How do you say good bye

November 2010, My mom's 70th birthday!
November 2010, My mom's 70th birthday!

for my mom

You've been sick for quite a while

yet for me you still always smile.

You lost your voice that dreadfull day

yet for me I understand all that you say.

You fought with courage for what was in store

yet for me I learn a whole lot more.

You taught me not to worry about tomorrow

after all I am a Tondreau!

The woman in this family

stand for their strength and generosity.

When faced with strife, worry or grief,

know this, it's usually brief.

You have raised me to be sassy and smart

a gift from you that came from the heart.

You loved me hard and tough some time,

But you always had my best interest in mind.

But now my heart is filled with sorrow,

for soon we won't have anymore tomorrow's.

How will I ever say good bye to you?

This i don't think I'll be able to do.

But it is not for me to decide

for now I will sit her at your side.

I will stroke your hair and caress your face,

until god takes you from this place.

I'll tell you I will see you again some day,

these are the only words I can bring myself to say.









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Admiral_Joraxx 4 years ago from Philippines

Goodbye is the saddest word to say, specially to people ever dearest to you. This hub shares a lot of great memories. it's sad but beautiful. =)


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MissDoolittle 4 years ago from Sussex, UK

That was beautiful and I'm sure your mom is proud of you. I understand you here, and the memories you shared here were lovely.

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suzettenaples 4 years ago from Taos, NM

Beautiful poem of your mother. Both of you were fortunate to have one another. I enjoyed reading this.


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girishpuri 3 years ago from NCR , INDIA

sad but beautiful, i like it, God bless you.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you! It's been a little over a year since she has passed and yet it sometimes feels like yesterday! But she's an angel now and on occasion she leaves me feathers to let me know she is near.


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thost 3 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

Sad and beautiful poem that celebrates your sincere love for a loving mother. Brave and proud to show the world. Thank you for sharing.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you!


DJ Anderson 3 years ago

wildove5, your poem is beautiful. I, too, lost my Mother with ever increasingly destructive strokes. Her first stroke took her speech and her cognitive thinking. I generally could read her mind, so she enjoyed being with me. The dynamics had changed--I the parent, she--the child. She passed away in 2001. I miss her every day of my life. There is no getting over the death of someone so dear. We only learn to move on.

Thank you for this heart felt poem.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

We have a lot in common, I too was the one who understood her the most. It even scared me at times at how well I knew what she needed or wanted to say. We never get over it, just through it! Thanks for the kind words!


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

That was lovely my new friend. I held my dad as he died; held my mom as she died. Beautiful moments now that I look back, but oh so hard at the time. :)


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I undertand how you feel, it was hard to let go, yet somewhat magical watching them leave. You could feel love all around us in my mothers room as she passed. Thanks for the kind words.


Joanne M Olivieri 3 years ago

So poignant, powerful and just heart wrenching. Your love for her can be felt in each of your words. I am truly touched by this and I hope you have found peace.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I miss her terribly, but feel her around me all the time, this brings me great comfort. A mothers love never ends, not even with death. Thank you for the kind words.


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kj force 3 years ago from Florida

wildove5..My sympathies for your loss..I just left a comment on your hub regarding your Mothers's issue with medicare...you will feel her presence as long as you allow it..

My Dad and I had an extremely close bond..( considering the era ) he has been gone for over 30 years and I still sit in my " weed " garden and visit with him..

I did a hub called " Untucked shirt " about my Dad..hope you will check it out...

Extremely good write...thanks for sharing such a personal experience...


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Kj, I can't find it, it only lists the last 16 hubs you wrote, I clicked on all but it just reloads the same ones. I'd really like to read it, can you send me the link? Wildove5@yahoo.com. Ty


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lrc7815 3 years ago from Central Virginia

Oh this one brought me tears. I know this fear so well. It helps me to remember that there are many things in life that are worse than death and one of them is living in a diseased body or mind that no longer sustains us. One, many years ago, my friend's father died. She was very close to her father and I did not know how she could go on without him. At the funeral, I noticed her strength and I asked her how she was finding so much courage. Her answer was this - "I am strong because he would want me to be and, because I am of his flesh and he was strong. He will always live in me." I have held on to those words, knowing the day would come when they would serve me. It seems you could easily repeat them as it is clear that your dear Mom lives within you.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

You gave me goose bumps. Several people have told me that my mom lives within me, that she is part of my soul, including my father. It amazes me that someone who barely knows me can recognize it in a poem. The strength I have is definitely hers. She was the strongest person I ever knew! I think some of the strength comes from knowing where she is and what she's doing. She sends me feathers, she drives with me in the jeep she never wanted me to buy "because they flip over!" She's my co-pilot. I feel her around me all the time. I believe that in death a parents love doesn't end, our parents never left us alone here on earth so why would they in death? lol Besides I find great comfort in knowing I have a real bunch of kick ass guardian angels watching over me! The Tondreau woman; my mom, grandmother and two Aunts. " Tondreau woman are tuff, when most others tell god they can't take anymore, we say, bring it on!" One more thing, when that day comes you will feel as if your breath has been kicked out of you, those first few moments leave you gasping, then the emotions come storming in. But, it will pass quickly, tears will be replaced with stories, of good times, funny times, you will heal. Because you have to; honor your mother and father.


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lrc7815 3 years ago from Central Virginia

What a gift your reply has been to me. I will carry your words in my heart and hold them close when my time comes to say that goodbye. Thank you sooooooo much. You are very wise and I know your Mom is super proud of the woman you became. FYI - I drive a Jeep too that my Mom didn't want me to buy. lol


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Ok, now your just messing with me!!!! LOL


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ahorseback 3 years ago

When all those worrys of final goodbyes are over ,we finally find a place that lets us realize that those we love are never far from our side ! I believe they are there at our side with a hand on our shoulder guiding us at every moment of our life . Thank you for sharing "Mom" with us .....Ed


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you Ed, My mother is a kick ass guardian angel with the most beautiful wings, she never leaves our sides.


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kashmir56 3 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi wildove5, very beautifully written poem, I've had to say good-bye to my mom and dad and held each has they passed to the next life. And has you said in the above comment you end up with a awesome(kick ass) guardian angel . Well done !

Vote up and more !!!


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you Kashmir, I can't imagine loosing my Dad too! Mom was bad enough! Yet knowing I have an awesome angel in my corner warms my heart!


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gaplumber 3 years ago

Good Morning, finally read it, I'm sorry too, damn it. I feel your pain love.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thanks plumber, that was a rough one, I wrote this just a day or two before she passed. I just realized I've written quite a bit about her illness and passing, but not much of her living and laughing,,,,,ut oh.....I feel a poem coming on....thanks for stopping by ' scottie'

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