How To Deal With The Ups And Downs In Life

You Are Not Alone

Everyone in the world goes through good times and bad times in their life. The question is, "how to deal with the ups and downs in life?"

You are not alone when it comes to having ups and downs through your life. The problem sometimes is when someone gets to the point of being down in their life, many stay that way for some time and just live with it and become more miserable each day. There will be no change in your life unless you make the effort to change!

If you are feeling down and out and have some problems that may have come about, you need to try your hardest to think positive and change whatever negativity that is in your life now.

Things sometimes will get worse before they get better, so they say, but lets hope not right?

If you feel as if your life is down and out just take a look at other people's lives in our world.

  • So many people are handicapped or disabled.
  • Many people are so sick that they can't get out of bed.
  • Our Military men and women are overseas fighting for our freedom. They have witnessed death fighting for us, and some of their dear fellow soldiers dying in front them.
  • Some folks may have lost a family member or a dear friend in a car crash or any horrible accident.
  • Some people may have lost a limb and have to learn all over again just how to get around in life.
  • Many people will have financial problems.
  • One minute you have enough money to be comfortable, and before you know it something comes up, and now you are struggling to survive each day.

These are just a few things that will indeed get someones life down for sure, but I know many that were down in life and got back up to fight for their life and try to be up all the time.

Unfortunately, this is life, and there will be so many things that will bring ups and downs in your life as well as mine. We all need to learn how to turn that negative thing in our life to a positive one. Never give up and stay in that negative way of life. It will get better!



This Should Cheer You Up - The Beauty Of Life!

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Thinking Of The Above Statements I Made

See, if you think of what I mentioned above we really don't have it that bad do we?

Sometimes many of us have it so good in life, and when one little thing goes wrong and things start to look down in our life, we get depressed, down and out, and think our life is done and over. We must not think that and move on to make things better once more.

Many of us are very spoiled in life and that makes it even harder for those people when their world turns upside down. You need to get back on your feet and start to rebuild your life, and always remember other people may have it 100 times worse than you do as i spoke of earlier.

Learn to live with it, or do something to chance it when you feel down and nothing seems to be going right for you. Everything in life, I believe, can be fixed and made from a negative thing to a positive one, BUT you are the one that has to be positive and continue to have that positive attitude at all times in your life even though things are looking down at that moment in time.

Things will always get better if you have that faith and keep a positive attitude to make it happen.

Have You Ever Gone Through Ups And Downs In Your Life?

  • Yes, of course, but mostly ups in my life.
  • No, my life is pretty much on a even keel so far.
  • My life is full of downs all the time.
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What To Do when You Are Down In Life

Here is what I do, and think about when my life is on the down side. I know and keep telling myself, "this down in my life will not last." I will not let it last, it is just a temporary thing that I have to get through and move on to a better and up life once more.

Things will indeed get better and I am the one that has to make it happen and get better. I refuse to let this one thing get me down and keep me down. I must do what it takes to fixed this one small thing in my life, because as I said before, other people have it far worse than I do, so DON'T SWEAT the small stuff right?

Our Family Shore Home After Hurricane Sandy Hit

Demo of our childhood shore home.
Demo of our childhood shore home. | Source
Gone but Never will be forgotten.
Gone but Never will be forgotten. | Source
Here is the start of a new life and new home for my sister and her husband.
Here is the start of a new life and new home for my sister and her husband. | Source
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The home above was our family shore house since 1970 when my parents bought it. The home maybe gone, but the memories will last a lifetime.

The thing is, that everyone in life goes through ups and downs, and I am no different. It was a huge shock and disappointment to lose our family home because of a storm, but as I said, you have to move forward and make better for yourself and not just leave it be as is.

Although it is a material thing, and now gone, the memories will last a lifetime for my sister and I.

I just wanted to make a point that even I have ups and downs as well as everyone else in the world. No one has a perfect life, at least I have never met anyone yet.

So the big thing here, and the point I am trying to make, is that everyone will have ups and downs in life. It is part of life, but when you hit that low or feeling down and out, cheer up and think with that positive attitude and make the change necessary to get back up and start living again.

© 2013 Mark Bruno

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15 comments

lovedoctor926 3 years ago

There will be no change in life unless you make it happen. This is very true. much food for thought here. This is a hub worth revisiting. Thank you for sharing the before and after pics. It's good to hear that your sister and her husband are getting their lives back on track after Superstorm Sandy. voted up useful & awesome.


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HappyMikeWritter 3 years ago

Such an inspirational article. I feel down a lot and its a contain of my work life, personal life mixed with my personalities. It is very hard to stay up when you feel constantly down but your article has a great thoughts. Thank you for sharing


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MDavisatTIERS 3 years ago from Georgia

I have read and seen the photos, yet, I did not know anyone who personally suffered. Now I do, as I am getting to know you through your writing. Thank you for sharing the devestation, but more importantly, thank you for sharing the reality that there are still others less fortunate. Voted up. Marilyn


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Hi Mark, you know I read this hub last night, but I was actually thinking about this earlier in the morning. I knew I would come back and read this again. reason being is that we often complain about irrelevant things when they don't turn out as we expected them without realizing that we should be grateful because there are a lot more people in the world right now going through a lot worse than us. voted up & sharing.


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CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

Great Hub! I think the same way. This will pass soon. We have to hang in there when the going gets rough. We have to go through it to get on with it.


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Doc- Thanks for your comment and for coming back to re-read as well. I hope these words I write make people think. Sometimes we think we have it so bad and we really don't. There is always someone worse off they we are.

All the best to you my dear friend!! :)

Marilyn- Thank you so much for reading and your kind words. It is very nice to have met you as well. Thanks also for the Vote Up!

Doc -Thanks for coming back to read this. I really appreciate your comments and your friendship too. :)

CraftytotheCore - Thanks for reading and your comment. You are so right, sometimes we just have to go through the downs to really appreciate the ups when we get there.


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

HappyMikeWritter - Thanks for your comment and I am glad that this hub helped you some what. As I said in the hub, everyone has their ups and downs in life, but we can't let those downs in life keep us down forever. We need to think positive and make those downs in life turned to ups and smile and try our hardest to be happy. Life is too short to be down all the time. Make the best of each day :)


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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn.

What an amazing hub this is. I felt so good reading it. Your photos are so beautiful Mark.

Big ratings and sharing. Hugs~Audrey


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Audrey- So nice to hear from you my dear friend. Thank you so much for your kind words to me. That means so much and I truly appreciate it so much. I glad this hub made you feel good.. Thanks for the Vote up and the share as well.

Big HUGS to you too Audrey

Mark


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ChitrangadaSharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

This is a hub with so much positivity, very well written and conveying a very important message.

Most of us start feeling low and shattered, in case some terrible thing happens, just as you mentioned above. But it is the 'Inner strength' which makes us rebuild and we are again back to normalcy. In fact the 'downs' make us even stronger, I believe.

Thanks for sharing your experience here and motivating all of us.

Voted up!


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rdsparrowriter 3 years ago

I'm glad to read this and thank you for sharing your experiences. Yes we have to be grateful for what we have ... count our blessings and live one moment at a time and memories will last in the hearts of the loved ones. Voted up and awesome!


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IDONO 3 years ago from Akron Ohio

It's a fact of life that we all experience ups and downs. The duration and severity of ups and downs are almost exclusively dependent on how we choose to handle them. More times than not, bad times are more severe and last longer because we tend to find self pity as an easier way to handle or put off a situation that otherwise could be handled much better if we face it head on.

The first thing I do is read and apply the Serenity prayer. If the issue is something I can change, I try to change it to the best of my ability. Those changes have to be inside of myself. If it's something that I cannot change, then I have to accept it. By accepting something, it opens the door to live with a situation with the least amount of resistance. In other words, make the best of a bad situation.

Then, I evaluate whether I can do anything, at this very moment, to resolve the situation. If not, I move on. I know I will eventually have to come back to it, but between now and then, it's nothing more than a waste of time and energy that could be better spent on positive things.

We spend more time, banging our heads on the wall, accomplishing nothing, that only makes the problem seem worse and to consume our whole day, week , month and for some, their whole life. We have to live in the now. We have to handle what is right in front of us instead of what's 5 miles away.

At the end of a day, I compare what bad actually happened that day to what actually happened good that day. I don't look at what may or may not happen tomorrow or the next day. Predictions don't usually come true anyway. 95% of the things we worry about, never happen. That's proven. I have found that when I add it all up, just about everyday, is a pretty good day. That's that one day at a time mentality. It works.

Then, I check myself in the sense of gratitude. In other words, I appreciate what I do have rather than to be depressed about what I don't have. That is the feeling I get when I read your descriptions of people worse off than we are. Everything, small or large, tangible or intangible, is a blessing, not an entitlement. Life owes us nothing. The more we are reminded of that, the better off we are.

Thank You


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

ChitrangadaSharan- Thank you for commenting and your kind words. You are so right. Sometimes our downs in life do make us a stronger person.

God Bless,

Mark


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

rdsparrowriter - Thank you so much for reading and your comment. I hope this helps realize there will always be ups and downs in life, but any of us can and will get through them and move on.

IDONO - Thanks so much for an awesome and great comment. You are so right in many things you have said in this comment and I too will keep them in my mind when I feel down and out.

I do apologize for the long delay in my reply to your comment. All the best to you and thanks again for reading.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

This hub really does make you think. Several years ago, a good friend of mine and her husband had traveled to NY for the Christmas holidays. That same day, my friend's dad called her to tell her that they were involved in a car accident and that his wife, her mom was getting air lifted to the trauma center. The hotel gave her a refund for that day and next morning she got on the plane and came down to Miami. Her mother passed away and a year later, her dad died of Parkinson's. So I always think of other people who have it worse than me. At least, I am healthy, in good shape I think, lol and have a roof over my head oh and financially stable too. I shouldn't be complaining, but we do take things for granted at times. Thank you for sharing this gem. voted up useful.

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