How to Restore a Forgotten Dream

“A dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it. - John C. Maxwell

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The Beginning of the Dream

When did you recognize the dream about what you could accomplish in life?

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For some, the “inspiring picture” began to fade in your young adult years. Perhaps, you found an opportunity to start earning in a field that did not accommodate your dream, and you gave yourself the option to switch later; but year after a year, the demands of life made it more difficult to give up the certainty of a paycheck. You transferred the passion for your dream to the excitement of progress and promotions. The result? A forgotten dream.

This might not be your experience exactly, but you can relate to the fact that your dream slid off your priority list, for one or more of the following reasons:

  • The hustle and bustle of everyday living pushed it aside
  • Somebody sold you on the benefits of pursuing another dream
  • You found it difficult to create a strategy for success
  • Nobody was available or willing to help you
  • You cultivated doubts that it was right for you

Years have passed and you are forced to you admit that you feel lost, purposeless and dissatisfied. During a period of mature soul searching, the forgotten dream began to emerge with the gut feeling that therein lies the missing sense of fulfillment.

The good news is that you can restore your forgotten dream to priority status. Here are five practical suggestions to help you.


(1) Reclaim the Dream

As the dream surfaces, be sure that it is not the one your parents, your spouse or anyone else visualized for you. Try to remember how and when you first discovered it. Recall the excitement you felt and the results your predicted. Reclaim it and write it down in one, clear sentence.

To help solidify the dream, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Am I bold enough to share my dream with the people who matter to me?
  • Am I happy to pursue it even if no one else is happy about it?
  • Is there anything I desire more than seeing my dream come true?
  • Do I have a clear picture of what the pursuit of my dream will achieve?

The Sky is the Limit sculpture (1997) by Eugene Terwindt.  Photo by Gerardus
The Sky is the Limit sculpture (1997) by Eugene Terwindt. Photo by Gerardus | Source

(2) Remove Self-Imposed Limits

There are numerous limits hedging us into the kind of life prescribed for us by the communities and cultures in which we live: age limit, speed limit, space limit, time limit, credit limit and all the other limits that come to mind. Our dreams do not automatically fit into any of them; the limits on our dreams are self-imposed.

  • “I should have tried it when I was younger; my brain is not as sharp as it used to be.” (But the way to preserve whatever is left of your mental ability is to use it to its fullest.)
  • “The technology is beyond me; I don’t want to begin something I might not finish.” (And you certainly wouldn’t know if you will finish unless you begin.)
  • “It’s too difficult to rearrange my schedule.” (Your present schedule couldn’t be right for you; it didn’t give you time to pursue your dream.)
  • “Nobody in my family was ever successful at it.” (Do you and all your family members have everything in common?)
  • “I’m getting by the way I am.” (But your dream has the potential to offer you a more fulfilling life.)

(3) Cultivate Self-Confidence

Replace fear and self-doubt with self-confidence—not false confidence like the pitiable tryouts on American Idol who only think they can sing. Know your talents and assure yourself that they have the potential to bring your dream to reality. Complimentary skills like courage and perseverance will grow as you make strides on the journey.

Susan Boyle, at age 41, recaptured her dream of becoming a famous singer and began taking lessons from voice coach, Fred O’Neil. She had performed and sung on stage as early as age 12, and was rejected from her first television audition at age 34. Afterward, her struggles including repeated loss of family members distracted her. Her self-confidence blossomed under the tutelage of O’Neil. After her acceptance by the judges and audience of Britain’s Got Talent in 2008, Susan Boyle became a new person at age 47.

Self-confidence encourages discipline and focus; and it leads to action.


(4) Filter New Ideas

New ideas may come at the moment of discouragement or disappointment. They can also come with the excitement of quick reward. They can meddle, distract and sabotage. The fact that they caused you to detour from your dream the first time, may not be enough to put you on guard, because the next time they may seem like the only way out.

Here are some filters to keep you away from new ideas which can tamper with your dreams.

  • Is it presented by a supporter or a skeptic of my dream?
  • Will pursuing this new idea advance or delay my dream?
  • Does it call for with obligations which conflict with previous commitments concerning my dream?
  • What do I stand to lose or gain if I reject it?

USA Today captioned the election of a black USA president, "A Dream Fulfilled."  Photograph by Wonderlane
USA Today captioned the election of a black USA president, "A Dream Fulfilled." Photograph by Wonderlane | Source

(5) Find Helpful Affiliations

“A dream is a compelling vision you see in your heart that’s too big to accomplish without the help of others.” – Chris Hodges

It would be great to have relatives and close friends as helpers; but if they do not believe in your dreams, you have to find other people who do. They may be preachers, teachers, trainers, members of a group pursuing dreams similar to yours, people who network in the interest of progress.

  • People who motivate you to follow your dream
  • People who listen and give you constructive feedback
  • People who are willing to share their skills, and can benefit from yours
  • People who use their abilities to lead, rather than compete

Following Up on the Dream

Where is the Dream Now?

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Summary

No matter you age, if you are haunted by a dream you once had and lost, it is time to pursue peace and satisfaction by restoring and following that dream.

  • Reclaim the dream and be sure that it is yours
  • Remove your self-imposed limits
  • Cultivate self-confidence
  • Filter new ideas
  • Find helpful affiliations

The sooner you begin, the more satisfaction you will have, and the more benefit you and others will obtain from your life.

© 2013 Dora Isaac Weithers

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word55 3 years ago from Chicago

Good morning MsDora, that was wonderful. I'm on my way to chasing a dream. Have a great day!


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Persevere, Word55, and don't you lose it. Thank you for stopping by and the very best in the pursuit of your dream.


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Dee aka Nonna 3 years ago

Hey MsDora, I was a small child when I first realized what I wanted to do with my life. So many things happened that put it aside for a time, but I would pick it up, dust it off, and keep working at it. Then about 10 years ago during a period of deep and comtemplative prayer, I realized that the original dream was only part of what I am placed on the earth to do. Great article. Blessing to you today and everyday.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

How to Restore a Forgotten Dream, so true kind of got me thinking about forgotten dreams another good hub from you, with such useful thoughts.


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

A powerful message, Dora; one I want you to read over and over again. It is never too late; I started up writing again when I was 58 years old...hold onto those dreams and fight for them.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Dee, so glad that God helped you figure out your total dream. We do better when we have a relationship with Him. Thank you for your comment.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

DDE, this article got me thinking too. I intend to take a dose of my own medicine on this one. Thank you for your kind comment.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Billy, thank you for your encouragement. I wrote down my dream and intend to follow it through. You, my dear, are on my team of helpers. You're one of my best.


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

Thanks for the motivation, MsDora. You are a great believer. If you believe I can do it, then it is time to get going on it!


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My Cook Book 3 years ago from India

Your style of writing is cool. The quote at the beginning is nice and that is making the whole hub interesting to read. Really beautiful, thank you for an excellent read. I voted it UP...


sheilamyers 3 years ago

I had all kinds of dreams when I was younger, but they fell away as I aged. This wasn't because of the nay-sayers or self-doubt, it was more because I realized the dreams weren't really part of the bigger picture. Once I started writing, that's when I discovered my true passion and got the new dream of becoming a full-time writer. I'm not there yet and I won't give up. Even if no one else supported me in that dream, I'd still keep going.


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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

This was done really well, makes me wish I had a dream! Well I did make a lot of excuses why I couldn't go to college after my kids left home and I did make myself and did very well, and it was fun too so there is that one dream fulfilled. Up and sharing.


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FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

This is an encouraging hub for anyone who has detoured or all but given up. Well written and positive. Voted up and more.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Denise, the motivation is for me too. Yes, let's do it!


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

My Cook Book, your comments are very kind. Thank you four your comment and votes.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Sheila, I can identify with realizing the big picture later in life. I'm on it too, and I'm not giving up. Thank you for sharing.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Jackie, so you know the joy of a fulfilling dream. It is not too late to dream some more or to restore a forgotten dream. We're still alive because we have more things to do.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Flourish, so happy that you dropped by. Thank you for your comment.


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

MsDora,

What an inspirational hub here as to never giving up on our dreams no matter at what age or what is going on in our lives. Persevere for sure! I know of a woman who retired from state government and never knew she could paint and is now a well-known artist around the world for her paintings of angels! There are those great artists of all time, who became known in their older age and successful.

I appreciate this well-written and inspirational hub here that I pray helps motivate many to continue pursuing their maybe long-lost dreams.

Up and more and sharing

Blessings, Faith Reaper


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MarleneB 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

There is so much hope to be gained in following your suggestions. Susan Boyle is the perfect example of someone who brought her dream back to life. I struggle with keeping my dream alive because sometimes I get too anxious to see results. I need to do as you suggest and stay confident.


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for this. You would not believe the life I lived and the dreams I created. Example, I organized a dance in the Lion House in the SF zoo.


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Frank Atanacio 3 years ago from Shelton

MSdora i like the message you're trying to convey here... dreams keep people going.. some may seem impossible.. but trying to reach it makes it all worth while bless you


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Faith, thank you for sharing that wonderful example. As long as we are alive, we can dream and pursue dreams. Blessings!


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Marlene, it sees that you wear many hats. Plus, your anxiety for results may rob you of your focus. Please do not neglect your dream. After you're too tired to be busy, you'll still wonder about our dream.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

MHatter, whatever dreams you share, I would believe (and smile). You're very talented and capable. Thank you for sharing this Lion House dream.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Frank, I couldn't have said it better. "Dreams keep people going." The make life worthwhile. Thank you for your valuable input.


Rayne123 3 years ago

HI MsDora

Like someone said powerful message/hub. Very interesting.

You make very valid and excellent points.

Susan Boyle is a great example. Simon rolled his eyes when she came out and I thought that was kind of cruel. She went on to become a big sensation. I love her voice.

She also stayed true to her self and where she came from.

I am sure I heard her say on an interview that her dying mom's last words were to pursue her dream of singing.

Thanks for the great hub

Blessings

Laurie


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Laurie, thank you for your input. Yes, Susan Boyle has a great story about restoring her dream. She's an inspiration to all of us.


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thelyricwriter 3 years ago from West Virginia

MsDora, voted up, useful, awesome, and beautiful. Such an inspirational article about dreams. It's very encouraging to have support for our dreams, even from ourselves. I have my dreams and I'm still chasing them, but I'm closer now then I have ever been. Why? I never gave up. I keep chasing them and I'm getting closer with each passing day. Great advice and information MsDora, note taken:)


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CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

Such great advice MsDora! I know for me, the fear of failure kept me from my dreams for years. In an ironic twist, just when I have everything I need to realize my dream, I have stage fright. In other words, I have every opportunity. I just am too scared to step out and try to make it out there in that big scary world. LOL


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Thelma Alberts 3 years ago from Germany

A very encouraging hub for us to follow our dreams. Thank you for the inspiration. Have a great day!


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Hi LyricWriter, stay on the chase. Thank you for sharing about your dream. You encourage me.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Crafty, but do what you have to do in spite of the fear. the courage will follow you and you'd be glad you did. Thank you for sharing.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Thelma, thank you for your comment. Glad you were inspired.


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Jan Brianne 3 years ago

The example of Susan Boyle is really inspiring to all of us... awesome hub! :)


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Thank you, Jan. Susan Boyle shows us (me) that we should never give up. She is a fine example for all of us.


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old albion 3 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Hi MsDora A lovely warm encouraging hub. You can if you try, we just have to persist, though that is easily said. Well done.

Graham.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Graham, I appreciate you stopping by. Thank you for your input. I agree with being persistent.


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Fiona Jean Mckay 2 years ago from South Africa

Some really great ideas - we do sometimes do things because they are expected of us rather than because they are what we want to do. It is tough to find our way back to those early dreams sometimes


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Fiona, thank you for your visit. I appreciate your input. Hope this article will help those who want to ind their way back.


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SatendraSaini 2 years ago from India

Wonderful thoughts. Really interesting. Voted interesting...............................Thanks for the great hub


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Satendra, thank you for reading and leaving a comment. I appreciate you.

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