How To Deal With Death And Emotions Afterward

DEALING WITH DEATH

Dealing with death can be extremely difficult. Overcoming the death of a loved one is never easy. How do you deal with death? Death, we can never be prepared, we all face death. At some point in your life, you are going to lose someone close. And eventually, we will all face death. Although death always occurs, there are a variety of different things that you can do to better prepare yourself.


Losing a loved one is difficult and presents many challenges. Emotions after death can be difficult, so we'll teach you different methods and exercises to help you begin healing after death. We will teach you how to deal with all the emotions that you are feeling in a healthy manner. You will also learn about suicidal behaviors after a death, just in case you or a loved one may be experiencing such emotions. This article is very beneficial and a must read if you have recently lost a loved one.









When someone you are close to passes, it can send a whirlwind of emotions upon you. It is important to deal with them in a healthy manner.
When someone you are close to passes, it can send a whirlwind of emotions upon you. It is important to deal with them in a healthy manner. | Source
Funerals may close the case on one's life, but it doesn't close the pain that is felt my survivors.
Funerals may close the case on one's life, but it doesn't close the pain that is felt my survivors. | Source

EMOTIONS OF DEATH

Death is something we will all face in due time. No matter what we do, try, and say, death will one day become a part of our life. Death is a part of life that no one wants to consider or think about. All of us have faced the pain of death or one day will. For those of us that have, it can bring on a whirlwind of emotions. We really never fully understand how it will make us feel until it occurs. We have to be prepared because these emotions can be dangerous and have everlasting effects on a person.

There is no way anyone can know how you feel. Everyone takes death in their own way and emotions from a death usually depends on the significance of the relationship between the deceased and the survivors. When you are personally close to someone who has passed away, it can be very painful. You may have lost a mother or father, brother or sister, grandparents, a cousin, a close friends, or even possibly a child. For those who have lost a child or someone from death, the emotional pain can affect the survivor physically, emotionally, and mentally. It can lead to depression and even suicidal thoughts. No one on this Earth wants to bury their child, but it does happen. How can you ever deal with the death of your child? The only way you can is by grieving and coping with your loss, but it doesn't always work. Losing a child is probably the most painful event a person can go through due to death. This is the most serious of all classifications of death.

I just want to go over the emotions when a survivor deals with the death of a child and the emotions brought on by sudden death. In such cases, natural death is probably not reached and a high percentage of such cases are brought on by a sudden tragic event and death by disease. When it comes to losing someone by disease, it is usually seen coming and it can be prepared for. The same thing can be said about death by natural causes. But if it is a quick disease or a tragic event, it can bring sudden emotions all at once and it can alter your thought process. This is very dangerous. Let's look at what can occur during sudden death.

  1. Suicidal thoughts: When someone feels all these emotions at once, they can become suicidal instantly. They can be rushed with anger and act out. It is just like losing anything you love, you never get it back. When a survivor comes to this conclusion, they can be a danger to themselves. This mostly occurs with a loss of a child. People in such a mind set should not be alone. It is different if they are coping. When you deal with death, we all do it on our own terms, which may include being alone. This is perfectly normal, but if a person is showing the signs, they shouldn't be alone. Here is what to look for.
  • Acting out in anger
  • Acting out in unusual ways
  • Talks about wanting to die
  • Suicidal tendencies, such as cutting themselves
  • Not wanting to grieve
  • Demands isolation



We all deal with sudden death on our own terms. Some people can handle the entire situation better then others. There is nothing easy about death. Depending on the relationship with the victim, some deaths will be more painful and emotional. None the less, we have to learn how to deal with all the emotions that are brought on by the sudden loss of life. An import thing to remember is "what is done is done". There is nothing you can do to change what has happened. Nothing. What is done is done. At times of death, I believe it is crucial to surround ourselves with close family and friends. You shouldn't be along at a time like this. When we are along, we tend to think about things more. Although being alone is a form of self healing to an extent, surround yourself with those you love and those who love you.


Death can also lead to depression. When someone falls into a state of depression brought on by death, they can be a danger to themselves. When this occurs, the person will act out beyond their normal character. Although this can be a normal part of the grieving process, it is a sign of depression. This is another reason that they should be surrounded by close family and friends. Although they may be isolated, you should try talking to them. This is a healthy way to grieve and it is very important to any survivor, whether they would admit it or not at the time. Make sure you talk to them in a positive way because any negative actions can lead the person to become a danger to you and themselves.


Natural death and death by disease are two forms of death that are not suddenly brought on, but can bring dangerous emotions that can lead to depression and suicidal thoughts. One difference between these and sudden death is that you are usually prepared for these types of death. Even so, it can hurt just as bad or even more. In such events, you may have stronger attachments to the victims. Natural death occurs when a person's body shuts down because of the natural process of aging. If they are married, this usually means they have spent many years with their partner. Being apart from someone that has been there for many years can be damaging to someone's emotions. They may feel alone, confused, scared, or become isolated. It is hard spending so much time with someone and then suddenly, they are gone. Spending a lot of years together, you create a lot of memories that can race through your head as you try to think out decisions and grieve at the same time. You may have had a sick parent or grandparent that has had cancer or any disease in general. They may have been given so much time left and you were aware from it. These two types of death can have similar effects as sudden death.


As I said before, death effects us all differently. No matter how the death occurs, it still is painful and it still can lead to dangerous levels of emotions. These emotions can hit us all at once and we can make poor choices or do things we never would have imagined. It is crucial that we recognize when we feel like this and find our way to cope with the events of death. Here are some helpful tips on how you may be able to grieve in healthy ways.

  • Looking at old photos
  • Talking about them
  • Recalling good memories
  • Wearing their belongings
  • Praying/Church
  • Finding a legit medium
  • Spending time with family and friends
  • Hobbies
  • Writing/Reading
  • Discussing how you feel





The 5 Steps Of Depression

  1. DENIAL
  2. ANGER
  3. DEPRESSION
  4. BARGAINING
  5. ACCEPTANCE





During the grieving process, it is important to do what is necessary to heal. One important thing to consider trying if your having trouble coping is getting away from your house. When you are first going through the grieving process, your house can easily remind you of the loss of life. If you are having a hard time dealing with this, try planning a vacation or try staying with family or friends. This is a natural occurrence to have because you have spent so many years of your life in that one area. When you are with someone for a long time, you build habits of doing things together. They can be specific items that remind you of them. If your having trouble coping, you may want to remove these items until the time is right. It will always be tough in the first days, weeks, and months. If you have continued troubles emotionally and mentally, you need to talk to a professional about the matter. It is normal to feel this way for a long duration. This includes any type of death. If you feel like your having trouble moving on, get the help you need. Here are some things that can be trigger points that cause continued grieving.



  • Personal items
  • Pictures
  • Certain activities
  • Certain friends
  • Specific areas
  • Special Events
  • Holidays
  • Birthdays




These items, events, and special occasions can be constant reminders of what is going on. They can have continued effects on us all. Whenever you are coping with your loss, it may be best to remove this stuff from your home and life. Don't be afraid to put them up or out of the way for the time being. In due time, if you wish too, you can bring these things back in our life.


For most people, the funeral services are not a closing chapter. It always takes time to grieve after the loss of a loved one, family or friend.This is a normal behavior in the griveing process. But, if months and years has passed and you are still have issues, you really need to seek the help of an expert. Death can also lead to your own medical problems. The trauma of the loss of a loved one can cause more severe effects on our bodies, especially if we leave it left untreated. It can also cause physical problems such as heart issues or complications. Learning how to properly heal is the key to moving on in a healthy manner.


The import thing to remember is death is part of life. One day, you will face it yourself. When dealing with the loss of a loved one, make sure you surround yourself with close family and friends. Make sure you cope with death in a healthy manner. Feeling a wave of emotions during death is normal, but watch out for the warning signs. The grief process can take some time. Allow enough time to remember, grieve, and let go. Just because your letting go of a loved one doesn't mean that you don't love them. When we are coping, we tend to be more negative then positive.


This may be the first death that you went through or you may know someone else that is having trouble dealing with death. For whatever reason, you have to grief in a healthy manner. It is normal to cry, feel pain, be sad, feel anger, get mad, or even throw things around. This is all normal in the first steps of the entire process. We only worry when this behavior and emotions continue to show later on down the road. If this is the case, you are having trouble letting go. This is very unhealthy to you and you should seek professional help. There is nothing wrong with talking to a certified psychiatrist. Absolutely nothing. And again, this is if this type of behavior continues past the death.


Another type that I haven't touched on if accidental death. I am referring to the death that you may feel was caused by you. The most known cause of accidental death is by a car accident. Even though what I mentioned earlier still applies to you, this type of death brings a whole new level of emotions, which include guilt. You may or may not be at fault. But no matter what, listen closely. Mistakes happen. We all make mistakes and accidents happen. This is an event that can affect you for the rest of your life. I do not mean to be graphic, but maybe you took the life of their child. Can you imagine how someone would feel if this happened? What kind of emotional state their mind would be in? It can be devastating to someone's health. In such cases, it truly is best to see a professional to talk about this. This is such an event that is not easily forgotten about or managed.

If this is you and you are suffering, please get help. People can't even begin to imagine how you feel, Not only do you hold guilt to the child, you hold it to the family and you hold it to yourself. If you are not grieving in a positive way, it can affect you later down the road. This is another important reason why it is crucial to communicate. More then likely, the victim's family will never speak to you again. But take note, this is just a normal reaction when someone important is took away. In events such as this, anger and even aggression is seen. Make sure you give them their space. You may show your gratitude, but nothing further.

Perhaps, you have lost someone by a car accident. Many people have lost loved ones by a drunk driver. Even so, unfortunately, accidents do happen and the grieving process may never end. But in return, guilt doesn't heal the heart, neither does pain. It is acceptance and forgiveness that heals the heart. Even though it may be the hardest thing for you to do at the time, you should try to mend all broken fences.

It is very unhealthy to keep all these emotions gather up inside. Communication is still key in this area as well. If you are not sure about a decision, talk to someone about it and make healthy choices. Of course, you have the ultimate decision over your choices. A situation as this is very difficult to get over. The scars can last for a lifetime. If you or someone you know is experiencing this, find immediate help.


In closing, remember, we all deal with death differently. Some may talk to family, while others go to do sporting activities. The main concept is to get your mind off the obvious. In doing so, we can find what works best for us and apply it to our situation. I truly hope you have found this article useful and beneficial. I pray you are watched over in your time of loss. If you know someone in this situation, be there for them in a positive way.

IT HAS TO BE ON YOUR OWN TERMS

These are the steps of grief in death.
These are the steps of grief in death. | Source
These are the 5 steps of depression.
These are the 5 steps of depression. | Source

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clintonb 5 years ago from Adelaide, Australia

Death surely leads to a lot of negativity..there is so much in the papers today. A very good hub.


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writer20 5 years ago from Southern Nevada

I think most of us have been through death in families for myself the 2 men in my family passed early.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Clintonb, thank you for your thoughtful comment. You are right and all these negative affects can be dangerous. Emotions such as anger and hate can very easily become second nature to someone who has lost a loved one.

Writer, thanks for coming by and adding a comment. So sorry about your losses.


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Cloverleaf 5 years ago from Calgary, AB, Canada

Hi thelyricwriter, the death of a loved one does affect people so differently. I agree that it's important not to bottle up our emotions. Saying goodbye is never easy to do. Thanks for sharing your perspective on how to communicate and heal, you are a great person :)


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anndavis25 5 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

It's all loss. I have seen people grieve over losing a pet more than a person. I have lost 4 brothers, two sisters, My mother and father, my husband, and a 12 year old son. None of it depressed me. It is part of life to lose. With each loss I gained more spiritualness. Each one of those souls belonged to God. They were only in body for me.

Lyric, I have seen your posts on other people's hubs, but this is the first hub I have seen of your posts. This was a well presented, and thouough.

Useful and up


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Mentalist acer 5 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

I think that a lot of people who lose loved ones think are a bit traumatized over the illusion that they'll have to forget their intimate memories of their loved one in order to live without them...this is not true.;)


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fucsia 5 years ago

You have made a great work in this Hub, exploring this difficult but always important argument.

I tried to do it too..


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

you have covered all arenas of how and why and what to do...great research!

I wish memories could get erased when a person passes away but, alas we got to deal with it.

It is on an individual's perspective of how he/she can tolerate that pain of separation and move on...you have mentioned all possible ways.

Voted up as useful


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b. Malin 5 years ago

A Wonderful Hub on Death and those left behind to grieve. I think the worst death is a Suicide... my family experienced this, when my Beautiful Niece took her life. It took years for my sister to come to terms with this and still...


SusieQ42 5 years ago

Unfortunately you are right. No one can escape death. We all pass on sometime. Hopefully each person will leave this world and go on to that home in the sky with our Lord Jesus! God bless. Great hub.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Cloverleaf, thsnk you for coming by my friend. Agreed, keeping all these emotions inside just makes it worse. I believe it is very important to communicate in someone that has been there before or someone who listens well.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Hey there Ann. Thanks for the comment, your time, and vote. Sorry for all you have lost. That is a lot. I can see you are strong because many people would have falled into a state of depression with so much tragedy. It all affects us differently though. Good talking to you.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Hey there Mentalist. That is a good point. Just because you want to heal and move on doesn't mean that you have to erase prior memories or take down all the pictures. They will always be within the soul, especially our partners that are lifelong. Well put and thanks for coming by.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Fucsia, thanks for coming by and for your comment and time. I tried to cover everything I could during research, but it is hard to pinpoint the way someone will feel cause we all take death in different ways.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Ruchira, thanks for stopping by and for your time, comment, and your vote. I tried my best to cover everything, but you just never know how it will affect you until it happens. Thanks a bunch for your thoughtful remarks and take care.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

B. Malin, so sorry my dear. You are right, for someone to feel like death is better then living, it really takes a lot of pain/anger/depression/ect. When sudden death occurs, we are left unfulfilled, left with questions, such as was there anything I could have done? Could I have stopped this? Agreed, it is a terrible and sad way to pass. Thanks for your input.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

SusieQ, thanks for coming by my dear. Oh, I await the day. No more tears, pain, and hurt. That will be a glorious day dear friend. Very well put. Thanks for your visit.


Sueswan 5 years ago

Hi thelyricwriter

This is a great hub.

We need to deal with death and grief in our way but we shouldn't be ashamed to seek professional help.

Our loves ones who left us would not want to see us suffering.

Voted up and awesome.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Thanks again for your time Sueswan. That is right. I agree, if it is prolong, don't be ashamed to seek help. It can be very unhealthy.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

The final parting is always the most difficult. Never would wish for anyone to go through what I had to go through. My dad died when I was 10 and he was cremated bec he wanted to be brought back and reburied in Latvia when the time was right. Mom and I came here and I had to carry my dad's urn in a second funeral for him as he was buried in the country in Ranka in the Vidzeme region of Latvia. My mom is buried there too now.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Hey there again Gypsy. That is an early age for someone to pass. So sorry for your loss. I can't say I have went through anything like that, but I did have a friend that did. I just remember her being sad. I know she eventually got over it, but I know she went through a rough time. It has to be hard losing your parents, really, your best friends through life in most cases.


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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring us. I should give more attention to this. Thanks to remind us about this and how to deal our emotions. You come up with solution. Goodbye depression! Rated up :-)

Prasetio


femmeflashpoint 5 years ago

lyric,

This is such a good piece of which the subject matter affects many, many people every single day. And, on the day it occurs and the days, weeks, months and years following ... it will still be affecting them in some form or another, whether it's a smile with a memory, or a tear.

I was talking with a friend a few weeks ago about my recent decision to "give up my desk" at the funeral home where I've worked for five years, and reduce my hours to per-diem only, while I work full time in another positon that has nothing to do with the death industry either medically or from the funeral services side. And, of course, while I write.

I noticed within less than a month that my mental state had improved greatly.

While my friend and I talked, I told him I had mixed emotions about my diminished hours in funeral service, and my non-existent hours in transplant recovery these days. I sometimes feel guilty and that I'm not doing my part.

Although most of my colleagues could leave the job(s) at the work place, I never managed to. Concern and grief clung to my heart whether I was working on either the decedent, or assisting the decedent's family, or whatever else of the many facets were happening when dealing with a transplant case or a funeral preparation.

My friend told me something that made me feel much better about my decision. He said that to his knowledge, even the dogs used in search and rescue must be cycled out for breaks every few months to ward off onset of depression d/t repeated exposure to death.

I believe we're supposed to grieve for a time when we've lost someone we care for, but I don't believe we were created to walk with it darkening our hearts day after day, year after year.

Being away from the industry has helped me a great deal, and I'm learning to not be upset with myself about taking a break from it for a while.

On the flip side of that, I think when death has little or not affect on a health care provider, or a mortician ... they perhaps shouldn't be doing what they're doing when their empathy is gone. A lack of it is far worse than having too much of it.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Prasetio, thanks for coming by my friend and your commeny and vote, You are so kind my friend. I have always enjoyed your articles. Thanks for everything:) Taje care.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Hey there Femme. Bless you for the comment. This is just another example of your big heart. It seems that you may have personal connections with many different people, even strangers at times. God has gave you this gift to use in your life. I didn't know you were in this profession. I would say it is a difficult job to deal with. All those emotions are bound yo eventually catch up.I really do appreciate your expertise Femme on this matter. Thanks for evertthing.


femmeflashpoint 5 years ago

Lyric,

So sorry I wrote a mini-novel in your comments section. Too little sleep and not enough coffee and it somehow got away from me, lol.


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Happyboomernurse 5 years ago from South Carolina

What a sensitive, compassionate, comprehensive hub about dealing with death and the intense bursts of grief that come after the death of a loved one. I like that you stressed how each person grieves in their own way and the tips you gave about recognizing when someone is literally trapped in grief and has become a danger to self or others.

When my Dad died at age 55 my Mom got stuck in grief for more than 5 years and I recognized the fact that she was suicidal and severely depressed and kept trying to get her into therapy but all she kept saying is, "Why should I see a therapist. No one can bring your father back and that's the only thing that could ever make me feel better."

I did manage to get her to agree to go for help several times but she'd stop after one or two visits. There's too much to write here, but eventually she did attempt to kill herself but called me in time so that I could call an ambulance. She survived her attempt and that was the turning point in her grief. She made a choice to "go on living without him" and to be "open to meeting others" (she'd been a total recluse until then) and started going to a local senior center and met a lovely man that she is still with 20 years later.

Thanks for sharing this important information with others. It's important to maintain communication and visits with someone who is shut down with grief and my doing so was probably the reason Mom did reach out to me when she attempted suicide.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Femme, not at all dear. I enjoyed reading your expertise. I love it when someone weighs in on the article, so I should be thanking you. We read over something and sometimes, are thoughts come alive and we write. As writers, this is just our normal reaction. I enjoyed your mini-novel Femme, no need to apologize for giving your advice. Take care.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

HBN, thanks for coming by and your thoughtful comment. Losing a child and losing a lifelong partner can cause deep depression. I thank you for sharing this story HBN so readers can see your expertise. Even the best of us can hit a roadblock by the loss of life. You stepped in and you saved her life HBN. No doubt in my mind. I highly regard you for being there for your mom as well. It is not an easy thing to do. Despite everything, I am glad she came out of it. Depression is very similar to addiction, you have to be close to rock bottom before you turn around. All of us love, feel, express things differently. Yes, you did great in her time of need HBN. I know this was hard to share so thank you. I am positive it will help others.


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Happyboomernurse 5 years ago from South Carolina

Thank YOU. I appreciate your tremendous compassion.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

You are most certainly welcome. I just read your remarkable story, very, very good by the way:) I have always been an emotional guy, nowhere near what guys usually are. My wife fell in love with me for that point and I have been able to help others because if it also. I just like helping people, putting a smile on someone's face. The world is far from perfect, but if everyone helped when needed, it would be close to perfect.


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homesteadbound 5 years ago from Texas

Losing someone you love is so hard. I think we even handle death differently depending on where we are emotionally when it happens. You handled this difficult subject very well. Thank you.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota

Excellent information on how to cope with the loss of a loved one. One really important thing I learned in my Master's program is that There is no time line on grieving as we all have our own way and time line and there is no shame in it.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Homesteadbound, thanks for coming by and your thoughtful comment. I wrote this article just a few days ago and today I found out a close friend of mine has passed a few months ago. Now I find myself following my own advice.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

MT, thanks for stopping by and for your sincere comment. That is a good point. Thanks for the expertise.


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homesteadbound 5 years ago from Texas

So sorry to hear of your loss. I will say a prayer for you and the family suffering the lose. Blessings to you and to them.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Your such a sweetheart Homesteadbound, and thank you. He was a good man, he truly was. One of a kind. He was in a lot of pain the last few years and he is off to a better place I am sure of. a good man like him finds his way to Heaven. Many thanks. The family needs it. Bless you homesteadbound and thank you from the bottom of my heart.


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Peggy W 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

My mother lost not only her parents and her in-laws as well as other friends and relatives, but both of her sons as well as her husband...and naturally with her now gone, I lost all of them as well. Grieving does take time and as you say, each of us does it in their own unique way. One of my brothers died at age 35, my dad at 55 and my other brother at 59. My dear mother made it to 83 when she died last year and I still miss her terribly. We were so very close! Thanks for this hub about the emotions and dealing with death. Belief in an afterlife truly helps!


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Cheryl J. 5 years ago from Houston, TX

Love your hub. Death is an emotional roller coaster. Time is the key to healing our loss. You have shared great attributes in healing our emotions and coping with our loss. Great hub and very inspiring.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Peggy, you sure have dealt with a full plate. So sorry. And you are right, they are in a better place now and that counts a lot. I am sure your mom stays close in all your many adventures. Take care, you're in my praires, and God Bless:)


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia Author

Cheryl, thank you for your time and comment. You are very thoughtful snd add great advice. It can be up and down, down and up. This is just part of the process. Take care.


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

Its so true that your house is a constant reminder of your loved one. Dealing with death is very difficult regardless of whether its natural or through a long standing disease process. The fact is that it hurts really bad when you lose someone you love.

Coping mechanisms are so important. Its also important like you said to handle depression and suicidal thoughts. These are very real concerns that we may sometimes forget about. Your hub was very thorough and reassuring.

I wish more people would share this hub. I am definitely sharing this hub as most people know someone who passed away or know someone who can find this information helpful. Its so true that we often feel so alone in times of grief. A little explanation and reassurance can go a long way.


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KrystalD 4 years ago from Los Angeles

This hub was helpful for me and I appreciate that jeyaramd shared it. Losing someone close to me was the hardest thing I faced and depression has come and gone as part of the healing process.

It is comforting to hear that my experience is not unusual. Thank you so much for taking the time to write something so useful and detailed.


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thelyricwriter 4 years ago from West Virginia Author

Jeyaramd, first, thank you for taking the time to read this article and for your kind words. I am so glad that you found this article helpful. Nothing makes me more happier then helping someone. Death touches us all. There are so many different links through death that can affect us emotionally and physically. When we are in such situations, we have to learn that the grief process is normal. It is ok to cry. It is ok to talk to someone. Whatever it takes to let go of your emotions, do it. It is when we hold those emotions in, that it becomes a real concern. It is ok to let go, you have too. It is very important to follow the steps. Dealing with death can lead to deep depression and that is what we don't want. I am really happy that you find meaning in this article and I pray it is helpful to you or whomever reads it. God Bless.

*KrystalD, thank you for taking the time to stop by. Krystal, you are not alone my dear. Understand, death is part of life, just as life is part of death. Eventually, we all go through it and we all face it. If you have on and off depression, I would suggest talking to someone to get to the bottom of your depression. It doesn't have to be a professional. I feel as though you may have kept a lot of emotions in since you experienced the death. Although one is gone right now, it doesn't mean you will never see them again. I am not a Christian, but I believe in God. There are legit mediums out there that may be able to establish a connection with you are your lost one. This ability is a gift from God. If you wish to go another way, you will feel much better talking and bringing everything you hold in out. Talk to a close loved one or friend. This is your first step. If there is anything I can do, I am but a message away. God Bless.


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Nichole Bentley 4 years ago from Medina, Ohio

This article is very thorough and well written! I lost my 89 year old grandmother last month. It was as sudden as death can be for an 89 year old, but I know how lucky I am to have had her in my life all of these years. While I am sad, I know how much she longed to be back with my grandfather, her husband of over 60 years. Thanks for a great article! It will, no doubt, help many.


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thelyricwriter 4 years ago from West Virginia Author

Nichole, thanks for taking the time to read this article. I am so sorry for your loss. Remembering the time you all spent together is a great way to remember her in a positive manner. They will now have that chance to be together once again. I am so happy that you look at this situation like that. May God watch over you during this difficult time.


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ubanichijioke 4 years ago from Lagos

Great article, very helpful and informative. Looking to loved ones in times of grief and sorrow can help alleviate the severity of the situation. Thank you


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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

The emotions you speak of are all too true......


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Type 1 Diabetes 4 years ago from Cheshire

Hi there. I lost my daughter the day before her 13th birthday during her sleep. I found that writing her story in her words helped me get my emotions out onto paper. I did all this 6 months after she left us and then didn't pick it up again until 12 days ago when I decided to publish it online rather than write a book. I don't want her ever to be forgotten. I am now using this feeling to get through it. This is a brilliant site. Babs. xx


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thelyricwriter 4 years ago from West Virginia Author

*Shiningirirsheyes, thanks for taking the time to view this and comment. Death is very emotional. So many things can happen and understanding those emotions are crucial to healing.

*Type 1 Diabetes, I am so sorry about your daughter. Writing your emotions, feelings, about your daughter, it helps in the healing. Knowing that you can keep her memory alive is important, beneficial. This is a great idea and I pray you heal from this. Best wishes Babs.


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Type 1 Diabetes 4 years ago from Cheshire

Thanks for that.

This is a great site.

Babs


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thelyricwriter 4 years ago from West Virginia Author

Babs, I am glad you like it. Most of all, I am touched that it has the possibility to help you in some way. That I highly value. I know you have been through a lot, more then one would know. Anyone can claim that they know, but until you have went through the same shoes, you just can't know. Babs, I truly wish you all the blessings in the world. With no offense taking, I am sure she is with you in spirit. As you said, this keeps her memory alive and we all get to learn about her. That is a gift in itself. Much appreciation, Ricky.


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katyzzz 4 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Death is a sad thing to experience, you've obviously struck a chord with this one


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epigramman 4 years ago

..it's been since 2004 that my 'last' family member died - she was my best friend who just happened to be my mum , as was my dad, who died back in 1992 and this year for some reason in 2012 is the first year in which I have felt very lonely - funny how time slips away (sings and writes Willie Nelson) and time does heal all wounds but memories always remain ....... thank you for once again putting such great intellectual and emotional 'food for thought' into your writing - lake erie time 12:54pm and sending good thoughts your way


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thelyricwriter 4 years ago from West Virginia Author

*Katyzzz, thanks for taking the time to drop by. I appreciate the read and visit. Take care.

*Epi, thanks for deciding to read this article. I am so so sorry. That is a long time to be without a family member, but I know for sure you have a big family here Epi:) I appreciate the comment dear friend. And remember, there are many of us that think the world of you Epi, so your never alone. I promise you that.


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Jack Hagan 17 months ago from New York

I have experienced the loss of a loved on and I must admit that dealing with the emotions of the family members of the deceased if not an easy task to do. However, the guidelines you shared can be a bit helpful for many people.

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