How To Take That First Step Towards Sobriety

OUR FIRST STEP

Remember when we were babies and we laid in that crib so still and over time we started to crawl everywhere? As months passed we got a little braver and tried to stand holding on to coffee tables, chairs and anything to steady us while we tried standing.

Then the time came, the time our parents have been waiting for and wondering when we would take that first step. Some of us, it may have taken months or possibly a year or so to take that first step.

We, even as babies, had the determination and the desire to be able to walk. Our parents held our little hands and assisted us as we took one step at a time, slow but sure, until we got the gist of the sequence of steps and the balance of our little bodies.

I know we don't remember our first step, but I wonder what we thought when we had taken that first step in our life all on our own? We must of been so proud and excited of our accomplishment to be able to walk on our own with no holding on to tables or chairs and no one assisting us in our steps.

FIRST STEP TO SOBRIETY

This brings me to my main point of this hub and that is how to take that first step towards sobriety.

The alcoholic is set in his/her own little world, the world of alcohol addiction. They are so used to the way they live, they really don't remember how life was being clean and sober and living in the world of sobriety.

I can say this because, one time in my life I had the unpleasant experience of alcohol addiction. I know by my experiences with alcohol and the way I lived my life, every alcoholic more than likely thinks as I thought, and that was, there is no way out, I'm addicted and I never be able to become clean and sober.

Well, I must tell you that there is a way out, but you will have to do some work in order to escape from your addiction just as we did much work to learn to walk as babies.

As babies we took the hardest step of our lives and that was our first step. We were only babies and were able to take that first step, so why as adults we are having a hard time taking that first step towards sobriety? I'm sure if we had that determination and desire we had as babies to walk on our own, we as adults now can indeed take our first step to sobriety.

What do you say?  Do you want to give sobriety a chance and start living a clean and sober life again?  If so, I'll explain to you just how I did the unthinkable in my life and how I took that first step to my sobriety.


JUST SAY NO!

THINK LONG AND HARD

POSITIVE THOUGHTS

TIME TO CALL IT QUITS

When I finally got sick and tired, of being sick and tired, I decided that enough was enough and I had take action and change my life, as you should , if you think you have a problem with drinking alcohol.

NOTE: I don't want to sound like I am totally against drinking alcohol, because I'm not. I had lots of fun drinking alcohol and then, not so much fun too. My problem, as many alcoholics have, is that I didn't know when to stop. i couldn't be just a social drinker or that special occasion drinker. I need to drink alcohol everyday or my day wouldn't be complete, sad to say. Many of us alcoholics can't just have one or two drinks and walk away and say no more. That's why we are called alcoholics in my opinion. I'm not a expert on cures for alcoholism and I'm certainly not a Doctor or a Therapist, but I'm an expert on telling you that alcohol can and will run and ruin your life if you let it. It can grab hold of you and it will not let go until you surrender to it, get out of denial and get help to regain you life back.

THESE ARE A FEW IDEAS THAT MAY HELP YOU ACHIEVE SOBRIETY. IT WORKED FOR ME AND HOPEFULLY IF YOU PUT YOUR HEART AND SOUL INTO GETTING CLEAN AND SOBER IT MAY WORK FOR YOU AS WELL.

  1. I looked at my life (being sober while doing so) and looked at my family life and saw it wasn't the way I wanted to live the rest of my life.
  2. I saw the look on my families faces while I drank alcohol. The look of discuss, the look of being sad, the look of love and the look of worry about me and my alcohol addiction.
  3. When you love someone with all your heart and see their faces being sad and worried about you makes one think of what you will lose if you continue this horrible addicted life you now lead.
  4. I have to stop I sad to myself. My family means so much more than a addicted liquid in a bottle.
  5. I made up my mind to surrender and was very excited to inform my family and friends of my decision to stop drinking alcohol. Just saying that, if you truly want to quit drinking will give you the inspiration to take that first step towards sobriety.
  6. Started to live with a positive attitude in everything in my life. No more negative thoughts.
  7. I started to think of all the different things I may now do with my family all being sober. It excited me to no end. I can now be able to enjoy my family and my life being sober.
  8. By thinking this way, it certainly helps in your decision to become sober, at least it did for me.
  9. When you have decided to surrender to your addiction and start your new life, the first step is to admit and surrender, followed by promising yourself that you will never be able to pick up another alcohol drink again. (This was the hardest thing for me and I'm sure it will be for anyone that wants to get clean and sober.)
  10. This is a very important step, because I know myself and if I were to have just one drink I know I would go right back to my old ways of drinking everyday. So, if you don't have that first drink then you are on your way to alcohol recovery and your new life.

11. YOU CAN NOT TAKE THAT FIRST DRINK! VERY VERY IMPORTANT!

i HOPE THESE FEW FIRST STEPS TOWARDS SOBRIETY HELPS YOU REALIZE THAT THERE IS LIFE AFTER AND ADDICTION.  i DID IT, AND YOU CAN TOO, YOU JUST HAVE TO WANT IT AND NEVER LET ANYTHING OR ANYBODY GET IN YOUR WAY TO ACHIEVING YOUR SOBRIETY.





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vik482 5 years ago

Dr. Vernon Johnson is one of the pioneers of intervention, where the close family and friends of the addict come forward to help the addict realize that he has a substance abuse problem and undergo. Dr Johnson said "It is a myth that [the chemically dependent] have some spontaneous insight and then seek treatment. Victims of this disease do not submit to treatment out of spontaneous insight – typically, in our experience they come to their recognition scenes through a buildup of crises that crash through their almost impenetrable defense systems. They are forced to seek help; and when they don’t, they perish miserably." Realizing an addiction problem by oneself is admirable but not reliable enough like family intervention.


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Mighty Mom 4 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

Hello TCL,

Your hub popped up as I was answering a question about addiction. Thought I'd stop and say hello.

You are one of the lucky ones (and you are not alone in this) who was able to have your own moment of clarity. Some people are able to break through the denial and take action. You are so right the first action is SURRENDER.

Many, many more, however, are too far gone to have their own moment of clarity. I read with interest vik482's comment. Unfortunately, intervention doesn't always work, either. The family can back away from any further enabling behavior and give the alcoholic a "false bottom" of sorts. But until the primary sufferer (the drunk) is ready to surrender and do the work they have to do, they will not get or stay sober.

Sorry to be such a downer.

I'm grateful that I understand this disease and grateful that there are so many of "us" here on HP to share our experience, strength, and HOPE for other sufferers.

I'm always thrilled to read other people's words of personal wisdom.

Cheers, my friend. MM


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Mighty Mom, it is so great to see you and very thankful for commenting on this hub. I am truly lucky for sure. I was given a second chance in life :) 2 years and 3 months for me clean and sober. I feel so great and writing here on HP and my blog,"the clean life" helps keep me sober because it is my therapy knowing I just may help someone in the world find their sobriety through my writing. That is my hope. And once again so nice to hear from you :)


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Mighty Mom 4 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

You are very special to me, my friend. Keep up the great work. I love the idea of a sobriety blog. What a positive way to spread the message!!

The world is full of miracles. Feeling very, very blessed right now.

2 years and 3 months. I will be 8 on 3/25.

But who's counting, right?

xxoo


FutureDrKate 4 years ago

Great Hub and congrats on getting sober!


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

FutureDrKate, It is nice to meet you and thank you for your kind comment.


Lillminx 4 years ago

Drink is worse than any class A Drug..Yet it's legal...!!!!!!! Crazy.


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Lillminx Thank you fro reading and commenting on this, You are so right it is worse and it is legal. Can't figure that one out, Plus all the deaths by auto that involved drinking and driving!

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