How Low Self-esteem Affects Individuals

I have noticed low self-esteem in a few women, and it is not only in a specific age group.

When married they are more affected by how they see themselves as individuals.

Men do have such issues, but most women are affected by low self-esteem.

What makes most women feel this way?

Low self-esteem shows in many women with troubled lives, especially from bad past experiences.

The self-worth of an individual is picked up when in the presence of other people.

The person feels less confident, and this allows them to go into another hiding corner. and not being able to stand up for themselves leaves them feeling alone.

When you want to speak the tongue becomes tied, so words are not spoken out that easily or loudly.

The feeling of not having enough, and being that popular person does get into the individual's mind.

It does allow for negative thoughts to affect the mind.

In this way, an individual can feel alone.

Low self-esteem starts at the beginning of the life of an individual, it starts from the day of birth.

When a child is born the mother takes her baby and nurtures that being until older.

During that time, the mother shows love attention, care, and interest in her baby's life.

In that way, the child grows to love and feel safe and sense the mother's touch.

The story goes back to the seventies in the following example:

A woman had a baby girl and she was not happy with her child.

From the first day of birth, up until later in life that woman always degraded her children, in the presence of others and when as a family together.

There was no sign of a loving family.

They argued with each other and tried to be better than others.

Somehow, they failed in each attempt.

They were not able to feel the love of their parents.

Their low self-esteem always left them feeling hopeless.

Their efforts were not good enough for their parents and had not been ever since their childhood years.

The important growing-up years made them feel insecure.

To feel less educated and made them look down on their achievements.

No matter how good their performances were at school grades they were not given a simple appraisal.

These children were often compared to other children in the same school, or to other family members who had better school grades.

The mother often scolded her kids and had no appraisal, no compliments on anything they had well-achieved results.

Low self-esteem kicked in more easily.

These children have grown up to be less confident and have low self-esteem.

Low self-esteem affects children when they are young and they grow into troubled adults the past always haunts them.

Socially that can be a wreck in their lives.

The individual does not build a steady relationship with low self-esteem.

Communication is poor and understanding each other becomes more of a problem in such cases.

How Low Self-esteem Affects Individuals in their daily routine.

In this family, the older daughter married and divorced within six months. She was not confident enough in her marriage or secure with her ex-husband.

The many arguments with her married partner had made her very unhappy.

She had constantly accused him of seeing someone else, or that he had cheated on her at some time or the other.

It caused their relationship to fall apart very quickly, and even I was surprised.

I could not believe she would go on like that with her partner treating him as nothing and a cheater.

She always felt he had someone better than her and he did not have anyone else but her in his life.

The poorly educated person had low self-esteem.

They were not familiar with how to appear in public and had not learned from their parents about the most important aspects of their lives.

The lack of love and happiness.

A child starts to pick up emotions or signals when with the mother.

If a parent praises their child for anything small that child would feel good about themselves immediately. It would bring new light to that child's life.

Only a parent can put their child on a pedestal nobody else can do that for your child.

If the parent ignores their child's efforts, then there is going to be a certain amount of insecurity in that child's mind.

It is not like people do not have insecure minds, gradually the child gets pushed over the edge and feels more than the average of insecure minds and grows up with low self-esteem.

Even in this modern time, most parents fail to see low self-esteem in their children.

It is said that such cases are still happening in many families.

Low self-esteem can make people feel less loved. Conversations are often ignored with such individuals, and children tend to feel insecure from their childhood years.

What bad affects your childhood leads to you having troubled adulthood.

The other members of the family are affected by your experiences.

Relationships are destroyed by low self-esteem acceptance is hard, self-doubt increases, and love is never enough to resolve the problem.

Do you have high self-esteem?

Did your parents love you enough to leave you with high self-esteem?

The worst-case scenario is often thought of first by a person with low self-esteem.

Negative thoughts often build up and getting on with a group of people is not the answer.

Going out to connect with friends becomes a thing of the past.

Not both partners can be the same and, in such cases, partners look at each other differently. They are underestimated by others or by themselves.

Any negative comment is highly effective to the person with low self-esteem and it can be most upsetting to the individual.

Instead of working together on their self-worth issues, they fall apart. Often the relationship goes down or ends up in a breakup.

This happens when one partner feels less loved by the other.

Individuals tend to focus on the hurt from the past.

In the process, the present is no longer the actual focus of their relationship.

The worst fear is their partner leaving them for another even when it is not the case.

They look for what would make them fear a situation and what would cause a problem.

There are no good qualities to help the person psychologically.

The girl who grew up with poorly educated parents and who led such a poor life and found her way to a low self-esteem way of life had lost her marriage and social life.

She wore her mask to avoid confrontation with others.

When she did not feel her mother's love her life went downhill. All she needed was to feel loved and to be loved but that did not come her way.

The tone of her mother's voice made her feel that way.

The behaviour of her mother showed her the unhappy life in her childhood.

She wanted reassurance from others to find out what she was missing in all those years of her life. Unfortunately, she did not find her answers from outside.

The actual problem was within her and with her upbringing.

The disappointment lies with such individuals, who constantly need reassurance and become needy with their own issues.

Relationships are not easily formed with others low self-esteem is in control of one’s mind.

Feeling less worthy, unloved, misunderstood, having painful experiences, defensive thoughts, and the blame is more than enough to hurt such individuals.

They tend to hold in feelings and look down on themselves more each day.

It is a chaotic lifestyle in trying to make something right for others.

To try to impress others to fit in and sometimes the ideas do not work out as planned.

Low self-esteem affects individuals in the smallest of conversations.

For example:

When asked a question the individual can become defensive when answering. They do expect to be degraded or criticized by others. It is how they live in denial and will not admit their wrongdoing.

They are afraid to be shouted at for something they did that might trigger an argument.

The individual is afraid of making a mistake and most observant of others in their behaviours, also of how others dress up.

When others have basic requirements, and they do not have such items are few observations that can make the individual feel at their lowest.

Rejection is another fear that clouds them from society.

Individuals can become angry and show aggressive behaviour if rejected by others.

Sometimes such individuals form a gang to feel good about themselves too can be asserted with violence towards innocent people.

Those with Low Self-esteem have no good thoughts they feel the need to perfect their lives to be successful, but this is approached with perfection.

Improve on your goals and meet up with your standard of life to feel good about yourself.

You do what you were taught and respond to it in certain ways that you think are helpful.

For example, the response can be abusive.

When one feels less worthy, one becomes less communicative and withdrawn at the same time.

Communication with people becomes a problem no one can encourage the individual to socialize with others.

The person feels there is not much to offer in a relationship, when in a group with co-workers, when at school, or other public places.

Fear has control of the once clear-thinking mind.

It is difficult to maintain relationships.

The lack of communication allows individuals to become withdrawn from society.

Fear of rejection and of admitting their faults is a crisis.

The lack of learning skills shows their disabilities.

Self-doubt.

Self-reflection.

Self-sabotage.

Dissatisfaction.

Promiscuity.

The less achieved.

The needy.

The overworked.

The false mask.

Self-loathing.

Self-consciousness.

Self-awareness.

In discussions, the individuals try to be part of a conversation and pretend to understand the whole concept of the conversation.

They do not want others to know their understanding is poor on a specific topic.

Their vulnerability allows them to show this type of behaviour.