How to Give Up Alcohol

MY GOAL IS TO LIVE WITHOUT ALCOHOL

On the day you may wake up and realize you have been feeling very sick for so long

that you can’t remember what it was like to feel healthy, peaceful and happy, you may suddenly realize that it may be alcohol has made you so very sick, and you can’t remember why you started to drink so much of it.

On the same day that you face the TRUTH about the sad path you have been on you can begin to take the steps that will heal you and bring you happiness.

Try the following steps towards giving up alcohol for your health and happiness. You will gain such strength in your own will power it will amaze you! Truth + will power will put together the foundation for your happiness. You can use it to gain your own total health. It will take some time. But as with everything you learn, it will get easier and easier to live without alcohol.

If you can truthfully and honestly say:

MY GOAL IS TO LIVE WITHOUT ALCOHOL

Step 1 Give up the friends (at least for awhile) who thrust alcohol at you when you’ve already told them you don’t want it. When you’re sure you can resist their ways them, maybe you’ll want to hang around with them again, maybe not!

Step 2 For awhile, give up the places you used to go that encouraged you to drink. Where the host/hostess carry around the free alcohol and refill your glass as soon as it is empty. If that place is a celebration party for friends or family you make the choice - Can I take being shunned for awhile for not drinking alcohol with those friends and family? Maybe it won’t be fun, but if all your family and friends are going to get all down on you just for not drinking - give them up for awhile too. Be honest with them. Tell them why you can't be around them for awhile - My Goal IS To Live Without Alcohol! They may laugh now, but later they will appreciate you for this very thing. Later, and it may not take long, when alcohol has become a complete bummer for you and the thought of it makes you want to puke, you can hang out with some or all of them again, and they will know, you are invulnerable.

Step 3 For while, focus on your own health. Don’t worry about helping others for awhile just re-program yourself to find positive feedback and input wherever you are and wherever you go.

To program yourself for positive input meditate like this:

  • Pick a time and a quiet place when and where you know you won’t be interrupted for a couple hours.
  • Sit calmly and just look inwardly at your thoughts whatever they are - repeat to yourself:
  • “I am calm, abiding.”
  • Relax every part of your body starting at your toes and moving up to the top of your head
  • Breath deeply and let all your tensions go
  • Remember a time when you were very happy as a child
  • Remember everything about that time and place
  • Remember the sights, sounds, smells, people, colors, light - everything

Take as long as you want to completely absorb the positive energy that comes from that happy memory

Keep breathing and smiling

If this starts to feel negative or a negative memory intrudes - stop that negative thought and

Start picturing that happy, childhood memory again.

Do this positive focusing meditation at first for an hour or more. Over a couple weeks, you will find it easier and easier to go quickly to that happy memory. You can use that happy memory to replace the negative thoughts about yourself, or others, that have in the past drawn you back to self-medicating with alcohol.

It will help you to positive thoughts inside yourself to get you through many stressful times. This exercise made it much easier for me to resist alcohol. I continue to use this positive way to reinforce my original impulse to quit alcohol.

STEP 4 Maintain your resolve. REMEMBER TO REMIND YOURSELF OF YOUR GOAL whenever you feel the urge to give up.

YOUR GOAL IS TO LIVE WITHOUT ALCOHOL

and to have that kind of calm, relaxed, secure happy mind that you had as a child before you ever tried to take away pain with alcohol. THIS CALM, ABIDING, PEACEFUL MIND will bring you health.

Then, to keep that calm spirit inside yourself that will give you strength and health and happiness:

Step 5 You can also learn about and use the herbal remedies that will help you to self-medicate in a positive, healthy way. Do this responsibly. I am not talking about using psycho-tropic herbs like marijuana or any of the hallucinogens that will make your mind peaceful at first, but do not last or build health in your body. I am talking about the other leaves and roots and flowers that really help you heal. The Way of the Herbs by Michael Tierra is a great book to help you learn about these healing methods.

Step 6 Give yourself a lot of TLC, starting with the ABC’s of nutrition, sleep, exercise and those positive thoughts for yourself. Find time each day to be alone to be aware of how well you are doing, and to strengthen your resolve.

Step 7 Join a group of others, AA, or a church group, or a health plan's substance abuse group, BUT ONLY IF YOU TRULY WANT TO, who are also giving up alcohol. Listen, share, relate. If their stories and ways don’t help you, seek, and you will find, others who are. Sometimes the group can be too stressful, keep your freedom to be yourself, whatever you do.

Step 8 Being truthful - with yourself and others. Truth will help you be responsible for yourself. Truth is an excellent healer, even when it is at times painful. A calm, abiding mind will help you find the truth.

These steps are derived from several ways towards health that I have found in my own quest for personal health, peace, and happiness. They may also help you in many other ways in your life. Pass them on to others when you are ready to truthfully believe in them. Remember, the goal is the thing!

You do not have to consider it a fight against anything, but instead a path to health and happiness. It may take some work, sometimes, and I wish you the love that makes all things easy along your way toward your goals.

Peace.

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mega1 4 years ago Author

Hi Mitzy - I see exactly what you mean - I guess its time to MAKE some happy memories - remembering that the bad stuff in the past is past and it is a whole lot easier to make new happy memories when you are sober and awake and aware! Many people have to just write off the childhood and treat themselves the way a really super parent would treat a beautiful child. We are all beautiful children who deserve happiness. I hope you find the peace to make those happy memories- starting with small things - like, treat yourself to an icecream and savor every bite in some nice peaceful place.


Mitzy 4 years ago

Good stuff - but what if you cannot conjure up a happy childhood memory and the reason you drink is to blot out the unhappiness of that childhood!


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Alex Jose 4 years ago from Cleveland, Ohio

Lovely information..voted up


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mega1 4 years ago Author

It's all there kylie - making new friends who don't drink is always a good first step.


Kylie 4 years ago

Hello everyone, my name is kylie and i have come to a very bad and sad stage in my life i am 31 and adicted to alcohol i did some very silly things the other night that i am completely ashamed of and i am grateful that i stumbled onto this site because it has made alot of things clear in my head i love that it is put into context as a healthier lifestyle and change i only hope i have the strenght of some of you xxx


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mega1 6 years ago Author

agent 007 - thanks for the comment! When alcohol makes you sick and you finally realize it - it isn't too hard to stop!


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agent007 6 years ago from Florida

Good hub. very brave of you to take on this quest.


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mega1 6 years ago Author

Thanks Allie - I'm happy to say that I can now say I am no longer a drinker, either! I think this article applies equally to most addictions or addictive behaviors - I know it works for me.


alliebojko 6 years ago

Nice article because it had a lot of decent insight but I'm glad I'm not a drinker.


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mega1 6 years ago Author

Hi gg.zaino - Thanks for your comments and reassurance. I think more than anything else for me now is that it is just as big a habit for me NOT to drink now, and it truly does make me very sick. I know the same is true for many. But there are still times when it seems like I'm buckin' the whole d**m system! really swimming against the current


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gg.zaino 6 years ago from L'America

For sure,It's about truths,people,places,and things .... the old playgrounds and playmates can may still be thought of with fond remembrance,but at a distance,in a world w/out substance abuse. as i've heard it said many times, 'easy does it' and 'one day at a time'... great hub, peace- gregz


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mega1 6 years ago Author

LeanMan - I think I forgot to mention how much easier it gets to stay off the booze as time goes by - now when I taste it (unless it is like $100 wine) it tastes rotten, the way it did when I was a little kid. So its easy now cuz I certainly don't get any $100 wine! But I do live in wine country and I feel disloyal not drinking a lot of it, but I also don't feel sick every morning now, so . . . Thanks for reading and your comment and thanks for the virtual hugs - I love them and I don't even know your wife so I won't tell!


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LeanMan 6 years ago from At the Gemba

Hi Mega..

I would say come and live with me here in Saudi Arabia as booze is all against the law here... you could be flogged for having your afternoon martini...

However most people who come here to get away from the booze end up being even bigger drinkers here!!!!!!

On a serious note, my ex-wife was an alchoholic, she made my life hell; or should I say I made my life hell trying to look after her and trying to stop her drinking..

The only way forward if you are the drinker or the spouse of the drinker is to be totally selfish!!! Look after yourself first... don't think of others, just yourself..

Drink is not the answer, I am not sure what the question is, but you look after yourself, concentrate on your writing... but don't hide from the world, that is not the answer either...

Willpower is the only way, as you said above, stay away from those that will try to get you to drink..

Good luck, stay dry, stay happy, and if you need a virtual hug.... just don't tell my new wife... hehehehehe


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mega1 6 years ago Author

AuBryJo- thanks so much for reading and sharing with me. Yes, it took a lot of will power. I had to first stop saying that I didn't have any will power! The worst part is that after several months when I actually felt healthier, still my life didn't just magically become easy and maybe it will never be really easy. Perhaps it is those creative and sort of free-loving characteristics addictive personalities have that attracts you, or just that their personalities seem safe and familiar to you. I think that if the one with the addictions realizes that it is not totally their fault they are like that, but the cure is totally their responsibility, then they have a better chance.


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AuBryJo 6 years ago

Hi Mega, I am new to this Hub thingy...lol, but I have to say, you have a style that is truly unique and I admire that.

You're approach to sobriety is solid. I commend anyone who can conquer their demons single-handidly. That shows strength of character and determination.

I have never been a drinker. However, I grew up with an alcoholic Father as well as 3 siblings of 5 who are addictive personalities.

Sadly, I married an addictive personality, which ended in divorce after 22 years. I would have left sooner, but for the sake of my daughters I did not. He was not abusive to them, just addicted.

Only to find myself in another long term relationship with ....yep...you guessed it... an addictive personality...

I look forward to reading more from you! Keep up the excellent work!


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mega1 6 years ago Author

well, yeah, sean, you could turn out like that - or you could turn out like me: bitter, lonely and confused! just kidding. I do like it better without the booze, I must not have done the booze right. It never felt this good! and just why did you come read this stupid thing, then, if you weren't considering it? hmmmmmmmm?


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seanorjohn 6 years ago

Thanks Mega,I really don't want to give up alcohol or cigs.Healthy lifestyles are really overrated.Trying to exert self control after all this time would be futile.

You're so right. I couldn't bear this idea of living one day at a time.Giving up alcohol could lead to: speaking in psycho babble, endless meetings,public humiliation,prosletysing, losing dear friends,and worse of all having to face reality sober. What was I thinking of. I much prefer the days to merge in a haze of collision.

Thanks for keeping me from making a damn fool of myself.


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mega1 6 years ago Author

sean - I think, unless you really have to, it is best NOT to give up alcohol. It makes for a very different life, without it. But if you forget what you're doing while you are putting on your socks - maybe then - ?


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seanorjohn 6 years ago

Thanks Mega. This hub has really got me thinking.Great advice . Yet like everything, I always think , I will start tomorrow.Truth hurts.


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mega1 7 years ago Author

I'm saying - when I'm in the forums I behave differently with different questions and people and sometimes lose track of what I was saying in one and what the initial question was - I am not the smartest bunny in the herd. But, from what I can tell, some people do have more than one hubpages ID


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wsp2469 7 years ago from Alta Loma, Ca

Wait! You have more than one hubpages ID? Is that what you're saying?


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mega1 7 years ago Author

now that you've seen me naked, I can't hide anything any more! I would self-deprecate but I get too confused - won't go into detail over that. Today I don't need a group either, in fact today, I AM a group I have so many personalities juggling around on HubPages alone, that it is getting crowded here - as mega1 I must say this - self-control is so central to why we became alcoholic or addicted in the first place that maybe someone will start a training service to teach us how to do it - it takes so much practice and I get distracted - so I'll keep the effort - thanks for your insights about this big issue!


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wsp2469 7 years ago from Alta Loma, Ca

Wow. There are a few of you ladies who just get up and strip yourself naked here. So far I've yet to do that. I reveal some things but since I hide behind self-deprecating humor no one knows if it's fact or fiction.

It's also nice to hear someone with the attitude that they don't need a group to stop doing something. My one son's mom joined OA (which uses AA materials) and I told her if you want to be in control you don't NEED a group. You just need to be as headstrong and stubborn as you were when we were an item!

NOW she realizes what you have said here. A group is NOT a requirement to stopping any behavior you no loger want in your life. (She was a drinker, too.)


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mega1 7 years ago Author

I know lorlie6 that you have been paying attention to the stuff I've been posting over there in forums this AM and I'm so glad that you've also seen my serious side now - but maybe I've taken this child - memory thing too far. Feeling so good and sober - but you could never know it by some of the crap I write. having fun. thanks for your comments!


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lorlie6 7 years ago from Bishop, Ca

I really like your approach to sobriety. I've been alcohol-free for about 16 months now, and without AA. I made a decision, and it has worked-so far. :o)


mega1 7 years ago

Thanks!Patty - re-reading it I get that talk-radio person feeling!


Patty 7 years ago

I liked the personable, easy-going nature of this blog... Like listening to a caring talk-radio person.


Robin Cain Berseth 7 years ago

I really liked this blog. I like the ending "You do not have to consider it a fight against anything, but instead a path to health and happiness." So very true.

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