Becoming A Better Person

Self improvement is something which is always desirable .With just a little bit of effort on our part we can add up the good traits and qualities to our personality which may not only be beneficial for us but will also be appreciated by others.
Self improvement is something which is always desirable .With just a little bit of effort on our part we can add up the good traits and qualities to our personality which may not only be beneficial for us but will also be appreciated by others. | Source


At the start of every New Year, most of us promise ourselves that this year we will work on self improvement and add some good features to our personalities in order to become a better person. I have observed there are some people who even vow to themselves that no matter what happens they will show up their best and by end of the year people will notice them as a better and a more reformed person.

We all know personality is a combination of many traits both positive and negative .Each person carries within him or herself an attitude, a behavior of different kind and approach. Some appear to be very reformed and well balanced while there are many who really need to do some work on their self improvement. The question is how to build up a personality which can help us improve not only ourselves but also contribute good feeling to the environment around us. This article will definitely explain to you some of the best ways to bring marked improvement in your personality helping you become a better person.

OBSERVE YOUR NEGATIVE TRAITS:

The very first thing on your way to self improvement is to focus on the negative traits you possess. This is one of the most important things without which you cannot move ahead well with self improving objective. You have to observe the negative features which you carry within yourself. Features like anger, impatience, intolerance, selfishness, egoism etc are the ones which should be worked on and removed from your life. I myself have really been working on the impatience I carry. Patience mostly has been not my virtue and is in my own self improving list. I have kept it as my top priority and have always looked forward to improve this bothering feature of my personality. And with continuous efforts over the years I myself now feel that I have really improved with regard to staying impatient .Similarly you can also seek your own negative personality traits and work on them to make a marked improvement in your personality.

FOCUS ON GROWTH:

By “growth” I do not mean the physical growth in height rather on raising your personal heights in both thinking and working. Discover your objective and know what exactly you desire to do. Be open to change and stay growth oriented so that you can work well on self improvement program. The more you grow; there is a brighter chance of becoming a better person.

HAVING ROLE MODELS HELP:

There are many people in our lives whom we come across, not only in our personal lives but also on a wider scale all around the world. From family members to friends, from leaders to celebrities we get impressed by many of them. Their ideas, their notions, their physical appearances, anything can impress us much. In self improvement goal, you should seek for such role models and try to add to your personalities whatever impresses you much. For instance Oprah, I really like her philosophy about the self help and her ideas about motivating yourself are some which I will always like to add to my personality. Similar is the thing you can do with whoever impresses you with their compassion, humbleness, intelligence, or anything you like , add those traits to your personality on your road of becoming a better person.

YOU CAN BE A MENTOR:

It is not only about adding something to your personality but you can also be a source of inspiration to others. You can set certain goals and standards for other people around you by staying as a good example to others. I am not saying that you should become what you are not but in fact you can improve in becoming a better person by making sure you have the quality and features which others can look up to and get inspired from. Setting good examples for others in a way helps you to act that are acceptable and encouraged by others also.

BE A BETTER PERSON IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS:

Whether you are a parent, a son or a daughter, a sibling, husband or a wife or even a friend, whatever is the relationship you have with people around you, try to make it a good one. Appreciate your relations with others, give them proper time and whatever expectations they have from you, try to fulfill them in the best way possible . Giving out your hundred percent is not possible but at least you should try to stay good and make others happy around you. Always remember if you expect other people to behave well with you,fulfill your demand and your desires, then you should also act in the same way which you need from others. Relationships are all about give and take and you should learn this art in order to make yourself a better person.

"Be the type of person

you want to meet"

BECOME A BETTER MEMBER OF YOUR SOCIETY:

Becoming a better person is not only restricted to your relationships. You should also contribute well to your society and the community you live in. Developing qualities like honesty, being clean, and helping out the people around you will give you an immense satisfaction of positivity. You will feel that you have in actual done something what is good for you in your way of becoming a good person.

IMPROVE ON YOUR SKILLS:

Whatever skills you possess, work on them more. Learn something new about them. There is always a room for improvement. You can strengthen your skills by improving on the knowledge you already have. You might have seen many people who are always eager to learn about things and add new techniques to whatever they do. People like sportsmen, no matter how famous they are, still work hard to break world records or even sometimes make their own records stronger. This is exactly what you need to do and work your way up to whatever knowledge or a particular skill you have, improve on it.

SHOW TOLERANCE:

Accepting your differences with others, showing tolerance and flexibility is also an important task to achieve your way of becoming a better person. In the world of today, we all are increasingly seening this feature very much lacking or at times totally missing. You must try to add this particular attribute of tolerance to your personality if you desire not only for yourself to be better but also make this world a improved place to live and survive for others. Always keep this thing in mind that rigidity in something never helps rather flexibility or adaptability to something is which matters.

BEST INTENTIONS:

Keeping your mind and thoughts clear is something which is very significant also. Always do what you think is not only right for yourself but also for the others. Keep your intentions good and leave all the selfishness aside. Show your concern and care for the people around you. In doing so, stand up for what is right and don’t go with something which you think can harm others in a negative way. In becoming a better person you really need to be considerate and thoughtful for others as well.

UNDERSTAND RESPONSIBILITY:

Always remember those who are responsible individuals are the ones who touch the heights of great success. You have to understand your responsibility towards each and everything around you. From your personal relationships to the your interaction with the society or the world around you, keep it in mind that you have certain features to look for and act as a normal , courteous, understanding, and a wise person. You have to learn to comprehend things form others perspective. Put yourself in their shoes and see what and how they feel at certain times. Show your reactions according to that and understand the responsibility you owe to others.

STAY CONFIDENT:

Whatever you do, do it with confidence. Your confidence is the key to success in anything you do. Never take a “no you cannot do that feeling”. Stay away from naysayers who put you down and always do whatever you think and feel yourself is right by trusting your own abilities. In short, have faith in your own self. Make excellence your target and try to do things in the best possible way.


In your way of being a better person, a very important thing to keep in mind is that you do not have to make a big deal out of it. All you have to do is to try to make improvements with whatever comes your way and just do it in the best way you can. Change your approach towards things and you will see good things, peace of heart, mind, and a lot of admiration flowing towards your way. Just by making simple efforts you can bring a marked improvement in yourself and will become a better person who is well admired and much appreciated by others.

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tarajeyaram 4 years ago from Wonderland

These are really good tips. Thanks for sharing. Voted up.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi tarajeyaram...Glad that you liked the tips.Thank you very much for your appreciation and your vote up :)


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CookwareBliss 4 years ago from Winneconne, WI

Great Hub... good tips for any to follow:)


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi CookwareBliss...Thank you so much for the appreciation :)


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deenahere 4 years ago from India

Really useful tips.

Thanks for sharing. Voted Up.

Deena


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you very much Deena for your vote and appreciation...:)


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Dexter Yarbrough 4 years ago from United States

Hi Learner! If more people would follow your great tips, what a wonderful world this would be! Thanks for sharing! Voted up, up and away!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi Dexter... Your words and appreciation are always very encouraging for me.Thank you so much, really nice of you to say so :)


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CloudExplorer 4 years ago from New York City

Its definitely important to do all these things you've suggested here, and remember to pay homage to those who've come before you, as well as those responsible for getting you where you at.

I figured I'd add to your cool informative self improvement theme here. I do like the one you shared about "Improve on your skills" the best, because many people lack that form of self improvement, maybe swearing that since they've made it somewhere (achieved a high personal goal), everything is going to remain good, where their currently at. Unfortunately life has its many turns and twists to most situations,

I loved every bit of it @ Learner365, lets hope many more people find such a great resource for improving oneself useful as well. Luckily I been on the right paths since my mom guided me, to the same light and torch of knowledge you bear here, she also taught me to respect people, and to greet all walks of life with open arms.

I even treat strangers as I would my family with love, kindness, and caring, but with a bit of caution to see if they'll turn out to be harmful in some way, to me or someone else.

Awesome job here, and thanks for visiting me as well, you got my Vote indeed.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

CloudExplorer....Thank you for adding your point of view of paying homage to those who have been there and who really helped you to climb the ladder of life up :)

I am glad you found the "Improve on your skills" helpful as i also figured it out that many people ignore that part of the story where they can add more good to their lives but still they somehow stop moving up after reaching a certain height of their achievement.It is all about "keep on learning".

I am also happy to see that you have been fortunate enough to figure out the difference between the rights and the wrongs.I wish you all the best ahead too and thank you very much for your so much of the appreciation and the vote.You are really very encouraging. Thanks,i appreciate :)


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chelseacharleston 4 years ago

Great hub topic!!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you chelseacharleston :)


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Jlava73 4 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

Excellent advice you give here. I am on that journey at the moment and your perspective is really enlightening :)


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Jlava73 ....I am glad you found the perspective useful.All the best to you on your journey ahead and thank you for coming by.Much appreciated :)


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billips 4 years ago from Central Texas

Oh my - if only the whole world would read this and take heed - tolerance is one of my favorite words - we really don't even have to like one another, but if we could only show tolerance, the world would be a better place - I enjoyed this hub very much - regards - B


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi billips...It is true that even if we just learn to tolerate we can contribute a lot in making the world a better place.

Thank you very much for your feedback and appreciation :)


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carolinemd21 4 years ago from Close to Heaven

Hi Learner these are great tips. I love all your articles. Voted up!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi carolinemd21 ...Thank you for your wonderful comment and your vote. Much appreciated :)


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Express10 4 years ago from East Coast

Very useful, I voted up. Makes me think about two things in particular I'm working on and how to stick to it. One of my problems that has caused me much stress is my disease to please others and avoid confrontation. I enjoyed this hub.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi Express10... I am glad you enjoyed the Hub.Trying to please others all the time just to keep them happy can indeed be very stressful and at times hurts you much.So the best remedy is to maintain a certain balance between our relationships....

Thank you for coming by and leaving your comment.I appreciate much :)


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CloudExplorer 4 years ago from New York City

No problems @ Learner365 you deserved the votes, cause this hub was very useful indeed & well presented.


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Cyndi10 4 years ago from Georgia

I really liked all of your suggestions in this extremely well written article. The one I like the most is to show tolerance and try harder to understand customs or cultures we are unfamiliar with. If there were more attempts at tolerance in the world, maybe there would be less violence. Voted up.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

I am glad to know that you liked the article Cyndi10.Thank you very much for your appreciation and yeah it is much true that if we develop tolerance to each others norms and cultures,a happier and a much better world will be something we will see!!!

Thanks again !!! :)


Sameer 4 years ago

Great article- i loved the part about keeping the best of intentions; it is always such a nice feeling to see selflessness in action, and a little empathy can go a long way in mending broken hearts and minds...Enjoyed it!!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you Sameer.Best intentions are always the ones which should concentrate on not only for ourselves but also for the other individuals that we come across in our lives.

Thank you for coming by and leaving your feedback here :)


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

Its important to be better person. Like the saying goes, be the change you wish to see in this world. Its best that we lead lives based on standards we would appreciate from others. We are sometimes too fast to notice short comings in others. While we are imperfect beings ourselves. Its better that we notice our own shortcomings and improve on them. Thereby, setting an example for others. Thanks for your wonderful hub.

I especially liked your tip on showing tolerance. If you are spending too much time frustrated; there is a good chance that you are most overcome by your emotions. Take a break and think about your negative feelings. Filter your system and be in tune with your thoughts and natural self. Voted up. Awesome. Beautiful.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you jeyaramd for reading and appreciating the Hub.Yeah, it is true indeed that tolerance is something that we really need to concentrate on as it is an important thing in our way to be a better person.We have to watch our both actions and reactions in our daily lives.All we have to do is to develop ceratin strong habits that may help us in becoming a good individual not only for the sake of our lives but for the others as well.

thank you again for your votes and your wonderful comment :)


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rmcleve 4 years ago from Woodbridge, VA

These are great! I couldn't write this better myself. You discussed all of the most useful and practical tips and I think many people could really find peace from this list.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you rmcleve for your appreciation and its very encouraging to see that you liked the tips mentioned in the article.I look forward to the fact that whatever i write should be beneficial for the people to a great extent.Thank you for your positive feedback :)


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dwachira 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

These are great advise and inspirational tips, with your permission, can refer my students to this hub? Voted up and shared.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Dwachira...I am glad you liked the tips.I appreciate your appreciation and yes you can refer to your students :)

Thank you for your time reading and for leaving your feedback on the Hub as well !!!


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dwachira 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

Thanks learner365 for permission, i will surely share this hub link with my students.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

No problem dwachira :) I am glad that you found the writing worthwhile enough to share it with your students. Thank you for that,i appreciate!!!


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Hi maheshtcr1 ...thank you very much for your time to read the hub and appreciation !!!


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

A profound hub filled with sound suggestions listed by you! With each wise hub by you, I learnt more and more from you! You have the real tendency of enlightening many of us through your sensible hubs! Well-done!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Awesome. Voted up


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi ishwaryaa....Thank you for your always appreciation.i am glad to know that my Hubs are actually a useful learning experience for you.

Thank you once again for your very encouraging comment,votes and sharing :)


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

great information.. we all could use to better ourselves. this is great.

thank you

Debbie


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you very much Deborah Brooks for appreciation and your time for reading and leaving a comment :)


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mariasial 4 years ago from united kingdom

Your tips can made anybody a ideal person


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you mariasial for your appreciative words and dropping in your comment.


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JPSO138 3 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

These can pass as great commandments for success. Thanks for sharing and hope that I can read more of your works.


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learner365 3 years ago Author

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