not sure if the drooling was from the meds or his spells.

It also helps to have family that cares to be able to step in and tell you that you are not well and need help if you seem 'too happy' (manic) or severely depressed or very nasty and irritable with the world. When I actually think about my mental health treatment over the years, I can honestly say that the meds helped most with the severe depression, focus issues, irritability and my severe social anxiety that I have suffered with. They treated the symptoms but the therapy was helpful in treating me long term and teaching me to control behaviors. Therapy helped me to think differently and change bad behaviors. Sorry so long.... I get carried away sometimes. lol.


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA Author

Thanks for sharing your story, faith_love_hope32,

It sounds like you have quite a life to contend with, I don't envy you in that regard! But you've been very wise in helping your children, and you must be quite a Mommy!

(I checked out your Mommy blog, it's quite nice, and well designed :)

I guess I'm finding my own balance. But everything happens for a reason, right? Would I be the person I am today had I not suffered what I did? That's the question....I could have turned out much worse had I not gotten help. I'm proud to be the person I am, and like you, proud that I did get help, to improve myself and my life.

I was overmedicated for many years, and just recently am not. I'm 'dealing with life' like most people do, and it's an adjustment but a blessing also, to be less medicated so I can actually learn life's lessons and it not go (in one ear and out the other.)

There are things I'm learning as if I'm a 16 yr old- because I was overmedicated from the age of 16-35.

It's a strange thing, but again a blessing.

I'm no longer irritable all the time- which I mentioned I believe was caused by Lithium. For as soon as I stopped taking it, my life dramatically changed.

I don't even feel like the same person, and I'm embarrassed to look back in my journal at some of the things I wrote!!

I fight this disease daily and I strive 110% to improve, my whole life.

I will not give up the fight. And I know that it has made me a very empathetic person.

All I can do, is be greatful for what I have, and know that God has many blessings in store for me.

I've had many happy years in life, it's the most recent ones that have been the hardest and where I've learned the most.

It hasn't been easy, and no person without bipolar would understand the feelings and pain emotional pain feels like.

When my father passed, I was a mess for three months. I had to quit my part time cleaning job. I couldn't eat or sleep for days on end.

It was horrrible.

I've also been going thru a similar situation for almost 2 years where I broke up with my ex-boyfriend because I couldn't tolerate anything. I was very irritable at the time and depended on him for my happiness. I really don't know but he did things too that were unhealthy. I'd love to be back with him IF we could have a healthy relationship.

Because I love his so much, I'm still suffering daily the effects of that deep love, which is so consuming at times, I can't help myslef but throw myself face first at the feet of Jesus.

God bless, and hope to hear more from you!!

(Like I say, everything happens for a reason.

My ex had had psysical disability and I had an emotional one which made it feel like we were two puzzle pieces that fit together so well, we could help each other but alas it got very complicated.)

You seem to work very hard at your job as a Mom. Congratualtions for all your efforts-- I'm sure God has reserved a special place for you.


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faith_love_hope32 4 years ago

Aww thank you and I'm so sorry for your pain. I agree about the saying, "Everything happens for a reason." As for your ex, if it's meant to be then maybe one day you two can try again. Another saying, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's meant to be." I don't know you but I'm truly glad you are happy. :)


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA Author

Thank you dear. I hope you are happy too!

((hub hugs!))


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faith_love_hope32 4 years ago

((hub hugs back)) And I am, finally. Happy. Took me 21 years after having my self esteem ripped from me after having my family fall apart and being a victim of severe bullying. But I'm there now. Thank you. :)


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA Author

Yr welcome,,we can relate on many levels. good to hear you, please keep in touch ! ;)


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pennyofheaven 4 years ago from New Zealand

I am very lucky in that we were taught natural healing remedies from as far back as I can remember. We were also taught the power of the mind and it's connection to unhealthy conditions that may arise from time to time. Including disease of the body. The many labels we are given to describe our mental state is disturbing. When our minds subscribe to them without questioning their validity a whole host of problems can arise that are seemingly unrelated. I respect conventional medicine and believe that if they work with alternate methods our world would be better for it. Thanks for the excellent hub. Good food for further thought!


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA Author

hey there again penny :)

What kind of natural healing rememdies do you know about? I'd love to hear more. The power of the mind- yes!

Appreciate the read and comment. Can't wait to learn more!

SGFR

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