I Gave My Best Friend The Boot

What Are Best Friends

I guess you could ask that question and get a million different answers.

A best friend has to have a few qualities in my opinion.

They have to accept you no holds barred, meaning if they are your friend they accept you no matter what.

They will always be by your side no matter how bad things get.

Your best friend will always be honest and never lie just to make you feel good.

There are many other reasons but one more I would like to mention is your best friend would never try to hurt you or deceive you.

My Best Friend

You need to know a little about my best friend and how important they were to me.

My best friend was always by my side. It didn't matter what time of the day or night they were there.

Everywhere I went my best friend followed me. In the morning with breakfast and coffee my best friend was there.

On the drive to work my best friend was always with me. Anytime through the day when I needed my best friend they were there.

These were just normal times however for the last 30 years through every single good and bad time my best friend was there.

I could name hundreds but I'm sure that would bore you rather quickly so I will just mention a few of the more popular times.

My best friend was there when I was intimate with the ladies.

My best friend was there when I met the love of my life, my wedding day, when my children were born, when my mother died, when my father died and just about any other time you could think of my best friend was there.

Since I Was 13

I am 43 now and my best friend was with me since I was 13.  I bet not a lot of people can claim to have the same best friend for 30 years.  At least not one as close as this.

My best friend mentmore to me than anything else.  I would do whatever it took to make sure my best friend went with me anywhere I went.  Hell I didn't even care about my wife and kids coming along as much as my best friend.

Hell I remember spending the grocery money just to make sure my best friend was with me.

I also remember the panic I felt when I discovered there was even a slim chance that my best friend would be gone for even a day.  The panic was too much to bare and I made sure it never happened.

30 years is a long time to have your best friend by your side every single day of every week, month and year.

I did think this relationship was a little bad at times and did even try and break it off a few times. 

One time I went 3 days without any interaction with my best friend.  I just couldn't go any longer though.  I had to again be with my best friend.

A couple other times I tried and it never lasted more than a day.

Things Started Getting A little Creepy

What a dummy I am.  It only took me 30 years to realize that a relationship like this really was creepy.

I started to see small things that were telling me that I needed to end this relationship with my best friend.

I think my best friend could tell something was happening because they got even closer and were to the point of stalking.

I knew that one way or another I had to walk away from my best friend of 30 years.

So many people told me it couldn't be done, but I knew if I wanted to survive I had to make it happen.  I also knew by now that this was what I wanted to do.  It was going to happen whether I or my best friend liked it or not.

The kicker came when I realized that through all these years my best friend was actually slowly poisoning me.  They weren't interested in being my friend but rather in making me suffer and eventually die.

As much as you may think at this point it should have been a no brain er it really still was a difficult thing to do.  Giving up a friend of 30 years just doesn't happen over night.

The Last Day With My Best Friend

May 6th, 2010 at 5 minutes to noon I finally made the choice and that was the last time I ever saw my best friend.

Even though I knew my best friend was bad for me it was still one of the toughest things I had ever had to do.

I told myself that one second, minute, hour and day at a time I would get through this.

I did use a couple of filler friends for a few days which did help a bit. Finally at day 6 I got rid of the filler friends as well and have gone without my best friend since then.

Everyday is a struggle. I do want to be with my best friend even though I know they are bad for me.

I think maybe I shouldn't have walked away from my best friend.

I wish at times that I could even be with my best friend at certain times. However I know for some that may work but for me that would never work. I had to totally eliminate my best friend out of my life and I did.

As much as it hurts some days I know I made the right decision and I am even starting to feel better about things in my life. I also now know the poison is slowly coming out of my body.

What scares me is there are thousands of people out there being betrayed and poisoned by there best friends.

What The Heck Am I Talking About?

On May 6, 2010 I walked away from 30 years of smoking forever.

Even though I know I am still early in the game (24 days) I know I am a life long non smoker now.

Cigarettes were like my best friend because I just couldn't do a thing without them. Everywhere I went they had to be with me or panic would set in.

I was a 2 pack a day smoker who quit with little help. Now because of that whether you like it or not I consider myself an expert and I want to help as many people quit as possible.

I think the more people who ban together to help each other the better chance we will all have to get rid of one of the most destructive habits in society, in the entire world.

I tell myself each and everyday I will never smoke again. For me that is what is working. However at the end of the day quitting smoking is something I absolutely wanted to do and it has to be the same for you.

Feel free to send me a message to see if I can help you or not. I do know that if I can quit smoking then anyone can quit smoking.

I look forward to hearing from you and possibly helping you.

This is to real people from a real person.

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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

That is a wonderful way of putting it and I thoroughly enjouyed reading it. I can imagine it must be struggle and you can be proud of yourself because many people haven't the will to stop it. I also can tell you that people who stopped, when they smell cigarette smoke, still get that longing after many years. So be warned not to get tempted after many years and think one cigarette will not get me back into it ---- it will. Some of those people thought that and it did get them back into it. I wish you well and hope you will make it.


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lmmartin 6 years ago from Alberta and Florida

Be careful Dale. The euphoria of the first weeks wears off and then the real difficulties begin. Three months is a tough time -- don't know why. They say three days, three weeks, three months -- not that it matters. We all go through that heady first success you express here -- normal -- but it is easy to get over confident. Trust me -- I've been there and so have many others.

For now, writing like this is good for you and helps to boost that resolve, but don't kid yourself you have it licked. You don't. It's an ongoing battle and you have many chapters ahead of you.

Not that I'm trying to rain on your parade, just a heads up.


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Dale Mazurek 6 years ago from Canada Author

Thanks my friends. Im I do understand what you are saying. Before I quit everyday I told myself I was quitting on May 6th, I did this for 90 days. Now everyday i tell myself i will never smoke again.

Actually now I really do have a lot to write about

Dale


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rmcrayne 6 years ago from San Antonio Texas

Dale, I'm not a smoker, but my sister is. Her story is similar to yours. She too started at an exceptionally young age. This was a great hub! Best of luck in your continued journey.


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romper20 6 years ago from California

Dale best of luck, awesome and engaging hub. I'm glad that you have quit smoking and hope you the best in that path. I decided to quit a while back. Decision is beyond doubt the most effective. I work out, eat healthy, and overall dont crave the 80 different chemical cigarettes that had be hooked for YEARS...

Thanks 4 sharing Dale

Romper20


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Army Infantry Mom 6 years ago

High five Dale for quiting smoking,.. Thats a battle I just haven't been able to win myself. Your hub was so creative,.. it's what I call thinking outside of the box. Kudo's my friend !!!


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Dale Mazurek 6 years ago from Canada Author

Thanks Rm, I know there is still a journey ahead of me. Romper you are right, im not missing the chemicals. I will admit at times its tough but not tougher then me. Thanks Army, I havent wrote an outside the box hub in a while so I am glad to see I succeeded

Dale


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Ohma 6 years ago

Great as always Dale. I am so glad this is working for you.


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CMHypno 6 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

Time to make some new, healthier friends, Dale. Congratulations for having being able to kick cigarettes, and I hope that you can remain a non-smoker from now on


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Paradise7 6 years ago from Upstate New York

Great hub, and very inspiring! Thanks!


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seanorjohn 6 years ago

Well done dale. I keep putting off the day. Guess I should name the day and go for it.


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Dale Mazurek 6 years ago from Canada Author

It is just a matter of saying you will do it and it can happen. I have been over 6 months since my last smoke and I love being a non smoker.


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hypnosis4u2 5 years ago from Massachusetts

Dale - your best friend story is so true. Many people can relate to it. It is a story used often in the smoking cessation profession as people can understand and see that smoking is their best friend that's killing them.

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