How to Get Out of Depression

Depression is the great disease of our age, our generation with no war to fight, fighting for their will to live. There comes a time that everybody feels like down in the hole. You lose the will to go out, socialize, even to talk with friends. You can't smile you used to do even smile like before.

The most depressing thing about depression is that you get the feeling of it won't ever go away. There are easy ways of getting out of depression like going to a psychiatrists and getting a prescription for anti -depressants. I've had my experience of a depression and I don't like using drugs. So I decided to get out of depression by natural ways or live with it. (It is better to live with your own depression instead of living in a dream offered by a pill.)

I started to read about depression. I looked at every source I could find. Information about depression is good in a way that you start to realize that it is a disease like a flu. It can come and it can go away.(hopefully) Also reading other people's experiences helps in a way because you can find people that has gone the same experiences with you and their experiences can enlighten your path. Talking with other people is also very helpful. If you have very good friends you can depend on who can back you up in that fragile moments talk with them. If you don't want to expose your problems that's okay too. You can talk with a professional psychologist. I didn't go to a psychologists but I shared my feelings with a person I didn't know who had some familiar experiences with me. The fact that I didn't know that person and he didn't know me helps a lot to share your feelings truly.

I also tried to work on a method to overcome my depression. (Maybe there is already a method like that) I sat down with a blank paper and started writing down every little problem that bothers my mind. I wrote like a brainstorming exercise, let all the thoughts go on paper. At last I found my self writing about little memories I had when I was a kid and I had forgot (which actually I didn't forget). When I read all the things I have written I realized how little problems get bigger like a snowflake rolling down the hill.

Working with your chemicals: There is a chemical-biological explanation to everything going on within our bodies. Serotonin is a chemical which is synthesized in our brain, that makes our mood go up. The depression results as (or caused from) serotonin level going down in our brain. The anti-depressants actually deal with taking serotonin level higher. Serotonin chemical can actually be synthesized in our brain so we don't need pills to get our moods up actually. The best way to increase your serotonin levels is sports. Please don't underestimate the effect of sports because it increases your serotonin level and makes you feel good. Instead of standing in your home swallowing pills, going outside and running on your own is a way much better way to feel good about your self.

Don't forget that you can overcome depression.

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compu-smart 9 years ago from London UK

Very encouraging hub. I know someone who has suffered from depression due to illness and now they have so much physical pain which obviously leads to mental pain so sports is out of the question. They refuse to see a psychiatrist and take anti depressants because like you do not like taking pills, and they feel embarrassed about having this illness..They have turned there phone off and disconnected there doorbell and don't see or speak to anyone for months. it's eating him up.. I wish i knew how I could help him. He used to be such a happy go lucky, healthy, sociable, person and now is entirely the opposite.!


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bloggerdollar 9 years ago Author

compu, when you have that depression feeling the worst thing is that you start to hate your best friends and try to stay away from them but actually the only thing that can get you out of this situation is your friends. Making too much pressure on them can lead to negative results but pursuing your friend to spend a night for drinking and cheering up togather can be good. Closing yourself in home and cutting relations will make things worser.


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compu-smart 9 years ago from London UK

You only really know who your real friends are in times of trouble and after this person became ill due to injury he found out his true friends were actually just long term acquaintances!. He would do anything for them at a drop of a hat when ever they needed help but when the shoe was on the other foot it was a different matter.. He was an orphan at 18 months and has no family so it's hard to have someone close to rely on and trust..

People don't want to know people who are ill and in permanent pain and poor, That's a fact of life. They feel uncomfortable around these kind of people.. Even when you get married the vicar will say something like "do you take this person in sickness and health for richer for poorer!! What he's really saying will you still love him and honour him if they are sick and poor!!

Things are getting worse for him but this guy is has so much pride and will not get help.

Thanks for your advice which i will try to pass on to him. I hope you are feeling A ok these days as i know how much depression can vary so much on the depression scale..


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sparkster 9 years ago from United Kingdom

This is a great write up. There are many natural ways of increasing serotonin without resorting to taking pills. I also believe that there is a distinct difference between mental depression and physical depression and antidepressants deal more with depression that is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain.


HapHazard 9 years ago

Today is Tuesday, i have come to the realization that it would not bother me to spend my whole day in bed. Sleep isn't sleep anymore, it's an escape from reality that i use. I have had this depression for years. I am in college, and am a really stubborn person.. however this Thursday i am seeing a phychiatrist to perhaps give me some sort of pill to escape this nightmare.

The thing that creates my depression is a social anxiety that i have, that hopefully he will be able to help me with aswell. The depression i have is due to lonliness of which is created by my anxiety. I go to the gym and run about 6 miles a day... however none of that helps when i come to my room and sit by myself day in and day out.

It has taken me this long to reach out for help from a doctor, because again, i am very stubborn... I am 21 and have no real family.. was a foster child at around 5 years old. I have no one to go to other than myself...and all this creates this depression.

There really is no point to this message, other than myself reaching out to others who might have gone through the same thing as I.

I hate using pills, but there's nothing else i can do at this point... i'm wasting my valuable years by myself.. and i need to break out of this!

Any input would be nice...

Thanks for reading,

-Justin


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bloggerdollar 8 years ago Author

Justin,

Reaching out for someone else is a start. If those pills can get your mood up I hope that it will be a good start. You said that you don't have a family but you can always have friends.


Benny  8 years ago

Well depression has ruined my life to the point that i lost everything eg;family house car job and nearly my life.I ended up in prison due to misdiagnosis which intern lead to wrong meds.I would rather sit and rot than take pills.I battle everyday as i have for the past four years.i drift from job to job because for a week im the king then for a month i cant even face my myself let alone another person.Im 27 and i have been to hospitals to book in for a while to get some help only to be turned away.This was the case on at least 7 occasions i knew i was going downhill fast i was aggressive and deeply depressed and was still denied help.I was seeing a psych but even he said i should be in hospital.Well i ended up in prison for something that happened because i was on wrong meds.The point is i asked for help over and over and over but i just couldn't get it because i dint have enough MONEY.There should be more access to these services for people suffering with deppression.


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Marcom Waymore 8 years ago from Finland

Personally I had to take some drugs, but I think that the reason #1 for my recovering was that one thing I got sorted out that was eating me out for years. If I had taken that step earlier, maybe I didn't had to go as far as I did with this condition...

Have a nice day everyone!


vagabond 8 years ago

I know very well what u guys are going through bcz i'm facing the same hell. In fact, it's worse than hell and there seems to be no way to get out of it. it's equally true that nobody wants to befriend a depressed soul for fear of getting bored; the harsh reality is that people just want to have a good time after a hard day's work and depressed people just don't fit in their scheme of things. A good fmily and a bunch of real good friends is actually a privilege not available to eveyone. In fact it's you and you alone who will have to deal with condition; nobody can really help u out except yourself. Excercises do help but ultimately it all boils down to the daily social, fianancial scenario we face daily. The only thing i feel may be of some help is perhaps a daily silent prayer to God, in whatever form, to lift us up out of this mess. I'm planning to do exactly that from now onwards.


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Dina Hartman 8 years ago

Thanks for some of the information. I have been battling depression since my ordeal with an emergency surgery that went wrong and have been depressed because no one can fix the problem. I see a psychologist which is helping me to get all my frustration out and even if he doesn't really give a damn, he sure plays like he is sincere. My family can only take so much whining and crying.

You can check my hub and read my story of what happened. If you have any advice, it would be more than appreciated! Great HUB!

http://hubpages.com/business/laparoscopicsurgery


cammi.frost 8 years ago

watching television always helped me not become depressed, maybe people should try that. i good show is prisonbreak. maybe even screaming at the world for your depression, just stand on the top of your roof and yell if done that and its helps me.

http://streamprisonbreak.com


andy 8 years ago

its a strange kind of feeling, for me depression isn't something that stays on, but actually is like a light switch. when its on you feel bad but after you get into some activity you do not remember it anymore......for at least a small moment of time. but after sometime when you are not doing anything, it comes back to you and you feel even worse.


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Maylinda Arons 8 years ago from India

All this is so true... also, one thing I learnt from my tryst with depression was that one shouldn't keep their rage or sadness inside them. It always helps if you just put on some music and sing very loudly, or go to a pond and throw in some pebbles really strenuously. Am I right?


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bill yon 8 years ago from sourcewall

i overcame depression 4 years ago.i am 38 i find what worked for me was accepting responsibility for me and my actions.i take my b-12 vitamins and omega 3 and i eat a balanced diet and i exercise ,i also quit the blunt smoking and drinking,abusing drugs makes depression 10 times worst.so i keep a sober mind and live my life.


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betherickson 8 years ago from Minnesota

To overcome depression is a tough job especially when you have to make it work all by yourself. Actually this is possible if you have strong and total control of yourself and the surrounding that might get in the way. But not everyone can do this especially when a person is totally down and the feeling gets heavier and heavier. That person might need help of others and a great motivation to put him/her back on the right track. :)

I love your hub. Thumbs up.

http://hubpages.com/misc/ericksonconsulting


sezz 8 years ago

feeling so low and confused like being stuck in a sack! just want to come out and enjoy the light. Its a strange comfort to read others feeling the same you feel less alone


Mary 8 years ago

Hi

So good reading other peoples expiriences. I have had a depression for half a year now. Mine is a mix of anxiety and depression.I was working abroad when it started, in the second month of the stay. And wih my stubborn ass, I refused to go home. So i forced myself to perform and smile everyday for eight months, haha, that was some tough shit. I feel like hell, but am a little better than I was six months ago. A long the way i took medicines for some months, but then I wanted to make it on my own. The worst thing is the feeling of beeing shut of from "the light" I haaaaate that. And Ive come to a point when I have exepted the feeling of hating myself. Don't know if it is good or bad, and I want to love myself so much, but I just don't have that ability right now. SAt sometimes during this summer season, I felt obsessed by the dark, not because I wanted to do bad things, no not at all, god forbid, but just because I felt like "killing" peoples happiness, or light and cheering feelings. That makes me sooooo angry because the last thing I wanted was to do that. And that just made me not want to see anyone. Is there someone else who had that feeling of "taking out the light"?


dddd 8 years ago

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW TO GET OUT OF DEPRESSION STOP USING METHODS OF SELF DESTRUCTION AKA SEX AND START DOING GOOD THINGS AND GOD WILL REWARD YOU WITH THE LIGHT OF LIFE


camrober 7 years ago

I got diagnosed with depression/server anxiety disorder and all my phsychiatrist does is give me pills but they havnt really done anything. The excersice was helping but exam time came up and I lost 269 dollars, my wallet, and fell down my basement stairs got pretty hurt. I don't really know what to do im going to start going to the gym again...but I feel like im constantly battling the University im at educationally, socially, and economically. The cost to my parents has added to the guilt and im too afraid to go home this christmas....I just want to feel better I smoked so much weed at university ive forgotten the better person I was :(


Jack Skellington 7 years ago

Seems to me depression is an "ailment" of technology... we're constantly stressed out and our inner being yearns to go back to basics... perhaps living in the country or something to that effect, instead of being subjected to all the hustle and bustle..

With that being said, your article is poignant and hopefully should help someone in a similar situation...depressed that is.


Dep4yrs 7 years ago

I have been depressed for 4 years. I tried everything, from not drinking, pychiatrist (twice a week at $250 an hour)..pills, working, not working, shopping, not shopping, relationships, reaching out to friends and on and on. Now, I have stopped trying. I am hoping that it will just take time and I will get better. The harder I tried, the worst I felt afterwards when it didn't work.

I have always been the type of person that thought that you can change anything you want with a lot of work. Don't ever give up. I don't know why I am depressed and have no will to live. I wish I could understand. The only thing I have been told by the professionals is that I am chemically imbalance, but when I was on the pills I just was numb. No feeling one way or the other.


jojo 7 years ago

I have also depression nd I agree tht the pils do not work at al only as a temporary respite but they numb you to a degree I hae tat feeling so for me tab s are a nono!!!


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sja 7 years ago from MA

I call my depression, "suffering in hell." I have no other way to explain it. Actually I don't tell anyone about my depression. I've been suffering for about seven years now. Badly. It's hard to believe some of the things I did. For example, I would get so bad that I'd stay in the house for a whole week. No phone calls. No nothing. Shut myself off from the world. The reason was that I didn't want anyone to hear my voice. Or know I was suffering. I went from Doctor to Doctor. Pill to pill. Councilor to Councilor. Some helped a little. Some actually made me worse. I am divorced now for four years. I keep on going because I have to. I have two children to support. So I have an obligation to my kids and my job to keep the money coming in for them. I try everything I can. Reading, praying. It helps a little. Wintertime is especially difficult. Exercize is one activity that helps tremendously. For me I find that there are culprits that make it so much harder. Some of them are; winter time, the lack of light and activity. Loneliness, Isolation. The pain I feel from the loss of my loved one. The good news is that even though I suffer, if I think of how bad I used to be compared to now, I shiver. Sometimes I wish I could transcend to that person (ME) who was laying on the ground crying in anquish and hug him (ME). I no longer lock myself in the house for weeks at a time. In fact on a rare occasion I may mildly retreat for a day or two. So it's been a long journey, but I learned a lot along the way.

My heart goes out to everyone suffering. Directly and indirectly. Stay persistant. It's the only way.


sad person 7 years ago

hi i've been depressed for along time now. becos my life has not turned out the way i wanted it too. i know the stuff like the happens to lots of people and everyone gets depressed now and then and then they get over it. but i get depressed and stay that way.i guess i am just not good at dealing with life. i am too ashamed to see a therapist or worse talk to my friends. it's very difficult to say that my life is not working out and i am so depressed. i am afraid that people will think that i am a losser.i have tried exercise but when your depressed you really don't want to exercise. i am so afraid that things are not going to get better for me.


7 years ago

what if you're competely devoid of any kind of emotion? i don't feel anything at all, like nothing matters, no happiness, no sadness, no anger, nothing at all. I know things and people matter but I can't seem to feel that they do. It's as if I am a shell, a robot, with nothing inside. this is not a way to live


chetana 7 years ago

Hi, i can undrstand the hell like feeling a person goes through when depressed as i am also in the same hell. It such a sickening feeling, just cant allow u to come out of it or even think other thigns which makes u feel happy. Pills can help as it gives a hope that thinking that ur not feeling well and u r taking medicine for it. That's it, other than this feeling, u have to help urself to come out of it and it really this part is the most difficult one. U just cant come out of it that easily, but determination to get out of this feeling, and keeping urself busy(try to)is the only way. But what i face is that , that time i can come out of it and lead a normal life for only a few days, as i get bouts of depression, Every few days, i feel that i am depressed again and just cant make through this time. And even when i am writing this, i am feeling depressed, finding it hard to come out of it. But, somehow i have to come out of it, either by involving myself in some activities or by taking pills.


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bill yon 7 years ago from sourcewall

DEPRESSION:THE SOUL THIEF,I was depressed from elementary school all the way up til I turned 38.I let depression rob me of so many oppurtunities,so many years out of my life.For example in high school The prettiest and most popular girl in school asked me to be her date to the prom,and I didn't go because I felt like I wasn't good enough to be her date.Another time,When I was 17 I was offered an internship/aprenticeship by a syndicated newspaper cartoonist (my dream has always been to be a succesful catoonist like schultz,and walt disney)but I didn"t jump on that oppurtunity because I thought that the cartoonist was making a mistake in choosing me....because I am not that good.never mind the fact that I was the top artist in my school and I was lined up for a full scholarship to the art institue of Atlanta.Another oppurtunity gone.I have been in so many relationships with some really fine women and always I would feel like "what is she doing with me?"I have trashed so many good relationships on account of "I am not good enough."I have self sabatouged my life behind that feeling.At 38 I had a talk with the man in the mirror and I said "ENOUGH!" I will live my life and never sell my self short again.and that is the point I am at right now.Enjoying my life.Good or bad.And this one thing that I have noticed about depressed people,myself included,they are usually highly intelligent,very creative and usually have A lot of things going for them,but they are blinded by depression and can't really see themselves I say "ENOUGH!"


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bill yon 7 years ago from sourcewall

O.K I had to take a break.Depression has led me on a wild ride in this life of mine.And have done things that I must definitely am ashamed of and I have lost things that I can never get back such as my wife the one woman that i truly loved and truly loved and understood me.I pushed away.you see we never made to the altar we was engaged and while we was engaged I did ever thing in my power to push her away.A month before she was to get married she came to me and asked me COULD SHE GET MARRIED.And I looked her in her eyes and saw the love that she had for me,and I felt the love that I had for her And I told her"go ahead he will be better for you than me."because deep down I didn't feel worthy of being loved."ENOUGH"I battled with alcohol and drugs for almost twenty years.In and out of trouble for ten years only to come out of depression with a criminal record hanging on my back like a ton of bricks.even my "partners in crime"was trying to help me saying things like"why are you doing this? you are not like us."Meaning they did what they did to survive because that was the only way they knew how to put food on their tables.But me I was a high school grad a veteran with a hon. discharge,and two years of college.Why? because I felt that I wasn't smart enough,never mind the fact that I made good grades and was always placed in positions of responsibility,on almost every job or everything that I have been involved in.ENOUGH! at 38 a sat down and examined my life where I've been where I'm going and I decided that Depression is not going to control me or influence my life ever again.Because I am a Man and my MIND may be depressed but my SOUL is not.I will MASTER My MIND,and I will RAISE my EGO And ELIMINATE ALL WEAKNESSES AND THINGS THAT ALTER OR AFFECT MY MIND OR THE CHEMISTRY OF MY BRAIN SO NO MORE DRINKING OR SMOKING WEED this walk this time will be SOBER.it is not easy i started this journey at 34 but i totally committed at 38 I won't sit here and lie and say that I don't feel depressed at times but I don't sit around and sulk like I use to.I keep on pushing.here is some things that work for me.1.no drugs and alcohol,because they affect the mind.and depression is an illness of the mind,so you want to keep your mind as strong and clean as possible.2.take vitamins and eat right.this provides the nourishment for your mind to help it stay chemically balanced.3.dress nice.this is something that makes me feel good about myself.so I try to dress nice every day of the week.4.exercise this keeps your body in great shape,CREATES BRAIN CELLS,AND RELEASES HORMONES THAT GIVE YOU A NATURAL HIGH.5.live.do things even when I am depressed i find that once I go and do something with my time I am no loner depressed.THESE are things that work for me.I really hope that they work for you.LOVE LIFE.LIVE STRONG.WORK HARD.PLAY HARDER.


depressed 7 years ago

I have been depressed for past 15 years. I never come out of it. Depression is my other name. I found the reason in Vedic Astrology. Acording to Vedic astrology moon controls our mind, thoughts, feelings. The posititon of moon is very important at the time ou ones birth. I was unlucky. The moon was in the worst position called as 'pap kartari yoga'. Few astologers have suggested me to wear a pearl in my index finger. I never went to any doctor, I never had any treatment on my depression. I accept it as a god gift. I know my life is in vein. May God help others.


sad guy 7 years ago

i used to be very active. i always play sports, went to the gym etc. But now i'm so depressed i dun even have energy to exercise!


MEBD 7 years ago

Glad I found this website. I have been so depressed. It seems like it hit me all at once. Two weeks ago I entered a dark hole mentally and my existence has turn upside down. I am feeling acky, lethargic, worthless, angry, hopeless. I feel lonely and yet I am not. I don't know if it is a result of some chemical imbalance or situational, or maybe a combination. I hear amongst men that are 50 and over, is classic feeling.

I don't know what to it is. I will get out of this whole. Glad to know others are going thru the same and that I can get ideas. Perhaps I will try working out today or something.


diddy 7 years ago

i keep sleeping all day and staying up at the nite i also feel low is that depression


mikey 7 years ago

I want to note something someone said above, that depressed people are intelligent. That is very true. Another thing someone else noted is that you don't feel bad when you are in the middle of an activity, only during times when you are alone, or evaluating yourself in a social situation, anxiety or negative thoughts. I feel that depressed people are intelligent people who do realize little things that most others do not think twice about. Think about that very talkitive hyper person who says whatever, and has no inhibitions. Yes, they might say off the wall things and get annoying. But at the end of the day.. they don't give a damn what others think of them and they are happy as hell! Oh yea, they may seem weird at first, but then you realize they are interesting, because they are free and spontaneous. Regardless of being different. Lets face it, life is full of influences in the way you should act, what you should say, etc.. especially in America you almost have to put up an act everywhere you go. You just have to snap out of it, and believe it! A lot of things in life can bring you down, because its far from perfect or fair. I feel, that the key to getting out of depression is to say fuck the world, I have been given the gift of life, and i'm gonna live it to the fullest while forfilling my obligations. Simple as that. You cannot let small things bother you or devalue yourself. No one else is better than you, every man is created equal, its the way you think that holds you back. You have to take yourself seriously before others can do the same thing. Take every moment for what it is, and see the light of the moment! OH yea... STAY AWAY FROM DRUGS... trust me I know... drugs lead to too much mood changes... and makes everything worse... alcohol as well.. you just cannot sustain those feelings... if your going to drink... drink occasionally. Have self control.


anonimouse 7 years ago

i am 13 i have depression i get mad i break down and cry i avoid contact with people then crave it i feel nothing is worthwhile so don't do anything about it and ive forgoren how to sleep i cant get my mind ready to drift off i no longer go to school the only thing that keep me happy is reading about other peoples hapines! Im scared


gfdgdfgh 7 years ago

i want to end it all but cant that makes me feel evan worse i hate myself


Sharon 7 years ago

I'm glad to have come across this post and all the comments. It's really reassuring to know that I'm not the only one that feels this way and that people can be compassionate among strangers because everyone understands what it feels like.

It's incredibly difficult to speak with friends sometimes because they may be more judgemental or completely ignorant to the causes and impact of depression and mental illnesses and simply fear of losing friends because they will judge and be deeply irritated with an individual who is depressed. I'm so afraid of my friends sometimes...because they can give the most terrible advice or simply be cruel. At the end of the day it's up to myself and real friends that will be compassionate and constructive.

I'm finding lots of help from these other posts and simply surrounding myself with positive things and keeping myself busy to realize that the things I do are worthwhile and socializing...distractions mean living life and taming an inner demon.

Schizophrenia and depression run in my family. I've hid from friends, written suicidal poems, cried myself to sleep, hid from friends for a whole week here and there, starved myself, cried endlessly on and off for days and completely underestimated my own self worth. I got really depressed again after I had an acl reconstruction. I couldn't take proper showers, was greasy, couldn't walk, was in pain if I moved too quickly or forcefully...while my usual schedule was to be active and adore sports and especially aggressive sports. Then the worst came I got full body hives (allergic reaction) as a reaction to the stress from the surgery. I was a leper on crutches. People gawked at me and jumped and sat far from me. It lasted a month. I failed my interview in everyway possible because of my physical discomfort and gave up hope on finding employment after graduating and felt like a worthless monster.

The hives have cleared up, but I still get anxious around strangers, cry all the time and attack myself. When i feel upset or sad for no reason, that inner demon preys on that and I'm reminded of how stupid and weak I am for feeling down for no reason.

I have nothing to gain by staying like this and nothing to lose by putting myself out there, so I'm going to join toastmasters, quit my gym, go back to my beloved outdoor sports with friends, be more dedicated to volunteering at the animal shelter, take a few guitar lessons and get over that anxiety by forcing myself to sing, play and live life among my friends and strangers. Oh yea...tell people I need a job because maybe they can help. I can't waste away anymore. Thanks! To everyone, keep your head up, volunteer, stay active...

A major help for me was volunteering with the kittens. They were so helpless and affectionate, they didn't judge me, they needed me and were unbearably cute. I'd be beaming by the time I came home. Yay animal therapy!


blahblahblah 7 years ago

I hate the people who are like "All you have to do is exercise and discover new hobbies and do natural happy things. Drugs from doctors are evil and unnatural and only hurt you durr-hurr."

When many with real depression find it nearly impossible to do the simplest tasks like getting out of bed in the morning, putting on clothes, taking a shower, or even taking out the garbage, getting out to exercise is a nearly insurmountable task. Telling us that it's such an easy, effective solution? Seriously?

I'm not refuting the fact that exercise is beneficial. But telling people that all they need to do is exercise and "sports" when these people don't even have the motivation or energy to carry out simple daily tasks? Insulting. They're trivializing a serious problem, or not even understanding it even though they think they do. I'm convinced that these people (like the author) have never experienced real depression.

Medication helps in finding the motivation and energy to enjoy the things we like, such as exercise, hobbies, etc, which opens the road to improvement. When people think the medication provides an instant solution, this is as wrong as the idea that exercise alone provides an instant solution without medication. Medication is not the solution but provides the means to the solution.

Telling people to get out and go running and exercise and throw out their prescription when these people can barely get out of bed in the morning? Such sage advice. Are you a doctor? "B-b-but you just need to find the motivation from within yourself!" Do you know what depression even is?

For those of you who can find the energy/motivation to create and follow an exercise regiment while suffering from depression--congrats, you're one of the most strong-willed people on earth (either that, or you weren't actually suffering from depression at all in the first place). For those of us who don't have the will of a hundred men, we have medication.


Miss J 7 years ago

Dear Blahblahblah,

In the same way that you are offended about people in this post discounting anti-depressants and the attitude that you should just go outside and take a walk and poof your depression will be cured, I take offense at your comment that those who DO muster up that tiny shred of energy to leave their house and force themselves to take a walk or run probably don't really have depression to begin with. Bullsh*t! We are ALL in this hub because we have depression. There is no need for you to diminish anyone else's symptoms or the way they deal with their illness.


Iwouldrathertangothanbesad 7 years ago

I have been very depressed after I decided to write the most powerfull emotionally letter to my ex girlfriend after finding out that she was dating someone else. I finally concluded after 8 months apart that my life was meaningless without her and that I would comit everything i had to her and offer to marry her. I was rejected as I was one year too late. I cried for 2 weeks solid, I was in utter despair, I wanted to commit suicide. I could not sleep even with strong sleeping tablets, I was agony itself. I spoke to anyone who would listen and paid to see a Councillor which did help. I am normally stable but I was losing my mind. My best friend told me that my mother had loved me and brought me into this world not to throw it away. It gives you insight into other souls pain and to reach out to those who share your world and you need to give of yourself to others.


bjkard 7 years ago

I am 38 and am currently going through the third major depressive episode I have had in my life. At this point I feel so tired of life and I think of suicide everyday, although I couldn't go through with suicide. I know I will get over this episode, but just everything I think of is negative at the moment and I am so over-sensitive I am hurt and offended by almost everything. I feel I lost control over my life and have let things go over the past few months (friends, social life, hobbies). I go to the gym three times a week and it does give me relief but it doesn't last and I wake up every morning with a terrible feeling of dread about the day ahead. Sleeping is my escape now from the horrible feelings I am going through.


irene gomes - goa 7 years ago

Dear all,

the worst kind of depression is that of a breakup, specially when one is dumped with no reason at all. I can understand exactly how all you out there feel and are gong through. Its really is the most shattering period of ones life. I have been dumped after a year in a relationship. I have never felt this lonely, suicidal all the time..


zreep 7 years ago

Bjkard,

I am glad you posted because my depression is similar to yours. I just turned 40 and am going through my 4th bout of depression. Mine are always triggered by a major loss or change. This time it's worse: I had quit my job because i couldn't take it any more. but freelancing meant lower income. In a few months time period, I had to sell my house, broke up with the man I thought I was going to marry and my freelance work disappeared. I am now in a depression that is deeper and has lasted longer (10 months so far) than any I ever had before. I live in a tiny apartment, where I used to have a beautiful house, I have lost hope of having my own family and children, and I don't have the energy or focus to find work, so the financial pressures are building. All this makes the depression worse. I even had to leave my little dog at a friend's house because he is too nervous living in an apartment and barks at EVERY noise out the door.

I have had days where I thought about dying and how to kill myself. I always think about how to do it painlessly and is there a way I could make it look like an accident so my family wouldn't be so hurt.

Then I tear myself away from thost thoughts as they are like a black hole--even blacker than where I am.

With all that is happening, I want to live this life for as long as I am supposed to live it. Even if it's not the life I hoped to have.

So many things people said here--using sleep as an escape, not wanting to leave bed or your apartment, feeling distance from friends and family because 1) you know they can only take so much of your negativity and 2) they stop calling as much for that very reason.

When I think about how alone I feel -- and the fact that, even very kind people don't want to be around someone who is depressed for very long -- makes me feel sick to my stomach.

Sure, we can pay a therapist--but that's only an hour a week -- and it takes money. Your therapist can't come home with you and hold your hand.

I have to say anyone who has a spouse or significant other who is patient and understanding about the depression, is very lucky. Being alone, night after night is hell.

What I can't seem to find is the motivation to do ANYTHING because I have no hope of life being better. I don't want to kill myself, but when people talk of doing things to FEEL better--I guess I don't believe I can, so I think why bother?

Anyway, i'LL STOP NOW.

Thanks to all who have posted. It is some help as I am here alone, to see that, at least in the wider world, I am not alone.


R Fountain 7 years ago

I have suffered from depression in the past and know the negative effect it has on the individual. I am happy to say that articles, books and exercises related to this condition helped me greatly. In return, I reach out to youths and try to help them out of it. But severe cases are referred to highly trained professionals. It is all about expression. A person who rarely communicates tends to get depressed very often. The trick is to snap out of it as quickly as you can. The more you let yourself swim in it, the more you are unable to get back on your feet refreshed.

Your hub, bloggerdollar, is indeed recommended. I say this because, when people find themselves in a situation, they think it is the worst case ever. But coming together to discuss problems is a step.


Richb 7 years ago

I am in pain, people seem to not understand me...or just don't like me. Its actually hard to figure out. This is what causes my depression. I am the type that reaches out to everyone, trying to help, befriend, and be there in need. I sometimes think I'm trying too hard. I have not turned off my phone, but I'm about to test the theory that no-one will call me or email if I don't call them. I think the only people I can trust count is my family. I really don't think I have any true friends, just aquaintences. I have a degree, good career and good start in life. I moved to a city where I have no family, about 3 years ago. My motivation in life is achieving all my goals in life, 600k home, 100k+ autos, and a loving family (reverse order). I tried making friends and am an active soccer player. Its true that sports take out depression, but when you go home, all by yourself, you feel like you're back where you've started. Back to that test...I know in my heart that all my 30+ whatever amount "friends" that have my number will no contact me if I don't do it first. That's the frustration I am feeling. Its been this way all my life. When I do have a stable gf, depression goes away, but I don't want a gf just to feel better, then to know shes not right for me. I'm sick...in and out of depression like a light switch. I've scared my parents before with suicide, even though I cannot do it, because of my love and faith for God. This sounds like it doesn't make any sense...do you all remember my first sentence?


sady mady 7 years ago

i m a 27 years old guy. I am suffering from depression for last 6 years. i took anti depressants for one year but then i read about the side effects caused by them and stopped it. but without it, the life seems to be like hell. I am regularly taking about 6 miles walk and an hour for table tannis.Still i feel my life like a living hell. what should i do?


hit me out of no where 7 years ago

its a strange, interseting and sometimes unreal feeling for me, i have always been a happy person, goodlooking, very high IQ, and voted most funny when i was in school, but after years it slowly dies i got less excited about life it just diddnt seem things where worth while anymore, people ask me out to do stuff and the first thing that comes to mind is " why its the same shit and i don't find it fun anymore" i have lost interest in so many things and its strange because i use to be full of life, and well know for being a crazy funny goodlooking chick, now i look back on my last few years and think, what have i done to myself i have sold myself short so many times and let people in my life that where not worthy, some times i look back and feel sick when i think about the things i have done and said ect, it is crazy because this has just hit me out of nowhere its like i woke up and BANG GUILT!!!!!! that's all i have is guilt for everything ive done i have always had to do things the hard way, never listened ect, and now im paying for it, why cant i be normal, and the more i talk to people about my regrets the worst it get cause they say" why would you do that and your crazy when at the time i diddnt know and better, my spirit has died my hope and faith is gone and my will to live is running out fast!


Criss 7 years ago

I always keep my emotions to myself. I have social anxiety. I can't even hang out with my friends anymore. I want to but it's like this thing is holding me back. I get depressed for no reason at all. I could go to sleep feeling fine, and then the next morning I don't even want to get out of bed. It feels like I have no purpose in life. I don't want to take pills to feel better. I exercise quite often but it doesn't seem to help. I feel like I can't be around anyone anymore. I don't want to bring them down too.


princessindistress 7 years ago

interesting to read all those suffering from depression,

i have been suffering from it for eight months nowandall i can say is its HELL....and the feeling is horrible, that i wana run away from it...the more i try to do that, the more it gets worse

then i get irrational fears and weird thoughts

any idea how do i get out of this???


Cees 7 years ago

I am a man, 48, living alone. Since a few weeks I am on a dangerous slope again, sliding into a depression. A few years ago I was in a depression for a year or two. I am quite fearful of getting into that same spot again. Today I have taken a day off of my work, but actually I could not get out of bed this morning, feeling quite depressed and exhausted. I have already taken 5 days off in total whilst I don't want to have a free day, but actually I am depressed. Last week I have called in sick a whole week, thinking, let me be at home for one week, things will be better. But I am not really feeling much better. Especially in the morning I have a heavy curtain in front of my eyes and in social situations I feel less worth than others.

The couse of my depression lies in two things. 1. Not having a partner to meet my needs. 2. Not having work that I like. But the degree in whether I like my work or not, depends on my mood. In depressive mood I don't like it and even get appauled by it. I know, I just have to look and find a nice life-companion. Things will look different then. But it is far from easy to meet nice women in my country. There is a lot to say about depression and how to get out of it. A lot of advice in this hub works. But when you are alone you have to initiate everything yourself. No one talks to you, no one stimulates you. I find this very hard. But I have to take action, otherwise I will be sliding down even further. To everyone, hang in there and good luck. It is a temporary situation, NOT permanent.


Thomas 7 years ago

Hello Everyone and thanks for sharing your stories. I find courage in reading and hopefully we all will get over this ugly situation called depression.

A few years ago, I had a major depression. I self diagnosed myself with a major illness and felt the world was over for me. I was so depressed. But when I got definite medical test results and realized I was not ill after all, my depression gradually disappeared.

Now, I have a nice job, but can't seem I am able to keep any job for a significant amount of time. This makes me so depressed. My last job I was for only two months. This is not good. I get quite scared when I realize people sometimes work at the same workplace doing the same job for 20, 30, 50 years... How do they do it? Anyway, long story short, after I failed at my last job, I fell into depression. I am depressed for over two months now and can't seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have lost confidence in myself and feel guilt and worthlessness, and when I remember how carefree I was during the last 5 years, I get even more depressed and sad... Why can't I go back to that? How long will this my depression last?

While I am able to get out of bed in the morning, put on clothes, go to work, etc, I have lost most of my energy it seems and running like a car on the last drop of fuel. I sometimes wish I can drop dead, have a heart attack or any other illness and die soon, as I cannot commit suicide because of my religious beliefs and have to wait until sweet death comes all by itself and relieves me, or better yet, I will get out of this depression and live carefree again, as I tasted the feeling before and it was a sweet life... It no longer is...


vids 7 years ago

I m 21yr gal.. regular gum goin..still cnt gt over the feelin of depression... i face constant fear of losing my dear ones.. I m losing my professional interest.. I used to be ambitious years ago..today i feel like locking my self in pain and cry my heart out lying shattered on floor.. I so much feel like ending mysyelf rather than living fear of losing my loved ones.. Nobody can understand..so i m afraid to convince them to tell my part.


Anon 7 years ago

I have suffered from Major Depression over the last eight months - it started to affect me virtually overnight starting with panic attacks as soon as I woke up in the morning. It is the most debilitating illness I have ever experienced and the effects should not be underestimated.

I am currently receiving counselling and have been taking citalopram for the last couple of weeks. I am starting to feel my 'old self' again however I have the occassional bad day. I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel - I hope that this post shows that with help you can beat this illness - As I think that I am now on the road to recovery.


Mr. Zip 6 years ago

Hi All! I feel your pain, There's nothing like the crap we are dealing with and when you're in this Hell it's so hard to find your way out. I'm 58 and this is the second time on this ride and I'd give anything to be off it. ( For you people out there that have had this as a major part of your life, I have nothing but admiration for you ) The first time I went through this is when someone I loved decided it wasn't mutual an moved away. I found a book " Feeling Good the new Mood Therapy" and I think it really helped me get out of the funk I was in, but this time this Hell came on out of the blue. I'm retired have all my toys, house, etc. and a nice pension. I have my health ( sort of ) , a few friends and no reason I can think of to feel so terrible, but now that I'm in this black hole I'm really scared because I have nothing but time and I can't sleep 24/7 although I would if I could. My few friends are there, but unless you've done some time in this Hole it's really hard for them to understand that it takes every bit of strength you have just to move. Nothing sounds enjoyable. My sleeping pattern is a joke, I've no interest in food, so my stomach is starting to give me another reason for bad sleep. I'm doing the same stuff I've always done, but now I'm sitting here trying to figure out how I enjoyed any of it ( Which I did ) but now it looks like a really sucky tomorrow and I wish there a place where you could check in and out ( permentley ) without the hassle of a friend or a love one finding a mess. We put animals down when they're sick or hurting, but we are out of luck until our we run out of money.I feel bad about whining but reading the letters above has been the only thing that makes me feel I'm not the only one going through this stuff. The thought of going to a counselor or shrink and giving those big bucks up doesn't help. I guess I'm just going to do my best to move through this, I wish myself and all those above and the ones that are suffering all alone a lot of luck. Thank You for letting me vent. Take Care All


Kay 6 years ago

iv recently started a course of antidepressants at 20. my depression started with social anxiety at school when i was 15. its taken me five years to get help because i didn't understand and when i did i understand i was embarrassed. i feel i cant justify my depression because i am an educated,attractive woman, have popular friends, don't come from broken home, don't drink or take drugs and have good prosepects yet all i can focus on are the parts of me that arent good enough. my depression really spiralled when i lost 2 close friends in tragic accident, suffered two miscarriages and my partner left me. i hid my feelings from everyone and as a result isolated myself. i felt unappreciated at work, constantly analyzed myself and how others percieved me. i thought i was ugly and i didn't hold my morals as highly and as a result i done things im ashamed of which made me feel worse coz i knew that that wasn't my character. id wake up in the morning gutted that id have to face the day and couldn't wait until i came home to crawl back in to bed and sleep. deciding that i needed help was good and im on a low dosage but im also taking steps to get myself out of this rut that iv so long taken solice and comfort in. depression can be comfortable. im making more of an effort to see my friends and truly enjoy their company. iv applied to uni and hope im well enough to deal with the pressure of it although im no longer gna expect too much from myself. iv found the key is to take baby steps and trace the root of my depression. suffering so young is hard coz i cant remember being truly happy but im optimistic that i can be one day once iv over come low self esteem and depresion. depression affects every aspect of life and i hope to one day be able to live without that cloud. this is the first time iv admitted to anyone, even family and friends how i feel so thanks for letting my put it out there. its helped. take care.


Jane 6 years ago

Hi everyone. What a relief to read that others suffer from this terrible 'burden' as much as I do. I too it would seem, have a lot going for me - a good job, loyal boyfriend and family - basically no reason to complain, yet I am paralysed by anxiety/depression which has taken over my life on and off for more than a decade. This is the third time I have lapsed into this horrible downward spiral - the first I now realise was when I was in my early teens which I mistook as inadequacy/inability to fit in, the second hit me a good few years later, funnily enough when I thought I was finally on the right track. I always felt that I wasn't 'quite right' but never realised what I was suffering with - even the second time, I just shut down. Slept for days on end, refused to go to work, cook, clean, socialise. Just cut myself off from the world. I went on a high dose of antidepressants which numbed the pain but felt embarrassed that I was taking these so stopped. I don't know at what point exatcly but from somewhere, I found the strength to get myself right and slowly I became more outgoing -to the extent where people at work actually admitted that I had 'changed for the better'. However, for the past four mohnths I have been sinking again which finally came to a head a couple of days ago when I just lost it, became hysterical and couldn't face the day ahead. Realising that I need to get help straight away, I took myself to the docs and poured my heart out. Luckily my GP was really understanding and advised me to take a few weeks off work and take a low dose of meds to try and calm down. I am now trying to get my head around this thing as I now realise that it is an illness and nothing to be ashamed of. I truly believe that the only people who can understand what you are going through are those who have lived through the hell themselves. I wish everyone the best and hope you find the strenght to overcome this - I know from my own experience that it can go away, you just have to be prepared to deal with it should it return!


cindy 6 years ago

for everyone and especially for princessindestress. I also suffer from deep depression for two years I laid in bed. It has been three years since then and with trying different combinations of meds and suicidal thoughts and one attempt I am actually doing better. My life will never be what it was but I have come to accept who I am and I am learning very slowly to manage my bipolar depression. My biggest challenge is taking a simple shower.. sometimes I will go for two weeks without taking a shower or putting on makeup or changing clothes.. but wierdly enough my spirit feels better after pleanty of thearapy and learning new tools to cope. I wanted to share some of the things I do to cope with my new self since I know things will never be the way they used to I had to start from scratch. and I got a lot of these ideas from people who post here

1 Say a prayer for help and strength to get through each day

2get a towel and some clean clothes and put them where I can see them so maybe it will encourage me to shower.

3write down 10 things you are grateful for.

4take a multiple vitimen everyday.

5 If you are alone and you start to slip into sheer darkness grab a timer set it for 5 minutes and get up and try to do something anything even water a plant or pet your cat for five.

write something nice about your self everyday.. I am going to shoot for three things a day

think about volenteering somewhere even if you are not able to get out of bed right now. Sometimes just nice thoughts of helping others can help you. Maybe even think about volentering for something that personally touches you or something bad that happened in your life and if you have the experience to help someone through it you can give them that gift so they do not suffer like you did.. again.. this is only thoughts im not saying take action i totally understand being bedridden but happy thoughts may help.

Pray for others who suffer with depression that they might find strength and peace in there lives to get help and or get better..

These are just a few sugestions I actually just now came up with reading these stories.. I have come along way in five plus years. I was slammed down with horrific news of my father my son and my daughter and lost my job a week later, that put me to bed.. but now I can get up and function most days.. I hope this helps some of you.. best wishes and my last obstical which seems to be the hardest now is self care and hygene.. if anyone has any sugestions on motivating yourself to get in the shower once a day im all ears..


CINDY 6 years ago

I probably shouldn't do this but if anyone whould like to email me with sugestions or help for me to get my bottem into the shower or for any other reason feel free to email me.chcoty@gmail.com, god bless and give you some peace and a rest from the pain of depression


Tony 6 years ago

Hi, I've been really interested to hear other people's stories, makes me feel more human and not so 'locked away' with depression. I'm a 41 year old male, who has recently come anti depressants after 10 years ! Intially was okay, as it was prozac which stays in your blood stream for a long time, due to long half life. However, after 2 months it fells like absolute hell.. Feel as though depressive symptoms have returned..I don't really think you ever become totally free from depression, if you experienced it long enough. It's a bit like a serious physical muscle injury that heals after treatment, but can re-occurr in the future as its an inheritant weakness....My advice to anyone suffering with depression (depending what type it is) get a good diet, exercise if possible, try to keep your mind occupied or have a daily routine/focus, good friends to talk with or above all else somebody who's willing to LISTEN! Never give up, you have keep your inbuilt sense of hope alive...


6 years ago

I sufferd depression and didn't even realized it until now. I wasn't happy for about 3years now but Im going to come out starting today. you have to accept what happened or what is happing in your life and move forward it will be ok. And Im going to do just that. Try talking to someone and writing your things on paper you will feel relief. I did and Im asking God to please bring me out this situation cause it does hold you down but you can and will come out your situation. -God bless and Believe in Jesus Christ please


leah 6 years ago

all these comments have helped me a lot to say i am finally goning to do something about this i have sufferd from depression for about 5 years since the age of 14 i loved school was very popular i am quite good looking and i don't go short of anything.. sometimes when i go into deprest mode i sit there and think that i am never going to get over this i am never going to go anywere in life i am never going to get married and be happy when am still 19 i have my life ahead of me. i just wanted to add a coment about the other people that have said they are smart and find it hard to socialise maby this is due to a minor case or autism i don't know ??... i always feel lonely and in a dark hole even though i know i have people around me that love me and care about me i have tried to take my life 2 years ago and have never fully recoverd i still think about it all the time like its the easy way out but in a selfish way i dont think about other people around me and how they feel if i ever feel like taking my life know i just think about them. i always feel ugly and like am not woth much which in the back of my mind i know i am. around other people i act conferdant and happy but all i am is sad and paranoid. i have just learnt to deal with my emotions and i always go to my mum not friends because you think they might know you best but no one knows you like your mum maby try to look up copeing methords instead of solutions.

thanks a lot everyone for your help.


Soldier of Rome 6 years ago

Many great things have been said here, and I think we can really all agree that depression is hell, but I think hell is a happier place than depression, at least it can seem like it. I have been battling it since I was 16, now 30. I have been to psychiatrists to only find that they cant help me because I already know the answers to my problems, and medicine carries with it, side effects that can lead to further depression. I agree with the ideas that exercise, a good balanced diet can lead to a better feeling about oneself, and finding the serotonin is key to a better mood.

Depression for me is about how I view myself, I have set high expectations for myself, and currently, I cant reach them. This fact has sent me down one hell of a path of destruction. Family and friends can help you out, and its helpful, but know ultimately its our inner strength that will get you out, so use them as tools. I relate my depression to war, its a battle between my mind and soul, there are times of victories and there are times of loss. You have to lose to win, and win to lose, this helps in the process of finding the cause and source of it. Often times my view of myself is less than what I like, but I work on it. In a time of trouble I need a hero, so I have conjured up a second self that I hold close to me.... he is a soldier of Rome. A soldier is a protector, Rome is the great Empire that exists as you. Be good to yourselves, Depression is a fight within yourself.


Nathan Boyle 6 years ago

I'm 17 years old and My depression is due to something rather personal.

I see no way out other than killing myself, I don't want to kill myself, I just no longer want to feel this intense pain. For the first time in my life I feel actually helpless.


Soldir of Rome 6 years ago

Hey Nathan, many of us have been there, you are not alone. I was there in that same place as you approximately at the same age. Do not do it, depression makes you feel that way. It alters your frame of mind, and what you are feeling, others do not see it. Get help... don't be ashamed either. Depression is like cancer it can be treated, and do not let it kill you!! There is always a way out!! Go on bro, be a fellow soldier of Rome and conquer the barbarians known as depression!!! You will win if you believe in it!!!


raj 6 years ago

heloo

i am raj

i have sufferd from depression two times

firstly i wud like to appreciaate all of us who are here and reading / writing here

becausse either you believe it or not bit we all have the will to survive and the zeal to get out of it

we know where we are and where to go

we are fighting with depression day after day and depression is also getting down day by day

ok now i wud like to tell you a few ways out to depression and remember these works if and only if you want to get out of this depression

1 do exercise regularly either you like it or not

2 everyday do a act as accordingly

" sit in a silent room close your eyes and repeat 100 times " i have to get success and i have to write a new history and make a new record "

i know that the above statement may sound awkward but even then you have to do it everyday because if you want to come out you will have to go this way only

and always say repeat an optimistic answer to your bothering know again 100 times and as slowly as you can

e.g

if you have got a heart break

close your eye and say

"i have to get a better spouse than it was "

3 play a sport and make a target in that to be achieved like in soccer i have to make a goal make it and you will get confidence everytime you make it

or you can also try to make small targtets in everyday life like i have to eat food in 10 minutes

i mean you have to make small targets to get that bigger lump of confidence

remember the confidence that we had was a result of anumber of years and thousand nuber of activities that we did so what we want today is that confidence and it will definitely come after doing achieving confidence day by day

4 have a notice board with you on which you should write your goals. targets and your weakness nad look at them everyday and after looking at the goals say that i have to achieve all these , after looking at the weaknesses say i have to overcome these and looking at the targets say i have to get this

do this everyday even if it sounds hectic and cumbersome to you

5 stop taking drugs and alcohol

and then evaluate yourself after 1 year and not before that

and i suggest you to make a note of all your grieves and problems before starting this and then do not open that note till one year and then open it 1 year afterwards

and i know you will see the differenece by yourself

best of luck


Hopeful Sofie 6 years ago

Hey--this comment is meant for Nathan. Are you okay? I am concerned for you and care about what happens to you, even though you don't know me. Please let us know how you are doing. It's a pretty tough road sometimes, but I like to think of it as "warrior training."


Kay 6 years ago

To Nathan, please let us know that your ok, im around your age and been through (still am really but not so bad lately) depression and iv felt how your feeling. When i was at my worst the only escape i had was sleep so i was sleeping crazy hours and when id wake up i'd be instantly devastated that i was awake and had to face the day. Many times i woke up crying and at the time i likened death to sleep and a permanent way out of this hell. Please let us know that your ok, it'l help to talk to us about it.

Since I last wrote 4 months ago iv made huge progress. Im starting college for example. These things seemed out of my reach 4 months ago but iv fought my feelings of inadequecy and im going to give it a shot. Its not so easy as just doing it, it tooks months of building myself up with positive thinking to even apply. Please set yourself a goal like this nathan i promise it will help!

Everyones depression is personal but the thing that really made my depression spiral was when my boyfriend left me. I feel a bit silly over this because ppl break up all the time but the impact it had on my already fragile mind was huge. It was hard coz id made him the centre of my life and i didn't know anything else. When we met i had high hopes for uni, a huge social life etc but when i was with him depression set in (nothing to do with him hes an amazing guy) and i just lost myself and issues id had through the years just amplified. Eventually he left, he knew nothing ouf my depression coz i keep everytihng away from every single person i know coz im ashamed. Getting over the break up nearly killed me. He was the love of my life but the split broken mr into a million pieces and iv spent the last year rebuilding myself and now i feel like im even better than before but iv still got a long way and many obstacles to overcome. I'l never forgive myself for ruining that relationship tho and i could kick myself every day for not being the person that i am today when i was with him.

The only thing that has got me through all the awful things iv had to go through is the belief that 'it was meant to happen' im a huge believer now in fate, destiny and prayer. Im not really religious and when i pray im not even sure who its to but just the thought of admitting my problems and asking for help is a huge relief coz i could never outwardly admit how i feel to friends and family.

Things slowly get better i promise you all. Even if its for a little while. Im suffering a little setback at the moment. nothing has particulary brought it on and its not as bad as before but its still there. Its confusing coz i don't know if i get depressed when i reflect on bad things in my life or if depression makes me reflect on those things. I don't feel so constantly down as before but sometimes i just feel nothing, like totally numb and that can be worse coz i feel like i cant love. Please everyone keep battling, its not easy but there is hope. My love goes to you all xx


Moha 6 years ago

I think to come over Depression you have to find a motive for your life,someone you love or a position to have ,and get socialize with new people will help in that

also trying to occupying every minute in your day with an activity will help forget about such a feelings


niki 6 years ago

quote: "It is better to live with your own depression instead of living in a dream offered by a pill."

it's like saying "it is better to live with asthma (or any disease) than living a life offered by a pill."

depression is not like healthy people's "having a bad day", it is a dehabiliating disease

most healthy people, may get ocassionaly bored and don't wish to go out some day, but depression sufferers cannot work, cannot go out for months, etc, it must be considered as a disease

ofcourse there are other solutions than pills, everything else must be tried before taking pills, but the goal is to be healthy and enjoy life, even if you have to take a pill for the rest of your life (like diabetes, etc)

and pills do not offer dreams, they try to fix the chemicals in your brain, people don't take them to be happy, they take them so they won't suffer from emotional pain, like analgesics for somatic pain

your brain already offers you a dream, it makes you be happy even if you don't have everything in life, this is how the brain works, it maintains your good mood and motivation and energy, even if there are numerous reasons that could depress you, that's why most people are happy no matter what and they do not have to force themselves to be happy

surely writing, socializing, sports etc are all good ways to cope with depression and every depressed must do them, but not all people have that mild depression, some even commit suicide

the point is why some people need to try to be happy, while some others are naturally happy


isthereanywayout 6 years ago

I'm stuck in a dark hole. I don't know where to turn. How did I get this way? I'm only 22 I shouldn't be sitting in my house 24/7 I should be out enjoying life. All I want to do is sleep and sit on the couch. Like someone said in an earlier post sleep is the escape from reality.


VickiDee 6 years ago

I know I'm depressed. I'm 35 years old...and I tend to stay in my bathrobe as much as I can. I've been trapped in my head for about 2 months now. I have alienated my friends, and I can't find the happy person I was. I also know I have been depressed before....but not like this...and I really don't know what it takes to shake it. I have never been on meds, and I don't want to....cause it freaks me out to be a fake version of myself. I don't want to 'pretend' and mask these feelings....I want to get them the *#!^ out of my head. That's another thing. I AM SOOOOO ANGRY. I hate everything around me....and that scares the hell out of me. Now that I'm thinking about it....I'm pretty sure I hate myself the most. I feel like a total failure. I wake up crying a lot...I mean bawling until I can't breathe. My kitty died 2 months ago. My heart shattered from missing her. She died in my arms, and I couldn't figure out why until 3 weeks ago when I found a cracked container of rat-poison in our basement...and I realized why she looked like she was having convulsions/etc when she died. It makes me SICK and it hurts me to my core that I bought that $hit a couple years ago when we had mice and forgot all about it. My husband says I can't blame myself...wayyyy easier said than done. She meant the world to me...and that's what people don't understand. How could I have cared that much about her? It was like I killed my own baby, and I can't shake it. I am in a limbo of some sort, and feeling helpless to get 'out'. As I sit here, my hubby is thinking I'm crazy....and that kills me too. I really need to get a grip....but the anger (guilt/sadness/emptiness) is so intense. I think I really need a hug.

Thanks for 'listening' to my venting. It does make me feel a bit better to cry some times...

Good nite.


pamela 6 years ago

This is one of the most descriptive blogs I have found in 6 months of searching out depression. I can only say that knowing I am not alone when I wake up at 11 am and need to GO BACK TO BED until 2 pm gives me a slight lift. It is a sickening disease this depression that rips your world apart. I could tell all of you what it has done to me but it has ALL been said here by so many sad people suffering like me.

I wish I could tell you I know how to make it stop but I do not. All I can say is we just keep trying while we google painless suicide methods, and sleep most of our life away while searching for the DRUG that will make it all go away. So far, I have recently been slightly and I mean SLIGHTLY helped...two weeks now on 20 milligrams of Doxepin...a drug they USED TO prescribe, a tricycle, and only because I told a new doctor's PA I want something CHEAP!!!!! Isn't there one damn cheap drug that works....she said I am going to go old school with you here and have you try Doxepin. This is generic for whatever the hell it used to be called...starts with an S.

Anyway, my point is you keep trying for something to stop the pain, you take sleeping pills, I love clonazapam, Klonopkin the original, for mellowing out and sleeping. I also like tenazapam which was Restyline back in the day it was one of the most prescribed sleeping meds.

If you all only knew how unbelievable it is to me to be talking meds you would drop dead reading this. I am not exaggerating because they are the LAST THING I WOULD EVER DO.....but guess what....I am going to kill myself if I do not continue to search for something and I mean any kind of help of ANY kind.

So since we are all here hoping to read something helpful, I say go to the cheapest doc, ask for the cheapest meds, go to wal mart and fill the rx and keep trying, hoping, praying, whatever works for you. I am already sleeping half of my life away, lonely, sad, depressed, apathetic, pathetic, hopeless, in despair, unmotivated, lifeless, humorless, loveless, god I could go on an on....

I pray, and that has not worked for me either, for all of us.


anon 6 years ago

To pamela - reading your letter made me so thankful to be living in britain and having the NHS. Never before had it occurred to me that most people don't take meds coz they cant afford them. It's awful that your onlt option is to use the less effective and more dangerous medication. I truly feel for you and how helpless you must feel. Don't be embarrassed by resorting to meds tho guys. Depression isn't 'crazy' its an actual illness that targets the sertonin levels in the brain and its this imbalance that gives the side effect of a low and depressed mood and the medication restores the natural balance of this hormone. If you think of it physically and scientifically, then why shouldn't we take medication for it? I used it as kickstart to get myself back in order and i came off them after 2 months and done the rest alone. The little lift was all i needed. I respect that everyones depression is personal but don't feel insignificant if you feel your reason is not as justifiable as anyone else's who has suffered more. It doesn't matter what brought it on we all suffer the same pain. Keep strong guys, there IS light at then end of the tunnel. Methods i used (some seem a bit silly) to help me gain a more positive mood are -

Stand up and organise something for a few months time that you've always wanted to do (mine was to do a bit of travelling but it could be anything like a skydive or climbing a mountain!)

Voluntary work if unemployed (i volunteered with a cancer charity. It was dead easy to get involved and people are lovely and the feel good factor is immense as you'l feel valued. Also you can do a few or more hours as you want unlike a regular job where you HAVE to go)

Visit you doctor whether for medication or cognitive therapy. Admitting you could do with a little help gets the ball rolling and takes some of the pressure of you

Value little things - everytime something positive happened in my life during my recovery i made a point of stopping and recognising where i was in my life, compare it to where i used to be and thanked god/karma/ angels/ or passed on relatives for their help.

If, like i used to, you read these guidances and get the feeling of 'it's all right for her, she's not suffering like i am anymore' please do not overlook them and think that they wont work or that they are too much effort. I done these things over the course of a year and i took tiny baby steps. I used to just wait for a miracle recovery for months until i finally decided to take action and i promise you THESE WILL AID YOUR RECOVERY! Love to you all, K x


Ed 6 years ago

Just remember. Who you are, and who you think you are may be two different people. Diseases kill hundreds of thousands each day. It takes a very special person to go through what we endure. Thanks to all.


Benji 6 years ago

Hi everyone, have been suffering from depression for a couple years now, im 19 nearly 20, had a pretty rough past couple years. My brother took his own life then my long term girlfriend at the time moved to another country, she was diagnosed with clinical depression and attempted to take her life numerous times, although through all this we loved each other deeply, we no longer speak. These things lead to an accumulation of terrible decisions, drug and alcohol abuse, alienation of myself, friends and family and getting into trouble with the law. I attempted to get my act together by cutting down the drinking and drug use, got a job, started a course at uni, of which i was very lucky to get into. But all this never seemed enough, no matter how hard i tried i could never find the drive or enthusiasm for life. I am and always have been a smart guy, although have failed various subjects at uni and have had troubles at work. I find myself extremely lonely. My mother who i have depended on for a long time has moved away, and i live with my father, who has started taking serious drugs to deal with his own pain i guess. I have been dealing with this alone for a long time and it has taken an enormous toll on me physically and emotionally, i have seriously considered taking my life many times, the only thing that stops me is that i have this constant desire to see how my life ends up, i really just want to see where i end up, what im doing, but it is getting harder and harder, rather than easier. This is actually the first time ive ever really talked about it properly, probably the anonymity of it i guess. I haven't tried getting pills because i know i will just abuse them and am doing my best to get it together and not depend on anti depressants as i have depended on so many other things mainly alcohol, which to be honest has ruined a lot and lost me many friends. When i sleep i have recurring dreams of all the things that haunt me, and when i do have a good dream, i wake up and refuse to leave the bed, as i feel that the dream is far better than the reality of what i will face when i get out of bed. My closest friends are emotionally deprived, and so i do not confide in them, as i have just ended up feeling stupid after the times where i have. At this point im really just going through the motions and hoping something will happen soon that will change things and give me some hope. It is comforting to see that there are so many others out there that are struggling with similar situations, just hope we can all find ways of getting out of it, cos its no way to live life.

Benji


Mali 6 years ago

hi everyone ,

I would like to say it actually very sorry to all and to me offcourse!I ve also suffer too much about this case , and nowadays getting better , what is depression actually what happen sudenlly a nice happy kind person become a totally difference human beign ? I beleive there is the answer , we must to figth with the reason make use despression , and never give up to keep the balance we must to find out how to get more energy and get more power , as everyone know is power is money energy is the nice things which makes you happey on the life ,

I have been suffering as smilar experience most of you here and today want to read the blog , and find out actually everyone has same , and they complain with the same problems , friends who are them is there any real friends in this earth too hard to beleive , and also another case is why we loose them ! I beleive now is egoiszm is the top level in our new society , new age they have new rules, and I also beleive that who get depression they realise if something happen they are alone ,and they must to figth with anything alone so its very easy to loose Serotonin if you just lie down and don't figth with yourself, I beleive eveone has different experiences about the despression , like medicines , I have also get many of them the most funny one is cipralex with 2 beer I was the most happy man in the earth but later I GET SCARED to be happy also , my friends start to ask me can we get little bit of the medicin you use !!! so they was thinking I m drug user that make me also very dissapointed because my friends they can not see I have problem I m using medicin and they just blaim me to use some drugs to make me feel better , I recommend to them go doctor and ask the cipralex and if they need sure they ar going to get it , but could never make them beleive that its a medicin from doctor, so that me another kind of depression because they are talking when I m not with them that I m on the way to get crazy ,

so there is no way to go out this shit , if you want you can and there is just one way to do

you must to leave everthing which makes you unhappy ,

and you must to do things it hard to you , like sport and eat healthy , drink healthy , when done things change easily like first you get your energy back second your selvconfident , third economical power and also a happy healthy face everyone want to be with you , not run away from you , and the most important case is never talk your problem to your friends , if you don't want to loose them , don't forget you are the best friend of your own , finally I have go out , and find out my problem is also coming from the country I m living it happened 8 years ago , a trafic accident and after then got many problem with my business and also get many trouble with tax office , police and also local authority ,

after many years figth with them I fall a very deep depression , but last 2 year I have run away from that area , now they can not reach me and also leave all I know , no connection with them , and start a new life it took 2 year now I m much better but still lazzy want to lie down allways and also no energy to work , but no medicin , no drugs just sometimes beer, and its good like my doctor said ok drink beer but also make exercies , so I wish a healthy and happy life , to anyone share experience on this blog , and there is no way to hide , must to stand up and figth for your life ,

best wishes


distresssed123 6 years ago

I have been in depression for 5 years, ever since my dad cheated on my mom. The insecuity that bought me was just terrible. I got in a relationship with a wonderful person four years ago, but I never treated her the way she deserved. I always kept telling myself that she will cheat on me and not to get too attached. As soon as I realized that she will not cheat on me if I treated her propely, it was too late. It had been over three years into the relationship. It turned out that she did cheat on me, and she blamed me for forcing her to do it. From then on, my depression worsen. I use meds but that only made me feel worse. I have no idea where to turn to now. I am still with her because I just don't know how to break it off with her.


Clay 6 years ago

Hi All. I am 36 years old and have suffered from Depression and Anxiety for about the last 15 years. It has forced me to quit many job because I can't handle the stress after 6-12 months. I am so pumped about the new job,my performance is always top notch, and then it happens. The trigger is usually something like being denied a raise, promotion, or not using an idea. I know its because I am new, but I feel like I can rule the world and be the best employee but then I falter. I attribute some of it to Manic tendencies but I am unemployed now from quitting my last job and I don't know how to recover from this one. I am medicated, if I wasn't I probably would have committed suicide many years ago.


singh 6 years ago

when u are in deprsion its hard to get out of but if u have a strong mind u can easly fite it of jus kep your mind set to one goal and achive it get out the house more meet more friends up remba that u had a life before .. when i felt lonli only fing i had was god .. he neva leaves u alone he watchs and he wants 2 take u out the darknes only if u have hope in him he wud have hope in u


Paula 6 years ago

hi everyone


shannen  6 years ago

I agree that it is best to get out of depression the natural way...but at the beginning you said it is better to live with your depression rather than live a dream from a pill, i disagree with that. YOu obviously didn't go through that bad of a depression, because if a pill could slightly get me out of what i feel i would do without thinking twice about it. If there is no reason for me to get out of bed i won't. Actually the only thing that does get me out of bed is school. Other wise i don't get out of bed. I don't have the physical or mental energy to do anything, and it is only get worse day by day. At this point i don't feel like there is a reason to do anything or try to succeed because i know god will just take it away for me anyways.I have never felt so hopeless or worthless than i do now....


Naz 6 years ago

I am 25 and have been depressed for a while, however only over the last 6-8 weeks it has become worse. My depression routes from issues in my home life and lot of it is to do with my relationship with my mother and her expectation of what I should be like. I come from an asian muslim family and my mother is very traditional. I know in my whole family I am the one that is the odd one out. my home life has made me feel so low that

I go to bed not wanting to wake up in the morning, I stay in my room and don't get out, unless I have to use kitchen or bathroom. It has come to point where I really don't want to talk to anyone, i feel like cutting everyone off. I feel so worthless and made to feel like I am such a bad person. Right now i just want hide away from the whole world.


july  6 years ago

I am 26 years of age was about to get married with my high school sweet heart in 2009 but after 2 years of feeling unhappy i desided to end the relationship i moved on to be in a relationship with another guy who made me very happy at first but soon after i felt horeble and wanted out but the problem was that i loved him when i was not with him i would miss him and when we together i fight him away in May this year i lost my mother who was an alcoholic almost all her adult life and highly depressed she died leaving me with no hope for a better tomorrow i am depressed and going cazy with all these feeling of love and hate it is defficult for me but i am seeing a therapist for the first time in my life i never took it as a serius illness but now i see it eating me up and messing with my mind i hope and pray for strength when ever i get to remember to pray i lost hope so much i hope for all of us that God answers our prayers and come out of this hell hole


livenow1 6 years ago

isn't it hard to believe how much depression and anxiety can destroy your life? I started taking medication again just a few days ago and already I feel so much better. I know it can take a while to work but I believe these antidepresants help right away with anxiety so there is definitely an immediate response.

Doesn't anyone wonder why we don't learn more about these issues in school? issues which cause depression, what depression and anxiety are, why do we learn about anxiety and depression only after falling so hard into depression? why is school such bullshit in comparison to these issues?

I realize how many people suffer from depression from reading some of these comments. And we all likely suffer in silence thinking that we are the rare ones' because all we see on tv and in movies and on facebook is the facade of those who don't suffer. I have come to realize more and more that so many of us suffer.


Meeshel 6 years ago

I am 48 years old and woke up this morning with horrible emotional pain in my chest and stomach. I have been battling depression for many years, I have taken every antidepression pill there is and nothing works, I cant wait to go to sleep at night but hate to wake up...I am very lonely but have a wonderful family. I don't understand why I cant be happy...:-(


auclimbing@gmail.com 6 years ago

To 'CompuSmart-

If your friend is still around- (and turns off the phone, won't take calls, won't phone people- do NOT give up on pursuing them.

I did this with my exhusband- who suicided. We talked on the phone. I knew he wasn't going out anymore, or seeing people. He'd hole himself up, and I thought if I backed off- maybe he would try more things to get well. (Like join a men's depression group I recommended,

get a different Dr., or other things.) He was in SUCH bad shape- and looked TERRIBLE. It ripped my heart out seeing him so sick. What I DIDN'T know- is that I was the only one he was taking calls from- I backed off from him- doing the 'tough love' thing, but it was VERY wrong in this situation. I still feel somewhat- that I could've prevented his death- if I would have stayed close and kept encouraging him- no matter what.

I am in the same shape now. No longer phone or answer.

So don't back off from your friend- they- and myself, are VERY lonely,but feel like we have nothing to contribute, nothing to give, nothing worthwile to talk about. If he doesn't answer and if you've stopped calling- drop in his mailbox a note saying 'hey- I know you're not doing so well, but I just wanted you to know that I think of you and care about you. Call if you need anything or to talk, or just someone to sit with to watch tv or whatever. Just remember that there are people out here that care and think about you.'

I don't feel like ANYONE cares anymore. That I don't matter. I isolate. Phone rings, won't answer. Make me more sick, just can't help it. The depression dictates behavior- these are the symptoms and behavior of this illness If you're friend is better or getting better- AMEN! If he's not doing better- pursue him- even if gently.

a


6 years ago

Ever feel that you legitimately did not belong here? I often feel like I was given a ticket to the wrong destination and the office responsible for issuing my refund or return travel simply doesn't exist. Hence I'm stuck. Gravity is a myth, the earth sux.


anonoumous 6 years ago

i believe that some things have a factor on deprresion like floresent lights, lead not the stuff that's in your pencil being alone to long the lack of motivation the lack of confidence, paranoia also the more neggitive you are the more you will become. you may feel like you don't belong but you must deal with what you got and enjoy life to you want to look back at age 60 and say wow i had a shitty life of coarse not no one does everyone wishs to have a good life and be proud of them selves you must find what you are looking for the best thing i came up with is do what you like best and give it your all and be proud of it no matter what any one says also make sure you stay active don't get to comfortable in your house where that's only where you want to stay and material possetions are not what makes you you you are the one that can change this no one else they can help but the dessision is intirely up to you


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denden mangubat 6 years ago from liloan, cebu, philippines

in helping a man to get away from depression it should be in realistic way and with hopeful meaning.read my hub about depression.


scared 6 years ago

I have dealt with depression and anxiety for about 14 years. It has gotten worse over the last few years, when I lost my mom and watched her die of cancer. Then my youngest daughter was lifeflighted to a hospital with head trama. Know I lost my job due to be diagnosed as a kleptomania, I would steal money and not know it. I as scared of my future, I want to go to school and get a BS in mental health and help those with what I have gone through. Any advice......how long will it take me to get through this?


Mike L 6 years ago

I have suffered from an anxiety disorder from my very younger years which developed into depression really in my 30's. I have spent a great deal of money on medication, a psychologist (for anxiety) and 2 psychiatrists.Although I was told after testing that I was a suitable candidate for medication as my body properly metabolized it, I suffered from a range of side effects, that included sexual dysfuntion and extreme tiredness. I tried zoloft, cypramil, effexor but non of the more extreme drugs such as lithium. The drugs had various ranges of side effects, the most annoying being the inability to have an erection and the tiredness. I also lost any real desire to try and fix the underlying problem through effort ie CBT etc. I stopped caring and stopped working effectively and everything slid more and more downhill because of the "blahness" that the medication was inducing.

I stopped seeing a shrink - the motherhood statements of the obvious were unhelpful. I stopped the medication because it stopped me caring.

Yes I am depressed and anxious. But I know that it is really all about will power and recognition of the feelings and using realistic propositions to counteract negativity (ie a sort of CBT). I am also starting to exercise. It seems to me that CBT (which is easily done by yourself after just reading a basic paperback about it - no mystery really) and physical exercise is the best way out of all this.

Just my two cents worth.

Cheers from Australia

Mike


A Developer 6 years ago

When thibgs go wrong,as they sometimes will.

When the rod you are trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And,you want to smile,but you have to shy.

When care is pressing you down a bit.

Rest,if you must,But don't quit.


A Developer 6 years ago

When things go wrong,as they sometimes will.

When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And,you want to smile,but you have to shy.

When care is pressing you down a bit.

Rest,if you must,but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As everyone of us sometimes learns,

And many a fellow turned about,when they might have won,had they strucked it out.

Don't Give Up !!! though the pace seems slow,

You may succeed in another blow !!!!

Success is failure turned inside out,

The silver tint of the cloud of doubt.

And you never can tell how close you are,

It might be near when it seems afar,

So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit,

Its when things seem worsed that you must not Quit..

So Get Well for the sake of your dear ones!!!


yesika 6 years ago

Depression can really be bad, y depression started very young to i married a person who only married me for the papers of usa i had a child of him soon after getting his papers he left me wanting not to help with his daughter the world almost ended for me. then i met an awesome person who im now married to but it hasn't being easy. Ever since we moved together his parents have interfere in our lives its just definetly distroying my life, i cant stand them and im more than sure they cant stand me. My husband and i have trying to do things to go on in life but everything seems impossible everything we do or try to do cannot happen just for the simple fact his parents are always in the middle of everything. At this moment im so depressed that i have so many things going through my mined that is not even funny. I know all theses problems are going to end up by a divorce. the more i try to be happy and forget about all the problems the more i remember things that hey have done to me. and the thing that mostly hurts me that my husband knowing all the situation is kind of always defending them. he always tells me to forget and not listen to things but he just doesn't understand when a person is in depression that just simply doesn't happen. i have tried several ways for all this to go away but i don't know why is not working. im tired of trying and trying for nothing. the only thing i know all this is going to end up in a divorce because i just simply don't want to live like this anymore


Just a little help 6 years ago

Hi everyone,

I have been reading all the comments of people who are suffering. Depression is one f the worst things in the world, and no one will understand it if they have not been through it. I had suffered from severe psychotic depression for over a year. I was always angry and knew there was something wrong with me but just couldn't figure out what. After a long hard battle of trying anything and everything that could help, from spiritual healers to psychaitrists to anti depressants. Severe clinical depression is one of tue worst things, you feel like the world has collapsed and nothing seems real anymore, no matter how hard you try, you cannot find happiness in anything- like watching your favourite tv show, or having your favourite meal, like you used to! Nothing ha meaning and your life is taken over by negative thoughts. It is now approaching two years that I have been suffering, and thank god, I am much better than I was. Now I have managed to switch off fromy mind. I no longer feel that the world has ended, but I still face common problems, like sleeping till late- sometimes till 4/5 o'clock, have a laconic energy and donnot feel motivated to go out. Everyone tells me I have to force myself but I have come to be quote content with knowing it is just the depression and it will soon go- it is not the end o the world because I sleep late. You may think how the he'll can I be so content and acceptant of this situation- I don't judge any of you who re resenting for being so positive, I used to do the same. The truth is that because you have put these negative thoughts and feelings into your mind and body, all your mind wants is more unhappiness. It is something called the pain body. Depression is caused by bad events which lead to bad emotions, which on turn you do not deal with. Although you think you may not be thinking about these things anymore (if you are thinking about them, then it is clear they are affecting you) actually what you have done, is made these thoughts permanent in tour subconscious mind. And the body is a very intellectual thing, once you have a thought that you do not want to think about, you push it away and do not want to deal with it, in other words, you REPRESS it. This is the worst thong you could do, as the thought is not gone, actually your mind or you body is working over time to repress it. What happens is that your brain sends signals to your body, that you have a thought you need to repress so you do not feel pain, so your muscles in turn tense, in various parts of the body, depending on the thought you are repressing. As every part of your body is linked to different feelings, eg, anxiety in your chest or fear in your stomach. That is why you have no energy or motivation to do anything because all your bodys energy is used up in trying to tense these muscles. What you need to do get rid of these repressed thoughts anon turn loosen your muscles so your body and mind can function normally.

If any of you, and most of you probably are, in a state that you will do anything to get out of this, I know how it feels- do this one thing. I found an absolutely amazing guy that in my eyes is a God and he has taught me so much! IF THIS IS THE ONLY THING YOU DO, CALL THIS GUY, I just can't explain how much he can help you. He's better than any doctor, councillor, therapist- I have seen them all. His name is MATT DILOREZO, he now lives in Canada and itay cost you a little to call him but it is the best call you will make. If you are calling from England, you can get him on 001817 776 5412.

Also an amazing book to get away from negative thoughts and to escape from your mind is by a spiritual teacher, one of the best in the world. The book is called A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. You need to go through great suffering to understand this book and I'm sure most of you will be ready for it, as I know depression isnone of the biggest suffering.

I hope that my comments and recommendations will help, please let me know if any of you use them and tell me if they have helped. I was reading all the posts and I knew that it was the right thing to do to share the help I have found. I knew it wouldn't be fair if I didn't. Guilt is one the worst feelings (caused by false thoughts) and it is onenof the biggest causes of depression. So always live right, and do right. Karma will reward you!

I hope all of you will bot give up and know that it WILL get better even f you cannot see it now. And I hope you will use the advice and recommendations I have given you, if you do not get cured, it will definitely help. Or at least give you the steps you need to knownin order to be helped. By the way, Matt charges £70 for his work if he thinks he can help you, but it is the best payment you will ever make.

I hope you all keep faith. And just know how wise and strong you will be to get through this!


Snoopie 6 years ago

Hi guys

Wow ive read a few of the stories above and i can so relate to a lot of that stuff you all have been through. About a year ago i feel into Depression for the first time due to a break up. It was ugly for me and what made it harder to cope with is that i never really had anyone to support or help me while this happened. I hid this from everyone including my parents. I done some stuff im not proud of and still to this day find it hard to talk about. I took medication for a while which made me feel spaced out and didn't really help so i choose to stop taking them and find a way to get out of this mess on my own. Here's some stuff on the net i found interesting that gave me some tips on how to get out of a depressed state of mind.....

1 - Have the will to get out. Many people remain depressed simply because they lack the will to go out. It certainly can be difficult to push yourself when you're feeling down but it is an effort well worth making.

2 - Establish a clear understanding of what made you depressed. Was it the break up? Are you unsure about your career? Self-worth? Many people remain unhappy because they attribute their unhappiness to the wrong things, or to nothing at all. Social pressure can often keep you from even questioning your happiness about certain things. Be honest with yourself, or you wont even know what to move on from.

3 - Change your state of affairs. If you're unhappy, and want to become happy, something about your life clearly needs to change. For many people, this means their surroundings. Are you still working at the company that gives you no sense of meaning whatsoever? Quit!

Are you still in the relationship that is making you feel manipulated? Break up!

This may seem trivial, but it's often the most overlooked obstacle between you and your satisfaction.

4 - When you can build up the courage Seek help from a mental health professional. Many studies prove that talk therapy helps with depression. To get the most out of talk therapy, you need to find a therapist that you like and trust, and work with him or her over a longer period of time.

Gudluck and hope this helps a bit :-)


DreamNaut 6 years ago

I experienced an episode of psychosis about a year ago. After taking terrible medication I was able to recover in 6 months. Unfortunately for me I have now fallen into a terrible depression. I now truly understand what a terrible disease this is and exactly what you all are going through. I simply can't experience pleasure at all. Although I do make it to the shower most of the time it does take quite a bit of effort. My first thought getting out of bed in the morning is "damnit im awake!" or "damnit I have to shave again!". I also have thyroid disease and severe stomach distress at a ripe age of 26. Not to sound cruel but those suffering from situational depression, tough luck, change your situation, seek some talk therapy. Thank God everyday you don't have CLINICAL depression. I recommend those who are suffering from REAL depression to first make sure there is nothing physically causing your depression. I know easier said than done, but you have to get to the root of the problem.The reality is AD's are short term solutions. There are many diseases which cause depression. Hell, even allergies and vitamin deficiencies can cause depression. This is the best advice I can offer. What also helps me (notice I say helps and not cures) is a nice hot bath 2X a day. Running seems to help a little bit too. To all those newly diagnosed with depression: welcome to hell, I sincerely hope you can find your way out.

P.S. recent studies show depression shrinks your brain.. cool huh.


SoLost 6 years ago

I am so glad to have found this forum. I most often have a real difficulty putting words to how I feel, and many of you were able to do that for me. Writing about my depression is really difficult for me, but if you don't mind, I'm going to use this space to vent and step out of my comfort zone (and probably sound really whiny).

I have been in a depression for about 10 months now. I tried to kill myself by overdosing 3 years ago, and since then I have been hospitalized in psych wards 3 times. So this isn't my first bout of depression. I haven't been working for over a year, which contributes to my sense of worthlessness. Losing my job meant I had to move in with my parents. I am 29 and have lived on my own for the past 10 years, so losing my independence makes me feel like even more of a failure.

I can't get out of bed, I stay up until 5am, wake up at 3pm, all to avoid the day. I escape by sleeping and dreaming. Anything to give me a reprieve from my self-hatred. Sometimes I won't shower for days because I think what's the point. What's the point of doing anything to help myself, when the life I'd go back to is a disappointment.

Most of the times I feel selfish for being depressed. I have a very supportive family (granted with tons of their own problems and mental health issues, but loving nonetheless), have a few friends who love me and support me, I'm relatively attractive and have a good education from a great university. I have all the tools to improve my situation but I have no will to do so. I am on meds, and I see a psychiatrist twice a week for cognitive-behavioral therapy. What more do I need to get better?! It makes so mad at myself.

When I'm depressed, I isolate, I feel worthless, I am afraid of socializing because I feel like I have nothing to say. My lack of confidence in social situations is what makes me the most hopeless. I want more friends, I want to be carefree and laugh, I want to have interesting things to say, but none of this feels possible to me because I am so overwhelmed with fear and worthlessness. I am afraid to go out and get a job. I have been fired from every job I've held, made up outrageous lies so I can stay home from work and stay in bed. Because of this I feel no one will hire me. Not a single one of my former employers would have anything positive to say about me when it comes time for a background check. These are all the thoughts that consume my mind all day and make me afraid to get back into the world.

I have had times of success. Like I said I graduated from college with good grades, went to grad school but didn't finish because of my depression. I spent 3 years in grad school and didn't even come out with a degree because I was hospitalized for my suicide attempt. After I didn't have the will or belief in myself to go back to get my degree. So I wasted 3 years of my life with nothing to show for it.

If you looked at me 10 years ago, you'd think I was going places. I could have become a doctor, a scientist, a lawyer, whatever, but my low self-esteem and depression has held me back from all this. Now with a terrible work history, not much work experience, no advanced degree, what kind of jobs do I have to look forward to? Minimum wage jobs? (I'm sounding so entitled, but hey, I'm being honest) I look at the people I went to school with and they're all successful, married, living their lives. I was supposed to be right there alongside them. I feel like a total failure, like my growth has been stunted. Everyone got thru their shit, their insecurities, whatever. Me, I stayed behind because I'm not willing to help myself. I've exhausted my friendships and even now my family, lost many friends because of being such a downer, and now I'm alone.

So here I am now, wanting to die because I feel like I failed, and I don't know how to deal with life and have nothing to look forward to.


Withyou 6 years ago

I'm there at the moment, the crater of despair pressing back on my head, I don't sleep well, I don't eat much and I am starting a new lot of medication that makes my body buz.

Getting to the route of it, I think we are all scared of failure, that's why we never do any good at anything because if we don't try we have an excuse.

Every time I have depression I self destruct - instead of getting out of a situation I challenge it and make it worse and aggravate it.

I have gone to far this time, my misery is complete and I have failed again but nearly taken out a whole lot of people with me.

I have to talk happy, happy is that I will never get depression again, it doesn't own me, I don't owe it my time. Every morning I go for a walk - and try and see the beauty in the world I live in, it sustains me, everynight I look at the photos and it keeps me alive as I stalk the corridors - I have everything to be happy for but I am so used to looking for excuses to fail - I'm so used to entering everyone's life, i forget my own - escaping what I really am - an unknown entity - a thought flashes through my mind - negative, worthless, doubting - I want to be positive, valuable, confident so I lie about myself, lie about my failures, you know I think the nicer you are to yourself the nicer people are to you...it's extremely hard to be nice to yourself when you don't like yourself, we need the world and the world needs people like us.....we are here to let the world know be kinder, genuine and accept all our differences, good and bad.....make a simple list of something you would like to change about yourself and practice every day.....head on overload time to sign off and get happy


tap 6 years ago

I have just read the stories above and I am so glad I have found this I was trying to look for anything and everything on depression and have done for the last couple of years.

I was diagnosed with depression 4 years ago I have been on medication I came off after two years but it didn't last so I went back on the meds I have seen the pshyc and counsellors my mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and we lost her a couple of months ago I have attempted suicide three times even though I have a lot to live for as I have a husband and children but some days I get so down in the dumps that I just can't shake those negative thoughts I have found that talking with family about having depression and how I feel has been good but I seem to hide behind a wall sometimes when people ask me how im doing and I just say good but deep down I know that things aren't good......

I have tried all the self help tips like exercising etc

The exercising does help a lot and just by reading a lot of the comments I think I'll get up tomorrow and go for a walk........

It's been so good to see that there are people like me that are suffering from depression so I say don't give up if you get knocked down get up and try again good luck to all those suffering out there........


Les 6 years ago

Ive tryed and tryed but nothing works or helps . What's left , nothing . There is no point , it hurts to much


Sucks  6 years ago

Depression has ruined my life.


retribution 6 years ago

Depression had really screwed up my life to the point of suicide. I had already been cutting but nothing worked. One day, I realized its how I survive is what makes me who I am, and I don't want people to remember me as another suicidal teen; I want them to remember me for being alive and successful. After more thought, I came to the conclusion that revenge is my reason for living; to lie to those who lied to me, to ignore the ones who ignored me, to avenge my pain caused by others.

This twisted logic somehow pulled me out of my hole of despair, and now when I feel down, I think ahead...


Greg 5 years ago

I really think this forum has helped me. I have had bouts of depression off and on for the last 6 years. 3 Weeks ago it hit me hard again. I broke up with my girlfriend, got fired from my job etc. After reading some of your stories I feel like i shouldn't be that depressed , but i am. I have started exercising every day , That seems to help a little , but I feel I have lost my whole personalitie. I used to be do outgoing, Now I feel like I have nothing to say.Just wish I could get past this and live my life again !! I want to start taking a natural seratonin booster called HTP-5 . Has anyone taken this before? Well that's all for now .Hope everyone is feeling a little better each day. Feels good to write what I feel, to other people that actually understandwhere I am coming from.


mimosarose 5 years ago

Reading through this blog has been so illuminating for me. It has helped me so much a) to realise that I am not alone in my experiences, and b) to identify some of the common threads that characterise this indescribably awful and debilitating thing called depression. I have suffered from anxiety and depression for the past nearly two years following separation from my husband, the love of my life who I had been with since I was 21 (am now 38 – funnily enough, an age I've noticed cropping up a lot throughout this blog) but I felt I had no choice but to leave him in the end as he was emotionally abusive, heavily dependent on drugs and alcohol and barely able to contribute to our family (we have two daughters aged 9 and 11). Then five months ago things really conspired to tip me over the edge, or so it felt: my grandmother (with whom I was really close) died, my daughters and I had to move out of the beautiful family home where we'd lived for nearly ten years, a relationship with a close friend that had become 'something more' ended abruptly… I could go on, anyway to cut a long story short I ended up having what I now think must have been a breakdown (which basically consisted of collapsing in a tearful heap at my mother's house and sleeping continually for three days and nights; feeling utterly suicidal when awake so would just do anything I could to go back into sleep, then getting medication from the doctor (metrizapine) which brought me back from the brink - just. That was in August and five months later I could count on one hand the days where I have been able to see anything like a glimmer of hope or reason for living. It has been a time of such pain, despair, anguish, emptiness… Not just emotional but physical, like a vice gripping my chest and stomach, unable to breathe etc. I have found myself blaming myself and, by turns, everyone around me for my misery, often feeling that all my friends had turned their backs on me & the circle neatly closed up behind me with me pushed permanently outside it. I can see now how this is such a self-fulfilling prophecy because most of the people around you do instinctively tend to keep their distance when they sense you are in a dark and futile place. Once they have given you a hug and dispensed their advice they really don't see what more they can possibly do. (Although I have had a couple of friends who have ventured unafraid into that dark place and been there alongside me through thick and thin, and I hope I will never forget their bravery and kindness). It has taken every bit of strength and resolve in me to carry on with my job and to be there for my daughters, but in a strange way, while often feeling like the last straw these have actually ended up been the very things that have held me together and kept me going. Anyway… my lovely doctor described the drugs as a rope bridge across the abyss – they don't take the abyss away but just help you to climb out of it – and today, finally, it feels as if they have served their purpose. Strange how the same view can look so completely different through eyes that are not clouded with the darkness of depression. Same place, same friends, same job, same prospects… but somehow it just all contains some little nugget of hope, light, meaning, enjoyment – all the things that had leached out of my life for so long. BTW I am a very healthy, holistic-approach kind of person who balks at even taking an aspirin, it was in utter desperation I turned to conventional medicine but I have to say that I think it saved me. It doesn't have to be a long term thing, I have only been on the pills a few months but now that they have done their job and helped me to climb out of that abyss I hope to wean myself off them gradually and walk into tomorrow with something approximating hopefulness and optimism. To all of you who are gripped by that vice, I just want to say I think it's a positive thing that you are even looking on here and contributing to the blog – you have taken that vital first step of recognising your illness and taking those first tiny, tentative steps towards making yourself better. Do not underestimate the steps you have already taken towards working out where you are and trying to find ways to move away from that place.


mimosarose 5 years ago

By the way Greg, I have been recommended HTP-5 by a friend who suffers from cyclical 'SAD' type depression most winters and says he has found it very effective. He gave me some to try but I was told it should not be used in conjunction with the SSRI anti-depressants I have been taking so I haven't taken them yet. I'd be interested to know how you get on if you do go down that route.


Seven 5 years ago

Sometimes I feel very angry, violent. Other times I feel worn down by existence. Sometimes I laugh at myself, half-mirthful, half-pitying. Sometimes I pick myself up and try again.

Suffering is the human condition. As Buddha said; strive diligently for your liberation.

Breathe deeply. The air is sweet. Be. Find joy in the small moments of existence.


Robert. D. Henson 5 years ago

I came to a point to where i was going to end my life. The cops came threw me in the car. Thay took me to hosp. For 30 days ! people there help me. I tryed the pill thing. It did not help at all. Came home and put my life back. Gone back to work. I have my days where things seem down. But i move on. There people seem to stay in there little world and live there. I seem to step out of it for now. It can come back i know this trust me it has! First be good to self . Eat well and get those 8 hours sleep. Take a long walk and say hi to every one. Open up to people .self cant get out self . Hear what others going on in small talk. I never new how many really did care about me as peson . When i came back to work from illness i made a point that can do this and it up to me know. No one can live my life . But we can if i let them in. Iam not looking back in my life. It today what do with it. It far better than the rope i tryed to hang my self with !. If willing to talk to me my email is robert0002@ovi.com


natural health and healing 5 years ago

Depression is a kind of feeling that every people would not want to experience. Sometimes depression could cause a certain person to just break down so hard to the point that he would want to die just for the feeling to melt away. But actually, depression for me is just a negative feeling within our soul and it can go away through certain meditations and therapies especially for those people who have been through so much depression.


frank 5 years ago

hi im really bad and depressed i do no were to go or turn 2 i locked myself away from everything i don't talk to friends or family when my kids from another marriage phone i tell my wife tell them im not in it does my head in a cant cope i want to die that's all to end this shit once and for all but i cant i got 3 lovely kids and wife here but i think im on the way to loose them 2 my own doing i really want help and cant find any help i go sleep at 11-12 at night wake up about 1-2 and feel real bad cant sleep again got a like hot feeling in my chest and feeling really bad and low do no what the hell is wrong and then for a week or so im top of the world and feeling good like i use to and then for no reason i come crashing down like a ton of bricks i want to cry lots but i don't i tryed the gym but got fed up going by my self i use to be helpful and caring but its all gone like somebody took it all away from me im sorry but i don't want to make u all worse then u are with my self pitty story any one what could help i don't want to loose my family because i no is not far of i shout at the kids for silly things but i feel bad after i don't no PLEASE HELP SOMEBODY IM SORRY TO U ALL


JMN 5 years ago

Frank - Have you seen a Dr or started any meds yet? I've been in a severe depression for at least a couple months now (have had this before) and I just started Celexa last week, and I can't believe this, but I think I already feel a little better. I have similar sleep issues...to bed at 10, wake at 1-2...it's horrible. I hope you see a dr and try a med if you haven't already. I've been through this before and I know it will get better if you get help.


Hannah 5 years ago

I read this and learned so much. My mom just talked to me tonight about how I always post depressing and suicidal posts on facebook and that my family has asked about me. Someone I see in school but don't really talk to messaged me on facebook and said I shouldn't be so down. THAT is when I decided to try to find a way out of depression. While I was reading this I started to cry. I don't even know why. I think it was because I felt bad for wasting 2 years of my life depressed. I'm 13 right now, turning 14 this year and this inspired me so much that I'm going to get active and try as hard as I can to be a happy person. I know I can do it. I just need some help and I think I can get some from my friend. She knows I'm depressed. I have thought of suicide before but I know better then to do that because I know I have an amzing life ahead of me and I am scared of God's punishment for if I gave up on life so easily. I know I'm being strong when I keep on living so I KNOW I'm not going to give up. I always sit alone in the basement on the computer and I don't do much except for Figure skating for an hour and a half once every week. I need to find something that can make me happy all the time. So I want to thank you SO SO SO much for helping me. I wasn't going to kill myself but just think of it as you just saved my life and you also saved many others. You also saved me from wasting anymore of my life being depressed. I feel I can finally talk to people and get back up on my feet.. so.... Thank you. :)


DEBRA Engel 5 years ago

Depression is a state of mind as one would say. As I lost both breast to cancer then hair to chemo, I thought this is depressing, not. During chemo I went to visit my daughter & only child. During this wonderful visit I thought it would be, my daughter choose to help a friend in need & let the friend & her kids stay over night. Well this friend's husband "A COP" broke into my daughter's home and shot her, my son in law, his wife & himself in the head, all died. I excaped with my little grandchild, and now I live with out my daughter. Depression tried to hold on to me, I try each day to battle it, by positive thinking to start my day. Giving into depression would mean giving into the killer and I just won't let him win. If I can come thru this let my true story inspire others, anything life gives can be fixed, death can not. Choose to have a Blessed Day.


Scott 5 years ago

Actually helps readin this. Don't know how long ive been depressed but im not getting worse. Everyones different u should do what makes u feel relaxed, don't listen to sad music or watch sad films. Don't give up on anything just because someone else doesn't believe in you. If u feel that bad DON'T DRINK ALCOHOL!! Alcohol and depression isn't a good combonation, end up in hospital or jail. Best thing that makes me feel good is going a drive on a motorbike somewhere away from everything, meetin new girls, if u got 1 before what's stoppin u now? Don't feel sorry for urself it wont ever help. To be honest, smokin weed is actually a good thing for it, chill out with friends, go see a comedian, book a holiday, go jogging or long walks. And always remember seriously no matter what uv been through life is never that bad u need to do suicide. And don't think ''maybe not for u'' i aint been through the worst but when ur at the bottom u can only go back up.


naz 5 years ago

NAZ

I have been feeling depressed for a long time, coming from a traditional asian family, i am 26 and not married, moving out of the family home before a women gets married is seen as such a bad thing. recently i went back to college to study my mother made me feel so worthless,saying i wouldn't achieve anything and she was embarassed of me and ashamed of me because i had gone back to study and was not married.

I have just told her that i am going to move out for university because i cant cope with the negativity she projects on me. My mother said to leave and never come back and she did not want to see me. I have spent a very long time tolerating things that she has said that mentally right now i feel like i am on the verge of a mental shutdown. I don't want to feel like this and don't know what to do.


Wary 5 years ago

hey! i am also among all you guys who is stuck by depression. its tough..it really is. there are times when i lose hope whatsoever, walking on the road to nowhere and what not!

Life seems worthless, feel pity on myself, have cried so many times thinking about all the good times i had and wished that it comes back again, wished that someone invent time machine and i could go back and enjoy, laugh, love and do everything the way i used to do.

But trust me guys i somehow till now haven't lost faith in god. 'everything happens, happens for the best'...this one liner is my medicine. looking at my life now and trust me nothing worse can happen than this to me. So i have decided to be happy no matter what because being this way hasn't helped yet! if i am sure nothing worse than this can happen to me so im trying all possible things to get my life back on track, to get those days which i miss. yes, it tough..very tough but atleast i won't regret later that i didn't try.

Guys lets try..lets try and be happy..lets all be friends and share everything to feel light...lets cry together, lets laugh together, lets party together online!! let's do it..lets make something impossible..possible..cuz as i said...'nothing worse can happen'..

lets play a game..lets promise that we would come here and comment everyday about the happiest moment of our day! and lets see who got the most..and the winner doesn't get any gift but he/she is certainly making us all smile and part of our lives! LETS NOT BE ALONE FROM THIS MOMENT ONWARDS.


loser 5 years ago

i m depressed as always, i can't get out of the black hole, i want to sleep the whole day. nobody understands what it means to be depressed. I should be at work now, but i can't do it anymore, i am about to loose my job, i m loosing my friends because they don't want to hear me talking about depression, they don't understand, i m loosing them one by one i have nobody to talk to, i feel like a loser. i can only cry the whole day. i just don't want to be here anymore. i m depressed pretty much my whole life. i ve seen psychiatrist, didn't work. i am on meds, but they don't work. i just don't know what to do anymore but sleep. i wish i was normal, but i m not as i m depressed all the time. i wish i had somebody who could help me... at the moment i just want to die...


Danielle 5 years ago

hallo everybody i just discover i had depression for now almost 3 months and i don't know how to hadel it i am 17 now and it all started when my boyfriend when to Potchefstroom for his studies so now he keep on talking about other girls it really hurts me and yet he does't care about my feelings so i really start talking to peole and i keep getting the same answer so now its only up to me.i know its not easy but to go jogging and listening to music talk to somebody really helped me so far and to cry it all out well atleast for the day.


jay 5 years ago

I got rid of a terrific depression by keeping a diary of events ,reading motivational books also listening to funny things ,funny videos on youtube and with psychiatric help.


dan89 5 years ago

there are ways out of it but its hard and its a tough ride , i use holosync and lifeflow meditation and being doin it for about 3 years now and altho im not tottaly out of depression yet things av got tons and tons better if u dont no what holosync and lifefloew is check em out , and id proppley recommend lifeflow cos its not as tough goin as holosync , holosync int for sissys it proper kick u in , and another thing i recommend is the sedonna method, the meditataion holsoync and lifeflow has made me miles more aware so doin the sedonna method i find easy , iv only being doin that for 2weeks and that cleared loads of negative stuff out my mind , if u think that doin nothing about depression and sitin a praying is gonna change you , it is not , iv tryed loads of other things , alot of stuff that people av mentioned on here they dont work in the long run , the only things that work imo is what iv mentioned here , but its a long journey years and years , u nee to act to get rid of it u cant just expect it to go , and the longer u leave it the harder it will be to change , and if u cant afford lifeflow u can download it from a torrent i dont no which one so ul just av to type it in , get on it cos its good and peace will come 1 day never give up .


dan89 5 years ago

one last thing, from my experience with holosync and lifeflow is at times u are gonna feel worst than u already do but is part of the process its not making u worst i just wont u to understand that because iv read in forums about people quiting the course cos they think its makin them worst it really dont,to understand the process and learn more about this i recommend u check out holosyncs website ,and read his blog aswell if u get time some of the stuff on there is quite intresting ,i no whats its like to be depressed and i feel like i can help people cos im nearly out of depression , and everything i written is how iv done it , i really hope what iv written has helped u and if use it , it will , trust me it will be the best decision of u life ,


dan89 5 years ago

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matt 5 years ago


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Great post! Many people get depressed because they are overweight or unhealthy, this causes them to doubt themselves and feel sloppy and like they can’t breathe or haven’t got the lungs to breath. It’s very hard to pull yourself together but I suggest you start beginning more activate, go to the gym and eat right, that will but breathe back in your lungs.


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ME84 5 years ago

I HAVE DEPRESSION. I HAD IT FOR A LONG TIME. DON'T KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO NOT TO BE DEPRESSED. LIFE IS HORRIBLE FOR ME. DON'T THINK MY EXISTENCE EVEN MATTERS. I ALWAYS FEEL FAT UGLY NOT GOOD ENOUGH. AND MOST OF THE TIME I SEE MY SELF AS AN UGLY PERSON. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO TO GET OUT OF THIS. I HATE FEELING LIKE THIS. THE ONLY REASON IM EVEN HERE IS MY 2 BOYS. MY HUSBAND /FIANCE DON'T LOVE ME. HE ALWAYS CHEATS ON ME OR TALKS TO OTHER WOMEN BEHIND MY BACK. I DO EVERYTHING FOR THIS MAN. IF HE LOVED ME HE WOULDNT CONTINUOUSLY HURT ME AND STAB ME IN THE BACK. MY PARENTS ARE DEAD I DON'T HAVE THEM TO TURN TO. JUST SEEMS LIKE PEOPLE USE ME FOR WHAT THEY WANT THEN THROW ME OUT. I HATE BEING USED. I HATE HAVING FEELINGS. I WISH I DIDN'T HAVE THEM LIKE HE DON'T. I HATE LIFE I JUST WISH MY KIDS WERE GROWN SO I CAN DIE.


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Brad Dastrup 5 years ago

I dont even know where to go. I di finally go to a doctor but not much has worked. One seems to help a little. I just went through a marriage where my wife had an affair and we tried for a year to work it out but I just could not get past it that fast and so she divorced me. I still love her but she has moved on with my 4 kids. I wake up every morning sick and I have to head to the bathroom. I have to force myself to go to work and as soon as possible I want to go to my 10 x 10 room and hide. I hate that I still love her and she has moved on, I hate that everytime I think I move forward something happens to bottom me out again. I feel like I have been in Hell for a year, I am a hard worker yet I fight to want to do anything, somedays I just wish I wouldnt wake up. I cry on and off throughout the day, I so bad want this to go away but I feel like there is no end and I am not sure how much longer I can do it. It has been the worst year or almost 2 of my 40 years. I dont even know where to start, I am 40 and lost everything that meant anything to me. I would appreciate any advice because I am so scared.


Mke 5 years ago

I am depressed , can't get out of bed , feel like can't go on , life has no meaning or enjoyment anymore , cannot see any way out


Caroline 5 years ago

I SUFFER FROM MANIC DEPRESSION AND HAVE ALL MY LIFE. I AM 71 YEARS OLD AND I AM CURRENTLY LIVING WITH A MAN WHO IS MARRIED AND ON DISABILITY SO MARRYING HIM IS NOT AN OPTION AS I CAN'T AFFORD HIS MEDICINE AND DOCTOR BILLS. I HAVE ONLY ONE CHILD, A SON, WHO IS MARRIED AND LIVING HIS OWN LIFE AND I SEE HIM OCCASIONALLY BUT I HAVE COME TO THE PLACE THAT I DON'T WANT TO BE ALONE, BUT I KNOW I LIVE IN SIN AND I WANT TO BE SAVED AND GO TO HEAVEN WHEN I DIE. I CAN'T SEEM TO FIND THE STRENGTH TO GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP AND FEEL HOPELESS AND ASHAMED FOR PEOPLE TO KNOW HOW I LIVE. MY SON IS NOT HAPPY ABOUT THE WAY I LIVE, BUT YET I CAN NOT DEPEND ON HIM TO BE WITH ME, HE IS LIVING HIS LIFE WITH HIS WIFE AND HAS TOLD ME SHE COMES FIRST. SO I PRAY BUT IT DOESN'T SEEM TO HELP. I BELIEVE IN JESUS BUT HE IS NOT A PHYSICAL BEING THAT IS HERE WITH ME DURING TIMES OF ANXIETY AND DISTRESS. I WAS IN A MENTAL FACILITY TWO MONTHS AND IT HELPED FOR A SHORT TIME, I TOOK 7 ELECTRIC SHOCK TREATMENTS TO THE BRAIN AND I TAKE PILLS FOR DEPRESSION, BUT THE GUILT I CARRY AND THE FEELING OF DESPAIR CONSUME ME. I HOPE SOMEONE RESPONDS TO THIS WHO CAN RELATE.


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Rohit 5 years ago

Why most of the depression do comes from we being part of Relationship, and very less being from the relationship we bring up with our friends.


Rohit Verma 5 years ago

The people who are really depressed dont know that they are depresses...since all of you know that you are depressed...you guys are actually not..

Think about it..


Overwhelmed Brain 5 years ago

I have computer problems that I don't know exactly how to fix or to avoid future problems. I've tried to fix them but some type of computer doctor out there keeps messing them up. I feel like I have no contact with the outside world. I think I'm cracking up because I feel like I am always being watched, followed, listened, spied on. I know these are symptoms of delusions and paranoia and that I need help but I just keep getting more mentally ill. At times I'm hearing voices and getting messages that I know aren't there. I don't think there is a professional out there that is brave enough to take me on face to face to help me touch base with reality. I'm angry, I'm scared, I feel intruded upon by all these voices, I feel overwhelmed, I feel paranoid like people are out to get me and like I don't know what is real. I feel like people are always lying to me. I've always thought that I was pretty stable and mentally sound and strong and have always thought that I've dealt honestly with people. This craziness that has developed in my head has me so scared. I have no one to talk to about it, I feel like I'm followed and like everyone around me knows every intimate detail of my life. I wonder if others feel like this, I wonder if others feel completely intruded upon, angry, scared, confused. I don't know how to get back my life, I know there are people out there that are wanting or willing to help but I also know that there are some seriously demented, evil, petty people too that seem to have nothing better to do with their life. The problem is I don't really know who to turn to, I know that most other people in this world have people that they can physically talk to and solve problems with and consult with. I don't feel like I have that AT ALL, not AT ALL, in no way, shape or form can I have a personal, private conversation with anyone. I always feel this presence, it never leaves and yet it never really speaks. Peace, goodness, truth,are open and honest. Deception, evil, trickery, lying, spying are in the dark no matter how they try to justify themselves. I feel more and more pulled into the darkness and sucked into the evil. I want to solve my problems and get my life back so I can move forward without all this deception that has entered my life for no logical reason. This evil intruded into my life and continues to send out more tenticles and is sucking the life out of me. I have goals and dreams and a direction I want for my life but feel like I'm being controlled by a gang of evil thoughts all with different objectives and motives. I wanted to move forward and wanted to make a difference where I went next but I can't - all this evil is permeating my life and overwhelming me, it is more of the same, it is insanity. I feel like if I could just talk to someone or some people who could understand me and my situation that consensus and a much more tolerable situation could be developed. My life feels like a mess, these thoughts haunt me day and night. Has anyone else on this panel experienced this sort of situation, intrusive thoughts, feeling paranoid like strangers are out to get them, suddenly distrusting everyone in the world, fear, like someone is spying on them, watching them, disbelieving them, not trusting their judgement, their motives, their values, them as a person. The strange thing about this is that I have so much going on in my personal life and real things that I need to take care of and then along comes their wierd, obscure, nebulous existence that is now my brain, this alter technology universe that I'm somehow sucked into and yet not supposed to be in. I used to be just a mom and iin the past year have been somehow labelled and pulled into, my feelings overwhem me and I just want the craziness to stop, fow someone to tell me face to face that everything will be ok and to stop feeling threatened for every move I make in my own home, in my own life.


Anwarite 5 years ago

Av red ua depresions but stil i need a friend.i once had a friend whom we shared our lives but one day she betrayed me and broke my heart to bits n pieces which contributes partially to whom am 2day.my life wuld hav been beta if ugat dint occur.i know i hav the power to love,but i dont seem to get the rait person.bytheway,am 21,a mother and in campus.if i talk 2 anyone here about my problems theyl spred like bush fire.sometimes i smile n inside am suffering.i think about my son(he lvs with my parents in law and he's only 9 months)sometimes am not in gud terms with my huby an i also hav my own problems,there's homework n i want to fit into college life lyk my galfrends.i need a frend to trust n confide in.when am very stressed i crave to chew painkillers.i hate this please help


depressed 5 years ago

I have been depressed for 18 months now. It started with a workplace bullying incident and marital difficulties.

It is total hell.

I was prescribed an antidepressant last week but I am too scared to take it.

So here I am.

And now, it is time to snap out of it.


ramington 5 years ago

I am really deppressed lot. I was brilliant happy go lucky boy, never afraid to go all out.Now I am 44 totaly feel like dawn out no energy no happiness. I am hypertensive and daiabetese patient. My wife complains me that I dont speak whenever need arises. I am afraid to talk.I dont beleive people. I dont trust anybody.There is no inner energy to fight out.

Whenever something happens I press panic button. I am in good job. There is no worry for daily needs. However one thing bothers me is man of my caliber is still at first gear. I dont beleive death is solution. I still in process of finding mines of energy in my brain. I strongly beleive some how i have to change.I am wating for the day. pl give me tips to energise myself inspite of defeats failures insults all along. pl help me.


Summer 5 years ago

Last November my wedding was called off 2 days before the event. I was extremely angry and went on ativan. I was lashing out at everyone. I thought that was the worst of it. Then things started getting better. I got a high paying job and met a new guy. The guy ended things 3 days before my new job started. Because I was so depressed about that, then I lost my job. I went back on ativan, had a number of other interviews and still didn't get anything. I currently work in a temporary position. I am barely making it. I saw my doctor and he put me on celexa. I have had severe insomnia and anxiety. I pushed away all my friends and I can't cook or sleep. I barely get out of bed in the morning and have been arriving to work late. The worst part is this job ends in October, and it is now September. I am not even doing anything at this job, but I can't imagine being an unemployed single person at home all day. I am so sad and lonely, and basically, I just can't believe that my life has turned out this way. I always felt attractive and successful with an Executive level job and high degrees. Now, I question if I am able to keep going and if things will get better. I've stopped going to the gym too and my body is achy from not doing anything. You should know I do not want this for my life, but I just don't know the solution to get out of it.


GS 5 years ago

I was in depression on and off. I was under medication. When I was in medication, every depressive thought was suppressed. Medication has its own side effects. Those who are in medication know already what these side effects are. I dont want to suffer the side effects any more.

I have not been using any medication for the last one month. It has been a great struggle, but worth the struggle. These days I stand in front of mirror and self hyponotize myself that all is going well. There is a bigger plan God has for me. I am just a tool in God's hands. God is my protector, savior, He is with me and He will lead my life as my shepherd. Whatever happens it happens for Good.


anonymous17 5 years ago

I had always been the kind of person who absolutely loved life...used to wonder why people would not want to cherish this beautiful gift. I was always the life of the party,doing crazy things and making everyone around me laugh. But then something changed..i haven't been my old self lately. I still smile with a group of people,try to show to the world that i am fine..but the truth is i am not, and i really dont know what went wrong..how life came to be this way? But i can see my life passing me by, and i have no desire to enjoy it anymore. I will never be suicidal, because i still think life is one of the best things that happens to you;but that zest,it isn't there anymore. I go into a relationship, something i should have avoided, because i always knew i was a highly independent person and could not live in that kind of an equation.He loves me, and i know that, but i cant give it back to him and my constant sulking affects him the greatest. Sometimes i feel like just lying in my bed and crying all day for no reason, but i cant...because i am responsible for so much work around me. Doing the work that would make me happy before,now seems like a burden. There are so many thoughts fleeting through my mind while i am writing this,i dont know if anyone can make sense of it. But i just want to be happy again, and i dont see that happening ever again. I have forgotten what it felt like to be happy. What is true happiness anyways?! What is the purpose of our existence?! and in doing what we ae doing, how can we be really positive that it is somthing we were meant to do in the first place?! Some of this hardly makes sense, but thats all i think these days. And then i get mad at myself for living like this,not facing reality as it is. Its just so hard to get out of this.


Hah! 5 years ago

This article is actually completely misinforming. Don't write about something until you have proper information about it.


thistooshallpass 5 years ago

i've been depressed for as long as i can remember, and i'm still depressed, but I think a big part of depression is that it seems like it doesn't end. a lot of it i think is the power that you give it and the power that you don't give yourself.

you are beautiful, talented, worth it and you deserve to be happy..and you can be.

i don't know if these feelings of depression will leave me entirely, but i know you have to go out there in the world and get what you want and not let one negative thought get to you. i was good for awhile until i let negativity in my life.

whatever you are struggling there, you are strong enough to get through it. believe that you can.

life is all mental. belief and thinking are the key to a lot of things.


joco 5 years ago

i just wanna say thanks to all who's given out solutions for this.. You never know who you're helping.. But what matters is someone somewhere is getting some support to keep hoping.. Hope is a good thing..


de 5 years ago

depression is a lonely place nobody understands you tablets have not help been like this for over 8 years finding it harder to go on with things every day is a chore.


smile 5 years ago

why not try yoga....sudarshan kriya...it will help


tck 5 years ago

i'm just going to say the play sports thing doesn't work. because when i go to dance class i just get more depressed because i know i'm the worst in the class.


Hopeless 5 years ago

Depression is the most debilitating illness there is. I have suffered with it for years and sometimes I just don't know if I can fight it anymore. I take meds and they help for the most part, but god help me if something exciting or bad happens in my life to throw my chemicals out of wack. Thats when I crash and I feel hopeless, lost, and there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I am only 36 and I don't see myself growing old with this depression :( Something is going to give!


Mattie 5 years ago

I am currently depressed and have been for the last 10 years or so. I have read a lot about depression and have read so many self help books. I have been to counceling,I have been and off anti- deppressants for the last 8 years.


i did it 5 years ago

Guys this phase of depression is very dangerous because you have very bad thoughts all the time and everything that you do becomes like a routine that will never end and you just dont know how to deal with it. I was in depression and i was so bad that I couldnt sleep at night and I was thinking that Iam having bad deseases and other stuff, but somehow I overcome it. The way I did it was very simple. I started sharing with my best friend and also my girlfriend what I was going through. My friend started making jokes about this and saying like " common man you dont have nothing shut up and lets go out for a beer or something like that. Also music helps you alot listen to love songs especially and cheerful songs. And start to be the boss of your own brain control it . It is very simple way but it requires patience and lots of energy and will to overcome it . I hope my share can help you guys.


IDK_what_to_do 5 years ago

I'm 18, i go to community college (no idea of what to major in) I work, i recently moved out and i guess .. real life hit, i moved back in with my mom, I had surgery and have been recovering from that. K theres a little background on Me...

I honestly feel lost in life.. I don't know if im going in the right direction inlife, i just feel lost i have no purpose anymore to do anything, IDK how to make myself feel "normal" again. I dont want to deal with ANYBODY i keep to myself and when it comes to interacting with people its like i just dont know how to anymore.. i feel like i cant carry a conversation with anyone anymore... The light that i used to have is gone, i want it back im tired of feeling this way I just dont know what to do anymore... can someone please offer some sort of advise! Im sick and tired of being sick and tired...


yeah 5 years ago

guys im scared... im extremly depressed. nd something really bad might happen soon. I cant get help tho. i just cant


jessica 5 years ago

my story is long. my father suffers from depression. he's always been someone who feels pretty low all the time. of course he has his moments of happiness as we all do. but im pretty sure it get it from him. ever since high school i have suffered from it on and off. my husband suffers as well. but heres my current situation. im married to my husband but his depression and anxiety have led him to not have a job for like 5 years now. we luve with his mother and we have no money. the economy sucks and my last check was about $250 for 2 weeks. I cant pay my bills. i used to work in a salon but there isnt much work in salon these days. i'd like to go back to school but now they wont approve me for the loans. im in this hole and im

not sure hiw to get out of it. i find my mind day drraming of a better life that isnt realistic but it makes me feel better as if theres hope just for that moment. but then when i come back down to reality and i know that dream or fantasy wont come true. i sink down even lower. im only 25 but i feel like a failure already. my husband knocks down my ideas and dreams as soon as i mention them. im not sure if he's being realistic and i should listen to him or if hes tearing me down and i need to fight on. i feel like what im experiencing is more than depression. i cant stay in this situation but i have no one to turn to. i often think of suicide but i think im too chicken to do it. theres so much i want to do and it never seems like i'll be able to do it. my biggest fear is that i'll be 50 or 60 one day and have regret that i didnt follow my dreams and i never achieved them. but i still cant figure out if my dreams are un realistic and im delusional or if I know I can do it and im struggling because it seems like i'll never get there. anyway thanks for listening.


all i can say... 5 years ago

All i can say is whatever anybody on here feels... do not take your own life... thats the most selfish thing to do is END your life... think about this wouldnt you rather feel something than not even anything at all? ... I'd rather feel depressed and shitty (which i have been for the last few months) than end my life BC theres too many little things in life that i dont wanna miss out on...

Smoke marijuana.. helps me to cope, smoke a cig drink a beer punch a punching bag , work out... do something that can help you cope in hard times and when your in need... its easier said than done.. but pushing threw and trudging on day to day is honestly what ithink the first step to breaking out is...


DMC 5 years ago

Great article and very interesting information. I battle depression myself and it's an everyday struggle to overcome it, but I do my best to be happy. Although I'm a little confused with the beggining of your article, it says that people in this day and age are more depressed than they were when they went to war? Are you trying to say that because they went to war they werent so depressed? Because they had a will to live? That may be true for some, and depression for guys is different than it is in girls. But, I'm sure there were a lot more people depressed than you think, just over different issues than there is today.


Trevor 5 years ago

I have been depressed now for a few months and it just feels terrible I am afraid to go out to work as an electrician and find it hard to do my job as I have lost my self confidence and cant go out of the house. I seem to worry about everything and find my mind just seems to go blank trying to think about things. I used to enjoy my job but now I hate it. My marriage broke up at the beginning of the year and things seem to have got worse from there. I fweel as though I am losing control and can,t help myself, it is like a living hell. what can I do ?


Hanisha 5 years ago

I've been depressed for almost 6 months now! And the reason is that i lost my child!! nothing is helping me! i can't concentrate on things..feel suicidal..feel worthless, get mad at family, shout & cry! i don't know what to do..


syna 5 years ago

This is a very informative sequel of people sharing there experience whilst in depression. I felt a lot relaxed by reading this post. Many thanks to everyone who posted experience. I would too like to share my experience and ways I try to handle. I would be more than happy if anyone can relate to and see whats the positive in long run.

My experience:

Two years of depression. I am a logical driven person who has always followed her heart and rested mind in GOD and parents. I am hard work lover and believer of good happens with good, sooner or later goodness is valued. I believed dont do bad and nothing bad shall happen.And hence professionally I am successful leading woman in profession from reputed family. No history of any mental disease.

But two years back, I found myself with series of failures, and failure of love, I slipped in depression. He left me without telling me reason. Families had agreed, we were making future plans, most importantly we felt we are soul mates and mirror reflection of each other. But all of sudden, he denied. I have waited all my life for right person and concentrated towards career than finding love. I am traditional hindu family and believed just like my sisters and brother got good match, I would too.

The slip in depression was horrible. I did not see day's light. I cried every second loudly. I had never cried so souly in life before. I dont know what was happening. Something inside me was propelling me from inside , like rush in blood veins, to go meet him ask him. I stopped feeling, sensation, hunger, world , day, night, what people say to me, drifting away from reality, I could not sleep, my hairs turned grey, no energy, no senses, no will to do anything. I would only get up from bed for toilet. I locked myself in room. I couldnot stop myself crying, months went by and years.

I discussed my problems with family and close friends. Desperately I wanted divine intervention, some human help. My whole world had collapsed and so has my individuality. With discussions, I lost friends, which I am happy now as time shows real faces of people. A very dear friend, although she was supportive but discussing with her, brought her pride in between and judged me as week person without enough sanity left and publicly ridiculed me before common friends and unknown people.

In one of the first posts i read, a friend asking help for a friend undergoing depression. and I am glad to know, she cares about her friend's probable situation

What I did?

I was clueless. No logic was helpful. One thought steered me which now I believe saved me from going to doctors and mental asylm. Yes, I might have lost my senses and hence become 'MAD' in literal words.

Just after a couple of hours, a thought came in; Its your testing time, time to test your love; God is taking your test'. Today, I dont have my lover, but I believe this thought saved me my sanity.

I went to GOD. And I felt in toto, to be wholly absorbed by mother nature, every creation of GOD seemed to be connected with me. I have never till date, felt so close to supreme almighty. I would converse with him all moment. i felt he is listening me.

Miracles happen on belief:

Miracle would have been my lover coming back. Which still I cant finally comment on. But God has different plans. During those extreme depression periods, I found myself IN REALITY amongst company of saints/ nuns/ priests of honor. Surprisingly, I found situations bringing me to temples and churches.

Pain made me realize connection within body, heart and soul and supreme almighty.

Medication: Yes or No?

I read here only benefits about Omega 3 and 6 . Accidently, my beautician advised me to have multivitamins as my skin and face had all dried up and complexion turned darkest, dark marks on face and hairs grey. After reading this blog, i saw my capsules had omega 3 and 6. So i would suggest this only perhaps I wasnt regular. I just hope i would have been regular.

Doctor : I dont know how successful they would be . In my opinion in cases of depression, if possible, its good for self reliance to take your own time and introspect your problem with your own mind. Dont force change if your mind doesnot want. Ask your self , what you want? If you still want time, take time. but please dont hush.


syna 5 years ago

Part Two shall be followed soon. If someone finds it interesting pl write back. I have much to share


Leisa 5 years ago

I too have spent many years living with depression off and on.. Sometimes I almost don't even realize when it's crept back in. I don't feel sad necessarily, just lethargic and with no real zest for anything. But anyway, I'm not writing to talk about my issues, as sometimes it feels like, for me, the talking just perpetuates the problem... But I just wanted to say that, for anyone who does feel like talking, I am more than willing to listen. Syna: please continue your story, I'd love to hear more. Trevor, Jessica, Hanisha, and everyone else who has posted recently... the thing I keep telling myself is the old proverb "this too shall pass" Just keep trying. And talk as much as you need to. I will send you love. Others will too. Love yourselves. Love your depression. I know that sounds silly, but anger only makes things worse. I find so often, when I get angry with my depression it makes it only worsens. Take some deep breaths and send yourself some loving thoughts. I highly recommend meditation. It has gotten me through many tough times. Guided imagery is great for when positive thinking seems impossible. Find something positive to listen to and focus as hard as you can. Must some ideas. I know being depressed sucks, and I'm willing to help in any way I can, because more than I hate dealing with it myself, I hate the idea of others suffering. I don't care if I don't know any of you, you are beautiful and you deserve to be loved, nurtured and happy.


syna 4 years ago

Part 2

Is there a category of people who get depressed?

When I was hail, hearty and mighty, I would only wonder why people talk slow, think slow, and work extremely slow? Have they forgotten benefits of early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise? I am realizing one of the first prominent signs of depression is discontinuing your healthy mighty routine, lack of will to continue good habbits, change for good, listen to anyone who says good/talks good about self and his/her achievements..these symptoms are next steps from where slowly we head to a darker zone where coming back is not so easy.

hence, there is no category of people, but category of emotions/feels/thoughts that pave way to shredded world of death.

WHY WE IGNORE TO DO RIGHT? WHY WE HATE TO BE GOOD, START SOMTHING GOOD IN DEPRESSION?

I believe, every time we slip in depression, is an aftermath of our falling apart expectations from ourselves, which we highly misunderstand as failing of expectations from people/family/friends/career/boy friend/ children et cetera. Its 'us' who has been hurt but we wrongly feel that if 'that would not have had happenned I would have had this promotion/child/bf et cetera, what ever we have lost'. and depression is not resultant of one/two failure. our brain has self defence mechanism which allows us to withstand a couple of disappointments on things we were really banking upon a big time.

TO WHAT PEOPLE DEPRESSION HURTS?

I second above written experiences and say it here again; that people whom depression takes its toll on are actually GOOD PEOPLE, INTELLECTUAL AND COMPASSIONATE. I havnt seen any materialistic person getting hold of depression. They may pretend but they dont mean it. Those who are down with dp, they know, there ideologies and beliefs are affected.

IT HAPPENS TO MAKE YOU STRONG

have a slient look at people around you, sometime in life everyone who is ambitious who has dream to be something, reach big from what current life offers him, have to tread a way wherein he shall meet all sort of people. at one point of time, everyone goes through dp phase, how long you are in, is defined by

a.how bad you are struck

b. how many times it has struck u before

Rest continued in part 3. Thanks leisa, you gave me reason to share more.


no_one 4 years ago

Depression has hit me so hard, I don't think I will ever get out of it. It has been 4 years. I am a different person. I don't even recognize myself. I have secluded myself, I don't answer the door, or phone. I don't talk to anyone but my husband and daughter. I don't go anywhere, not even to the grocery store. I don't even go out my front door. It started with anxiety. I was given pills by the doctor and they made me depressed! I quit taking the pills months and months ago, but have never been back to my old self again. I feel broken, in a dark place that is isolated...happiness is no more.


Uzma 4 years ago

I was depressed too, tried eveything until i started practising Islam, gave me inner peace.


smith 4 years ago

I've always been prone to 'down spells' and growing up people,and myself,simply put it down to hormones,as i got older thiings just seemed to snowball, ide be the happyest and most deterimnied person in the world one minute ten the same evening i would become isolated and distanced without really relising it.No real pattern has come from what I can see and i don't have anyone close enough that would really notice. my partner and uni both get given the same excuse 'i have the flue' 'ill see you next week' a couple of days turn into a week, a week into two and i relise ive been in bed trying to sleep/hide away from everything/body,not knowing what exactly im hiding from just this feeling of complete hoplessness and well, sadness.I end up putting the brave publc face on and try to power on wth life but it just seems so trivial, im getting no where so why i cant i just be left to do my own thing and stay at home away from everything


courage seeker 4 years ago

I am a person living in the country where jobs are scarce and this has led to some depression, as well as a

long past history with sleep deprivation and insomnia.

I was lucky enough to leave an area of urban decay, gunshots and helicopters, and eventually move here, thinking all would be quiet and peaceful.

But in the country, For about 10+ years I was subjected to night barking dogs(not mine), spousal snoring and overnight job phonecalls. Ended up taking sleeping pills, trying anti-depressants (more insomnia), and getting sleep cycles all out of whack. Spouse insisted I take these prescriptions. Caused me much depression, often not working, leading to dependence. Hard to explain to others what chronic insomnia was about---felt singled out in some kind of cosmic punishment---nobody else was suffering from it. This 2-4 hours of sleep nightly leads to depression. Pills lead to rebound insomnia and depression, feelings of failure that I could not sleep through noise. Other health problems developed requiring major surgery. I attended some classes, volunteered, did alot of outdoor activities,sometimes very happy for many months. Later was often not up to par and didn't feel like smiling, laughing or being light. Lost art inspiration. Saw accomplishments of others and felt hobbled by this sleep issue. Wanted to move. Spouse uncooperative. Years passed. Big improvement. Dogs quit barking or at least intermittant now. Environment much better. But So much time passed I feel many years were already

really compromised, perhaps left me prone to depression.

Can an older person start over? Need to forget the past

develop hope for the future, not fear big changes, trust in God, find inspiration again. Sometimes I could escape and just go camping or to a class and just forget or ignore all problems associated with home, it was a great evasion tactic, but would leave things in disarray. So where can I draw strength from to start over? Get over financial fear? Is there a way to erase bad memories. So hard to move, but depression recurring here, feeling pointless, no career, just raking, weed pulling, though scared of hugeness required to move after 22 years (animals, barn etc) Would this help cure depression or add to it? Big life change. Real estate market risky, scary. When younger, overcame cancer surgery with faith and hope. How does one reconstruct happiness, now older,

without job? Do bad memories suggest moving as a release?


courage seeker 4 years ago

I am a person living in the country where jobs are scarce and this has led to some depression, as well as a

long past history with sleep deprivation and insomnia.

I was lucky enough to leave an area of urban decay, gunshots and helicopters, and eventually move here, thinking all would be quiet and peaceful.

But in the country, For about 10+ years I was subjected to night barking dogs(not mine), spousal snoring and overnight job phonecalls. Ended up taking sleeping pills, trying anti-depressants (more insomnia), and getting sleep cycles all out of whack. Spouse insisted I take these prescriptions. Caused me much depression, often not working, leading to dependence. Hard to explain to others what chronic insomnia was about---felt singled out in some kind of cosmic punishment---nobody else was suffering from it. This 2-4 hours of sleep nightly leads to depression. Pills lead to rebound insomnia and depression, feelings of failure that I could not sleep through noise. Other health problems developed requiring major surgery. I attended some classes, volunteered, did alot of outdoor activities,sometimes very happy for many months. Later was often not up to par and didn't feel like smiling, laughing or being light. Lost art inspiration. Saw accomplishments of others and felt hobbled by this sleep issue. Wanted to move. Spouse uncooperative. Years passed. Big improvement. Dogs quit barking or at least intermittant now. Environment much better. But So much time passed I feel many years were already

really compromised, perhaps left me prone to depression.

Can an older person start over? Need to forget the past

develop hope for the future, not fear big changes, trust in God, find inspiration again. Sometimes I could escape and just go camping or to a class and just forget or ignore all problems associated with home, it was a great evasion tactic, but would leave things in disarray. So where can I draw strength from to start over? Get over financial fear? Is there a way to erase bad memories. So hard to move, but depression recurring here, feeling pointless, no career, just raking, weed pulling, though scared of hugeness required to move after 22 years (animals, barn etc) Would this help cure depression or add to it? Big life change. Real estate market risky, scary. When younger, overcame cancer surgery with faith and hope. How does one reconstruct happiness, now older,

without job? Do bad memories suggest moving as a release?


courage seeker 4 years ago

I wanted to say to Jessica that she should definitely take her dreams and aspirations and run them past a few people who are friends, aquaintances, besides just her spouse. I am very sorry for the depression you are feeling. But you have one great thing going for you....

YOU ARE YOUNG!!! Do not give up at all. Being young is probably one of the greatest advantages, because there is time to start over with new ideas, hopes and aspirations. In my previous post I mentioned insomnia problems from the past. I am very happy to say that for over a year and a half there have been way fewer problems and I quit taking any pills long ago. My biggest issue was being older, wondering about starting over, seeking the inspiration and faith of younger days, and the need to get over some really bad memories that covered a 10 year span. There is always light at the end of the tunnel, Jessica, and I think it is especially wise to study your dreams and hopes. Look at them realistically, but also with hope and courage. You have the time to try different avenues. I wish you blessings and hope, and as an older person feel I should have pursued my younger dream with a little more passion.


hannah 4 years ago

i'm depressed for like two years now and i'm just 15.i actually feel like its only me facing this in the whole world...when its not.i can't afford a doctor,pills,even doing sports. i try my best at everything but i fail.i feel tired and sleepy all the time and my family and friends are not making it easier.i have mood disorders and anger issues.i feel suicide is the only escape from this hell, but every time i'm that close to it..i cant do it.i cant live like that anymore.i know i'm young and i have my whole life infront of me and all that nonsense but i'm really tired of trying my best and failing.


pali101 4 years ago

All I feel is pain !! I cant stand anything around me I just wanna end this i just wanna be happy :(


IRWIN 4 years ago

I AM A KOREA WAR VETERAN AND HAD SUFFERED FROM DEPRESSION SINCE I WAS ABOUT 4 YEARS OLD. I FEEL THAT I HAD NOT HAD A DEPRESSION FREE DAY MY ENTIRE LIFE. MY WIFE PASSED AWAY 2 YEARS AGO AND THE GRIEF AND DEPRESSION HAS BECOME SO SEVERE THAT I SEE NO SENSE IN MY CONTINUING MY LIFE. I BEEN TO MANY DOCTOR WITHOUT ANY SUCCESS. I AM VERY CREATIVE AND WRITE SONG, POEMS AND INVENT THINGS. I BEEN IN THE NEWSPAPERS MANY TIMES AND INVENTED THEW CAR REMOTE STARTER IN 1957. I HAVE THE ORIGINAL ARTICLES. I WRITTEN A BOOK TITLED

DEPRESSION FROM THE CRADLE TO THE GRAVE"

"A MEMOIR OF A LIFETIME OF DEPRESSION"

I TRULY FEEL THAT MY LIFE IS NOT WORTH GOING ON ANY MORE.

I SIGNED UP ON THE SENIOR DATING SERVICE AND PAYED A LOT BUT IT WAS ALL A SCAM. I TRULY DO NOT FEEL LIKE WAKING UP ANY MORE. MY CHILDREN LIVE FAR AWAY AND HARDLY CALL ME. I TRULY CAN NOT CONTINUE WITH THIS GRIEF AND DEPRESSION., I DO 2 MILES A DAY AND OTHER FORMS OF EXERCISE. I COOK MYSELF FULL MEALS EVERYDAY BUT ITS GROWN WORSE EVEN THOUGH I BEEN GOING TO 2 DOCTORS AND TAKING ANTIDEPRESSANTS, NOTHING WORK. THANKS FOR READING. HAVE A GREAT NEW YEAR. IRWIN


taylor 4 years ago

Hey to everyine who has posted here and is reading this. I've suffered from depression for a number of years now, it started when I was a teenager and I'm now 27 years of age. Needless to say that I'm sick and tired of it and I'm working really hard on changing my life, I know It's a good one and I have faith that things will get better if I have hope and I employ some of the very sound advice that has been offered here, talking, exercising etc. When I think about why I feel so bad, I cant come up with any real reasons to feel the way that I do, it's like I can only see the world through a blue veil, where everything looks sad and worthless. But I know that deep down inside me I don't really believe this. I know on some level that the world is full of beauty and promise, we are the world, we are potential, we just need to realise it. I'm going to try not to be a slave to my self inflicted negativity and bitterness anymore. We are strong, we can fight this, we can find beauty in this world throughout our short lives.


David Grey 4 years ago

Ok, guys I suffer from depression as well. I'm 26, finishing my course, good looking, inteligent, sometimes too sensitive to stuff. But I learned something from 3 years of therapy, and I'll share it with you. Here it goes:

We (depressed people) want to be in depression.

That's it. I know it sounds crazy, but let's face it. Most of us are already adults who HAVE to take care of ourselves. And we don't. We choose to be negative about things, we choose to be pessimistic about life, we choose to isolate ourselves from the world, self-sabotaging our goals, relationships. And then we complain of how negative things are, of our loneliness, of our broken relationships, or the lack of sucess we have. It's a vicious cycle.

Depression can be Hell yes, but it's a Hell we choose simply because the anguish, pain, sadness are comfortable places to be and we KNOW them, although life can be a very scary place often misterious, good and bad and also very very real. We want to be in places we know, that's why instead of an episode of sadness (because our girlfriend left us or a friend died, or maybe we jus had a bad day) we build us a house named Depression and never leave.

I'm not saying shit doesn't happen, it does and it's perfectly fine to be sad. But when it doesn't wears off, it's time to wonder: why the hell do I want to be sad? What am I afraid of?

Sometimes I remeber a line from the Matrix, when agent Smith is torturing Morpheus, he says something about a matrix previously built simulating a perfect world, where people could live in harmony and be happy, but humans didn't accept that and perished, so the machines had to build a different matrix where pain had to exist. That's a very true statement about human nature. We need pain to keep on living. Sometimes we even pursue it without really knowing what's happening. But life is already a damaged road with plenty of painful traps. We ought to accept that and keep on following the path.


dipressed guy 4 years ago

hi..i have been depressed for more than 10 years now.

it started becoz since childhood i used to think a lot..i always lost in my thoughts. by the time passed it my mind became sick coz of thoughts in my head all the time. and then time came that i could not stop thinking. thoughts are random. in one day i had 10k thoughts in my head. this result severe depression and my condition is worse because my depression does not evolve from any traumatic incident or any kind of failure, it just because of keep having millions of thoughts in my head all the time.

i was really brilliant student and had a outstanding iq level. but because of depression i cant score in my grads, i was among the last rankers in the class. this is very hard for me because i know i could be the topper there. even below than average students made fun of me...that how i got this college. after passing out from coll i didn't join any job. i was so depressed to do anything. i was unable to brush my teeth, take a bath...even i used to get up at ~2pm. right now i am feeling better after reading such comments. you guys gave me some hope, some gud feeling that i am not alone, feeling this life like hell. i will post again after 2-3 days probably, and i am requesting to all you guys please do comment regularly as it gives hope to all of us.


Hardware 4 years ago

Hello. I am not alone. Please help me. I have a baby on the way and struggle everyday to get out of bed. My wife suffers from PTSD and we are in financial ruins. I have no confidence but oddly enough have faith in God. I am in my late 30's and have a degenerative disc disease that was diagnosed at 17. I am in pain both physically and mentally everyday. I am searching for hope. Go to go. I will be back.


Bar 4 years ago

I just started feeling this way about April of last year and I see where it is getting worse that's why I am reading everybody's blog hopful it will help me put this behind me.


sammy 4 years ago

I Just want to say thank for the experiences you have all shared and how to battle depression. I did the exercise listed above and writing down all of my problems really helped but then i decided to rip that list up and write a list of all the things i love in life and marked the ones i need to work on getting back which helped tremendously! Although i haven't gained back all of my strength this little feeling of accomplishment is the most iv felt in a long time:)!


nicholas 4 years ago

yaaay another antidepressants are the work of the devil post :)


me. 4 years ago

really depressed. mood shifting back and forth from functioning living to crazytown. am allergic to antidepressants. i exercise. it does not work. i try to eat well...but that only goes so far. don't know what else to do. journaling...meditation...blahblah blah spiritual this and that...still only see blue.


David 4 years ago

You aren't depressed. You had a bad day once.


Manny 4 years ago

OK, I was very very depressed after losing my wife and kids to a separation, lost 50% of my income, etc, and I am 100% happy and well today :) let me share what helped me and I am sure it can help you:

1) do not stay home alone, if you stay alone you will feel alone and depression will be worst

2) go to the gym, go for a walk, do something every day, if you can't afford that become a volunteer since helping others is the best. Did you know there are a lot of old people alone in a hospital near you? or a kid suffering from cancer? go see them! go make someone feel better, it will help you too

3) Find God or a way to become more spiritual, even if you never believed before, some faith can do wonders to the soul.

4) get a job, even a low paying job but keep busy

5) find a girlfriend or boyfriend, loving someone will help you too

6) talk to others, I talked to my sister every day, it helped me a lot

7) learn something new, carpentry, flight helicopters, read books, go out dancing, take some lessons, etc

8) force yourself to be OK :) think positive, think you can, be strong even if you are not.

9) get into gardening, keep something alive such as plans or an animal, it will help you a lot

10) join a group, church, music, hobby, etc... make sure you get to talk to other people!!! don't be alone please, there are many good people that can help you, just make sure you are kind, honest, caring and give the best you can to them, you will be rewarded with a great friendship and never be depressed again!


Anurag 4 years ago

Hai! I am Anurag I live in India, after getting bad results in 10th final exam I got depressed. No matter how much I try I cannot forget my past. I was in the first batch of my school so teachers were unexperienced as it was first ICSE school of the city. I didn't had any idea what and how to prepare for exam. Teachers told us that ICSE board does not repeat questions so we didn't buy question bank. People made fun of me and my father was angry. I did whatever was possible just to get good marks but........I got admission in a government college even change of environment could not change my mind. My condition got worse and I usually thought of ending my life. I stopped playing games and meeting with friends I stopped riding a bike as if I am afraid of it. I failed in 12 twice but I cannot feel sadness as my wound by 10th result was much deeper than 12th result. I have now passed 12th and now I am studying Polytechnic (Diploma Engineering) but my problem hasn't solved yet I am trying my best to be same person as I was before but it is easier to talk than to do. I know one day I'll get out of my depression but I am afraid it might be too late for me.


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snow2010 4 years ago from New York

thanks for Sharing Your Story and Tips on How Get Over Depression.

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Karan 4 years ago

All I found out and can say is for people like us suffering from depression all we need is loads of love, care and appreciation. Getting us to feel that we are not bounded by relations (reminds me of the animals who in-fact get depressed when tied)and setting us @ free will do a lot good. Also the more we are occupied with the less the time left to sit idle/think & for the negative thoughts to sink in. I know I was advised to keep myself occupied day in/day out with something or the other & go out n socialize.


Dinesh 4 years ago

Hello Friends - I got out of depression once I acknowleged it and accepted as part of a human life- it is a phase which we can get through. Those of us who are depressed are running the same thought patterns over and over and over again - one of the sureshot ways to get out of it is to CHANGE this thinking and living patterns - OBSERVE YOUR THOUGHTS & THEN RESOLVE TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS- don't give in to same thoughts - break yourself free of such thinking esp. negative ones. CHANGE - drop by drop, step after step, small one to begin with - pat yourself on the back for every little task you accomplish and every negative thought you banished successfully. There is definitely light and hope for each of us - it is a phase which would end sooner or later so don't give up!!

CHANGE PHYSICAL MAKEUP,

CHANGE MENTAL MAKEUP,

CHANGE EMOTIONAL MAKEUP,

CHANGE SPIRITUAL MAKEUP TOO!

Cheer up!

Dinesh


Christen 4 years ago

I disagree with this sooooo very much. I have severe depression and regardless of what I do or don't do, the ONLY thing that has ever helped me is medicine. I was only on it short term (less than or maybe right at 6 months). That was 3 years ago and now I'm at the point where if I don't get medicine, I feel as though it will only get worse. NOTHING in this world affects any 2 people alike. This includes medicines, physical activity, drugs, alcohol, learning material, etc. And, this hub would be especially deteriorating to a woman who is diagnosed with post partum depression. I am happy for you and that sports has worked for you but that doesn't make the rest of us some low life pill heads!


Morgan H. 4 years ago

I think i have had depression my whole life... just didn't really notice it much then when i was younger. Its in my genes, so thats one reason i have it. I thought i wld be the last person to have this... i have just about evrything a person could need or want. i have good grades great friends and family and im athletic. Well it all started when i was around 12 or 13, and it is gradually getting worse. In middle school i started finding out who i wanted to be. i got closer with different people nd my old friends didnt really approve of it. but i decided to not care... i get to choose who i want to hang with. i had a boyfriend.... and when he started noticing me with them, he broke up with me. i still liked him for months nd to this day ik he still likes me. But i cant stand him. i didn't let that get n my way tho. Well ppl judge real bad in my town nd it started getting worse. i decided to push them away nd not tlk to them. Well over the summer my coach passed away. and it just devastated me. we were so close nd i could say she was actually like my real mom. i got even more depressed after that... I decided i would do nothing but concentrate on sports. And this school year i met the new coach... at first i didn't like her cause i felt like she was the reason my old coach died. There was just no one else to blame it on. I eventually start to like her a lot.. found out we had many things in common nd she has been thru same things... She has helped me with this illness so far this year. nd so has my other coach... i think she actually came into my dreams and told me it was time to let go. i listened... this year the name calling nd judging thing just got worse... and a person can only take so much. Was a straight A student... then they dropped down to a C. i stopped eating nd became weak nd i throw up a lot from stress. I cry evryday... My mind never stops thinking things. i to have tried taking my life, but cant come to do it... There is only one person nd one reason i haven't done it yet. Ppl try to help, i push them away. i have heart problems and only 14. I dont talk to anybody anymore.. just coaches. In the summer i would wake up evryday around 6... in the afternoon. This website was so reassuring cause i found out i wasn't the only person to go thru these things.. makes me feel tons better.


Ahmad Bashir 4 years ago

Hello Dears.

I want to share something with you all,

It is one year that i got depression, I tried much to get out of this but unfortunatly still i couldnt just now i found this site and i think it will be much helpfull for to get of my depression by your nice idea's .

I am always thinking that i am sick and i will die in near future, sometimes my hearbeats is becoming more and i am becoming much under preasure or whenever something is near to be happened but if it didnt so on that time i am thinking my self under preasure means( Depressed ) so now i am happy that i found this sites so that i could share my problems and i am sure that this will help me to get out of this fuckn depression coz i bored of this life by living by depression ...

Please help me


darren uk essex 4 years ago

dear people i have had depression for years now and I think i would rather loose my legs than deal with this. evryday i feel like whats the point i have no job no girlfreind due to having depression no job i cant even talk to my old freinds anymore when i try to get help from a docter etc they tell me evrything will be fine and give me some meds and expect it to be alright ive even been hospitilized three times and have done a few day classes like pottery,drawing etc WTF? but its not helping if thats what people mean by help than i have no hope in this world just fort ide rite to other poeple that understand beein in this dark place your not alone depression is torture


Hopelessly, Hopeful 4 years ago

I just don't want to feel this way anymore. My pill have stopped working and I don't know what to do. I feel like a failure because I have no motivation to do anything, not even shower. I can't find the energy to go outside even though I want to so badly. I want to live and be happy. I have been existing for so long. I cannot remember ever being happy for a long period of time. For 4 years I lived with my dad and I was happy. I am 35 and those are my only happy years. If it works for you do it. I will not judge anyone doing something that helps them to get out of depression, my it be pill or exercising. I wish something would work for me. I was to be Happy with life and myself. When will it happen for me. I don't know. Thank the stars for my two children because if it was not for them I would have checked out so long ago.


Fighting it everyday 4 years ago

I have had depression most of my life. I have been thru theropy for 3 yrs straight and off and on for many many more. I spent most of my teen and 20's without medication. I was also on medication off and on for many years. The past 6 years I have been trying to change things around. Get off chemical medications and go all natural. There are some herbal remedies that take the edge off. But I can tell you that some of these feelings are beyond your control. Your environment has a lot to do with it. If you remove the negative from your life it does help tremendously. But there are circumstances that make it all come back. I have been able to control, to an extent, my depression. I try to be positive and be around positive people. those that have problems, I am happy to listen to and try to help but know that prolonged exposure to a continued problem brings me down. I recently got engaged. I had no idea that there was going to be a mirage of problems to go with it. Three step children that didnt want me in their lives. My fiance is trying to finish a divorce that is dragging on and impacts our lives and future. And I was out of a job for 2 years. I had come to grips with the job thing. I had made my time at home constructive by landscaping and house keeping. But when the unemployment was near the end,and I still hadnt found a job, my depression was creeping back. With the stress of my Fiance's problems, the kids, and no job I found myself drownding. The oldest child is 20yrs old so we thought she could get a job and help out with paying her own phone and insurance. Every time we asked her to do so, it was a huge battle. She turned down jobs. She allowed a job with Disney to just expire. Then it hit me this weekend, She was a huge part of my depression. I had no idea. She is 20 yrs younger and yet is exactly like me. She makes excuses for not trying to get a job. Also makes excuses for not getting the Disney job. She is fearful, but wont admit it. And when I look at her, I see me. The girl who turned down a scholarship, who felt she wasnt worth being loved so dated and eventually married someone whom she didnt love. When I look at her... I see me! I was a failure then. And I have a constant reminder of my failure everyday. I have gained so much weight in one year that I am totally ashamed. I had no idea that my depression was this bad. Now, at almost 200lbs, I understand why, now I have to figure out how to fix my depression. I want to marry this man soon because he makes me happy. He is my world, my everything and is my soul mate. So saying you can just work out and think positive will work is not entirely true. You have to find the root cause of your depression and come to grips with it. Then move forward. Then think positive and do things that make you happy. This is going to be a difficult one for me as she lives with us and I dont see her moving out anytime soon. I have tried to talk to her but you have to keep in mind... I am the unwanted stepmom and my feelings dont matter to them. My fiance is trying to help but is in the middle and that isnt helping him any. So this is all on me to fix. No drugs. Herbals. I am using them and they do help. They are not as strong as the medications I used to take. But I have to accept that. To all of you out there that is suffering from this horrible dibilitating disease... get a friend, journal, talk to someone professionally... you may be strong, I am a very strong willed, independant person, but you have to know you are not the only one out there and you dont have to do this alone.


noenergy 4 years ago

Im so badly depressed .. I have this business that ive tried to survive for 6 years and finally just ended and leaves me nothing but huge debts. I am so depressed and scared of me and my son's future. I might loose my house, my car, my friends, my husband and the worst thing I am scared is the education of my 11 year old son. I am still fighting now and tried to venture another business but with no clear positive outcome... I am now living in fear, depression, anxiety, I dont have the energy anymore, after all I did the best of myself, give all my energy to my business and try to be fair to everyone, i end up to be the one broke. I suffer too much on depression that I cannot able to move, my brain stops, I dont want people talk to me, I hang my phone, i always shut my door. But I have a son to take care so I leave a portion on my brain that function only to my son to prepare him to school and give something to eat, even i am also scared for how long can I sustain to give his needs. I have no more money, I borrowed money to all my good friends just to survive for food. I borrowed money to my mom and my siblings. and I cannot ask for them anymore. My brain stops thinking... I was very talented person, I am a designer and created so much good stuff ( gift items) that I made into business, but now I feel paralized, I dont have inspiration, I feel useless and worthless. ... Please help me...


anita 4 years ago

hello everybody.

Am Anita from Canada i want to share my life experience to every body on this site.i was in a serious relationship with mike i love him so much we have dated for almost 6 years now.untill he meant another girl called charity he told me that he is know longer interested in dating me any more. i was so confuse i don't know what to do.so i told my friend about what my love just told me and he told me that she can solve my problem i was doubting her how can that be possible.so she directed me to a spell caster

called Dr bola.so i contacted him and i explain every thing to him and he told me that my problem will be solved within two days if i believe i said OK.So he cast a spell for me and after two days my love came back to me begging me on his knees on the ground asking me to forgive him.Am so happy now. so that why i decided to share my experience with every body that have such problem should contact him via email helptemple@yahoo.com


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Shrikrishnap 3 years ago from Bangalore

I loved this hub because it supported going out & practicing sport instead of taking pills as idea of getting out of depression.

I have seen many people taking pills for depression which finally results in excess & pills doesn't work. They keep on taking heavy stronger doses of medicines & a stage comes when your body stops responding to any medicine. So one must go for natural treatments like some physical exercises, some yoga, breathing practices, meditations etc. This helps a lot to everyone. Even some prisons have sudarshan kriya & other exercises as part of prison rehabilitation programs to reduce stress in inmates. All these things are working very effectively.

Go for natural way of getting out of depression. As said in this hub believing you will get out of depression is the key to get out of depression.

Thanks for a nice hub.


HenryH 3 years ago

I don't know what caused the onset of my depression. I suspect my new blood pressure med - coreg

I swim for half and hour and exercise every other day. I also take 5htp 200mg every nite. Still the depression torments me. I am waiting for my medication to run out and I am going to try a different one.

I am 66 yrs old and never experienced depression this serious and this bad. I used to sleep well, but now cannot fall asleep until 2 or 3am.

How can I snap out of this? Any suggestions?


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HeatherBlesh 2 years ago from Monterey, CA

Depression really is a universal topic, and many people deal with depression differently. This is a popular discussion. Thank you for you hub.

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