How to learn from your mistakes and not give up.

How to learn from your mistakes

Mistakes, we sure dislike making them especially the ones that cause us grief and make our life less comfortable. Oh, but how we blossom when learning from them. Yes, that’s the key thing to do from those miserable things we call mistakes, learn from them.

Exactly how do we learn from them? Sure we are familiar with the term learning from your mistakes. But when we are caught up in making several, one after the other, we just don’t want to hear the clichés. By than we are just frustrated and want instant results.

The sooner you begin to accept your mistakes and learn from them, the sooner you can begin to pursue your success on the particular item or idea you are striving for. Give yourself an opportunity to gain knowledge from the mistake that is made and ponder as to why it came about in order to continue reaching for the goal. You should also reach an understanding that making mistakes are a natural function in life. There is hardly anyone whom does not make them but, there are plenty whom learn from them and do not give up.

Relationships, dating as an example

Now as an example let’s take a look at a common mistake some people make and how we can learn from it.

The mistake. Wasting your time dating the wrong person. So you are in a time of your life where you want to settle down and start a family. The last relationship you had was turbulent and unstable and you are feeling horrible, beating yourself up for the bad choices you made in the past, wondering what on earth you ever saw in them and worrying that you will never find the one. You think of the time wasted and wallow in misery, feelings of insecurity and loneliness start to creep up and then bam! You’re out back in the dating scene within a few days of the breakup; because you are scared of being alone and you can’t bear to lose anymore time. so, you think, what's wrong with finding one person to help you forget the other? That scenario my dear is a long string of many more mistakes to come.

Learning from the mistake. Instead, what I would suggest is to accept the outcome for what it is, which is the relationship has come to an end, point blank. Take time out to mourn over the loss of the relationship and than afterward examine carefully what damaging causes and character defects on either side contributed to the unhealthiness of the relationship. Carefully remind yourself of what it was that you disapproved about that person and what traits you would like for your future partner to have. This will help gain knowledge and perspective in helping to prevent making a future mistake very similar to the last and perhaps help you succeed in your future quest for a mate.


Be grateful. An attitude of gratitude comes a long way.


Have you ever heard of the term “Don’t mind the little things” Well, I have a new one “Be grateful for the little mistakes” For they can save you a lot of trouble in the future and are more often then not blessings.

Past mistakes can help you see that things are not always what they seem and they can help build your intelligence to help you see what is carefully hidden.

“A winner is one who accepts his failures and mistakes, picks up the pieces and continues striving to reach his goals” Dexter Yager

Madison O'


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

About myself I've always said that even if I made, and still make sometimes, some errors usually I never did twice the same. The important thing as you said is to accept them, learn from them, and then go on. At the end we learn from errors. :)


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JannyC 6 years ago

A lot of people fear making mistakes and make more mistakes by trying not to make them and forget to learn from them at all. It really baffles me how blinded some people can be. We live and learn. That is the motto of life.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

"live and learn" one of my favorites as well. Thanks you!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hi Hypnodude, Thank you so much for your comment:-)


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ntweisen 6 years ago

Very well said!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you ntweisen!


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

you seem to be very good in giving advice to people specially lifting their spirits, kudos to you and a great hub, Maita


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hello Prettydarkhorse, thank you for your kind comment!


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fishtiger58 6 years ago from Momence, Illinois

Yea I think you have to make mistakes to learn from them. As every parent has learned when trying to teach a kid to learn from the parents mistake or experience it doesn't work. To bad really it would save your child from some heartache. Great hub.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Yes, that is so true when it comes to trying to teach your child from the mistakes you make. Unfortunately they have to learn on their own. As parents we want to save them from the heartache we know so well and it's makes us sad that sometimes we can't.


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tipperary 6 years ago

Nicely written hub, yes we hate making mistakes, but hopefully the small mistakes we make prevents us from making bigger ones!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you tipperary, I'm glad you stopped by to read my hub!!


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bat115 6 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

"Wasting time dating the wrong person"

That's all I've ever done :( heh, great hub, very inspirational. I'll check out your others.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hi bat, Thank you for your comment. Awesome avatar!


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opismedia 6 years ago

"Lost time is never found again"

Interesting hub, thanks for sharing it with us Madi.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

And thank you opis for commenting.


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gguy 5 years ago from new jersey usa

Madison, nice hub, mistakes are a big part of the learning process there is a saying that goes something like " There is no shame in trying something and failing, the real shame is being afraid of failure and trying nothing" I am personally a big fan of Walt Disney, on of the great creative minds of the 20th century.He had one company go bankrupt, had another stolen out from under him which led to the creation of Mickey Mouse, and his bankers laughed at him when he told them of his plans to build an amusement park with a hotel in it in California. Last time I was in Florida all forty thousand plus rooms were booked at Disney World. So when you have a good adea, stick with it!!


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Madison22 5 years ago from NYC Author

Gguy, thank you for such an inspirational comment and for visiting my hub!


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Felina Margetty 4 years ago from New York, New York

An inspiration is truly what you are, where did you come from anyway, it takes me weeks to pick myself up when I am on the floor. You have an incredible way with words , when you say it it is so clear. I could learn from the time wasting factor. Thanks for this hub


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Madison22 4 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you Felina!

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