How To Prevent a Suicide

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Suicides are always an issue nowadays. One often wonders how deep-set must be the state of depression and helplessness that leads a person to walk that thin line. We know there is hope though.

This is a serious matter, and we will try to make our best to give a resourceful advice.

By the numbers.

Every 40 seconds a person decides to exit world. This is an staggering number that completely surpasses the death caused by war and homicides altogether. There is no doubt whatsoever that our young generations are taking life in their own hands literally. Sad enough social services are not having enough resources to reduce the rate of suicides in our own Country.

Shortage of subsides in health care and cuts in Insurance payoffs have diminished preventive measurements against this delicate issue.

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Coping with suicidal thoughts

These are general live savers that can apply for the person you care about

  1. Make them feel that they are not alone. 1 in 6 will go through this all their lives.
  2. They are not weak, flaw or going simply crazy. explain to them that sharing the pain will help them to spread the load of guiltiness. Make their days with a smile.
  3. Hope is out there, and we've got to be in contact with them continuously

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On the Hospital

Ask the doctor how efective can be to bring a pet to get involved in their healing. Some hospitals keep a follow up program after being release. The first week is importan in preventing a pending 'dangerous' thought. Statistics show that the rate of suicide is higher among persons that went home and never were asked to come back for a follow up evaluation.

Fact: Premature born people are more likely to take their lives when older, regardless of weight and health.~~ScientificAmerican.com

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lifestyles changes that can save a life

Most depressive people are prone to take that awful step, but we can prevent it or stop it. Here are the basic steps, which you can adapt it to your own style, and timing of course:

  • Make sure you take a walk away from the House. Fresh air, like the Sun helps you to boost that energy. Your body was made to move and feel..!
  • If there are animals around make them part of the therapy. Make them feel important. That's the key.
  • Same as said before, surrounding the depressed person with children and their contagious smile, can create some antibodies and of course the desire to continue with their regular expectations in their lives
  • This is important for the drug abuser; is important to join the whole family in the process of healing because the stigma from society falls on them like the black death from bygone times.
  • Women go through hormonal changes, so they need patience and care.
  • Hobbies, long trip destinations and unexpected visits to cheer them up is crucial
  • Shopping sprees and gifts that can be useful, activate their brains and make them feel wanted. We all need surprises.

If you think you need help right now, please call for help!
Call 1-800-273-TALK or visit Befrienders Worldwide to find a helpline in your country. Or talk to someone you trust and let them know how bad things are.


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iamaudraleigh 4 years ago

Thank you for writing this :)


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Lord....excellent hub....you are so right..so many of our young people are commiting suicide...it is so very sad...God bless you for writing this....I voted way up....debbie


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

Great hub. Such ones are so needed because there is so much depression in the world.

I liked all except using children to help the suicidal. I can see children being of help in some cases like a visitation to a medical facility with good supervision, but a depressed person could be a danger to noisy children. Children could cause more depression and upset. Depressed people often hate noise. Children are not safe around anyone who is capable of taking his/her own life. Suicide is self murder, and I would not mix children with that. That is just my opinion.

Aside from my exception, this is useful information! I voted up, useful, and interesting.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

ImaudraLeigh, Debbie and LevertisSteel,

Help is out there; living in this world with this kind of life...make us vulnerable and at time uncapable to recognize the problem ourselves. Fear of failure and shame makes these people hold everything inside. I agree with you Levertis, children should be supervised, when they are around too long. Have a nice Friday, and weekend too!

LORD


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Dave Mathews 4 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

lord de cross: I have been down the road of desperation twice in my life, and twice God pulled me back.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain

Every 40 seconds ??????

This sounds so horrendous, I thought I had misread it at 1st.

Your hub was really helpful . I have dealt with a suicidal friend for years. it´s not easy. Everything you wrote here is really good advice. I hope it saves someone.

Well done and thank you.


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

Having the phone number their is the best thing about this hub. I hope that people who are contemplating this act give them a call. Voting this Up and Useful.


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DeborahNeyens 4 years ago from Iowa

Excellent hub. Locally there have been several recent suicides by young people. I can't even comprehend how a 12-year-old can choose to end his life.


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

I had some suicidal thoughts myself when I was younger, but only when the situation was so bad that I had no energy to get out of bed by then. It takes energy to plan and carry out a plan when you live with other people who know you are on the brink of it. I also have a gag reflex that makes it impossible for me to swallow a bottle of pills. I need to look after my cat. The worst thing that can happen to a person is to outlive your child and I won't do that to my parents. I take medication. I avoid cyber-bullies by blocking them. I write rants and publish them -often making people very angry with me and accusing me of being a psycho (their words) - to let off steam. I write them too because the readers are not related to the problem, are just people I know online, and can often see something I cannot.

I have had a few people I know personally commit suicide, not just young. Most recently, an alcoholic who was 49.

You manage.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Interesting revelation of yours Dave Mathews! We also can get on those stages in our lives, if we do not look for help. Thanks for your insightful thought for pondering.

LORD


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear LORD,

I have way too much experience sadly with this issue, having been a psychiatric nurse for now close to 30 years.

I commend you so much for taking on this subject with such practical interventions and suggestions that we all can do with those we love. Your work is well researched and written. Voted UP & UI.

Regarding one of the comments above, one of the saddest cases I ever worked with was a grieving Mom whose 3yo child had intentionally jumped out of his bedroom window to his death. The impetus was the death of his Dad (her husband). This is incomprehensible to me.

One principle I have seen several times is the phenomena of a suicide 'right after seemingly feeling so much better'. The person in a way, seems to get their house in order, giving things of worth away, feeling at peace and their loved ones are even more shocked... So please, keep an even sharper eye if you see your loved one acting out of the ordinary in a dramatically happier manner. And please don't be afraid to be direct, talk about it, suicide is not a dirty word. It's just a really sad word that leaves a world of devastation behind.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Hi, DIM F.

Yes every 44 seconds count. people on drugs, or who lost a job, or a deppresive person. They have that second thought about life. You know it better. Thanks!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Hi there Alocsin,

Yes! The toll free-number is there to call. We recommend our friends in that terrible situation to call and reach for help.

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Oh my God Deborah Neyens,

These kids should've looked for help. A church, a Hospital, the Police. Or best of all 911. We as society are willing to help. Hope they can read us too!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Flora Breen.

Sure your cat is the main reason for you to stay focus. Lucky you that even though you had the thought, your family was around. But your 'plan' was in the making. So... this show to people that this issue is not a joke. Mind is a terrible companion.

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Hi Marcojour,

The kid that jumped to his death after knowing that his father died...did what roman women, Spartans, greek, Russian, Indians and so many in history did, after knowing that, after their loved ones were gone...the only way out they knew was to depart as well. Deppresion can be a silent killer as well, and we shouldn't look the other way.

LORD


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Great hub on a sad and tragic topic. I didn't realize that those born premature were more prone to suicide. Interesting! You have done a wonderful service here. Great job!


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Phyllis Doyle 4 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

Lord, hubs like this are so needed at any time. It is so very important that all are aware of the alarming rate of suicides and how to help prevent them.

Hails to you for stepping forward and opening others to discussions and awareness on the sad issue.

Thank you, Kind Sir.


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

I often wonder how many people actually read the comments of those already left before they comment. I see Marcojour does.


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tsmog 4 years ago from Escondido, CA

Hard to comment on this subject, yet wanted to say I appreciate the information offered, especially the phone number and site recommendation.


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Phyllis Doyle 4 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

I like to read all the comments, especially on a hub like this, for it gives the thoughts of other people and their experiences with the issue. This brings us even more awareness of the subject.

Lord, I shared this hub on my facebook account. Many years ago I was part of a counseling group that worked with teenagers who had drug addictions. Out of a group of 20 teens, two of them committed suicide -- they were the ones whose families did not always show up.


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

Phyllis: Yes I do too.


kelleyward 4 years ago

Voted up and SHARED on Facebook! Great info here!


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Thank you ladies for your invaluable comments. What is that mostly women..65% commenters on this delicate issue, are females; maybe they can relate? More sensitiveness? Are we seeing a pattern of extra concern? This is a good question for the ladies. We hope this article can reach to so many. Help is out there, and you are not alone. This is the worst plague in the history of human kind. Glad to see here interesting, respectable and well informed hubber friends. Happy hubbing!

LORD


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denkmuskel 4 years ago from Berlin

Just last week-end I had a chat on facebook with an acquaintance that I've met only once before but we liked eachother on first sight. She was quite drunk and didn't want to speak, although I insisted. I knew my voice would calm her down. She said she wasn't sure she was going to make it to the next day. She recently lost her job, is a bit difficult and everybody around her is having a partner and becoming pregnant. That nagged on her pretty hard. I shared her experience that life doesn't seem to make sense and that people like her and me are mostly alone and might never have what all the others find but in that there is a beauty, I told her. If it doesn't make sense, then we are free to create our own lifes the way we want it. Of course there are limits, but that wasn't important then. Short: I sympathized and acknowledged her impression of life, the universe and everything as I have gone through that myself although with no suicidal thoughts. She fell asleep on the floor and wrote me a thanks you note when she woke up. I haven't heard from her since but she's doing "fine". Thanks to facebook I know. Just wanted to share it with you.


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Phyllis Doyle 4 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

Lord, those are interesting and thought provoking questions about us women commentators. Right now I do not have a good answer as to why there are more women than men commenting on this subject -- yet, I think it is a good thing to discuss.

Myself, I commented because I have worked with the elderly in a convalescent hospital when I was 18. I worked the graveyard shift and that is when most of the dying patients would leave us. I would hold the hand of an elderly man or woman and pray for them as they slipped away.

Then I was in that counseling group of teenagers and helped to keep them lifted up and give them support and hope.

I think one answer to your question may be that it is often easier for women to share their thoughts on sensitive issues like this.


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

And yet, it isn't as if males don't commit suicide just as much as women do. One of the larger groups out there are old white straight men who are suddenly no longer the "favoured" group. Another group is young Native American males whose lives have little stability.


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Phyllis Doyle 4 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

You are right, Flora. Young Native Americans are at high risk for suicide due to their way of life. It is so difficult for them to follow their traditions, stay true to their heritage and culture and also try to blend in with the outside society, public schools, and different laws outside the reservations.

I wrote an article about this very issue about five years ago and it is not getting any better for the youth of Native American tribes. There are organizations that try to help them, but there just is not enough financing for more help.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Phyllis and Flora,

Now we are touching a very delicate issue; Native young americans. Did Pocahontas made a mistake? Or Jamestown made it throught that winter of 1607, due to forgiveness and redemption. I know a lot abuout this issue, I have some native indian in my blood and I've seen atrocities, against this cultures. Even in movies, they are represented by fair skinned actors. Financial unestability ignites the thought of giving up on themselves and on an... unjust society.

LORD


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Phyllis Doyle 4 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

Lord, since the time of first European contact there has been a huge injustice done to the first peoples of this nation. They are a proud and noble people and deserve far better treatment than what they have received.

It has been my dream since I can remember to become One with our Native American brothers and sisters and walk beside them, stand with them for the future of our youth.

I will see if I can get my article taken down on the other site so I can submit it here on HubPages.

I thank you again, Lord, for bringing up this subject. It is not just Native American youth, it is people of all ages and from all cultures -- and it is past time that society stands up to do something about it.

One of my tasks in life is Spiritual Coaching and I have spoken with several people who call or write to me for help when they are in a place where they feel totally helpless and depressed. It is a joy beyond explanation when I can help someone stand up and go forth with hope and love in their hearts.


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

No, I did not mean that at all. I was pointing out statistics. I will kick people out of my house for stereotyping any group of all. . I majored in Psychology and the issue of Natives here in Fraser Valley is that they keep getting encroached on their lands, they keep losing their rights, and that is why. Not their way of life, but the way they have been treated by us.

You see you have two continuums. One is who you are throughout time. And one is who you are in different situations at this point in time. For whatever reasons, these continuums have many changes in Natives.

But since you point out that you have Native blood yourself, I would like to take the time to point out that I am a melting pot of ethnicity myself.


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

One thing I would like your readers to read. It is a hub by another person. I particularly want people to read my response to it. I am tired of my cyber-bullies, one of which responded on this hub talking about me. I want them to know that I am no longer suicidal, but that I was at one time.

This is dedicated to Tammy, Carolee, and Linda all of whom I've blocked on Facebook:

http://hubpages.com/politics/Is-the-Media-Glamoriz...


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

That should read Tammy via Caralee, since Carolee herself wasn't the problem.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Phyllis Doyle,

This porblem is affecting all the races, with no special reason. As soon as these persons lose a job, or feel relegated from the social structure, deppresion takes hold of their lives.

Flora,

I really don't comprehend this personal issues, that should be relegated to the forums. We all know that the true will set us free. Don't get me wrong. Statistics show that premature born babies are prone to commit suicide on a later time in their lives. This fact, Was written without thinking in any one in particular. Hope you have a rewarding week.

LORD

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