I am Stressed!

Why Am I So Stressed?

We all say that we feel stressed from time to time, but how serious is it really?

You can feel stressed at work, looking after the kids or being stuck in grid-lock. It can be a temporary thing, lasting moments. Or it could be more long term.

Feeling worried and anxious can be a lonely experience as it is hard to subside. You may be able to talk to someone about it, but it may not go away as the root of the problem is still there. Whether it is a situation which has to change, or long term problems which can lead to mental health disorders, you may feel as though you are the only one going through it.

We suffer stress as it is our bodies natural defense to deal with danger. We become alert to situations to try and deal with them when adrenalin kicks in but sometimes stress can be too much. We can go into depression or breakdown when we cannot cope.

Side effects of stress

The physical effects of stress can include:

  • Raised blood pressure

We could be walking around with high blood pressure without realizing it as there are minimal signs. Get your practice nurse or GP to check it for you. They will let you know what is normal for you. You can carry on monitoring it at home with a portable blood pressure machine if you are concerned but always seek advice.


  • Heart problems

This is a more extreme side effect from long term anxiety. There are many heart problems from irregular heart beats to angina. Again, chat with a health professional who will help you change your lifestyle (if you need a health kick) or refer you to a specialist for more serious complaints.


  • Alopecia

Alopecia is when the hair falls out completely and may not grow back for some time, if at all. It can affect anyone for any reason, although it is said to be linked with stress.


  • Bad sleeping habits

Insomnia is when we do not sleep at night, or sleep for minimal periods of time. Feeling anxious or finding it hard to unwind (from work or home life) tend to be the causes. Lack of routine can also contribute. Some people talk, yell out or suffer from nightmares when they are anxious, and in rare cases some people sleep walk without knowing it.


  • Being bad tempered


If we are not calm or feel tired out it is easy to take it out on others. Work colleagues, children or family members can be the brunt of our grumpiness, so try and find some soothing methods before losing friends!

Treat yourself to a massage or try alternative therapy (such as acupuncture or Reiki) to relax the situation. Good old fashioned fresh air and exercise as well as healthy eating is also a great stress reliever.


If we suffer with anxiety it could possibly lead to panic attacks. There are many different reasons for the cause of a panic attack and there are different degrees of one. They tend to be psychological but the symptoms are quite physical.

Whatever triggers the attack (being in a situation, worry or a fear, such as an enclosed space), the sufferer will feel uncomfortable and frightened. It makes the heart beat fast, may cause a hot flush, dizziness and trembling. They can last for seconds, minutes or come over the individual in 'waves'.

Some people suffer with them for many years, but there are ways to subside the anxiety, help to deal with the panic attack or even prevent them from starting. Talking to your doctor or therapist will help with individual advice. Medication does not have to be the answer. Diet, change of lifestyle, keeping hydrated and re training your thoughts may be suggested.

Your GP may be able to refer you to a counsellor or offer hypnosis or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. This helps us to think in a different way to look at stressful situations differently and deal with them better. Exercise and taking up Yoga can also be a useful way to cope and feel better, as well as ensuring we have a healthy diet. Small lifestyle changes can make quite a difference. Taking up a new hobby or learning a new skill can give us something to focus on and look at life more positively.


Chronic stress needs to be recognized before it makes us become unwell. Talking to close friends or family can help, but it can put pressure on them or they may find it hard to understand a situation they are not in themselves. A network in the community may be useful to meet others and share problems, or check the internet for genuine groups who can also network and give advice.

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Comments 13 comments

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Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

Hi, stress is a funny thing, sometimes we may not have anything to worry about or not even be working to hard, but it still can hit us, I have had stress so many times and have tried to learn a bit of meditation, it does help, thanks nell


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Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

good hub -- for me much stress is caused because we fail to take time to look at ourselves seriously.... and thus we do not spend time enough "LOVING" ourselves.

To LOVE oneself fully, completely, as we are is not just an ideal.... as I am learning ... it takes a serious look at all we are and loving each aspect of who and what we are. Serious means stand completely naked no longer hiding behind false traditions and fake holiness. That's why it takes effort.

LOVE THIS HUB - Thanks!


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whoisbid 5 years ago

I am stressed most of the time. I think your description about it being a reaction to danger was interesting. I am wondering if stress is a drug for me? Now I believe I have become slightly eccentric as a release mechanism because I am laughing at things no-one finds funny and feeling sad about some things that everyone seems to find amusing.. LOL!


Stressed dad 5 years ago

I feel stressed at times. Mostly due to my ex-partner taking my son away from me and everything he knows. I don't always feel stressed myself but I feel it on behalf of my son who unfortunateley knows no other life than that of upheaval. The poor boy has been dragged from pillar to post and for no real reason. Other than to please his mums new boyfriend. So stressed, please help!


msivakumar 5 years ago

Valid points. Taking up yoga is one of the best options as it can help one in keeping both mind and body fit. Taking up a new hobby or a new course is also suggested option to divert oneself.

Personally I feel stress and anxiety occurs due to too much thinking. As the say, Idle mind is place of devil. You keep engaged yourself, be busy, be chirpy guess one should be OK. I understand it is easy to say, but that is the only way to go.


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gjfalcone 4 years ago from Gilbert, Arizona

I totally concur with stress as a contributing factor of high Blood Pressure. Since I've been able to vent my thought, it has drastically improved.

Awesome, THANKS FOR SHARING


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

We have expectations from life and the world, when these expectations are not meet, we are stressed.

Useful and interesting. Voted up!


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zan00657 4 years ago from India

Stress is something what we dislike and stress like us very much!!!!

anyway we can't get rid of stress completely!!!!!

but we can fight against it by good relaxation techniques and yoga methods.........

nice post :D


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Emma Harvey 4 years ago from Berkshire, UK Author

Stress is something we all feel from time to time, but some of us deal with it better than others.

It's good to recognize the signs and symptoms then try various methods to combat it. Yoga is a great idea - good for the mind and body.

Thanks for all the comments :)


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zan00657 4 years ago from India

obviously true....

i think people who are bothered about their life and their families' life are badly attacked by this stress.


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Emma Harvey 4 years ago from Berkshire, UK Author

Yes I agree - some people take everything on board and it can be too much to handle.


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Claudia Tello 4 years ago from Mexico

Stress plays a role in every aspect of our lives. I am learning to handle stress in a Tennis tournament I joined in at my sporting club. I usually play quite good in friendly matches but in a tournament the pressure gets on and…. Well, performance suffers… I ended up in 3rd place instead of 1st mainly because I got really tense in the last two matches, the tougher ones also. Handling stress, as well as precision and accuracy in the game, come with experience and practice.


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Emma Harvey 4 years ago from Berkshire, UK Author

Stress can cause havoc with our nerves. I am worried about my wedding day - the stress and the nerves!

Not quite the same as your tennis tournament but the pressure to get it right when all eyes are on you can make things difficult.

Keep trying though - 3rd place is respectable. The confidence will come I'm sure.

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