ADVICE, Prioritize and Utilize. Arriving At the Best Solutions
Will you please make up my mind?
Having a tough time making a decision on a really important issue? Don't you hate it when this happens? Chances are too, the more important to you the issue is, the more difficult the process of decision-making becomes. You try all the suggested tips you've collected, like finding a quiet spot with pen and paper to jot down random thoughts on the subject. Hopefully you've included the tried and true, Pro & Con columns. This is why I should and these are the positive points. This is why I shouldn't and these are the negative points.
Wait just a minute. At this rate you could consume hours of time and energy simply arguing with yourself. Being your own opponent is hardly the way to arrive at a final decision. Think about it. Doesn't this sound more to you like indecision?
Never fear....Help is near
More often than not, finding yourself faced with the dilemma of indecision is in reality, a temporary lack of confidence.....a momentary slump in your self-assurance. The truth is, you really have come to an intelligent decision but Mr. Doubt N. Question insists upon poking holes in your comfortable bubble. Relax. Stop fighting with him. The next logical step is to seek outside wisdom, support and confirmation from your favorite mentors. Actually, the guy next door will do since you only intend to bounce your own thoughts off the poor man.
This is the truth. This is how it really is, isn't it? All you need is that one person to listen, agree and reconfirm that your plan is perfect. You're simply looking for that nod of agreement...just a little validation.
You need to beware my friend. It's quite possible you may choose yourself an individual who believes you have presented a quandary to which you'd like opinions. What follows will be some good old-fashioned advice. That's right. Trust this will happen. People love to give advice. We all like to feel needed. After all, you honor someone by asking their opinion....expect them to shower you with their wisdom. Suggestions will pour forth until gushing and any number of variations to your decision will deserve mention.
You may find yourself agreeing that perhaps the advice is worth your attention, even as your head spins. The result may be that you begin to entertain a sort of combination, blending some of your decisions with a few of his suggestions. This is fine. It will still work as you'd like it to. That is, until you approach someone else and still in search of that nod of approval....that good friend who will tell you, you've made the perfect decision. No criticism here. It's understandable. We all do this now and then. It's human nature to seek approval.
How do you steer a boat load of advice?
Gotta hand it to you. You've managed to collect a healthy amount of advice from well-meaning friends.... your brother, your boss and no doubt you ran this issue past ask.com. If by luck you can find your original decision amongst the heap, you might be able to assemble a picture, vaguely similar to it. You're on your own from here.
Let's face it. The truth is, you can feel pretty good about the fact that all these people care enough about you to help you find the very best way to handle your issue. Many folks would pay a hefty sum for this much advice and assistance. Consider yourself lucky and loved.
Feeling you know yourself best of course, yet also understanding that sometimes a more objective view could be what's needed, you start the process of weighing the options.
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Mixing all ingredients = Sound decision
Getting back to your original issue....if it happens to be of a personal nature, no doubt your heart has it's own agenda, while your reason and common sense are on leave of absence. Are we really the best source of sound and rational thinking for major life decisions in matters of the heart? Some would say, "absolutely, we are." Imagine leaving your heart in the care of those who know little about it....what it needs....most importantly, what it desires. We must not allow this to ever happen, for in the end, we are the keepers of our heart and the nurturers of our soul.
Begin to place the pieces before you and look them over carefully. Study each and every thought, idea and word of advice. Consider all the possibilities and don't forget potential loose ends and rough spots. Think about your own success with prior achievements and how you got there. Consider all the tools to your avail, the facts and information you worked so hard to gather. Sprinkle with the ideas and advice so generously given to you by wise, experienced men and women. They too have proven time and time again to emerge victorious. There is value in their advice. Use it to your benefit.
With grace and intellect, you'll reach that decision. You weigh it once and perhaps once again, until you're sure that all the pieces have been placed where they should be.
Sure, you'll realize you could have done this alone.....relying on your own equations and solutions but by seeking validation and confirmation, you feel that confidence you needed. You're assured the decision is now the only one to make and with a little help from your friends there are no more doubts or concerns.
The only wisdom that has value is the wisdom that is shared. Keep your mind open to gifts of wisdom and keep your eye on the goal.
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